Just got in a huge fight POLL

Well first off, i go to my grandmas and aunts house everyday, my aunt is young she is in her 40s and always drinks at night and gets drunk usually. So we were in the family room, and i sat down in this chair, and then she started yelling at me saying that, thats her chair and she wants to sit there. Now remind you my aunt doesnt live there, the house is set up as an aparment and i was in my grandmas part. I said if you ask me nicely ill get up , and she said i was being disrespectuful? Because i am 15 and she is an adult? I said no that does not matter, we are all human beings and deserve respect regardless of age, race, or gender. So she starts yelling at me, and i kinda lost it and started to yell back. I have a big problem with anxiety attacks, and i havent got one since last October. I almost got one tonight, becasue then my grandmas says that im direspectful for not just getting up, even though she yelled at me and was being very disrespectful. So she yelled at me and told me to leave the house..so i did.

I am so angry, everyone deserves the equal respect, just because you are older then me doesnt give you the right to treat me like dirt and yell at me disrespectfully. Mind you that, she was being very immature over a chair, and being immature in how she was yelling at me.

Am i right, was i wrong for saying, " If you ask me nicely". I know i shouldnt have yelled, but i have a probelm with anger and anxiety(which they know that) and didnt seem to take that in conciteration. I also havent had any problems in over 1 year and a half and was doing really well. But i stood up for myself(maybe not in the best way) but i deserve respect. And who knows its not your house, maybe even if you asked me i would have still said no, you cant always get what you want.

Now i know its silly that the argument was over a chair lol, but that was on her part, my argument was in defense that you cant always get what you want, and talk nasty to someone whos younger and expect to get what you want.

It was pretty immature on everyone's part, she shouldn't of forced you out of the chair, you shouldn't have made a big deal of it and your grandma shouldn't have taken sides. Big_player

Thank you i agree 100 percent.

Well first off, i go to my grandmas and aunts house everyday, my aunt is young she is in her 40s and always drinks at night and gets drunk usually. So we were in the family room, and i sat down in this chair, and then she started yelling at me saying that, thats her chair and she wants to sit there. Now remind you my aunt doesnt live there, the house is set up as an aparment and i was in my grandmas part. I said if you ask me nicely ill get up , and she said i was being disrespectuful? Because i am 15 and she is an adult? I said no that does not matter, we are all human beings and deserve respect regardless of age, race, or gender. So she starts yelling at me, and i kinda lost it and started to yell back. I have a big problem with anxiety attacks, and i havent got one since last October. I almost got one tonight, becasue then my grandmas says that im direspectful for not just getting up, even though she yelled at me and was being very disrespectful. So she yelled at me and told me to leave the house..so i did.

I am so angry, everyone deserves the equal respect, just because you are older then me doesnt give you the right to treat me like dirt and yell at me disrespectfully. Mind you that, she was being very immature over a chair, and being immature in how she was yelling at me.

Am i right, was i wrong for saying, " If you ask me nicely". I know i shouldnt have yelled, but i have a probelm with anger and anxiety(which they know that) and didnt seem to take that in conciteration. I also havent had any problems in over 1 year and a half and was doing really well. But i stood up for myself(maybe not in the best way) but i deserve respect. And who knows its not your house, maybe even if you asked me i would have still said no, you cant always get what you want.

Now i know its silly that the argument was over a chair lol, but that was on her part, my argument was in defense that you cant always get what you want, and talk nasty to someone whos younger and expect to get what you want.

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Unless we're not getting the full story it sounds like you were in the right. She was the one being disrespectful. omfg_its_dally

Yep , i am telling the whole story. Thank you for helping..

Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|Pirate700

Nuh-uh! Lady, not woman. Lady.

Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|Pirate700

Why does she deserve respect when she yelled at him to get out of the chair?

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|vlin1108

Nuh-uh! Lady, not woman. Lady.

Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|Pirate700

Thats being sexcist, i dont care if shes a women or a man, i dont judge people on that. Plus i would have given her the chair, if she asked me nicely. When i said "Can you ask nicely?" , she should of said, "Can i please sit in the chair". I would have honestly given it to her. Plus there was plenty other chairs to sit in, it wasnt the only chair in the room.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|Dark_Knight6

Why does she deserve respect when she yelled at him to get out of the chair?

[QUOTE="Dark_Knight6"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|Pirate700

Why does she deserve respect when she yelled at him to get out of the chair?

Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|Pirate700

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|vlin1108

Nuh-uh! Lady, not woman. Lady.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"][QUOTE="Dark_Knight6"]

Why does she deserve respect when she yelled at him to get out of the chair?

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[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|DJ_Novakain

I never understood people who demand respect from others based on their position. Respect is earned, not given.GettingTired

While that is my attitude most of the time, do you really think its too much to demand respect from a member of your own family?

[QUOTE="ct1257860"][QUOTE="Pirate700"]She shouldn't have yelled at him but regardless. If she wanted the seat he should have just given it to her. It's not worth the stupid argument leading to this thread and it's the right thing to do anyway. His "we are all equal, I don't have to do what you say" BS will hit him so hard his head will spin later in life. Pirate700

You were the one being disrespectful. You aunt is older than you and outranks you, if you will, and YES that makes a big difference. Just give her the damn chair and move to another one. You seriously have lot of growing up to do and some serious issues which you are apparently working out in said therapy. And if you really think giving up your seat to a lady is sexist you have a long way to go before you interact with society. Pirate700

Yelling at someone to get out of a seat is far from lady-like. She doesn't deserve respect if she can't show it.

[QUOTE="GettingTired"]I never understood people who demand respect from others based on their position. Respect is earned, not given.TAKE_IT_BACK

While that is my attitude most of the time, do you really think its too much to demand respect from a member of your own family?

[QUOTE="Pirate700"][QUOTE="ct1257860"]
Yea why should i give the chair up, when she was so disprectful? You did give a solid good answer, you just said, just because..
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[QUOTE="ct1257860"][QUOTE="Pirate700"]She shouldn't have yelled at him but regardless. If she wanted the seat he should have just given it to her. It's not worth the stupid argument leading to this thread and it's the right thing to do anyway. His "we are all equal, I don't have to do what you say" BS will hit him so hard his head will spin later in life. Pirate700

Stop acting so elitist and just flaming him. If a drunk woman, your aunt no less, yelled at you to get out of where you were sitting, are you telling me you'd just do that instantly without asking for a little courtesy? Also, why does his aunt "outrank" him? Just because shes older doesn't cut it, she gets drunk at night and yells at people. That doesn't make her respectable.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"][QUOTE="ct1257860"]
Yea why should i give the chair up, when she was so disprectful? You did give a solid good answer, you just said, just because..
TAKE_IT_BACK

Stop acting so elitist and just flaming him. If a drunk woman, your aunt no less, yelled at you to get out of where you were sitting, are you telling me you'd just do that instantly without asking for a little courtesy? Also, why does his aunt "outrank" him? Just because shes older doesn't cut it, she gets drunk at night and yells at people. That doesn't make her respectable.

[QUOTE="TAKE_IT_BACK"]

[QUOTE="GettingTired"]I never understood people who demand respect from others based on their position. Respect is earned, not given.GettingTired

While that is my attitude most of the time, do you really think its too much to demand respect from a member of your own family?

Wait, I think we had a misunderstanding. I thought you were talking about the boy demanding respect: did you mean the aunt?

[QUOTE="ct1257860"][QUOTE="Pirate700"] You were the one being disrespectful. You aunt is older than you and outranks you, if you will, and YES that makes a big difference. Just give her the damn chair and move to another one. You seriously have lot of growing up to do and some serious issues which you are apparently working out in said therapy. And if you really think giving up your seat to a lady is sexist you have a long way to go before you interact with society. Pirate700

Ok sortof agree with you now, my mom said that i should have just given her the chair, would of saved lots of headaces. But what if Martin Luther king did that, and said ill save myself a headace, and just take the easy way out. You got to think of that too, you know. SO i see what you mean ,to save myself a headace i should have just given her the chair, but i still that i was right in standing up for myself.

[QUOTE="TAKE_IT_BACK"][QUOTE="Pirate700"] You were the one being disrespectful. You aunt is older than you and outranks you, if you will, and YES that makes a big difference. Just give her the damn chair and move to another one. You seriously have lot of growing up to do and some serious issues which you are apparently working out in said therapy. And if you really think giving up your seat to a lady is sexist you have a long way to go before you interact with society. Pirate700

Stop acting so elitist and just flaming him. If a drunk woman, your aunt no less, yelled at you to get out of where you were sitting, are you telling me you'd just do that instantly without asking for a little courtesy? Also, why does his aunt "outrank" him? Just because shes older doesn't cut it, she gets drunk at night and yells at people. That doesn't make her respectable.

Your telling him he has problems and you are insulting his maturity. I would consider that flaming.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"][QUOTE="ct1257860"] Some things wrong there. Its not sexist to give a women a chair, its sexist to give a women a chair based on the reason that she is a women. You said just give her the damn chair, well why couldnt she have just picked the damn chair right across the room?
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Ok sortof agree with you now, my mom said that i should have just given her the chair, would of saved lots of headaces. But what if Martin Luther king did that, and said ill save myself a headace, and just take the easy way out. You got to think of that too, you know. SO i see what you mean ,to save myself a headace i should have just given her the chair, but i still that i was right in standing up for myself.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"][QUOTE="TAKE_IT_BACK"]

Stop acting so elitist and just flaming him. If a drunk woman, your aunt no less, yelled at you to get out of where you were sitting, are you telling me you'd just do that instantly without asking for a little courtesy? Also, why does his aunt "outrank" him? Just because shes older doesn't cut it, she gets drunk at night and yells at people. That doesn't make her respectable.

TAKE_IT_BACK

Your telling him he has problems and you are insulting his maturity. I would consider that flaming.

[QUOTE="vlin1108"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Your aunt was right. Be respectful and get the hell out of the chair. Regardless of age, a man always gives his seat up for a woman. I suggest learning some manners before you hit the real world. :|SavageM2

Nuh-uh! Lady, not woman. Lady.

She probably wasn't, but a chair isn't a very good reason to argue about.

I am kind of on the fence with this one. After reading through the original post again, and all the posts after, I am starting to think maybe you should have just gotten up. Not even the fact that she was family, or a women. But that If you know she gets drunk like that/knew that she was drunk. There really is not point to argue with her. She is drunk I don't think it will get through to her anyway.

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[QUOTE="Pirate700"]I said I agree she shouldn't have yelled at you but the mature thing would be to just give her the chair to, if nothing else, to shut her up. Part of growing up is knowing what battles/confrontations are worth fighting. In this case it wasn't. You could have given her the chair, you wouldn't be pissed off, and everything would end up OK. Pirate700

Ok sortof agree with you now, my mom said that i should have just given her the chair, would of saved lots of headaces. But what if Martin Luther king did that, and said ill save myself a headace, and just take the easy way out. You got to think of that too, you know. SO i see what you mean ,to save myself a headace i should have just given her the chair, but i still that i was right in standing up for myself.

Lol maybe not, but it was still the same idea behind it all. Martin luther king had to show respect to white people because of his color. I had to show respect to my aunt because of my age.

So i guess its not the best analogy...but..it gets my point across.

[QUOTE="ct1257860"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]I said I agree she shouldn't have yelled at you but the mature thing would be to just give her the chair to, if nothing else, to shut her up. Part of growing up is knowing what battles/confrontations are worth fighting. In this case it wasn't. You could have given her the chair, you wouldn't be pissed off, and everything would end up OK. Pirate700

Ok sortof agree with you now, my mom said that i should have just given her the chair, would of saved lots of headaces. But what if Martin Luther king did that, and said ill save myself a headace, and just take the easy way out. You got to think of that too, you know. SO i see what you mean ,to save myself a headace i should have just given her the chair, but i still that i was right in standing up for myself.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"][QUOTE="ct1257860"]

Ok sortof agree with you now, my mom said that i should have just given her the chair, would of saved lots of headaces. But what if Martin Luther king did that, and said ill save myself a headace, and just take the easy way out. You got to think of that too, you know. SO i see what you mean ,to save myself a headace i should have just given her the chair, but i still that i was right in standing up for myself.

ct1257860

Lol maybe not, but it was still the same idea behind it all. Martin luther king had to show respect to white people because of his color. I had to show respect to my aunt because of my age.

So i guess its not the best analogy...but..it gets my point across.

[QUOTE="SavageM2"][QUOTE="vlin1108"]

Nuh-uh! Lady, not woman. Lady.

vlin1108

She probably wasn't, but a chair isn't a very good reason to argue about.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"][QUOTE="ct1257860"]

Ok sortof agree with you now, my mom said that i should have just given her the chair, would of saved lots of headaces. But what if Martin Luther king did that, and said ill save myself a headace, and just take the easy way out. You got to think of that too, you know. SO i see what you mean ,to save myself a headace i should have just given her the chair, but i still that i was right in standing up for myself.

DJ_Novakain

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What? lol

Hey, Pastor Skeet here... We've given our own Kyle "Da G-Man" Goldman a page on the Zounds! site for his awesome mini-reviews of video games. When he's not too busy studying at the F-Ship to become a Missiological Technician, Kyle likes to hang with his peeps in the Commons and play some vids. And let me tell you, Da G-Man got game. Back in the day, I could play a righteous game of Pong, but even I've got nothing on Kyle's mad skillz. As the gamers say: I got pee-to-the-owned, powned.G4mbl3

Wait, I think we had a misunderstanding. I thought you were talking about the boy demanding respect: did you mean the aunt? TAKE_IT_BACK

[QUOTE="DJ_Novakain"][QUOTE="Pirate700"]MLK and giving your pissed off aunt a chair aren't comparable and is a horrible analogy. :Pct1257860

[QUOTE="ct1257860"][QUOTE="DJ_Novakain"] Its pretty much the same. IN both cases, it would have been easier to just back down, but you have to stand up for yourself, no matter how small the matter is.Pirate700