my room mate needs to toughen up.

me and my college roomie are good friends. but hes too soft. he admits he is sensetive, and seems to use it as an excuse sometimes. he even told me he NEEDS to be clingy in a relationship, although his current girlfriend situation seems to be going down hill.

i like this guy aot, and hope one day to have a band with him- but i need to know how i can get him to man up a little. any help?

Is this him?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0-6Tn0Ie-AQ

Punch him till he listens. That ALWAYS works.

or you could accept people for who they are.

Maybe you need to be a lil more sensitive

Get him laid.SmittyPeppers

I don't see how it's your place to tell him how to feel, or to tell him to "man up". if his girlfriend doesn't like how he is, she will dump him. Then he'll have one of two choices: change his attitude, or keep going through girls until he can find one who can tolerate him being clingy. Either way, it's still none of your business to dictate to him how he should be or feel for your own personal gain.XilePrincess

i am just trying to protect him.

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]I don't see how it's your place to tell him how to feel, or to tell him to "man up". if his girlfriend doesn't like how he is, she will dump him. Then he'll have one of two choices: change his attitude, or keep going through girls until he can find one who can tolerate him being clingy. Either way, it's still none of your business to dictate to him how he should be or feel for your own personal gain.IronBeaver

i am just trying to protect him.

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]I don't see how it's your place to tell him how to feel, or to tell him to "man up". if his girlfriend doesn't like how he is, she will dump him. Then he'll have one of two choices: change his attitude, or keep going through girls until he can find one who can tolerate him being clingy. Either way, it's still none of your business to dictate to him how he should be or feel for your own personal gain.IronBeaver

i am just trying to protect him.

Sleep with his girlfriend

i am just trying to protect him.

IronBeaver

He isn't the one posting problems on gamespot, now is he?

I don't see anything wrong with him, he seems like the kind of guy a girl would love to me. Let him be who he wants to be.

Stop trying to change people? Maybe he thinks you are an overbearing jerk for trying to tell him how to be. Point is, accept people for who they are.

Not everyones personality is going to conform to a stereotypical pre-conceived notion of "manliness". If your friend is sensitive and needs support, then that is who he is and it's probably a good idea to support him instead of trying to save face and be macho and say "lol man up dude!"

We arn't all Sylvester Stallone.

1: Get him laid

2: steal his girlfriend

3: Rough him up a little

4: Have him see a tough, rough movie like Saving Private Ryan or Rambo 2008

5: Take him to a ghetto neighborhood and take him to a Heavy Metal concert

6: ????????

7: He should be a tough dude by then. if not, he cannot be helped.

i dont expect him to be a "man". i want him to not be a pushover. his relationship with his girlfriend has gone downhill so bad and he is in such denial it hurts me.

[QUOTE="SmittyPeppers"]Get him laid.Lox_Cropek

Substitute 'band' with 'baby' and this thread gets a whole lot funnier.FragStains

XD

[QUOTE="IronBeaver"]

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]I don't see how it's your place to tell him how to feel, or to tell him to "man up". if his girlfriend doesn't like how he is, she will dump him. Then he'll have one of two choices: change his attitude, or keep going through girls until he can find one who can tolerate him being clingy. Either way, it's still none of your business to dictate to him how he should be or feel for your own personal gain.XilePrincess

i am just trying to protect him.

While I do agree with this 100%, a true friend helps his friend out in times of need. Granted TCs approach to it is up for debate, but still I understand what he's trying to do. I have a co-worker, really nice kid, Christian upbringing, pure as snow. He likes this girl who hes been friends with (first warning right there) and came to me and couple of us who had some experience with women. After explaining his situation, it was clear he likes her and she might like him. A couple days later after he asked her, and from what he told us (saying things like her situation is complication and so-on), its apparent this girl is giving him the go-around. We tell him to move on to someone else, because this girl isn't gonna take you seriously. He's in total denial and wants to keep trying for her. Its upsetting because hes a good guy but hes TOO good sometimes.

Anyways, long story short, we can't force him to man up and move on, but in this world now, you gotta be strong so people won't push you around, especially in relationships. I learned the hard wayjust like many others, but I'm glad I did because I wouldn't want to be the guy TC is talking about.

Well maybe if YOU were just a little more supportive! :cry:McJugga