Is my girlfriend justified here?

In your face naysayers who were quick to urge him to bail on the poor thing.

I hope things will start to work out for the two of you TC. If like you said both of you have depression then the best way to beat such a thing is to be intimate with someone who suffers from the same condition. That instantly cuts the effort required to ameliorate the situation in half and makes the journey less lonely and unforgiving. My last tidbit of advice to you is to be gentle on her and patient. You may feel that tremendous progress has already been achieved and while that is true to a considerable extent, the real labor has just commenced which again is something substantial in itself. Always finish what you start even if you don't have any guarantee that it will pay off or turn out to be to your advantage. Best of luck.

@Kevlar101: I gotta say well done. This might be the best I have ever seen anyone handle a relationship like this in OT. Best of luck man.

Hope it works out TC.

Bro I also get along perfectly with several friends who I speak once every blue moon, and they're not my girlfriends for that exact reason. A girlfriend is supposed to be with you. I agree seeing her every day of the week would be weird if you guys are not in school/college together but TALKING once a week is something really bad regardless of how amazing the conversation is. I have this smoking hot neighbor who used to be my classmate during 3rd grade, we used to talk a bit when she moved here, the girl would ignore me for like a week straight and the other day she'd tell me to go for a walk with her around the neighborhood and sit around her house to talk, and these were great conversations, but the fact that she seeked me like once every month and then she'd ignore me for 3 months straight as if I had killer her puppy really turned me off. thats not healthy at all, and thats definitely not a good relationship, sorry.

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I love thyself. I'm an introvert.

I actually thought that until he said she didnt even liked socializing with him.

And holy shit, did OT really just helped someone with their relationship?

some of us are getting a bit wiser with age. >_>

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Thanks guys, it's nice to see some optimists on an online forum. Most forums are full of cynics, and luckily, GS is not (that's most of the reason why I prefer the GS forums over most others).

Someone made the following image a while back, and I figure that it works perfectly here lol :P

I know I am late to the topic and I apologize in advance if someone else already said this since I didn't read all the other comments. I have been married for almost 10 years now and I may have some helpful advice. My wife and I have the reverse personalities as you mentioned...I am an introvert and my wife is the extrovert. Even as such any professional or persons in a successful relationship will tell you communication is key. There comes a point where you must look at your relationship and figure out , "Is this love or is this a close friendship?" If you were to marry this young lady and 6 out of 7 days you do your own thing and only really talk on one day it would be considered being room mates rather than husband and wife. As stated before, I am an introvert but I talk to my wife frequently....it's just how good relationships work. The problem with introverts is this we can go a long time without communication with other people whereas someone who isn't normally can't. In light of this (in the marriage thought again) she may be perfectly happy with not talking to you (but still loves you) but you are not since you don't share the same view on life. I'm sorry but I don't see this working out for you in the long run and please don't be fooled into thinking things will improve, especially after a year of it being this way.

Are you being unreasonable for wanting your GF to be your GF and "hang out"

Well it really depends, was she like that when you met and started a relationship, because if she was, you can't really be surprised by how she is and then yes you are kinda being unreasonable. On the other side if its a behaviour that has come while you were dating, then no you are not being unreasonable, but no one goes all introvert without a reason, so try to figure that out.

But if its the first then clearly you two are not the right match and if she is introvert by nature its not something that suddenly will change or will ever change. Not all people are social butterflies nor should they be forced to be like that.

Or maybe, neither person is unreasonable, REGARDLESS of if any change is involved. I mean...people want what they want. He wants something out of the relationship, she wants something out of the relationship. That's totally fair and understandable. Hell, even if one party's wants changed over time, that's not unreasonable. I mean, shit...people change. That's not unreasonable in the least.

Now, I'm an advocate of communication and compromise. That is, in the sense that compromise is a two way street. Both people should be aware of the other person's needs, and compromise accordingly. It's unfair to expect one person to make all of the compromises. That is to say...if dude wants a more communicative relationship, and chick wants to spend most of her time to herself, then MAYBE a compromise can be reached. But that probably won't entail dude or chick demanding that the other totally change. That's a balance of power shiftred way too much in one direction or another, and serves to invalidate the very real priorities of the other person.

That's not to say that a workable compromise CAN be reached. Some people are just incompatible with each other. And...nothing wrong with that. But if there's going to be an attempt to salvage the relationship, then communication is key. If someone thinks there's a problem, that person needs to communicate the problem. I mean...that's fair, right? Worst case scenario...the TC dumps his gf. But hell...if that's gonna happen, if the TC thinks there's a problem, then I like to think that he owes it to her to tell her that there's a problem. Maybe they can reconcile their differences, maybe not, but how the hell is the person who is unsatisfied with the relationship supposed to fix anything without saying that there's a problem?