So, anyone wanna give me some advice?

First of all, I'm not relying on advice from total strangers, just merely asking your opinion.

My girlfriend who I've been dating for over a year, just kissed another guy last night. She felt very bad about it, and told me immediately. She's been apologizing ever since as well.

The really strange thing is... I'm not that mad... should I be? This is normally grounds for breaking up with someone is it not?

I mean... this is classified as cheating on me, am I right?

First of all, I'm not relying on advice from total strangers, just merely asking your opinion.

My girlfriend who I've been dating for over a year, just kissed another guy last night. She felt very bad about it, and told me immediately. She's been apologizing ever since as well.

The really strange thing is... I'm not that mad... should I be? This is normally grounds for breaking up with someone is it not?

I mean... this is classified as cheating on me, am I right?

Franklinstein

Technically, I'd say yes. But hey, if you're not mad more power to you. :)

In my own definition, yes, she did cheat on you.

However, at least she was honest about it and admitted it to you. Personally, I wouldn't be mad at her either.

What you should ask her, however, is why she kissed this other guy...

"hit it and quit it", the words men live bydrumbreak1

Dumb men live by

I would be questioning her actions still. Maybe she doesnt like/love you that much. Either try to prove to her you love her enough for her to not to risk her relationship you know build it more and make it rich if you really want to be with her forever. Or find another girl if you dont want her that much. Commitment is what makes relationships work well

As a girl I would never do that to my man, he is my world. :oops:

I suppose it's a good thing you haven't gotten too worked up about it. It does classify as cheating... What was her reasoning? Or did she have any?SaugaGames

She gave reasoning, but it's much to complicated and long for me to type here.... I did ask her why and she told me everything that happened. I don't know I guess I just feel kind of weird now... I told her that she has hurt my trust, but that she can earn it back over time.... I don't know... I'm just feeling really weird now about it.

[QUOTE="SaugaGames"]I suppose it's a good thing you haven't gotten too worked up about it. It does classify as cheating... What was her reasoning? Or did she have any?Franklinstein

She gave reasoning, but it's much to complicated and long for me to type here.... I did ask her why and she told me everything that happened. I don't know I guess I just feel kind of weird now... I told her that she has hurt my trust, but that she can earn it back over time.... I don't know... I'm just feeling really weird now about it.

I would be questioning her actions still. Maybe she doesnt like/love you that much. Either try to prove to her you love her enough for her to not to risk her relationship you know build it more and make it rich if you really want to be with her forever. Or find another girl if you dont want her that much. Commitment is what makes relationships work well

As a girl I would never do that to my man, he is my world. :oops:

MeriMorganov

Yeah, that's good you shouldn't, and hopefully your guy wouldn't do it either...

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[QUOTE="SaugaGames"]I suppose it's a good thing you haven't gotten too worked up about it. It does classify as cheating... What was her reasoning? Or did she have any?specialedpal

She gave reasoning, but it's much to complicated and long for me to type here.... I did ask her why and she told me everything that happened. I don't know I guess I just feel kind of weird now... I told her that she has hurt my trust, but that she can earn it back over time.... I don't know... I'm just feeling really weird now about it.

lol, ok, I'll do that...

[QUOTE="SaugaGames"]I suppose it's a good thing you haven't gotten too worked up about it. It does classify as cheating... What was her reasoning? Or did she have any?Franklinstein

She gave reasoning, but it's much to complicated and long for me to type here.... I did ask her why and she told me everything that happened. I don't know I guess I just feel kind of weird now... I told her that she has hurt my trust, but that she can earn it back over time.... I don't know... I'm just feeling really weird now about it.

Well, if you still care about her then there's no need for any breaking up. Working through the tough situations is what makes relationships stronger. Even still, you can't take it too easy on her for kissing another guy. Something like that is pretty heavy.

The thing that makes it even worse, is that I'm leaving to go off to college in a week and a half and she isn't... I trust her enough to not cheat on me again, but the thing is... if I feel this weird... maybe it would be better if we weren't dating... I don't know... I don't want to think that way really, because truth is, I care about her a lot, and she cares about me to, she said right after it happened she started to cry, and kept saying "what is [my name] going to think?" and then she called me and told me...

Murder suicide. That's my advice.Brmarlin

Lmao... thanks for the laugh.

The thing that makes it even worse, is that I'm leaving to go off to college in a week and a half and she isn't... I trust her enough to not cheat on me again, but the thing is... if I feel this weird... maybe it would be better if we weren't dating... I don't know... I don't want to think that way really, because truth is, I care about her a lot, and she cares about me to, she said right after it happened she started to cry, and kept saying "what is [my name] going to think?" and then she called me and told me...

Franklinstein

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The thing that makes it even worse, is that I'm leaving to go off to college in a week and a half and she isn't... I trust her enough to not cheat on me again, but the thing is... if I feel this weird... maybe it would be better if we weren't dating... I don't know... I don't want to think that way really, because truth is, I care about her a lot, and she cares about me to, she said right after it happened she started to cry, and kept saying "what is [my name] going to think?" and then she called me and told me...

specialedpal

Yeah, I read your blog, it's exactly the same thing, only I'm not going into the military, I'm just going to college... but my girlfiend is the same age as me, she is just going to a different college.

First of all, I'm not relying on advice from total strangers, just merely asking your opinion.

My girlfriend who I've been dating for over a year, just kissed another guy last night. She felt very bad about it, and told me immediately. She's been apologizing ever since as well.

The really strange thing is... I'm not that mad... should I be? This is normally grounds for breaking up with someone is it not?

I mean... this is classified as cheating on me, am I right?

Franklinstein

Normally grounds for breaking up what are you a lawyer? you know what sh!T happens if shes really sorry then don't worry about it. but if she does sh!t like that again break up with her because she cant be trusted.

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The thing that makes it even worse, is that I'm leaving to go off to college in a week and a half and she isn't... I trust her enough to not cheat on me again, but the thing is... if I feel this weird... maybe it would be better if we weren't dating... I don't know... I don't want to think that way really, because truth is, I care about her a lot, and she cares about me to, she said right after it happened she started to cry, and kept saying "what is [my name] going to think?" and then she called me and told me...

Franklinstein

Yeah, I read your blog, it's exactly the same thing, only I'm not going into the military, I'm just going to college... but my girlfiend is the same age as me, she is just going to a different college.

Well, like you guys said, I don't think I'm going to decide anything within the next couple of days and just see how I feel in a few days... I just can't shake this weird feeling... and as long as I feel this feelings things can never go back to the way they were....Franklinstein

[QUOTE="Franklinstein"]Well, like you guys said, I don't think I'm going to decide anything within the next couple of days and just see how I feel in a few days... I just can't shake this weird feeling... and as long as I feel this feelings things can never go back to the way they were....specialedpal

the thing that freaks me out the most is your blog post that says "I'm ready talk it out", that is exactly the same way I feel right now....

[QUOTE="specialedpal"][QUOTE="Franklinstein"]Well, like you guys said, I don't think I'm going to decide anything within the next couple of days and just see how I feel in a few days... I just can't shake this weird feeling... and as long as I feel this feelings things can never go back to the way they were....Franklinstein

the thing that freaks me out the most is your blog post that says "I'm ready talk it out", that is exactly the same way I feel right now....

Well, like you guys said, I don't think I'm going to decide anything within the next couple of days and just see how I feel in a few days... I just can't shake this weird feeling... and as long as I feel this feelings things can never go back to the way they were....Franklinstein

[QUOTE="Franklinstein"]

First of all, I'm not relying on advice from total strangers, just merely asking your opinion.

My girlfriend who I've been dating for over a year, just kissed another guy last night. She felt very bad about it, and told me immediately. She's been apologizing ever since as well.

The really strange thing is... I'm not that mad... should I be? This is normally grounds for breaking up with someone is it not?

I mean... this is classified as cheating on me, am I right?

Poster_11

Normally grounds for breaking up what are you a lawyer? you know what sh!T happens if shes really sorry then don't worry about it. but if she does sh!t like that again break up with her because she cant be trusted.

Lmao, no I'm just technical when it comes to wording things. I don't want to be mis-understood.

[QUOTE="Franklinstein"]Well, like you guys said, I don't think I'm going to decide anything within the next couple of days and just see how I feel in a few days... I just can't shake this weird feeling... and as long as I feel this feelings things can never go back to the way they were....foxhound_fox

I'm actually hoping that it does surface, so I can have some closure to this, either it will heal, or we'll separate and it'll heal.

I can't imagine myself getting worked up over a kiss either. (but really, what do I know. I ain't got a GF.>.>...) What I'd do though is sit her down and ask her to explain EVERYTHING. What she felt before hand, what she felt during, how she felt after. Ask her questions about it in the middle of her telling you as if she was just some friend and you two are 6 and you're fascinated by it. "How did it feel? Did he stick his tongue in your mouth? Did he touch you anywhere else while doing it?" Pretty much make her put ever last detail out on the table for you. She'll feel ashamed of it while telling you but then when you're ok with it she'll feel relived. What you also do is figure out WHY she did it. Once you know why you can tell her that she should just come to you the next time she feels that way. Then once you're done kiss her and really scrub out her mouth with your tongue cuz guy germs are gross.:PVacantPsalm

But.... I'm a guy... and that would just give her even more guy germs....?

But.... I'm a guy... and that would just give her even more guy germs....?

Franklinstein