is it wrong to take your friends girl, if you really liked her before he did.

Me and this girl are close, and for some reason I hesitated asking her out. My friend(I use that term loosely, kind of a douche) asked her out and they began seeing each other. He does not know how I feel about her, and I have never said anything as far as they see it I am just a good mutual friend. The thing is they do not get along, every time they are together she looks gloomy, and gets excited when someone else shows up. He told me he thinks of breaking up with her, but wants to make it work. Also she seems to act like she likes me, texting me a lot, pulling me away from other girls(this is kind of annoying), and the kicker saying "why can't he be like you". I asked her to go out with me, and she said she would break up with him asap, I told her I was joking and then there was an awkward silence(she never knows when I am being serious).

I have never really bought into the whole bros before hoes thing, especially when I am closer to the girl. Maybe I would be reluctant if it was a nicer guy, but he is an *hole. I asked her to hang out and I am really considering asking her out.

What is wrong with you? Why did you say you were joking? Jesus :P She obviously digs you so go for it before she realises that you are an a*****e.Lt_Horatio

Honestly i did not expect her to take me seriously, and i went back to the old school method of "LOL JK"

Quickly go tell her you wasn't joking you fool :x try not to mess her about again as you may scare her off :? I wouldn't worry too much about a freind you can say is kind of a douche, plus it doesn't sound like they go together... go now go for it :P.

Do you really wanna be touching and get close to her when you know he as been doing that?

[QUOTE="Lt_Horatio"]What is wrong with you? Why did you say you were joking? Jesus :P She obviously digs you so go for it before she realises that you are an a*****e.Mercenary848

Honestly i did not expect her to take me seriously, and i went back to the old school method of "LOL JK"

As they are still together...it's best to stay out of it. If and when they break up...that is another story. But be prepared to lose a friend....

He was thinking of breaking up with her? Just go for it then, he can't be that interested anyway if he was going to break up with her. i don't see the point in everyone being unhappy, so just do it, do all of you a favour.

He was thinking of breaking up with her? Just go for it then, he can't be that interested anyway if he was going to break up with her. i don't see the point in everyone being unhappy, so just do it, do all of you a favour.

sarahxox

If they are not doing too hot, then let them break up, and wait a bit... Even then it will put a strain of your friendship.

If you go for it right away, it really is a choice between your friend and the girl... I doubt you will get both when things are over.

If he really is your friend, and not just someone you hang out with (I have a very clear distinction, that friends are basicly family minus the bloodbonds),

Then go nap her... No one can say if it is right or wrong afterall, it is up to you as a person to make the judgement, and consider the consequenses, if it it ultimately worth it? sure go ahead. If it is not? eeh let it go.

Well if you don't like the guy to begin with..then taking his girl would be the perfect way to show him how much you dislike him..

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He was thinking of breaking up with her? Just go for it then, he can't be that interested anyway if he was going to break up with her. i don't see the point in everyone being unhappy, so just do it, do all of you a favour.

LJS9502_basic

As they are still together...it's best to stay out of it. If and when they break up...that is another story. But be prepared to lose a friend....

LJS9502_basic

Agreed.

As they are still together...it's best to stay out of it. If and when they break up...that is another story. But be prepared to lose a friend....

LJS9502_basic

I won't miss him, he is a nice guy to hang out with but thats about it.

DUDE GO FOR IT. OMG.. I'm try sooo hard to be in your shoes man. :( :( th3warr1or

This seems to be the best way to break it to him.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_KpylaZB9c&feature=related

the only good scenes in the movie

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zqKWAc_wt60

[QUOTE="th3warr1or"]DUDE GO FOR IT. OMG.. I'm try sooo hard to be in your shoes man. :( :( Mercenary848

This seems to be the best way to break it to him.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_KpylaZB9c&feature=related

the only good scenes in the movie

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zqKWAc_wt60

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"][QUOTE="sarahxox"]

He was thinking of breaking up with her? Just go for it then, he can't be that interested anyway if he was going to break up with her. i don't see the point in everyone being unhappy, so just do it, do all of you a favour.

th3warr1or

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"][QUOTE="sarahxox"]

He was thinking of breaking up with her? Just go for it then, he can't be that interested anyway if he was going to break up with her. i don't see the point in everyone being unhappy, so just do it, do all of you a favour.

th3warr1or

Yeah that's what I understood from it, not saying they should see each other behind the guys back, but from what it sounded like they both wanted to break up.

no you need not to fight your friend , but make sure you tell him the truth or he'll hear it from some one else and then he will never believe you or be your friend , pay attention , and if he really is your friend he would have left her for you since you liked her first.gubrushadow

i agree, but we are not going behind his back. it just seems she is leaving him for me.

I don't see how it is taking. Relationships are a two way street. For her to be with you, she'd have to want to leave him, which means it isn't taking.

IMO it's fine if she wants to be with you and not him anymore and actively leaves him. It isn't okay if you two started getting together behind his back, however.

[QUOTE="th3warr1or"][QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"] Why would she be a good bet if she'd rather cheat than break up?LJS9502_basic

I agree one thing about dating someone in a realastionsip is they may replace you like they did their previous partner. But when it is someone you know and liked befor that relashionship started and you know her well it feels different.

Me and this girl are close, and for some reason I hesitated asking her out. My friend(I use that term loosely, kind of a douche) asked her out and they began seeing each other. He does not know how I feel about her, and I have never said anything as far as they see it I am just a good mutual friend. The thing is they do not get along, every time they are together she looks gloomy, and gets excited when someone else shows up. He told me he thinks of breaking up with her, but wants to make it work. Also she seems to act like she likes me, texting me a lot, pulling me away from other girls(this is kind of annoying), and the kicker saying "why can't he be like you". I asked her to go out with me, and she said she would break up with him asap, I told her I was joking and then there was an awkward silence(she never knows when I am being serious).

I have never really bought into the whole bros before hoes thing, especially when I am closer to the girl. Maybe I would be reluctant if it was a nicer guy, but he is an *hole. I asked her to hang out and I am really considering asking her out.

Mercenary848

If she really wanted to be with you she would have left this guy already. Your last line about "asking her out" then saying you were joking is pretty horrible and awkward. She doesn't need to break up with her BF to hang out with you. This whole situation is just weird.

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"][QUOTE="th3warr1or"] She would rather break up.. She said she would break up for him. Mercenary848

I agree one thing about dating someone in a realastionsip is they may replace you like they did their previous partner. But when it is someone you know and liked befor that relashionship started and you know her well it feels different.

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[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]That's wrong. She needs to break up because she doesn't want the relationship...otherwise...he's just security so she has a bf. Not a good bet for that reason as well....WheresKinggiAt

I agree one thing about dating someone in a realastionsip is they may replace you like they did their previous partner. But when it is someone you know and liked befor that relashionship started and you know her well it feels different.

I did not mean that, I meant I can not see her just playing me of becaus of how long I have known her. The two of us actually know each other, unlike the current guy.

[QUOTE="WheresKinggiAt"]

[QUOTE="Mercenary848"]

I agree one thing about dating someone in a realastionsip is they may replace you like they did their previous partner. But when it is someone you know and liked befor that relashionship started and you know her well it feels different.

Mercenary848

I did not mean that, I meant I can not see her just playing me of becaus of how long I have known her. The two of us actually know each other, unlike the current guy.

Me and this girl are close, and for some reason I hesitated asking her out. My friend(I use that term loosely, kind of a douche) asked her out and they began seeing each other. He does not know how I feel about her, and I have never said anything as far as they see it I am just a good mutual friend. The thing is they do not get along, every time they are together she looks gloomy, and gets excited when someone else shows up. He told me he thinks of breaking up with her, but wants to make it work. Also she seems to act like she likes me, texting me a lot, pulling me away from other girls(this is kind of annoying), and the kicker saying "why can't he be like you". I asked her to go out with me, and she said she would break up with him asap, I told her I was joking and then there was an awkward silence(she never knows when I am being serious).

I have never really bought into the whole bros before hoes thing, especially when I am closer to the girl. Maybe I would be reluctant if it was a nicer guy, but he is an *hole. I asked her to hang out and I am really considering asking her out.

Mercenary848

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[QUOTE="WheresKinggiAt"]Actually no -- the "I saw her first!!" argument is actually fairly pathetic. Usually what that means is the person was too scared/too much of a pansy to get with the girl and gets mad when the other guy steps in. Is the other guy supposed to wait around forever while you continue not to make a move? Granted if the two guys are close friends it gets closer but I still don't have any issues with it. In your case you don't like this guy and think he's a douche (probably because he's with your crush) and would be willing to dump him to the curb in a heartbeat....so why shouldn't he be allowed to be with the girl you like? If he was so bad the girl wouldn't be with him.

WheresKinggiAt

I did not mean that, I meant I can not see her just playing me of becaus of how long I have known her. The two of us actually know each other, unlike the current guy.

your reading to much into it, I was not angry at him for going out with her. I will admit it bothered me at first, but I understood that I should have made a move sooner.

Imma have to say it isn't right, but only if it was a good friend. Any other case if you like her and she likes you go for it.

If it's your best friend's girl...always wrong.

[QUOTE="WheresKinggiAt"]

[QUOTE="Mercenary848"]

I did not mean that, I meant I can not see her just playing me of becaus of how long I have known her. The two of us actually know each other, unlike the current guy.

Mercenary848

your reading to much into it, I was not angry at him for going out with her. I will admit it bothered me at first, but I understood that I should have made a move sooner.

Don't go for it if you still want a mate, if there on the verge of breaking up, let them first...bros b4 hos. Wellzification

I would say she is a closer friend then he is. Also the guy rules are dead.

I think I will just wait for them to break up. who knows I might have found someone else by then

As they are still together...it's best to stay out of it. If and when they break up...that is another story. But be prepared to lose a friend....

LJS9502_basic

I think I will just wait for them to break up. who knows I might have found someone else by then

Mercenary848

I think I will just wait for them to break up. who knows I might have found someone else by then

Mercenary848

I say you should go and get your swerve on.

Frist off, don't ever say bros before hoes ever again.

Secondly, I don't see anything wrong with it seeing how you don't feel he is a good friend.Chances are he won't be heartbroken since he doesn't seem to care much for her. Just wait until they break up though...if they break up.