My girl friend always makes me pay and I had it...

[QUOTE="LegitGamer3212"]

I need a solution to this problem I'm having with my girl friend right now, thanks in advance for any suggestions. So I just recently started a relationship, we been together for just 2-3 weeks. We hung out 3 times in which I payed everytime. I drive to her, pay for gas, pay for dinner, movies, and anything that we do. I end up spending close to $80 everytime we chill. She makes more money than me, she has 2 jobs where as me...I'm a student and only have a small part time job. She has never offered to pay for anything. When we goto the movies she just stands there when she orders the tickets, I don't want to be like "hey can you pay for youself?" so I just pay and don't say anything. The first time is fine but now it's like routine for her to do this. What should I tell her, and how should i tell her about this problem? I don't want to sound poor and be like "my money is tight want to go half half next time". It'll be weird.

Mr_Leonis

Talk to her about the situation and ask if she can start contributing. If she refuses or takes offense and you aren't willing to take the brunt of the bills, you can make the decision to continue or call it off.

She's a bad girl, you should dump her. Problem solved.

My girlfriend pays for everything. If your girlfriend isn't willing to put up half for everything, then she's a mooch.

I need a solution to this problem I'm having with my girl friend right now, thanks in advance for any suggestions. So I just recently started a relationship, we been together for just 2-3 weeks. We hung out 3 times in which I payed everytime. I drive to her, pay for gas, pay for dinner, movies, and anything that we do. I end up spending close to $80 everytime we chill. She makes more money than me, she has 2 jobs where as me...I'm a student and only have a small part time job. She has never offered to pay for anything. When we goto the movies she just stands there when she orders the tickets, I don't want to be like "hey can you pay for youself?" so I just pay and don't say anything. The first time is fine but now it's like routine for her to do this. What should I tell her, and how should i tell her about this problem? I don't want to sound poor and be like "my money is tight want to go half half next time". It'll be weird.

LegitGamer3212

If it bugs you that much, you could always end the relationship. Or just talk to her about it. Chances are, if she really likes you, she'll understand.

She is using you as a piggy bank. If that's what you want, go ahead, but that ain't me. My parents didn't raise no piggy bank!

[QUOTE="LegitGamer3212"]

I need a solution to this problem I'm having with my girl friend right now, thanks in advance for any suggestions. So I just recently started a relationship, we been together for just 2-3 weeks. We hung out 3 times in which I payed everytime. I drive to her, pay for gas, pay for dinner, movies, and anything that we do. I end up spending close to $80 everytime we chill. She makes more money than me, she has 2 jobs where as me...I'm a student and only have a small part time job. She has never offered to pay for anything. When we goto the movies she just stands there when she orders the tickets, I don't want to be like "hey can you pay for youself?" so I just pay and don't say anything. The first time is fine but now it's like routine for her to do this. What should I tell her, and how should i tell her about this problem? I don't want to sound poor and be like "my money is tight want to go half half next time". It'll be weird.

lpjazzman220

u have a gf...congratz...they cost more than hookers...but thats cause they dont go to other guys afterward...hopefully...girls cost money...sry to say...and its not a bad thing...if im in love with a girl...id be too embarrassed to let her pay...

I'm afraid she might just use me and you know....then leave....and then i spent like $1000 maybe more for nothing.

If you've had it that, means you got it.
Once you've got it, you don't need it for a while, so drop it so she can give it to someone else. =]

Wheres the TC? I want to know what he plans to do about it.Solid_Tango

I'm here, I'm going to try and do free things such as invite her over my house, watch TV blu ray etc., umm cheaper dinners, the summer is close so you know..biking, walks, fishing, beach. Try to keep it as cheap as possible. She has not slept with me yet and she doesn't plan to anytime soon because well her culture believes in a close relationship before sleeping with the guy. She's Guyanese indian, really cute.

[QUOTE="Solid_Tango"]Wheres the TC? I want to know what he plans to do about it.LegitGamer3212

I'm here, I'm going to try and do free things such as invite her over my house, watch TV blu ray etc., umm cheaper dinners, the summer is close so you know..biking, walks, fishing, beach. Try to keep it as cheap as possible. She has not slept with me yet and she doesn't plan to anytime soon because well her culture believes in a close relationship before sleeping with the guy. She's Guyanese indian, really cute.

[QUOTE="Solid_Tango"]Wheres the TC? I want to know what he plans to do about it.LegitGamer3212

I'm here, I'm going to try and do free things such as invite her over my house, watch TV blu ray etc., umm cheaper dinners, the summer is close so you know..biking, walks, fishing, beach. Try to keep it as cheap as possible. She has not slept with me yet and she doesn't plan to anytime soon because well her culture believes in a close relationship before sleeping with the guy. She's Guyanese indian, really cute.

Also don't forget to be honest with her about your financial situation. If she really digs you then she'll understand and your relationship will benefit. If it's a dealbreaker for her then you'll know that she didn't really dig you for you and just wants someone to spoil her. Ether way you benefit.

Sounds like a leech, dump her.

Either do things that is free or man up, be chilvarious and keep paying.MgamerBD

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[QUOTE="-Big_Red-"] Why:? Don't women earn 8% more than men now? There I go thinking were equals again, and not that one gender deserves to be pampered, and spoon fed everything for having a vagina-Big_Red-

Men still earn more over here, but that's beside the point. When I take my girl out on a date I'll pay, simple as that.
That doesn't mean I will always pay for everything. Last Saturday we just went for a drink and each took turns to pay drinks cause it was just a casual thing.

I'm saying there is a difference between a DATE and just hanging out. If I invite my girlfriend for a nice dinner I will pay the bill, just because I invited her to do something, show her I care about her. However I don't always pay for her when we just hang out.

AHEM *clears throat*

My friend's got a girlfriend

Man he hates that chick

He tells me every day

He says "man i really gotta lose my chick, in the worst kind of way"

She sits on her bum he works his hands to the bone to give her money every payaday, but she wants mroe dinero just to stay at home, well my friend you just gotta say;

"I won't pay, i won't pay ya, no way na na, why don't you get a job"

say "no way, no way, no way na na why don't you get a job"

Go to dinner butt-naked and tell her that you forgot your wallet in your other pants.

I'm pretty dam sure I have seen this OP before.GazaAli

this is the same guy who made the thread about people in the military being arrogant and uneducated

[QUOTE="GazaAli"]I'm pretty dam sure I have seen this OP before.Whatuptho

this is the same guy who made the thread about people in the military being arrogant and uneducated

AND New Yorkers being ignorant

[QUOTE="GazaAli"]I'm pretty dam sure I have seen this OP before.Whatuptho

this is the same guy who made the thread about people in the military being arrogant and uneducated

That pretty well describes me...I think...and I'm cooler than you for it.

what are u talking about?

Put your foot down. Tell her to pay next time.QWERTYCommander

dude man up and put your foot down