Is it okay to pursue a girl that has a boyfriend?

Not engaged or married, just a boyfriend. I think it might not be okay because I wouldn't want someone else to do it to my gf.

Only you can answer that question.

I usually don't.

No. It's disrespectful of their relationship and raises doubts about your integrity.

If she welcomes your advances, it's cool.

Woo his girlfriend. Beat up the boyfriend. Take the girlfriend's much hotter BFF. Buy yourself a cupcake for a job well done.

If she engages you, that's one thing, but I wouldn't go out and pursue her without some kind of invitation. Would you want someone hitting on your gf?

If she shows you she likes you, perhaps...

Woo his girlfriend. Beat up the boyfriend. Take the girlfriend's much hotter BFF. Buy yourself a cupcake for a job well done.

cd_rom

I see it okay in only two circumstances.

1) the boyfriend treats her really crappy and you can do better

2) you have some type of prior history/friendship/crush/etc. with the girl, and you dramatically win her affection.

No. It's disrespectful of their relationship and raises doubts about your integrity.

binpink

1) the boyfriend treats her really crappy and you can do bettertheycallmeRP

Ah, yes... the shining knight. That only applies in movies.

[QUOTE="binpink"]

No. It's disrespectful of their relationship and raises doubts about your integrity.

Lockedge

Also, if she took the guy up on his advances, her integrity would be in question too. I think that covers it.

No. It's disrespectful of their relationship and raises doubts about your integrity.

binpink

I don't think it's okay, but it depends on your own personal stances. As it's been said, if you do succeed in getting the girl then you'd have to expect the notion that someone else can then take her from you just the same.

[QUOTE="binpink"]

No. It's disrespectful of their relationship and raises doubts about your integrity.

civic_misfit

Even if someone is "just" dating another person, there can be a lot of commitment in their relationship. Everyone works differently. Just because some people don't label themselves husband/wife/fiancee or whatever doesn't mean they're any less commited. The fact that you assume people are unhappy and that it's your place to wedge your way in between two (for the sake of argument) happy peopleisn't impressive.But again everyone's different so if this is what gets you girls, have at it.

I'm not into that, but I can't tell others what to do. I usually wait, and sometimes I'll even find a single girl like I did with my current gf, kinda happy I did :P

I'm not into that, but I can't tell others what to do. I usually wait, and sometimes I'll even find a single girl like I did with my current gf, kinda happy I did :P

JustusCF

It's such a crazy idea, it just might work.

[QUOTE="civic_misfit"][QUOTE="binpink"]

No. It's disrespectful of their relationship and raises doubts about your integrity.

binpink

Even if someone is "just" dating another person, there can be a lot of commitment in their relationship. Everyone works differently. Just because some people don't label themselves husband/wife/fiancee or whatever doesn't mean they're any less commited. The fact that you assume people are unhappy and that it's your place to wedge your way in between two (for the sake of argument) happy peopleisn't impressive.But again everyone's different so if this is what gets you girls, have at it.

[QUOTE="JustusCF"]

I'm not into that, but I can't tell others what to do. I usually wait, and sometimes I'll even find a single girl like I did with my current gf, kinda happy I did :P

theycallmeRP

It's such a crazy idea, it just might work.

:D

I guess I did word that wrong... As if I've picked up girls who were taken already. It's just not my thing.

Absolutely not. If the girl willingly leaves her boyfriend to be with you, that's different. But if you're actively persuing a girl with the intention of causing her to break up with her current boyfriend so she can be with you and you honestly think that's okay, you're the scum of the earth.

I think it comes down to one of the "golden rules".

Do unto others as you would have done unto you.

Never step on another mans toes - 'tis a troublesome path to tread...

Not engaged or married, just a boyfriend. I think it might not be okay because I wouldn't want someone else to do it to my gf.

civic_misfit

Not engaged or married, just a boyfriend. I think it might not be okay because I wouldn't want someone else to do it to my gf.

civic_misfit

It's not nice to the other guy, but if you feel that your a better suitor for her, then go for it.

[QUOTE="cd_rom"]

Woo his girlfriend. Beat up the boyfriend. Take the girlfriend's much hotter BFF. Buy yourself a cupcake for a job well done.

civic_misfit

Or you could skip everything and just have the cupcake.

I wouldn't say I'm "pursuing" a girl with a bf, but I'm very attracted to her and I'm waiting for her to break up with her bf. I hear it's a bad relationship...

I know that's kinda cold, but I really am willing to start a relationship with her and I'd like to at least try if the opportunity appears.

[QUOTE="binpink"]

No. It's disrespectful of their relationship and raises doubts about your integrity.

civic_misfit

[QUOTE="Lockedge"][QUOTE="binpink"]

No. It's disrespectful of their relationship and raises doubts about your integrity.

binpink

Also, if she took the guy up on his advances, her integrity would be in question too. I think that covers it.

lol standards

lol standards

mywalletsgone

I know, who needs 'em?

It depends. You can't just say "no" for all cases and you can't say "yes" for all cases.Agent-Zero

I knew a guy who did the exact same thing you're proposing. Her boyfriend was in basic training for the Army and she was sleeping with the other guy. She sent her boyfriend who was still in basic a Dear John letter and then married the other guy. Fast forward a few months while her new husband was stationed in Korea she cheated on him too. Like what some other people said, if she's willing to cheat on him with you then what's stopping her from cheating on you with someone else while you're gone on a business trip or a male bonding trip out of town? For your own sake, you should look for someone single. Especially if her current boyfriend is the type who doesn't mind risking going to jail for assault and battery over her.

I knew a guy who did the exact same thing you're proposing. Her boyfriend was in basic training for the Army and she was sleeping with the other guy. She sent her boyfriend who was still in basic a Dear John letter and then married the other guy. Fast forward a few months while her new husband was stationed in Korea she cheated on him too. Like what some other people said, if she's willing to cheat on him with you then what's stopping her from cheating on you with someone else while you're gone on a business trip or a male bonding trip out of town? For your own sake, you should look for someone single. Especially if her current boyfriend is the type who doesn't mind risking going to jail for assault and battery over her.

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