I'm Not Letting My Girl Drink Alcohol Ever Again

I dont think the TC is controlling her but rather the relationship. He doesnt have to put up with her if shes going to continue to do this. Mentioning this to his GF might cause her to stop drinking, and I think thats what he means by not letting her do it again. He has the right as a boyfriend to say I dont think you should do that again what you did last night was really bad and Im going to help you control yourself so this doesnt happen again. Some people are taking this way to far as if hes an abusive boyfriend hes just looking out for her... sparkypants

Uh....that there is a problem dude. Had I been with someone that was taking my drinks from me....they'd have been dumped that night. She makes her decisions. If he doesn't like them....he should leave.

whatever man. you guys read too much into things and are trying to make me look like the bad guy here. i didn't mean it like that Boogie_J

Well to me it sounds like a typical first time alcohol experience, and you are being unecessarily mean about it.

[QUOTE="Aznsilvrboy"][QUOTE="Boogie_J"][QUOTE="NaiKoN9293"][QUOTE="Boogie_J"]

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Let her drink? I think the decision is hers....:|Boogie_J

uhh no cause i'm her boyfriend

jesus christmas. would you care to explain wether this is a joke or if by what autorithy you have the right to make any decisions for anyone except yourself?

sometimes girlfriends have to make sacrifices if its hurting the relationship, just like i would do for her. so its not like i'm trying to control her

Read your thread title again and make sure you comprehend.

whatever man. you guys read too much into things and are trying to make me look like the bad guy here. i didn't mean it like that

Go talk to her about it, say that you were extremely bothered by her behaviour while she was drunk and that you don't want to see that again. It's how you express things that makes the difference, don't play hardball with her in this one.

Is it really up to you whether she drinks again or not? I agree it's not the most attractive thing but she's her own person - what would you do if she told you to stop doing something you enjoyed?
But at least you're strong enough to consider looking elsewhere. D3nnyCrane

whatever man. you guys read too much into things and are trying to make me look like the bad guy here. i didn't mean it like that

Boogie_J

seriously I dont know if its a joke but really they are taking your words way to far...

[QUOTE="sparkypants"]I dont think the TC is controlling her but rather the relationship. He doesnt have to put up with her if shes going to continue to do this. Mentioning this to his GF might cause her to stop drinking, and I think thats what he means by not letting her do it again. He has the right as a boyfriend to say I dont think you should do that again what you did last night was really bad and Im going to help you control yourself so this doesnt happen again. Some people are taking this way to far as if hes an abusive boyfriend hes just looking out for her... LJS9502_basic

Uh....that there is a problem dude. Had I been with someone that was taking my drinks from me....they'd have been dumped that night. She makes her decisions. If he doesn't like them....he should leave.

I agree, taking the high ground, especially for something so trivial, is frankly obnoxious.

[QUOTE="sparkypants"]I dont think the TC is controlling her but rather the relationship. He doesnt have to put up with her if shes going to continue to do this. Mentioning this to his GF might cause her to stop drinking, and I think thats what he means by not letting her do it again. He has the right as a boyfriend to say I dont think you should do that again what you did last night was really bad and Im going to help you control yourself so this doesnt happen again. Some people are taking this way to far as if hes an abusive boyfriend hes just looking out for her... LJS9502_basic

Uh....that there is a problem dude. Had I been with someone that was taking my drinks from me....they'd have been dumped that night. She makes her decisions. If he doesn't like them....he should leave.

But its not like she enjoyed being drunk, I dont think hes going to deny her of a drink I guessing hes just going to make sure she doesnt have too many...its a normal thing for people to do

You probably let her drink too much, and you gave her Smirnoff. :P What did you expect? I think your overreacting a bit by saying you'll never let her drink again, she just has to set some limits. Also, you shouldn't be mad at her, she's probably sorry, just talk to her.

By the way, I'm not really onoxious when I'm drunk, I just act silly.

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I know how you mean, alcohol can destroy any healthy relationship. Sooner or later she will probably see that you are trying to control her and she will get really defensive about it and drink just to spite you. It's probably best to just end the relationship before it gets to that point, because by then you will probably realize how much you care for her and when you eventually do break up for whatever reason, you will be the one that feels the worst about it.

Sajo7

It was her first time, shes not exactly what you would call an alcoholic.

But one time becomes two times and two times because three and so on and so fourth. At least that was the way it was with my ex. I don't drink and in the beginning she didn't either, or at least she hardly ever did it. Eventually it became that every time she wanted to have fun, she would drink. I told her I didn't like it and I asked her to stop, she said she would and later that month she got drunk and cheated on me.

She even used that as an excuse for why she cheated on me, because she was drunk, this of course was after I found out and she was trying to make me not break up with her(I broke up with her the day I found out). I hope in your case she doesn't start to drink or get high any more, but if she is in the 16 to 21 age range, the temptation to get high or drunk is going to be extremely hard for her to avoid and even harder to resist.

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[QUOTE="sparkypants"]Im going to help you control yourselfsparkypants

Uh....that there is a problem dude. Had I been with someone that was taking my drinks from me....they'd have been dumped that night. She makes her decisions. If he doesn't like them....he should leave.

But its not like she enjoyed being drunk, I dont think hes going to deny her of a drink I guessing hes just going to make sure she doesnt have too many...its a normal thing for people to do

[QUOTE="sparkypants"][QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]

[QUOTE="sparkypants"]Im going to help you control yourselfLJS9502_basic

Uh....that there is a problem dude. Had I been with someone that was taking my drinks from me....they'd have been dumped that night. She makes her decisions. If he doesn't like them....he should leave.

But its not like she enjoyed being drunk, I dont think hes going to deny her of a drink I guessing hes just going to make sure she doesnt have too many...its a normal thing for people to do

I dont but if you look at the first post shes calling to say shes sorry, which could mean shes didnt like it. I dont know and if she did like it, TC its your job to ask, Then your right he shouldnt try and help but rather leave her. However I dont think this is the case.

[QUOTE="sparkypants"]I dont think the TC is controlling her but rather the relationship. He doesnt have to put up with her if shes going to continue to do this. Mentioning this to his GF might cause her to stop drinking, and I think thats what he means by not letting her do it again. He has the right as a boyfriend to say I dont think you should do that again what you did last night was really bad and Im going to help you control yourself so this doesnt happen again. Some people are taking this way to far as if hes an abusive boyfriend hes just looking out for her... LJS9502_basic

Uh....that there is a problem dude. Had I been with someone that was taking my drinks from me....they'd have been dumped that night. She makes her decisions. If he doesn't like them....he should leave.

okay, but to be honest most girls just can't handle their drink. i've seen it time and time again. and she's such a innocent lightweight and doesn't know when to stop so she needs me to look out for her. seriously if i wasn't there who knows what could have happened you know? (there were some sketchy people at that party). i'm not trying to controli'm just looking out for her.

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[QUOTE="sparkypants"]I dont think the TC is controlling her but rather the relationship. He doesnt have to put up with her if shes going to continue to do this. Mentioning this to his GF might cause her to stop drinking, and I think thats what he means by not letting her do it again. He has the right as a boyfriend to say I dont think you should do that again what you did last night was really bad and Im going to help you control yourself so this doesnt happen again. Some people are taking this way to far as if hes an abusive boyfriend hes just looking out for her... Boogie_J

Uh....that there is a problem dude. Had I been with someone that was taking my drinks from me....they'd have been dumped that night. She makes her decisions. If he doesn't like them....he should leave.

okay, but to be honest most girls just can't handle their drink. i've seen it time and time again. and she's such a innocent lightweight and doesn't know when to stop so she needs me to look out for her. seriously if i wasn't there who knows what could have happened you know? (there were some sketchy people at that party). i'm not trying to controli'm just looking out for her.

okay, but to be honest most girls just can't handle their drink. i've seen it time and time again. and she's such a innocent lightweight and doesn't know when to stop so she needs me to look out for her. seriously if i wasn't there who knows what could have happened you know? (there were some sketchy people at that party). i'm not trying to controli'm just looking out for her.

Boogie_J

FYI....there are girls that can out drink guys.;)LJS9502_basic

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]FYI....there are girls that can out drink guys.;)Link256

i think stay with her, it is her first itme like what u said. she doesn't know what to expected drunk.

i don't think i will ever get to drunk, my friend and i went to pick up his dad and girl friend she was realy creapy that i don't want to get drunk seeing her.

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[QUOTE="sparkypants"]I dont think the TC is controlling her but rather the relationship. He doesnt have to put up with her if shes going to continue to do this. Mentioning this to his GF might cause her to stop drinking, and I think thats what he means by not letting her do it again. He has the right as a boyfriend to say I dont think you should do that again what you did last night was really bad and Im going to help you control yourself so this doesnt happen again. Some people are taking this way to far as if hes an abusive boyfriend hes just looking out for her... Boogie_J

Uh....that there is a problem dude. Had I been with someone that was taking my drinks from me....they'd have been dumped that night. She makes her decisions. If he doesn't like them....he should leave.

okay, but to be honest most girls just can't handle their drink. i've seen it time and time again. and she's such a innocent lightweight and doesn't know when to stop so she needs me to look out for her. seriously if i wasn't there who knows what could have happened you know? (there were some sketchy people at that party). i'm not trying to controli'm just looking out for her.

There are many girls that can outdrink guys, just like there are guys that can outdrink girls. I suppose it really depends on how often you drink.

I've enjoyed being drunk quite a few times.LJS9502_basic

I thought the bible says this is a bad thing? No?

Ahh well, you can just repent and have your slate cleaned, I suppose... :roll: (Next on the agenda: Murder! Just repent and all is forgiven! YAY!)

I've never been out drunk. LJS9502_basic

Why am I not suprised. You're just number one at everything, aren't you? :roll:

...Again I say why drink.MrLions

It's good for population control. Kills off the morons faster, so they're never in too large of number. It all works itself out. ;)

I cant believe some people are saying as this is normal, or that just because she is drunk she was "out of control".

If you are an idiot while drunk, you are an idiot. Period

If a girl start to flert with your friends while she is drunk, break up with her immediatly. No one actually changes while they are drunk, they simple let it out some hidden parts of their personality

Its just like the angry drunk husband who comes late at night and beat the **** out of his wife and kids. Do you really think he is just "out of control because he is drunk" or that he is a real violent bastard?

Get a grip and break up with this girl. She has written "future whore" all over her forehead

nah...im mad chill when i drink(i might actually smile TOO much lol)......especially when mixed with weed.....i swear last night i took a food run to mcdonalds and it felt like an epic adventure lol

by the way McChickens are good when your baked

I like how you say it like you own her...DJ_Novakain

Well, no he doesnt. Although he has the right to demand respect from her part. I agree that was wrong when he says " I wont let..." That is not what I should do, but I wouldnt let her try and say sorry to me afterwards as well. I will not control her to avoid her flaws I would simple let her go, and be drunk and stupid

Get a grip and break up with this girl. She has written "future whore" all over her forehead

Adrianstalker

Being sexual does not make someone a whore, or a slut. :roll:

All this sexual repression in this country is really starting to get stale.

[QUOTE="DJ_Novakain"]I like how you say it like you own her...Adrianstalker

Well, no he doesnt. Although he has the right to demand respect from her part. I agree that was wrong when he says " I wont let..." That is not what I should do, but I wouldnt let her try and say sorry to me afterwards as well. I will not control her to avoid her flaws I would simple let her go, and be drunk and stupid

my GF can do what she wants....as long as shes not ####ing some other dude ....but the one thing i actually do demand her not do is drink and drive....that i will demand of her

[QUOTE="MrLions"]...Again I say why drink.Deity_Slapper

It's good for population control. Kills off the morons faster, so they're never in too large of number. It all works itself out. ;)

haha. If only the morons would kill themselves more and not run over innocent people...>_>

[QUOTE="Adrianstalker"]

Get a grip and break up with this girl. She has written "future whore" all over her forehead

Deity_Slapper

Being sexual does not make someone a whore, or a slut. :roll:

All this sexual repression in this country is really starting to get stale.

all depends on the frequency and variety

[QUOTE="Adrianstalker"]

Get a grip and break up with this girl. She has written "future whore" all over her forehead

Deity_Slapper

Being sexual does not make someone a whore, or a slut. :roll:

All this sexual repression in this country is really starting to get stale.

I agree, and that is not what I meant. Being sexual is fine, what I dont approve is someone who has a boyfriend and simply go and flert with others while he is there ( even if he wasnt)

What makes a person a whore, slut etc is not her sexual behaviour, but its cheating and flerting right to your face, and then use the "I was drunk" card

Once again, I will ask. If someone is violent while drunk to the point where he beat her kids/wife, do you think he is really violent or just a drunk state?

To me that girl was not just drunk, she was just showing part of what she really is, and if she flerted with someone while she has a relationship, bveing drunk or not, she is a slut

[QUOTE="Adrianstalker"]

[QUOTE="DJ_Novakain"]I like how you say it like you own her...xXMcClaneXx

Well, no he doesnt. Although he has the right to demand respect from her part. I agree that was wrong when he says " I wont let..." That is not what I should do, but I wouldnt let her try and say sorry to me afterwards as well. I will not control her to avoid her flaws I would simple let her go, and be drunk and stupid

my GF can do what she wants....as long as shes not ####ing some other dude ....but the one thing i actually do demand her not do is drink and drive....that i will demand of her

Well, duh, that's expected of everybody. You can't try and control her and get her to stop drinking, that's not your decision, and you shouldn't do that to her. Keep it up and she's going to be the one leaving you.

Don't blame her, one of the things that you loose when get drunk is your mind. she didn't know what she was doing. You said she's been calling you saying how sorry she is, she's learned her lesson, I'm pretty sure she'll never dring again.

-Big_Red-

[QUOTE="Deity_Slapper"][QUOTE="Adrianstalker"]

Get a grip and break up with this girl. She has written "future whore" all over her forehead

xXMcClaneXx

Being sexual does not make someone a whore, or a slut. :roll:

All this sexual repression in this country is really starting to get stale.

all depends on the frequency and variety

This depends on everyone's individual sex drive. ;)

I agree, and that is not what I meant. Being sexual is fine, what I dont approve is someone who has a boyfriend and simply go and flert with others while he is there ( even if he wasnt) Adrianstalker

Flirting is harmless, and if she does it front of him, it'sobvious she's not trying to pull anything. Maybe she felt comfortable doing that, and thought her boyfriend would understand.

What makes a person a whore, slut etc is not her sexual behaviour, but its cheating and flerting right to your face, and then use the "I was drunk" card Adrianstalker

Nope, what makes someone a whore is to have sex with strangers for money. :roll:

Once again, I will ask. If someone is violent while drunk to the point where he beat her kids/wife, do you think he is really violent or just a drunk state? Adrianstalker

I'd think that person has issues. But sexual expression and violent expression are pretty much polar opposites. Being violent is destructive, whereas sexual expression is rooted in loving freely.

To me that girl was not just drunk, she was just showing part of what she really is, and if she flerted with someone while she has a relationship, bveing drunk or not, she is a slut

Adrianstalker

Again, flirting is harmless, and does not make a girl, or a guy, a "slut". How do we even know she was flirting anyway? We're all just going by what this dude is saying to us, and obviously he's going to tell the story from a biased angle, as it seems he was miffed by the whole situation. Maybe she was just a little more expressive? More friendly? And maybe the TC has insecurity issues that he chooses not to disclose, and instead points the finger at her?

LOL hard at the idea of "letting" girls do things.

You her dad or something dude?

By the way, Deity_Slapper Im from Brazil, born and raised and the last thing we have here is sexual repression 8)Adrianstalker

So you're not sexually repressed, but you think a girl is a slut for flirting? :?

this girl doesnt sound too good of a person....i can be drunk off my ass and still know what im doing.

last night at a party my girlfriend and I had a few beers (her first experience with alcohol), and she totally turned into a skeez. Flirting with my friends, yelling for no reason, and just being really obnoxious. She just kept getting pissed at me whenever I would take her smirnoff away and at one point I couldn't find her and I think i even saw her smoke pot outside with a group of strangers. She just embarassed me the whole night. Now i'm not even returning her calls saying 'sorry'

I think I should dump her but I'll give her a another chance cause i'm a cool guy. i'm just not gonna let her touch the hard suff again

Boogie_J

alcohol is worse than pot...it's just a government are dumbasses.

[QUOTE="Adrianstalker"]By the way, Deity_Slapper Im from Brazil, born and raised and the last thing we have here is sexual repression 8)Deity_Slapper

So you're not sexually repressed, but you think a girl is a slut for flirting? :?

Not for flirting per say, but for cheating or wanting to. I actually admire a woman who can express her desires towards a man, just dont do it while in a relationship with anoother person.

And as for what makes a woman whore, of course I dont mean in the literall sense of the word (pay for sex), I would then use prostitute

I'm not that kind of drunk. I've never even been drunk. :P

But you're right about giving her another chance. Since it was her first time, there was no way anyone would've known she'd act the way she did.