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#1 fmacraze
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kay. my dude friend likes another friend of mine. he told her already that he likes her, but out of nervousness he said he wanted to stay friends. at a party last saturday, he danced with her and whatever. and yeah

so he just said he plans on dancing with her at prom next year and try to win her heart and whatever and he asked me what he could do to win her heart. so i decided to be a good friend and ask OT, cuz obviously OT knows how to handle teh laydeez... so yea

what should I tell him to do? (btw, if it matters, hes 17, and shes 16)

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#2 observer77
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so is this "friend" you?

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#3 LJS9502_basic
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"Friend" huh? Ask her out....

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#4 MgamerBD
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Well at prom he should turn to her pull out a ring and say "I love you, please marry me" 99.9% of the time girls say yes. You can ask any gamespotter here.
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#5 Treflis
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OT knows how to handle the ladies? That sentence right there, is prone to lead to disaster.
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#6 ieatnoobs18
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Well, if hes a senior, he should just take advantage of hot, low self esteem freshmen girls. Forget the other girl.
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#7 IamSquat
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Well at prom he should turn to her pull out a ring and say "I love you, please marry me" 99.9% of the time girls say yes. You can ask any gamespotter here. MgamerBD

Actually... It was proven that 99.8% say yes... not 99.9%.

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#8 magitekk
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Well at prom he should turn to her pull out a ring and say "I love you, please marry me" 99.9% of the time girls say yes. You can ask any gamespotter here. MgamerBD

So...would that make me one of the very few people to say no? I don't believe in teenage love bullcrap.

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#9 fmacraze
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so is this "friend" you?

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no it's actually not me.
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#10 dodgerblue13
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Prom next year is a looong ways away. Anything can happen between now and then.
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#11 Big_Bad_Sad
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Tell him to be careful dancing with her. Thats how teen pregnancies happen.
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#12 MgamerBD
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[QUOTE="MgamerBD"]Well at prom he should turn to her pull out a ring and say "I love you, please marry me" 99.9% of the time girls say yes. You can ask any gamespotter here. magitekk

So...would that make me one of the very few people to say no? I don't believe in teenage love bullcrap.

Then your part of the other .1%...kill the non believer!
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#14 observer77
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well tell your friends to stop being a little girl grow some huevos and realize after school he may NEVER see her again and if he wants to be with her take a chance and go for it or he will spend the rest of his life wondering...and sadly that may sound cheesy but it is true.

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#15 MuddVader
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Prom is quite a ways away isnt it? I dont mean to rush your friend, but isnt it best to take advantage of the feelings now, before either his or hers fade?

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#16 observer77
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[QUOTE="Big_Bad_Sad"]Tell him to be careful dancing with her. Thats how teen pregnancies happen.ieatnoobs18
LOL

oh it's true those horizontal dances *shakes head*

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#17 magitekk
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[QUOTE="magitekk"]

[QUOTE="MgamerBD"]Well at prom he should turn to her pull out a ring and say "I love you, please marry me" 99.9% of the time girls say yes. You can ask any gamespotter here. MgamerBD

So...would that make me one of the very few people to say no? I don't believe in teenage love bullcrap.

Then your part of the other .1%...kill the non believer!

You won't take me alive, coppers!

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#18 MuddVader
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[QUOTE="MgamerBD"][QUOTE="magitekk"]

So...would that make me one of the very few people to say no? I don't believe in teenage love bullcrap.

magitekk

Then your part of the other .1%...kill the non believer!

You won't take me alive, coppers!


I dont think they plan on taking you alive.
*pulls a sawn-off from his coat*

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[QUOTE="MgamerBD"] he bought her a 10 dollar ring in march on a trip to quebec city, oh and he's a little cheap also, he p;lans on singing some song in her ear while staring in her eyes during a dance
Well, if hes a senior, he should just take advantage of hot, low self esteem freshmen girls. Forget the other girl.ieatnoobs18
... there's only one girl...
Tell him to be careful dancing with her. Thats how teen pregnancies happen.Big_Bad_Sad
he's danced with her before, i think

well tell your friends to stop being a little girl grow some huevos and realize after school he may NEVER see her again and if he wants to be with her take a chance and go for it or he will spend the rest of his life wondering...and sadly that may sound cheesy but it is true.

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he knows and i've mentioned it a million times
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#20 observer77
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[QUOTE="MgamerBD"] he bought her a 10 dollar ring in march on a trip to quebec city, oh and he's a little cheap also, he p;lans on singing some song in her ear while staring in her eyes during a dance [QUOTE="ieatnoobs18"] ... there's only one girl... [QUOTE="Big_Bad_Sad"]Tell him to be careful dancing with her. Thats how teen pregnancies happen.fmacraze
he's danced with her before, i think

well tell your friends to stop being a little girl grow some huevos and realize after school he may NEVER see her again and if he wants to be with her take a chance and go for it or he will spend the rest of his life wondering...and sadly that may sound cheesy but it is true.

observer77

he knows and i've mentioned it a million times

well then I'm sorry he's a lost cause...

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#21 MuddVader
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I dont get a quote D=
No but seriously, I dont think he should wait a whole year to make a move, thats way too long, in a situation like that you would be lucky if she had any interest in him by than considering he said he wanted to just be friends. Right now he has the chance to explain that he slipped up and that he would like to try and be with her.

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#22 MgamerBD
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[QUOTE="magitekk"]

[QUOTE="MgamerBD"][QUOTE="magitekk"]

So...would that make me one of the very few people to say no? I don't believe in teenage love bullcrap.

Then your part of the other .1%...kill the non believer!

You won't take me alive, coppers!

*throws wedding rings* You can't hide from the truth :x!
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#23 fmacraze
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i dunnno if she likes him, but the rest of my friends laugh at him for even thinking anything would go on between him and the girl he likes. but whatever. what should I tell him? he's bugging me on msn rite now, so someone tell me what to say to him
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#24 observer77
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i dunnno if she likes him, but the rest of my friends laugh at him for even thinking anything would go on between him and the girl he likes. but whatever. what should I tell him? he's bugging me on msn rite now, so someone tell me what to say to himfmacraze

if he isn't going to go for it now he's a lost cause and nothing is ever going ot happen bewteen them.

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#25 magitekk
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[QUOTE="magitekk"]

[QUOTE="MgamerBD"] Then your part of the other .1%...kill the non believer!MgamerBD

You won't take me alive, coppers!

*throws wedding rings* You can't hide from the truth :x!

Your FACE can't hide from the truth!...hm, yeah I know that was lame, but I felt that the situation called for it :/

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[QUOTE="magitekk"]

[QUOTE="MgamerBD"][QUOTE="magitekk"]

You won't take me alive, coppers!

*throws wedding rings* You can't hide from the truth :x!

Your FACE can't hide from the truth!...hm, yeah I know that was lame, but I felt that the situation called for it :/

I lol'd traitor :x!
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#27 MuddVader
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I think he should offer himself, express his feelings since he already made it known that he has an interest in her, let her know of his slip up, and say somethin like
"I dont know if you are interested in me, but I would love a chance to be your a boyfriend. If thats not possible.. I still want to be your friend of course, and there will be no hard feelings if you dont like me like that, I'll understand. *cool laugh*"

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#28 DigitalExile
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This should be taught in schools.

1) Don't date friends, neighbours, work collegues or anyone else you come into contact on a regular basis.

Class dismissed. Early mark for everyone.

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#29 fmacraze
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he's pissed cuz i told him that i told his sister who he likes (I actually didn't but she's playing along saying she knows his secret). what do i tell him? oh, and can i get some funny advice, or something stupid to tell him cuz that was kinda the whole point of me asking OT and not thinking of something myself..
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#30 biggest_loser
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I think he should buy her a gift such as a little baby duck, chocolates, a teddy bear or write her a poem or make her an origami flower. He should also try inviting her to a movie. Preferably not Transformers. Did you ask the girl if she likes him back?!
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I think he should buy her a gift such as a little baby duck, chocolates, a teddy bear or write her a poem or make her an origami flower. He should also try inviting her to a movie. Preferably not Transformers. Did you ask the girl if she likes him back?!biggest_loser
He's written poems which I believe were intended for her. And no, I haven't asked her whether she likes him, but I highly doubt she does. He's kinda annoying and his voice is kinda obnoxious (and I'm a douche)... but even her best friend says that she wouldn't go out with him... so once again, I doubt she likes him.
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#32 DigitalExile
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This isn't 1822. Why are guys writing girls poems?

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#33 biggest_loser
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This isn't 1822. Why are guys writing girls poems?

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Hey man, don't pay out courtship :P I'm doing my best to bring it back ;)
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#34 darkhadow
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This isn't 1822. Why are guys writing girls poems?

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This. One of the girls I asked out completely abandoned me and took my other friends with her after I wrote a poem. :(
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[QUOTE="biggest_loser"]I think he should buy her a gift such as a little baby duck, chocolates, a teddy bear or write her a poem or make her an origami flower. He should also try inviting her to a movie. Preferably not Transformers. Did you ask the girl if she likes him back?!fmacraze
He's written poems which I believe were intended for her. And no, I haven't asked her whether she likes him, but I highly doubt she does. He's kinda annoying and his voice is kinda obnoxious (and I'm a douche)... but even her best friend says that she wouldn't go out with him... so once again, I doubt she likes him.

To be honest: I think it is your duty as his friend to help him out here. And there is one way to do that. And that is to ask whether she likes him. Regardless of what the answer is I think you have to tell him. Because let me tell you, this is going to sap a lot of energy from your friend and this girl will be the only focus on his mind. I know it will hurt him if she doesn't like him, but the quicker he gets over it, the better. In other words: he won't be wasting his time with a girl he'll never win over. A lot of girls just say that attraction is *there* - but its up to you.

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This isn't 1822. Why are guys writing girls poems?

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You know what your 100% Right this isn't 1822..... this is Madness!!!
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This isn't 1822. Why are guys writing girls poems?

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His parents want him to leave the house and go out with friends but he likes staying in and playinh WOW or playing MAgic and stuff.. Just last friday, I think he was at a Magic the Gathering tournament (where he won... ) and umm... yea, he writes poems and was part of a writing club for school... also... umm........... hmm.. i dunno what else, but he's not the most masculin guy out there. oh and he's short (not that it has anything to do with anything)... AND he likes Nickelback (only said that cuz I know a bunch of OT hates nickelback. i'm not hating here... ) ANYWAYS. What do I tell him (sometihng witty please)
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#38 West-Coast-G
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This isn't 1822. Why are guys writing girls poems?

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Writing poems? I just copy/paste them from the internet and change a few words around.
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wow. i swaer he just messaged me saying he's gonna write a poem... funny
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[QUOTE="fmacraze"][QUOTE="biggest_loser"]I think he should buy her a gift such as a little baby duck, chocolates, a teddy bear or write her a poem or make her an origami flower. He should also try inviting her to a movie. Preferably not Transformers. Did you ask the girl if she likes him back?!biggest_loser

He's written poems which I believe were intended for her. And no, I haven't asked her whether she likes him, but I highly doubt she does. He's kinda annoying and his voice is kinda obnoxious (and I'm a douche)... but even her best friend says that she wouldn't go out with him... so once again, I doubt she likes him.

To be honest: I think it is your duty as his friend to help him out here. And there is one way to do that. And that is to ask whether she likes him. Regardless of what the answer is I think you have to tell him. Because let me tell you, this is going to sap a lot of energy from your friend and this girl will be the only focus on his mind. I know it will hurt him if she doesn't like him, but the quicker he gets over it, the better. In other words: he won't be wasting his time with a girl he'll never win over. A lot of girls just say that attraction is *there* - but its up to you.

meh... me? I would ask, it's just I don't want the girl thinking i only asked cuz he told me to (she will know that's what happened)...but meh.. I doubt I'll do it but I'll think about it
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Ok, just tell him to think about what he really gains by just being her friend. He'll realize that he doesn't actually gain anything. In fact, he loses a lot more in terms of not being able to hold her her, kiss her, etc.. Anyone who says "But but but but he gains a friend, and that's just as special" is lieing to themselves. Just tell him to go for it or to just leave it a lone and never speak to her again.
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wow. i swaer he just messaged me saying he's gonna write a poem... funnyfmacraze
Rate mine, please, I need some pointers. Your hair flows and God knows Where it all ends, where it all goes Through the do-si-dos and the throes of existence I can't stand your seemingly adept resistance I can't survive via only subsistence I need you, please listen I love you
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[QUOTE="fmacraze"]wow. i swaer he just messaged me saying he's gonna write a poem... funnydarkhadow
Rate mine, please, I need some pointers. Your hair flows and God knows Where it all ends, where it all goes Through the do-si-dos and the throes of existence I can't stand your seemingly adept resistance I can't survive via only subsistence I need you, please listen I love you

Its alright 7/10 - but God only knows where her hair goes?
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#44 DigitalExile
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Tell him to touch her shoulder.

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#45 fmacraze
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[QUOTE="fmacraze"]wow. i swaer he just messaged me saying he's gonna write a poem... funnydarkhadow
Rate mine, please, I need some pointers. Your hair flows and God knows Where it all ends, where it all goes Through the do-si-dos and the throes of existence I can't stand your seemingly adept resistance I can't survive via only subsistence I need you, please listen I love you

kinda strange, but don't listen to me, cuz I suck at critiquing anything
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anything else I should tell him? oh, he says he doesn't wanna say 'i love you' cuz she's be all like wtf and she'll get creeped out so...
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[QUOTE="fmacraze"]wow. i swaer he just messaged me saying he's gonna write a poem... funnydarkhadow
Rate mine, please, I need some pointers. Your hair flows and God knows Where it all ends, where it all goes Through the do-si-dos and the throes of existence I can't stand your seemingly adept resistance I can't survive via only subsistence I need you, please listen I love you

LMAO. Thagts satisfied my need to watch chick flicks for like a month.
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[QUOTE="DigitalExile"]

This isn't 1822. Why are guys writing girls poems?

fmacraze

His parents want him to leave the house and go out with friends but he likes staying in and playinh WOW or playing MAgic and stuff.. Just last friday, I think he was at a Magic the Gathering tournament (where he won... ) and umm... yea, he writes poems and was part of a writing club for school... also... umm........... hmm.. i dunno what else, but he's not the most masculin guy out there. oh and he's short (not that it has anything to do with anything)... AND he likes Nickelback (only said that cuz I know a bunch of OT hates nickelback. i'm not hating here... ) ANYWAYS. What do I tell him (sometihng witty please)


Do you aim to make his life worse? or are you actually trying to help him..

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anything else I should tell him? oh, he says he doesn't wanna say 'i love you' cuz she's be all like wtf and she'll get creeped out so... fmacraze
He should just hit it and quit it.
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[QUOTE="fmacraze"][QUOTE="DigitalExile"]

This isn't 1822. Why are guys writing girls poems?

MuddVader

His parents want him to leave the house and go out with friends but he likes staying in and playinh WOW or playing MAgic and stuff.. Just last friday, I think he was at a Magic the Gathering tournament (where he won... ) and umm... yea, he writes poems and was part of a writing club for school... also... umm........... hmm.. i dunno what else, but he's not the most masculin guy out there. oh and he's short (not that it has anything to do with anything)... AND he likes Nickelback (only said that cuz I know a bunch of OT hates nickelback. i'm not hating here... ) ANYWAYS. What do I tell him (sometihng witty please)


Do you aim to make his life worse? or are you actually trying to help him..

dude. at tthis point, i don't know. i wanted to help him when he first told me, then i gradually stopped taking him seriously... but whatever, I figured I should tell you guys a bit more about him so you know what he's like and so you could give him advice that someone like him could follow... but yeah, we know I can be a douche sometimes (like now... )