Should I let my girlfriend go to the movies with another guy?

Let her go. I went to the movies plenty of times with my best friend, I have no feelings for her though. Her boyfriend didn't mind, he trusts me more with her then anyone else._EvidencE_

I would like to do a complete background check on this fellow at once! I'm talking about names, dates, birthdays, pet names, social security numbers, gambling debts, tax evasion - the works!!

Bring him to me at once sir! I will sort this fellow out! We will remove the weeds from the plants! Mwahahah!!

But seriously folks, if you want me to a little chat with this fiend before he takes her out, give me a buzz and i'll take care of it.

I think you should let them go together because if they are friends then you are really becoming controlling of her life. And thats not really a nice thing to do.

DUDE

PLEASE

READ THIS.

im sorry to say, but you have NOOOOO idea how many girls i scored with by just watching a movie. so keep that in mind. besides, why in the world would you let your girl be with a guy in the dark movie theater??? you know how much stuff goes on when ppl are watching movies? you may not realize it but all sorts are going on behind your back when your watching a movie.

DUDE

PLEASE

READ THIS.

im sorry to say, but you have NOOOOO idea how many girls i scored with by just watching a movie. so keep that in mind. besides, why in the world would you let your girl be with a guy in the dark movie theater??? you know how much stuff goes on when ppl are watching movies? you may not realize it but all sorts are going on behind your back when your watching a movie.

muffintheduffin

I dont really see what people's problem is - though i did lol at locking her in a closet as someone said. This seems to go back to the age ol' problem of people believing that guys and girls can't be just friends. Well, sorry but they can.

TC: I don't think its a case of you "letting" her go now. You don't own her my friend. I assume you are from the USA?

She is entitled to her own life.

She says they're only friends and I know she wouldn't cheat but I also know that the other guy likes her. Am I wrong by telling her no?xSolidManx

First off, why would she want to go to a movie alone with another guy? She should respect your relationship more then that, so I would say no.foolio_67

[QUOTE="xSolidManx"]She says they're only friends and I know she wouldn't cheat but I also know that the other guy likes her. Am I wrong by telling her no?Cherokee_Jack

I've been on the other side of this situation many times. I have a friend who is a girl, and we go to the movies a lot. She has a boyfriend (who i have never met) but we still go to the movies together, without him. The deal is that we watch movies that aren't so mainstream (usually foreign films or arthouse films at specialist cinemas) that her bf apparently isn;t interested. We are friends. It is not strtange for girls and guys to have platonic relationships with members of the opposite sex. Is it that difficult for her to have a friend who is a boy?

In the end, i don;t know what course of action you should take. I don;t know anything about you, your gf or her friend, so there's no way of telling what is going to happen.

Look at it this way, if she was really going to cheat on you, would she have told you she was going to the movies alone with a guy?

She says they're only friends and I know she wouldn't cheat but I also know that the other guy likes her. Am I wrong by telling her no?xSolidManx

Short answer: Hell no

Long answer: Hell no

Short answer: Hell no

Long answer: Hell no

Chutebox

I can't believe so many guys in this thread are saying let her go. It has nothing to do with jealousy, it is about respect. Your girlfriend should respect you enough to not even ask to go to the movies with a guy that likes her.

To all you guys saying let her go, when would you draw the line? Would you let her go to the movies with him every weekend? Would going out to have a drink with him be a problem? What about going on a vacation alone?

ownage_denied

Dude, you should not let your girlfriend go to a movie with another guy. They are both disrespecting what is presumably a commited relationship. It's just inappropriate. Maybe you guys have different ideas about what your relationship is and you should discuss that. You sound like a good guy, who doesn't want to be an overbearing partner, but if it's eating you up that she wants to do this, well you deserve better than that.

Look, there's a difference between being a controlling jerk and sticking up for yourself. Nobody wants to be with someone who 'keeps tabs' or controls their friends and stuff, but both parties have to uphold the bargain. If your girl is going on what amounts to a date situation with another man, you need to say something. Show some respect for yourself or she will never respect you.

Maybe she's bound to cheat, and people are right, you can't stop it if she's determined to do it. But it doesn't mean you have to facilitate it! If she really cares for you then she will see a big deal to you as a big deal to her. Otherwise, she's not doing anything to make you happy, just taking advantage of your good nature until she finds something more exciting.

Remember, you don't own her, and you should always treat her with respect, but that doesn't mean constantly rolling over for her. A relationship is a two way street. If she isn't willing to put the same commitment into it as you are, then she's obviously not right for you. If what she really wants is you, then she needs to grow up and walk her talk. If she really wants to to come and go wherever and with whomever she pleases, then she should save you the trouble of bearing all the burden of the relationship.

Its about time you learn to trust your girlfriend. Rikardur

Dude, you should not let your girlfriend go to a movie with another guy. They are both disrespecting what is presumably a commited relationship. It's just inappropriate. Maybe you guys have different ideas about what your relationship is and you should discuss that. You sound like a good guy, who doesn't want to be an overbearing partner, but if it's eating you up that she wants to do this, well you deserve better than that.

Look, there's a difference between being a controlling jerk and sticking up for yourself. Nobody wants to be with someone who 'keeps tabs' or controls their friends and stuff, but both parties have to uphold the bargain. If your girl is going on what amounts to a date situation with another man, you need to say something. Show some respect for yourself or she will never respect you.

Maybe she's bound to cheat, and people are right, you can't stop it if she's determined to do it. But it doesn't mean you have to facilitate it! If she really cares for you then she will see a big deal to you as a big deal to her. Otherwise, she's not doing anything to make you happy, just taking advantage of your good nature until she finds something more exciting.

Remember, you don't own her, and you should always treat her with respect, but that doesn't mean constantly rolling over for her. A relationship is a two way street. If she isn't willing to put the same commitment into it as you are, then she's obviously not right for you. If what she really wants is you, then she needs to grow up and walk her talk. If she really wants to to come and go wherever and with whomever she pleases, then she should save you the trouble of bearing all the burden of the relationship.

rsiedelmann

She says they're only friends and I know she wouldn't cheat but I also know that the other guy likes her. Am I wrong by telling her no?xSolidManx

Let her go with him.

If you GF is going to cheat on you, then she IS going to cheat on you. There's nothing you can do to stop it. And besides, you don't want to be with a cheatin' GF anyway.

There are plenty of other girls to hook-up with.

That's a tough one.

I could see why'd you'd be hesitent to let her go but in the end she's only asking as a formality. If she wants to go she will, and if you were to say no that's just gonna strain things on you guys. Just go along with it and if she's worth your time nothing will come of it.

Let her go, If she cheats, dump her instantly and dont look back!!ParadoX_83

[QUOTE="xSolidManx"]She says they're only friends and I know she wouldn't cheat but I also know that the other guy likes her. Am I wrong by telling her no?xaos

really...noone has suggested buying a movie ticket for a friend to spy on your gf and her guy friend?

if you're that paranoid about your gf this is what you should do^^

This thread is bringing back terrible memories of high school, and how people in high school have absolutely no clue how to have an adult relationship.

The correct answer is to let her go. You don't own her, you don't control her. She is allowed to have friends. She is allowed to have male friends. She is allowed to do things alone with those male friends. None of those things violate the monogamy clause of a healthy relationship.

Yeah, the guy likes her. So what? If you think that she's going to jump his bones just cause they're alone in the dark room then you either a) have serious trust issues or b) have a seriously screwed up vision of how much self-control women have. If she's going to cheat on him then she's not someone you want to be in a relationship with anyway. So you have to trust that she's actually committed to the relationship, and if she violates your trust dump her. If, however, you can't learn to trust her your relationship is heading in the toilet and I wouldn't be surprised if she dumps you.

Qooroo

To all you guys saying let her go, when would you draw the line? Would you let her go to the movies with him every weekend? Would going out to have a drink with him be a problem? What about going on a vacation alone?

ownage_denied

Don't be paranoid, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.Gamer4Iife

Make it a group outing :)
Even if i was certain they wouldnt cheat, i wouldnt want my other half to go out alone with another guy.
YRMA-JAR

I agree with all the non-sarcastic people saying that she should go. I know it's a very hard situation.

Really, if she's into this guy, then there's nothing you can do. Stopping her from going would be controlling and probably make things worse. Tell her how it makes you feel, try to figure out what movie it is without being nosy, and let her go. The fact that she asked you does mean she cares about your feelings. Try talking to her about it too, as she may be ready for things to be over and to move on.

Who knows, there could be a happy ending to this chapter.