I'm suffering from depression (girl problems)

So if I'm depressed, because I feel, I honestly feel and believe, that there is no girl out there for me, none who will ever like me or take me as anything more than a friend... what do I do?

I have never had any relationships before, and I'm 19; I've been really close friends with a lot of girls, but 'friend' is all they see me as. There's this girl I like, she's really sweet, she's really nice, she's really attractive, and I'm great friends with her. When I asked her out, she said no.

A combination of these events, as well as a lack of self confidence, has led me to believe I will never find any girl who's willing to go out with me.

How do I deal with such depression?

well, what do you look like? that may seem like a shallow question but it is important

Well, I'd tell you to just be patient and that it'd all work out in the end, and that you'll definitely find someone one day.

But it's BS. You've either got to accept your situation or change it. Neither way is easy.

well, what do you look like? that may seem like a shallow question but it is important

arbitor365

Well, I'd tell you to just be patient and that it'd all work out in the end, and that you'll definitely find someone one day.

But it's BS. You're either got to accept your situation or change it. Neither way is easy.

I don't see how any of that means you're suffering from depression... if you haven't been diagnosed by a psychiatrist don't go round saying you've got depressionmarkop2003

Things change. Women look for different things at different times. I wouldn't worry too much about it. When people are young, it's all about looks. Later on in life, other things become far more important.

[QUOTE="arbitor365"]

well, what do you look like? that may seem like a shallow question but it is important

crippled_ram

How about some pics so we know what you're getting at... please? :oops:

Man up for gods sake,Your only 19,You'll find a woman,I'm ugly as sin and I have a wonderful wife!,Mate,It is just a matter of time before you find a girl just be patient,There is much much worse things to be depressed about,your young live your life,have some laughs,When your married you'll look back and think "Christ! I wish i was young and single again!"....Good job the wife didn't see that! haha!

How do you change it? There's literally nothing I can do that I haven't done already!crippled_ram

Well, I'd tell you to just be patient and that it'd all work out in the end, and that you'll definitely find someone one day.

But it's BS. You're either got to accept your situation or change it. Neither way is easy.

Things change. Women look for different things at different times. I wouldn't worry too much about it. When people are young, it's all about looks. Later on in life, other things become far more important.

sonicare

You're just 19. You have so much more than what you think you have. You'll still meet many more people and after high school, things will be a bit different.

You don't have to rush and conform to the trend wherein teenagers get into a relationship which doesn't work most of the time anyway. Heartbreaks and aches

in the long run.

Just enjoy life with games and your friends. Keep going to school. Someone out there is meant for you and you meant for her.

Keep on thriving but enjoying life. You'll find love when it finds you. :)

here are some options

- try to be act more confident. people can be fooled. this works well whenever you are introduced into a group of people who you dont know and have no connection to people you do know. you can make any impression you want if you are careful.

- hang out with your guy friends and try to meet chicks through them

- there is always online dating if you are really desperate

Well, I'd tell you to just be patient and that it'd all work out in the end, and that you'll definitely find someone one day.

But it's BS. You've either got to accept your situation or change it. Neither way is easy.

MissLibrarian

[QUOTE="markop2003"]I don't see how any of that means you're suffering from depression... if you haven't been diagnosed by a psychiatrist don't go round saying you've got depressioncrippled_ram

depression=clincial depression

I think people get a little too loose with psychology terms. But on topic, it sounds like you need to take some friends out and meet new women. Don't ask someone you know already out because your already seen as just her friend. Go out to parties or hit up some bars. If your in college, hit some of the dorm parties. Approach a girl during a class break and ask her to lunch or something. Ask one of your female friends about approaching women. Whatever works, there's too many people in this world not to find someone your compatible with.

Hey,

I went through times of depression myself because my father used to beat me as a kid. I remember sitting alone in the kitchen crying holding a knife up to my neck and telling myself that I can end my pain right now very easily. But then a thought came across my mind, why would I do that? I have a whole life ahead of me, I have friends and othe rpeople who care about me. I will grow up and one day my dad will cease to beat me. And so it happened. I never apologized to my father for what he did to me when I was a child but my relationship with him is ok now.

So as you can see, I got over something that was a lot more painful than girl trouble. Your time will come. Also a good tip: if you want a girl do not befriend her. It sounds odd to say but it's called the friendzone. If a girl catches your attention, you should get to know her just a bit at first. Then you try to talk to her from time to time, try to flirt a bit, then you should ask her out for something innocent such as coffee or something (anything works really).

I can give you better details if interested, PM me if you want :)

if you want a girl, treat the next one you fancy like one of "the guys"...bust her balls, tease her a little, be a bit of smartass...but temper it by being a gentleman where it counts.

the whole good guy/bad boy thing is aload of crap; no one likes a kissass, but no one likes a jerk either. Be a bit of both though and an overall good guy.

And above all else, do not get depressed over women. Easier said than done, I know...and if it is really bugging you, stay away from her. Best cure for female-related depression is to just s tay away.

[QUOTE="sonicare"]

Things change. Women look for different things at different times. I wouldn't worry too much about it. When people are young, it's all about looks. Later on in life, other things become far more important.

crippled_ram

this is why you fail.

FFS, Of course you're going to get rejected by the princess first time around. Just lower your standards and try again. It really doesn't matter which rung of the ladder your foot lands on first; nobody finds perfect happiness straight away.

I know it's easier said than done, but it's not worth taking life so seriously. Other people are too busy worrying about their own lives to sit around judging you. The times you do slip up or embarrass yourself, everyone else forgets about it moments later. If it's making you miserable, then swallow your pride and take a stab at what you think might be within your grasp now.

So if I'm depressed, because I feel, I honestly feel and believe, that there is no girl out there for me, none who will ever like me or take me as anything more than a friend... what do I do?

I have never had any relationships before, and I'm 19; I've been really close friends with a lot of girls, but 'friend' is all they see me as. There's this girl I like, she's really sweet, she's really nice, she's really attractive, and I'm great friends with her. When I asked her out, she said no.

A combination of these events, as well as a lack of self confidence, has led me to believe I will never find any girl who's willing to go out with me.

How do I deal with such depression?

crippled_ram

[QUOTE="sonicare"]

Things change. Women look for different things at different times. I wouldn't worry too much about it. When people are young, it's all about looks. Later on in life, other things become far more important.

crippled_ram

maybe you're too nice. when you try to get a girl to go out with you, do you compliment her lots and talk to her lots? don't do that, she will see that you are trying so hard to get with her, and it will make her not like you. just how it is. but it goes both ways. if a girl is always trying to go out with me and always asking if i can hang out and s*** and i don't see her the same way, it turns me off from her, unless she's like an 8/10 or 9/10, then i would be all over that. but usually the girls that do that to me are 5/10 or 6/10

stop crying and do something about it :roll:

[QUOTE="MissLibrarian"]

Well, I'd tell you to just be patient and that it'd all work out in the end, and that you'll definitely find someone one day.

But it's BS. You've either got to accept your situation or change it. Neither way is easy.

cd_rom

It's not necessarily true though. He doesn't have to change himself to find someone, it's very possible he does just have to be patient and he will find someone some day.

alcohol will solve all your problems

Depression is like standing in a hole that you are digging yourself whilst complaining that you can't get out.
Step one is to stop digging and step 2 is to get out of the hole.

Girl problems dissolve with experience, talk to as many girls as possible and you are bound to get lucky eventually.

[QUOTE="sonicare"]

Things change. Women look for different things at different times. I wouldn't worry too much about it. When people are young, it's all about looks. Later on in life, other things become far more important.

crippled_ram

I'm a teenager as well and I've had one real girlfriend, or at least I thought I did. I'm not complaining but yes, it would be nice to have a great girl. But my dad has been through two divorces, and so has my mom. Two of my uncles have gotten divorced and so have a lot of my dad's friends. Divorce rates are above 50% in America now. The way I see it is this: Relationships in America are likely to fail, and with each new relationship after a failed one, the chances of repeated failure goes up. If you find the perfect partner, then think about if you could spend the rest of your life with him or her. If you can't see yourself doing that, then do casual dating at the most. Once you become older, especially in the new world that we are growing up in, there will be TONS more important things than relationships. Yes, relationships are nice to have, but they have become a commodity in America and they don't seem to mean as much anymore.

So if I'm depressed, because I feel, I honestly feel and believe, that there is no girl out there for me, none who will ever like me or take me as anything more than a friend... what do I do?

I have never had any relationships before, and I'm 19; I've been really close friends with a lot of girls, but 'friend' is all they see me as. There's this girl I like, she's really sweet, she's really nice, she's really attractive, and I'm great friends with her. When I asked her out, she said no.

A combination of these events, as well as a lack of self confidence, has led me to believe I will never find any girl who's willing to go out with me.

How do I deal with such depression?

crippled_ram

I haven't gotten laid (or even kissed or touched a woman) in 13 years (and I'm 31).

The first 5 years sort of felt bad. After that, I frankly stopped giving a ****.

So...how do you deal? Answer: just give it time. If you wait long enough, then you'll either eventually get a woman or get so comfortable with being alone that you DON'T WANT a woman. Eventually, time solves all problems.

[QUOTE="crippled_ram"]

So if I'm depressed, because I feel, I honestly feel and believe, that there is no girl out there for me, none who will ever like me or take me as anything more than a friend... what do I do?

I have never had any relationships before, and I'm 19; I've been really close friends with a lot of girls, but 'friend' is all they see me as. There's this girl I like, she's really sweet, she's really nice, she's really attractive, and I'm great friends with her. When I asked her out, she said no.

A combination of these events, as well as a lack of self confidence, has led me to believe I will never find any girl who's willing to go out with me.

How do I deal with such depression?

MrGeezer

I haven't gotten laid (or even kissed or touched a woman) in 13 years (and I'm 31).

The first 5 years sort of felt bad. After that, I frankly stopped giving a ****.

So...how do you deal? Answer: just give it time. If you wait long enough, then you'll either eventually get a woman or get so comfortable with being alone that you DON'T WANT a woman. Eventually, time solves all problems.

yeah I am experiencing a bit of a dryspell myself (about 8 months) and the first few months were pretty tough, not only because my sex buddy turned down my offer of taking our relationship further, but because it made things awkward and I see her a few times a week at work.

But I am feeling much better now, time really does fix all things. There are times where we flirt at work and I smack her ass or we make eye contact and I see a spark in her eye that I think means something for us, but overall I am just over it and happy where I am.

Love, or whatever you want to call it, is one of the most amazing and horrible things (sometimes both at hte same time) in the world. Its pretty damn awful most of the time. My next relationship is going to be based off respect, admiration, and compatability...love is pretty easy to manifest for anyone provided they deserve it, there is no "The One"

So if I'm depressed, because I feel, I honestly feel and believe, that there is no girl out there for me, none who will ever like me or take me as anything more than a friend... what do I do?

I have never had any relationships before, and I'm 19; I've been really close friends with a lot of girls, but 'friend' is all they see me as. There's this girl I like, she's really sweet, she's really nice, she's really attractive, and I'm great friends with her. When I asked her out, she said no.

A combination of these events, as well as a lack of self confidence, has led me to believe I will never find any girl who's willing to go out with me.

How do I deal with such depression?

crippled_ram

Have you considered dating guys?

Give them the straight look. Let them know, you're not gay.