Should same-sex couples be allowed to adopt children?

[QUOTE="samuraiguns"]It affected mine. I miss my father very much so. Many people handle things very differently.sammyjenkis898

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]

[QUOTE="samuraiguns"]It affected mine. I miss my father very much so. Many people handle things very differently.Pirate700

[QUOTE="htekemerald"]

asking this question would be no different from asking if blacks should be aloud to adopt white children back during the civil rights movement.

fmacraze

I suppose the would be adopted child would be better off rotting in an orphanage, right?

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]That doesn't mean its "despicable".

sammyjenkis898

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"][QUOTE="Pirate700"]Yes it does. You make a vou of till death and to stick it out no matter what. Too many people rush into marriage.

Pirate700

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]I actually would support this. I think divorce is despicable to even consider when you have a children at home (unless there is a situation of violence).tofu-lion91

Divorce is so terrible I've had a great childhood. Divorce is so terrible I have a mum who I can talk to about anything. Divorce is so terrible I left school with 17 grade A-C's at GCSE. Divorce is so terrible I got an A, B and C for my AS levels. Divorce is so terrible I'm in a loving stable relationship with a guy. Divorce is so terrible I'm going to join the police, earn lots of money, get married and have a family.

Yes I can really see your point, you've obviously lived through that terrible situation and know enough to say something like that.

I'm glad my parents were mature enough to divorce than live in an unhappy marriage for "the kids" sake. Also my dad was in the army so I would have had an unsettled education moving from place to place, not being able to make friends. I'm so glad that didn't happen.

It would certainly be awkward at first to have two homosexual parents, but I'm sure the kids could get used to it, and love their homosexual parents (if the homoseual parents are nice parents, of course).

I cannot imagine growing up without a mother and father, but I am sure their are kids .that grew up with homosexual parents that could not conceive of living without their parents, as well.

So I would say it's alright. Besides, any good parents are better than no parents.

And also I don't really think many kids would make fun of the adopted child with homosexual parents. Sure there are probably some people like that, but hopefully the adopted kid can find people that are much more open-minded and thoughtful than that.

Assuming that they can support and love said children, then yes, of course.

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"][QUOTE="Pirate700"]Yes it does. You make a vou of till death and to stick it out no matter what. Too many people rush into marriage.

Pirate700

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"] No, it doesn't. I would have hated if my parents would have stayed together.FUBAR24

That makes sense because they (I'm guessing) no longer have a child living at home. My argument was for parents that still have kids living there depending on them.

[QUOTE="Vaasman"]

Hell no, especially if the child is of the opposite sex. I don't really mind same-sex marriages to be honest, but I honestly believe a child will grow up maladjusted in that kind of setting.

xaos

Then things started getting worse, he grew to be bipolar, rather unstable. For halloween my junior year he dressed as a woman, to which I was unsure of how to respond. Eventually he came on to me in a very uncomfortable manor, and we stopped hanging out after that. I later learned he had been sent to a mental health institute from a different friends recommendation, and this year I learned that he overdosed and died, likely intentionally. Despite a falling out of sorts, he was still one of my best friends, and a major influence on my sense of humor and how I interact with others (awkwardly).

As for studies, no, just no.

Divorce is so terrible I'm in a loving stable relationship with a guy.tofu-lion91

The cynical shrink might ask, "Why did you feel compelled to seek a stable relationship at such a young age? Might you be subconsciously wishing to do whatever it takes to avoid repeating the mistakes of your parents?"

wow, i cannot believe all the negative assumptions in this threadlonewolf604

I'd say no, especially if the child is of the same sex as the couple, people later in life will ask them if they've been "touched"

[QUOTE="xaos"][QUOTE="Vaasman"]

Hell no, especially if the child is of the opposite sex. I don't really mind same-sex marriages to be honest, but I honestly believe a child will grow up maladjusted in that kind of setting.

Vaasman

As for studies, no, just no.

I'd say no, especially if the child is of the same sex as the couple, people later in life will ask them if they've been "touched"

magitekk

[QUOTE="tofu-lion91"]Divorce is so terrible I'm in a loving stable relationship with a guy.Oleg_Huzwog

The cynical shrink might ask, "Why did you feel compelled to seek a stable relationship at such a young age? Might you be subconsciously wishing to do whatever it takes to avoid repeating the mistakes of your parents?"

I'd say no, especially if the child is of the same sex as the couple, people later in life will ask them if they've been "touched"

magitekk

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]That doesn't mean its "despicable".

sammyjenkis898

Your talking about an abnormal family to begin with, they were not acting normally towards each other. You know the problem with people argueing for same sex couples is that your making exceptions look like it applies to all same-sex people. In things like this you have to look at the whole picture, you can't just make one picture of two same sex people with adopted kids, and say "there, everyoen else is going to be just like that." Same as you can't say when your parents divorce and your fine, that it means that everything is fine when their parents divorce. Besides I think when the kids grow up and see all these people with a mom and a dad, they are going to feel like something is missing. Besides that pic does not show the whole picture of what is going on, they are just posing. A picture does not tell that much.

[QUOTE="xaos"][QUOTE="Vaasman"]

Hell no, especially if the child is of the opposite sex. I don't really mind same-sex marriages to be honest, but I honestly believe a child will grow up maladjusted in that kind of setting.

Vaasman

As for studies, no, just no.

Indeed. Having homosexual parents could end up being a bad experience for some (sorry about your friend, BTW). For other children, though, it could be great and finally give them the home they want, and make them lead a happier life.

I don't know, I myself cannot conceive of growing up with homosexual parents, but that's because I grew up with heterosexual parents. The opposite probably applies to many adopted children of homosexual parents.

It's defienetly a touchy subject, though like I said before, two caring same-sex parents is better than having no parents, so I guess the child should give the homosexual parents a chance if they cannot get a heterosexual couple.

[QUOTE="magitekk"]

I'd say no, especially if the child is of the same sex as the couple, people later in life will ask them if they've been "touched"

Pirate700

Absolutely. There is research on this, people. Look it up. Children brought up in minority sexuality households exhibit VERY FEW differences (those differences being increased tolerance of diversity, among others) from agemates raised in traditional households.

The cynical shrink might ask, "Why did you feel compelled to seek a stable relationship at such a young age? Might you be subconsciously wishing to do whatever it takes to avoid repeating the mistakes of your parents?"Oleg_Huzwog

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[QUOTE="magitekk"]

I'd say no, especially if the child is of the same sex as the couple, people later in life will ask them if they've been "touched"

FUBAR24

You have to question though how a boy would get raised by two gay men. Especially if they are the extremely flamboyant kind. :?

[QUOTE="FUBAR24"][QUOTE="Pirate700"]I don't know about that. Regardless, I think with girls the situation wouldn't be so bad, if at all. For boys though, definitely a hell no. They will grow up ostracized.

Pirate700

You have to question though how a boy would get raised by two gay men. Especially if they are the extremely flamboyant kind. :?

What does it matter if they are? Your reason for them not being able to adopt is because "they'll be made fun of". Like Fubar said, everyone getsmade fun of. That's not a valid excuse for a gay couple not being allowed to adopt.

Indeed. Having homosexual parents could end up being a bad experience for some (sorry about your friend, BTW). For other children, though, it could be great and finally give them the home they want, and make them lead a happier life.DJ-Lafleur

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="FUBAR24"] once again kids get made fun of all the time in school by the color of their hair, color of their skin, the clothes they wear, its no different if they have two moms or dads, you cant say no to letting them adopt just because they'll get made fun of. considering kids with a mom and a dad still get made fun of in school anywayssammyjenkis898

You have to question though how a boy would get raised by two gay men. Especially if they are the extremely flamboyant kind. :?

What does it matter if they are? Your reason for them not being able to adopt is because "they'll be made fun of". Like Fubar said, everyonegets made fun of. That's not a valid excuse for a gay couple not being allowed to adopt.

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

You have to question though how a boy would get raised by two gay men. Especially if they are the extremely flamboyant kind. :?

Pirate700

What does it matter if they are? Your reason for them not being able to adopt is because "they'll be made fun of". Like Fubar said, everyonegets made fun of. That's not a valid excuse for a gay couple not being allowed to adopt.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]

What does it matter if they are? Your reason for them not being able to adopt is because "they'll be made fun of". Like Fubar said, everyonegets made fun of. That's not a valid excuse for a gay couple not being allowed to adopt.

sammyjenkis898

[QUOTE="DJ-Lafleur"]Indeed. Having homosexual parents could end up being a bad experience for some (sorry about your friend, BTW). For other children, though, it could be great and finally give them the home they want, and make them lead a happier life.tofu-lion91

Yup. If a child cannot get a heterosexual couple, then he might as well try a homosexual couple. I certainly wouldn't want to stay at homeless shelter my whole childhood, and if the homosexual is caring, then there isn't really any harm.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="FUBAR24"] once again kids get made fun of all the time in school by the color of their hair, color of their skin, the clothes they wear, its no different if they have two moms or dads, you cant say no to letting them adopt just because they'll get made fun of. considering kids with a mom and a dad still get made fun of in school anywayssammyjenkis898

You have to question though how a boy would get raised by two gay men. Especially if they are the extremely flamboyant kind. :?

What does it matter if they are? Your reason for them not being able to adopt is because "they'll be made fun of". Like Fubar said, everyonegets made fun of. That's not a valid excuse for a gay couple not being allowed to adopt.

Not to mention a same-sex family will be unable toaccurately tell a straight child what is appropriate to say when talking to the opposite sex.

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

You have to question though how a boy would get raised by two gay men. Especially if they are the extremely flamboyant kind. :?

Pirate700

What does it matter if they are? Your reason for them not being able to adopt is because "they'll be made fun of". Like Fubar said, everyonegets made fun of. That's not a valid excuse for a gay couple not being allowed to adopt.

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

You have to question though how a boy would get raised by two gay men. Especially if they are the extremely flamboyant kind. :?

Pirate700

What does it matter if they are? Your reason for them not being able to adopt is because "they'll be made fun of". Like Fubar said, everyonegets made fun of. That's not a valid excuse for a gay couple not being allowed to adopt.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]

What does it matter if they are? Your reason for them not being able to adopt is because "they'll be made fun of". Like Fubar said, everyonegets made fun of. That's not a valid excuse for a gay couple not being allowed to adopt.

Bourbons3

No, unless maybe it's an older (~13+) child who understands what they're getting into.

[QUOTE="FUBAR24"][QUOTE="Pirate700"]I don't know about that. Regardless, I think with girls the situation wouldn't be so bad, if at all. For boys though, definitely a hell no. They will grow up ostracized.

Pirate700

You have to question though how a boy would get raised by two gay men. Especially if they are the extremely flamboyant kind. :?

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

You have to question though how a boy would get raised by two gay men. Especially if they are the extremely flamboyant kind. :?

Vaasman

What does it matter if they are? Your reason for them not being able to adopt is because "they'll be made fun of". Like Fubar said, everyonegets made fun of. That's not a valid excuse for a gay couple not being allowed to adopt.

Not to mention asame-sex family will be unable to appropriately tell a straight child what is appropriate to say when talking to the opposite sex.

[QUOTE="Bourbons3"][QUOTE="Pirate700"]In my latter post, it's not just about getting made fun of...Remember the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Pirate700