Marisa Has A Problem =(

translation for people who cba to read it:

My BF needs to study for a big exam but all his attention is going towards me, should I distance myself from him for a while even though it's going to be hard? 

translation for people who cba to read it:

My BF needs to study for a big exam but all his attention is going towards me, should I distance myself from him for a while even though it's going to be hard? 

nickmag

translation for people who cba to read it:

My BF needs to study for a big exam but all his attention is going towards me, should I distance myself from him for a while even though it's going to be hard?

nickmag

Good show sir. Well, I say, don't say "we need to distance ourselves". Just try to explain to him the he needs to focus on his work a little more than you at this point. Besides, he already has the grades and all, so if he doesn't do that, he still has good shots at a good job and all. 

In all honesty, you should let him do his own thing.

I never study except for the day of the test, don't pay attention much in class, and can still pull a 3.7 GPA.

People learn differently, so if he feels he doesn't need to waste time studying then so be it.

Allthough, you should deny to see him during the hours he has class. Skipping class is a no no....

It takes more than 3 years of post graduate schooling to receive and MD.Steelers_86

[QUOTE="Steelers_86"]It takes more than 3 years of post graduate schooling to receive and MD._Marisa_

Well if he is skipping out already he isn't going to make it.

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"][QUOTE="Steelers_86"]It takes more than 3 years of post graduate schooling to receive and MD.Steelers_86

Well if he is skipping out already he isn't going to make it.

You should tell him to study for about 2 hours and then he can be with you for 30 minutes... the longer he studies the more time he can spend with you-PureDemon-

even better... quiz him. until he knows the stuff no booty 

[QUOTE="-PureDemon-"]You should tell him to study for about 2 hours and then he can be with you for 30 minutes... the longer he studies the more time he can spend with younewbpwnage

even better... quiz him. until he knows the stuff no booty 

[QUOTE="Steelers_86"]

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"][QUOTE="Steelers_86"]It takes more than 3 years of post graduate schooling to receive and MD._Marisa_

Well if he is skipping out already he isn't going to make it.

Essentially, none of these deals or whatever are going to work. You can't make him work hard or go to clas(s) especially not for what will probably amount to another 6 years. No offense, but you are most likely not the problem. It sounds like he is burned out with school, which is understandable.

[QUOTE="Steelers_86"]

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"][QUOTE="Steelers_86"]It takes more than 3 years of post graduate schooling to receive and MD._Marisa_

Well if he is skipping out already he isn't going to make it.

Just remember this, no matter what happens with his schooling, it isn't your fault.

Think about it this way, if he had fallen in love with someone ELSE, the same thing would still happen....

It just so happens that you are his siren, except you aren't killing him....

Just refuse to see him when he has class.. lock your doors or something. But, actually "distancing" yourself from him could have worse effects and cause him to concentrate on you rather than his studies even more.

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"][QUOTE="Steelers_86"]

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"][QUOTE="Steelers_86"]It takes more than 3 years of post graduate schooling to receive and MD.Steelers_86

Well if he is skipping out already he isn't going to make it.

Essentially, none of these deals or whatever are going to work. You can't make him work hard or go to clas(s) especially not for what will probably amount to another 6 years. No offense, but you are most likely not the problem. It sounds like he is burned out with school, which is understandable.

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"][QUOTE="Steelers_86"]

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"][QUOTE="Steelers_86"]It takes more than 3 years of post graduate schooling to receive and MD.LostProphetFLCL

Well if he is skipping out already he isn't going to make it.

Just remember this, no matter what happens with his schooling, it isn't your fault.

Think about it this way, if he had fallen in love with someone ELSE, the same thing would still happen....

It just so happens that you are his siren, except you aren't killing him....

Thanks :) Now the only question is what should I do about it?_Marisa_

Just keep encouraging him to focus on school.

At the very least he will eventually get sick of hearing about it and bend to your will:P
 

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"]

Thanks :) Now the only question is what should I do about it?LostProphetFLCL

Just keep encouraging him to focus on school.

At the very least he will eventually get sick of hearing about it and bend to your will:P
 

You can't coax someone through med school.

i think you should have a serious discussion and tell him to get his act together and study.   i would not suggest temporarily breaking up or anything like that because he'll just focus more on being away from you rather than his work.   it sounds like he really just needs to reliaze he's an adult and does not need to spend every waking hour with you.  that you'll be there after he studies and are not going anywhere.

[QUOTE="LostProphetFLCL"]

[QUOTE="_Marisa_"]

Thanks :) Now the only question is what should I do about it?Steelers_86

Just keep encouraging him to focus on school.

At the very least he will eventually get sick of hearing about it and bend to your will:P

You can't coax someone through med school.

Ahh, but woman can make a man do anything:P 

you need to tell him the truth; his problem. No study = no medicine. It seems you love him very much. mhh Why don't you study with him? Be his study partner. Or at least be with him while he stuides for finals so he can have the two thing he loves: Medicine and you.

I can assure you that if your away he won't be studying because he'll off in another world (thinking about what your doing).  Either that or depressed .. best way to help him study is to study it with him. 

Do what you think is the right thing.

I am running dry on Advice.

You are going to have to work through it. Distancing yourself from him is not the best solution... he may end up wanting to be with you even more. Be there for when he needs you and keep telling him that what he is doing is important. Helping him study would be a way to do both things at the same time... even if you do not understand a single thing. ;)
foxhound_fox

Just tell him to stop being so lovey-dovey and put his damn education first.  :evil: :oops:

At the end of the day, you'll still be there for him, so he may as well come home (or wherever :P) a successful man.

Although many people may disagree, I've found that good, solid revision is absolutely imperative to academic success, and with such major examinations coming up, to let a potentially bright career in medicine slip at the point would be incredibly foolhardy.

Distance yourself but stay in contact by calling him from time-to-time.

hmm...

say to him: you are messing with OUR future!! now go study for that fu#%$#% exam...

or else...

the "or else..." is the better part! XD

Threaten to break up with him if he doesn't get back on it.

You have a boyfriend? *throws shrine dedicated to Marissa away* :cry:whos_next000

Hasn't stopped me with a few of my friends... ;) 

Threaten to break up with him if he doesn't get back on it.

 

 

DarKre

I suggest not doing this.