Is love real??

I've been thinking a lot about this lately and I wanted to see what you guys think. Is love a true emotion or is it just an evolutionary trait that bonds two people together in order to successfully produce offspring. For instance, if you truly loved someone do you think you could go through out your entire life without having sex with them because love is forever? Or eventually do you think you would lose your attraction to them because of the primitive need to produce offspring. I mean after all isn't love just chemicals formed in your brain? I guess this leads to another question whether or not you believe love is a result of sex or sex is the result of love. And obviously i'm talking about love between two parents and not between siblings etc.

I think it's an emotion. My boyfriend and I have no intention on making the babies any time soon OR having sex but we are quite content with just being around eachother.

I've been thinking a lot about this lately and I wanted to see what you guys think. Is love a true emotion or is it just an evolutionary trait that bonds two people together in order to successfully produce offspring. For instance, if you truly loved someone do you think you could go through out your entire life without having sex with them because love is forever? Or eventually do you think you would lose your attraction to them because of the primitive need to produce offspring. I mean after all isn't love just chemicals formed in your brain? I guess this leads to another question whether or not you believe love is a result of sex or sex is the result of love. And obviously i'm talking about love between two parents and not between siblings etc.

Cypress_290

Aren't all emotions chemical changes? Or are they the soul? Science and religion have not answered those yet.

Sex is sex. Some animals have sex casually like humans do, including certain speices of prime ape, as well as Dolphins. its rare, but it does exist in nature beyond us.

I've been thinking a lot about this lately and I wanted to see what you guys think. Is love a true emotion or is it just an evolutionary trait that bonds two people together in order to successfully produce offspring. For instance, if you truly loved someone do you think you could go through out your entire life without having sex with them because love is forever? Or eventually do you think you would lose your attraction to them because of the primitive need to produce offspring. I mean after all isn't love just chemicals formed in your brain? I guess this leads to another question whether or not you believe love is a result of sex or sex is the result of love. And obviously i'm talking about love between two parents and not between siblings etc.

Cypress_290

Yes to the First question, No to the Second (Refer to Bolded). If you truly love someone you could have a great relationship with them without defiling them.

Well, if love isn't a "real" emotion, then neither is anger, happiness, sadness, sorrow, etc.

If it was an evolutionary trait meant to produce offspring then gay people should be incapable of love and everyone who loves their parents should be having sex with them.

Yes, love is real, and is more than a silly biological function.

Nothing is real. When you bleed, it isn't real.

I believe its real even though I have never experienced it. It is a strong emotional and physical attachment to someone else I think and whether it lasts I'm not so sure of.

I believe its real even though I have never experienced it. It is a strong emotional and physical attachment to someone else I think and whether it lasts I'm not so sure of.

nooblet69

Of course love is real. I think sex SHOULD BE the result of love, never the other way around. I don't think people need to have sex to be in love or to stay in love. I don't need to have sex with my boyfriend to want to stay with him forever.XilePrincess

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Of course love is real. I think sex SHOULD BE the result of love, never the other way around. I don't think people need to have sex to be in love or to stay in love. I don't need to have sex with my boyfriend to want to stay with him forever.zombie_forumite

[QUOTE="zombie_forumite"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Of course love is real. I think sex SHOULD BE the result of love, never the other way around. I don't think people need to have sex to be in love or to stay in love. I don't need to have sex with my boyfriend to want to stay with him forever.Assassin1349

[QUOTE="zombie_forumite"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Of course love is real. I think sex SHOULD BE the result of love, never the other way around. I don't think people need to have sex to be in love or to stay in love. I don't need to have sex with my boyfriend to want to stay with him forever.Assassin1349

Everyone can define what they feel is real. I just hate the people who use the generic Matrix-esque view on emotions, stimulated impulses and reality.

[QUOTE="Assassin1349"][QUOTE="zombie_forumite"]But sex is chemicals.Just like love. And that is why girls get left behind because they say " We do not need sex" and then the male gets bored and moves on.guynamedbilly

[QUOTE="Assassin1349"][QUOTE="zombie_forumite"]But sex is chemicals.Just like love. And that is why girls get left behind because they say " We do not need sex" and then the male gets bored and moves on.zombie_forumite

[QUOTE="zombie_forumite"][QUOTE="Assassin1349"] If I find a girl that doesn't want sex. I'll take her any day. In my opinion, sex is for reproduction, not fun. There I said it. Those stupid impulse thoughts, I fight them. I resist the animal within, I yearn to become more. trust_nobody

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Of course love is real. I think sex SHOULD BE the result of love, never the other way around. I don't think people need to have sex to be in love or to stay in love. I don't need to have sex with my boyfriend to want to stay with him forever.zombie_forumite

my boyfriend and I do have sex though, I didn't mean to say that we don't. It's just that it wasn't the deciding factor of whether he wanted to be with me or not, he would have just dealt with it if I said no, because he loves me for more than just sex and wouldn't leave me if I didn't want to do it. I agree with you that sex is chemical, but the only reason he or I do it is because we love each other. Love overrules sex in our relationship. We did not NEED to do it, we just wanted to.

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Condensed version, for people who care not about my life story: Sexual attraction is chemical, love is chemical. Whichever one is stronger defines whether the girl gets dumped because she won't put out.

[QUOTE="Cypress_290"]

I've been thinking a lot about this lately and I wanted to see what you guys think. Is love a true emotion or is it just an evolutionary trait that bonds two people together in order to successfully produce offspring. For instance, if you truly loved someone do you think you could go through out your entire life without having sex with them because love is forever? Or eventually do you think you would lose your attraction to them because of the primitive need to produce offspring. I mean after all isn't love just chemicals formed in your brain? I guess this leads to another question whether or not you believe love is a result of sex or sex is the result of love. And obviously i'm talking about love between two parents and not between siblings etc.

heysharpshooter

Aren't all emotions chemical changes? Or are they the soul? Science and religion have not answered those yet.

Sex is sex. Some animals have sex casually like humans do, including certain speices of prime ape, as well as Dolphins. its rare, but it does exist in nature beyond us.

[QUOTE="zombie_forumite"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Of course love is real. I think sex SHOULD BE the result of love, never the other way around. I don't think people need to have sex to be in love or to stay in love. I don't need to have sex with my boyfriend to want to stay with him forever.XilePrincess

[QUOTE="zombie_forumite"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Of course love is real. I think sex SHOULD BE the result of love, never the other way around. I don't think people need to have sex to be in love or to stay in love. I don't need to have sex with my boyfriend to want to stay with him forever.XilePrincess

[QUOTE="zombie_forumite"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Of course love is real. I think sex SHOULD BE the result of love, never the other way around. I don't think people need to have sex to be in love or to stay in love. I don't need to have sex with my boyfriend to want to stay with him forever.XilePrincess

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"][QUOTE="zombie_forumite"]But sex is chemicals.Just like love. And that is why girls get left behind because they say " We do not need sex" and then the male gets bored and moves on.Assassin1349

[QUOTE="Assassin1349"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"] my boyfriend and I do have sex though, I didn't mean to say that we don't. It's just that it wasn't the deciding factor of whether he wanted to be with me or not, he would have just dealt with it if I said no, because he loves me for more than just sex and wouldn't leave me if I didn't want to do it. I agree with you that sex is chemical, but the only reason he or I do it is because we love each other. Love overrules sex in our relationship. We did not NEED to do it, we just wanted to.trust_nobody

I've been thinking a lot about this lately and I wanted to see what you guys think. Is love a true emotion or is it just an evolutionary trait that bonds two people together in order to successfully produce offspring. I'd say it's both. but just because something is an evolutionary trait doesnt mean that it isnt meaningful.

For instance, if you truly loved someone do you think you could go through out your entire life without having sex with them because love is forever? well that depends on why youre not having sex. if she says she doesnt ever want to have sex, that simply means that she doesnt love you in a complete way. sex is part of a healthy, loving relationship.

Or eventually do you think you would lose your attraction to them because of the primitive need to produce offspring. If you truly love someone, not having sex with them doesnt suddenly make them unlovable..but I imagine that one of them would become upset if after say 5 years of marriage, they have yet to have sex.

I mean after all isn't love just chemicals formed in your brain? as is anything that happens in your body. how else would you feel it?

I guess this leads to another question whether or not you believe love is a result of sex or sex is the result of love. when has love EVER been considered a result of sex? you dont have sex with a complete stranger and then become in love with them. and many people wait to have sex untill they are in love with their partner, so love obviously cant be a result of sex.. And obviously i'm talking about love between two parents and not between siblings etc.

Cypress_290

Is love the result of sex you ask?

Looking at the one-night stands over the years I would say whole-heartedly – thankfully not.

Seriously though that's a ridiculous question. Of course it doesn't. Love is a mercurial emotion – difficult to pin down. Is it real? It can be all consuming and a powerful emotion as you'll ever feel, and you'll certainly recognise how real and strong an emotion it is once you've had your heart broken that's for sure.

Another quick point – you suggest love is merely a series of chemical reactions? That would be akin to defining a piece of work by Mozart on a record as merely a piece of vinyl with a series of grooves in it. The whole is far greater than the sum of its parts.

Everything in your brain is dictated by chemicals. So nothing is real if you think about it. I prefer not to.

[QUOTE="Assassin1349"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"] my boyfriend and I do have sex though, I didn't mean to say that we don't. It's just that it wasn't the deciding factor of whether he wanted to be with me or not, he would have just dealt with it if I said no, because he loves me for more than just sex and wouldn't leave me if I didn't want to do it. I agree with you that sex is chemical, but the only reason he or I do it is because we love each other. Love overrules sex in our relationship. We did not NEED to do it, we just wanted to.trust_nobody

The real question is: "Is eternal love real?"

Of course it's real. But "real" is chemicals and electrical activity.

Love's real to me and that's all that matters. No one could even prove it's not real for each individul person. Why does there have to be a distinction between love and sex anyway? For some people they go together without complications or drama. You might truly love someone and if physical intimacy is part of that love, could you go your whole life without it? Maybe not. And I don't see why you should have to. But I'm shallow and it's late so I'm going to avoid rambling here.

Love's real to me and that's all that matters. No one could even prove it's not real for each individul person. Why does there have to be a distinction between love and sex anyway? For some people they go together without complications or drama. You might truly love someone and if physical intimacy is part of that love, could you go your whole life without it? Maybe not. And I don't see why you should have to. But I'm shallow and it's late so I'm going to avoid rambling here.

binpink

For others they go apart. That's why :P

I agree with everything else.

For others they go apart. That's why :P

I agree with everything else.

Dystopian-X

That's very true, I know. I just know what I perefer and it's easier for me if they go together. I'm selfish like that. :P And since it works for me I stupidly believe it could work for everyone else too. YAY no drama!

That's very true, I know. I just know what I perefer and it's easier for me if they go together. I'm selfish like that. :P And since it works for me I stupidly believe it could work for everyone else too. YAY no drama!

binpink

I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. We don't fight that much and we're always with each other so yes, I think it is.

Not for me. :(

*goes to weep by himself in a corner*

[QUOTE="nooblet69"]

I believe its real even though I have never experienced it. It is a strong emotional and physical attachment to someone else I think and whether it lasts I'm not so sure of.

Assassin1349