Is Sex before marriage bad?

So what should I do when the moment gets all quiet and she starts doing "stuff" to me?Simsfreak14

grab your gun.

When the time is right, if I do choose yes, that can alter my Place in heaven or hell right?Simsfreak14

yes to have sex? If so then its hell because it is a sin.

By religious standards.... yes, it is. It's a sin.

But my biggest fear of it would be the whole pregnancy issue. Which is why I would NEVER do it before marriage unless the girl had some damn good birth control.

By religious standards.... yes, it is. It's a sin.

But my biggest fear of it would be the whole pregnancy issue. Which is why I would NEVER do it before marriage unless the girl had some damn good birth control.

SynysterFreak

The pill is sufficient, I know that from experience, condoms have also worked fine for me and my gf. As weird as it may sound, getting a girl pregnant is harder than you'd think, not that we're trying to, but we've had a couple "scares" and both times it turned out the protection did it's job just fine.

If the condom fails. :o

I'm afraid when I start looking for some one again, their gonna temp into sex before marriage... so is it bad?Simsfreak14

I personally think it's not bad but it's sometimes it's considered immoral. It is definitely considered a sin, but then again, almost everything fun considered a sin:P It's a question you have to ask yourself really.

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By religious standards.... yes, it is. It's a sin.

But my biggest fear of it would be the whole pregnancy issue. Which is why I would NEVER do it before marriage unless the girl had some damn good birth control.

black_cat19

The pill is sufficient, I know that from experience, condoms have also worked fine for me and my gf. As weird as it may sound, getting a girl pregnant is harder than you'd think, not that we're trying to, but we've had a couple "scares" and both times it turned out the protection did it's job just fine.

Yeah... But for one, neiter my gf or I are quite 18 yet, so we still need parental consent for birth control. And secondly, if she did get pregnant, abortion would not be an option becasue or parental reasons. Even if we put the baby up for adoption, that would be terrible on botj of us, esspecially her. And the fact she won't go all the way till marriage anyways doesn't quite help either lol ;)

Sex pre/post-marriage is fine.

During the marriage is a whole different story however.

It's considered a sin. But lying is a sin. And people lie everyday.mii56

Lying is a human form of self-defense.

the only reason you think it is bad to have sex is due to your parents/religious leaders brainwashing you

lets look at it like this

Pro's:

-It feels hella good

-It eases stress and is fun at the same time

-It can create life

Con's:

-you can get pregnant (if you're dumb and don't wrap it)

-you could get an std (if you are an idiot in choosing who you smash with)

seriously tho, the pros EASILY weigh out the cons. all this "if you're ready" is bull crap too. If you are doing whatever you can to not get pregnant when sexually active, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT!!

think about it

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By religious standards.... yes, it is. It's a sin.

But my biggest fear of it would be the whole pregnancy issue. Which is why I would NEVER do it before marriage unless the girl had some damn good birth control.

SynysterFreak

The pill is sufficient, I know that from experience, condoms have also worked fine for me and my gf. As weird as it may sound, getting a girl pregnant is harder than you'd think, not that we're trying to, but we've had a couple "scares" and both times it turned out the protection did it's job just fine.

Yeah... But for one, neiter my gf or I are quite 18 yet, so we still need parental consent for birth control. And secondly, if she did get pregnant, abortion would not be an option becasue or parental reasons. Even if we put the baby up for adoption, that would be terrible on botj of us, esspecially her. And the fact she won't go all the way till marriage anyways doesn't quite help either lol ;)

True, but trust me, before we started doing it and both times we were "scared", we were thinking exactly the same, I swear, we would nearly faint from worrying so much. :P So I'll stand by my first post.

As for the marriage thing, do you mean you already know you won't get married, like you two already decided you won't last that long? Because that sure wouldn't help. :P If you just mean she doesn't want to get married, then that's not that much of a problem imo, me and my gf don't believe in marriage, but we still want to spend our lives together, and even if that's not the case with you, in time you could persuade her. But we're talking unplanned pregnancy here, so it would be really bad either way. :P

[QUOTE="mii56"]It's considered a sin. But lying is a sin. And people lie everyday.Shad0ki11

Lying is a human form of self-defense.

Hmmm...I might have to try that when someone pulls a gun on me.

"Your bullets can't harm me!"

BLAM!

"MOTHERF-ER!!! Dammit, that hurt!"

[QUOTE="SynysterFreak"][QUOTE="black_cat19"][QUOTE="SynysterFreak"]

By religious standards.... yes, it is. It's a sin.

But my biggest fear of it would be the whole pregnancy issue. Which is why I would NEVER do it before marriage unless the girl had some damn good birth control.

black_cat19

The pill is sufficient, I know that from experience, condoms have also worked fine for me and my gf. As weird as it may sound, getting a girl pregnant is harder than you'd think, not that we're trying to, but we've had a couple "scares" and both times it turned out the protection did it's job just fine.

Yeah... But for one, neiter my gf or I are quite 18 yet, so we still need parental consent for birth control. And secondly, if she did get pregnant, abortion would not be an option becasue or parental reasons. Even if we put the baby up for adoption, that would be terrible on botj of us, esspecially her. And the fact she won't go all the way till marriage anyways doesn't quite help either lol ;)

True, but trust me, before we started doing it and both times we were "scared", we were thinking exactly the same, I swear, we would nearly faint from worrying so much. :P So I'll stand by my first post.

As for the marriage thing, do you mean you already know you won't get married, like you two already decided you won't last that long? Because that sure wouldn't help. :P If you just mean she doesn't want to get married, then that's not that much of a problem imo, me and my gf don't believe in marriage, but we still want to spend our lives together, and even if that's not the case with you, in time you could persuade her. But we're talking unplanned pregnancy here, so it would be really bad either way. :P

No, we already know we want to get married. We're going to wait until we're financially ready though. She just doesn't believe in sex before marriage though. She was brought up that way. So was I actually, but... it didn't quite stick with me as much as it did with her lol

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[QUOTE="mii56"]It's considered a sin. But lying is a sin. And people lie everyday.Hallenbeck77

Lying is a human form of self-defense.

Hmmm...I might have to try that when someone pulls a gun on me.

"Your bullets can't harm me!"

BLAM!

"MOTHERF-ER!!! Dammit, that hurt!"

If you are about to get in serious trouble because of something you did, your first reaction would be to tell a lie. It's a reaction in the mind to prevent oneself from getting into trouble and getting punished. That's why it takes guts to openly admit something you did wrong. That's why it can feel really awkward when you tell the truth because you don't know if they will react by forgiving you or punishing you.

Anyone who was able to wait for sex until marriage is probably going to look at any kind of sex, no matte the quality, as a wonderful awesome happy experience. I mean, bad sex is better then no sex right? (Well, at least for the guy.)VacantPsalm

Just use some contraceptives or face the consequencesZhenDash

Only if you get an STDchoffy

u meant STD after marriage is ok?

Its Bad... If you cannot control your desire, how can you control your life...Aldouz

Oh, so I suppose that eating and sleeping are bad too, for that same reason.

I'm afraid when I start looking for some one again, their gonna temp into sex before marriage... so is it bad?Simsfreak14

I heard that you can go blind after having sex before marriage :lol:

[QUOTE="Aldouz"]Its Bad... If you cannot control your desire, how can you control your life...Funky_Llama

Oh, so I suppose that eating and sleeping are bad too, for that same reason.

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[QUOTE="Aldouz"]Its Bad... If you cannot control your desire, how can you control your life...K0PaSk4

Oh, so I suppose that eating and sleeping are bad too, for that same reason.

For wetting yourself, you will burn in hell! :twisted:

I think it's still wrong, it kind of pollutes the value of sex becuz it's supposed to be a part of marriage. I know lots of people admit that they wished they waited till they were married. I think in general sex has lost it's real meaning and has caused many griefs and suffering due to it's wrong use. You may disagree with me but i am still keeping my opinion. The whole reason why religion is against premarital sex is not to keep you from the pleasure, but to prevent that bad stuff that may come with premarital sex, such as spreading STD's, unplanned pregnancy, dumping, scandal, regret so on so.The_Nintendawg

I guess so but regret is part of life. It doesn't change with marriage - affairs, divorce etc.