So I got a girl problem LONG READ (mature responses please)

I can tell you right now, nobody is going to read all that. I'd suggest condensing it into 1-2 paragraphs.UT_Wrestler

[QUOTE="UT_Wrestler"]I can tell you right now, nobody is going to read all that. I'd suggest condensing it into 1-2 paragraphs.Immortalica

Seriously, give us a tl;dr version.

That is the longest wall of text i seen so far on any fourms... That is longer than most of what I turn in for my essay at school....

Hmmm. Okay. Well, I'll try to summarize all of that into a short version. Something easier to read. But you won't be able to get the whole picture. I got into a new school, meet lovely girl. We go out, have fun. Some friction and we break up. Get into fight. Stop talking. Notice that we have many of our classes together this year, she asks to hang out. We hang out, it goes back to good. I want to ask her out again. School starts, we have classes together. xoxoxo I tell her online that I'm gonna ask her out, but never get around to finding a good time to. I dunno why, but I'm just that way. I wanna make it perfect. Suddenly it feels like she changes her mind about things and now I don't know what to do. Now read the last couple paragraphs.Immortalica

Thank you.

Ask her out again and tell her how you feel. Tell her you've been a d-bag and don't sneak attack hug her anymore.

For some reason I read the whole thing.

Anyways I just suggest asking her out and trying to make some of those good times. You're probably just stressed because you're thinking about this so much, and you're getting depressed because it hasn't ended up how you thought it would and because you're thinking the worst will now happen.

I read the whole thing. I think you just like her more than she does you. She got other (male) friends to talk to while she is all you got at the moment

Broaden your social circle. I know you think she is important to you, and while she is, there are other worthwhile things to do as well. You two are in a relationship, but that doesn't mean the two of you need to spend every moment together

Okay, so I actually read all of it ;)

It sounds like you two are in a bit of a confusing situation with mixed signals from a lack of communication, so I suggest you just tell her everything that you put here. Not through text or letter, but in person. Especially since you say it made you feel better simply typing it up. I imagine she's dieing to know how you're feeling as well. I wouldn't jump to conclusions so quickly.

And if it doesn't work out, you did what you could. There's more fish in the sea, you're still young and all that jazz. You'll be fine, we've all been in a similar place :)

Well I read it.. had to google those two medical conditions though, for the most part dude all you can do is just spill all the beans and go from there. Now if this is a joke thread I'll just say what Jay-Z said and be on my way but since it doesn't seem that way at all (no bel air or anything from what I can see) I'll just give you my serious answer.

Sounds like your falling for her again becouse your looking for comfort from your other problems. Maybe not her. You seem to quick to be jumping on the love thing.

The fibermyalgiawtfever it is and the strep sounds like an excuse not to hug/kiss maybe?

I think you do what I do, and get down, and fall back onto the sameol girl for support, for a distraction, Expect all this to happen, but don't do anything becouse your hopes of what your going to arn't being fullfilled.

Tell her everything, make a move if you want to, don't be jealous if you arn't going to.

I can't believe I just read through that whole thing. That sounds like a pretty ****y situation indeed, but based on what you said I think she still likes you. Give her a call - ask her to hang out. Worst case scenario, she says no. Talk to her in private when you get the chance (i.e. *not* at school) and tell her how you really feel. If you can tell strangers, you can tell the girl. Even if she says no, do *not* be a douche. Be friendly. You don't want to be enemies with someone you're sharing half your schedule with.

Edit: Actually, if you're too damn afraid to tell her how you feel yourself, give her a link to this thread. It's pretty well written and a few clicks is a lot easier than a speech.

Well I read the whole thing. I think that instead of writing a letter stating what you jsut told us you need to go tell her that in person. Just walk her through it. You said she and you hit it off so explain to her how much she really means to you. If she doesn't end up making up with you don't stress though. You're not even 18 yet you've still get lots of time man.

Good luck with getting her back though.

Hmmm. Okay. Well, I'll try to summarize all of that into a short version. Something easier to read. But you won't be able to get the whole picture. I got into a new school, meet lovely girl. We go out, have fun. Some friction and we break up. Get into fight. Stop talking. Notice that we have many of our classes together this year, she asks to hang out. We hang out, it goes back to good. I want to ask her out again. School starts, we have classes together. xoxoxo I tell her online that I'm gonna ask her out, but never get around to finding a good time to. I dunno why, but I'm just that way. I wanna make it perfect. Suddenly it feels like she changes her mind about things and now I don't know what to do. Now read the last couple paragraphs.Immortalica

Yay me I read the entire thing lol, anyways man I would just straight up try to rekindle the friendship between you guys and then see what happens from there. You want to see if she's still interested in going out with you, or if she's not (she could be dating someone else or etc) again I don't know this girl so its just advice I'm giving anyway. Once you guys start to be around each other alot and do some stuff on you on I'd suggest you just come straight out and confront her about it. Just tell her how you feel and that you want to be with her, and let her know that you regret not taking the chance to ask her before. Otherwise the best advice I can think to give you is to just play it cool and see how you and her get along but if it seems like she's into you then I would ask her. I don't really know much about her personality or anything so I'm afraid thats the best I can do advice wise. Best of luck to ya mate! 8)

I read the whole thing. I think you just like her more than she does you. She got other (male) friends to talk to while she is all you got at the moment

Broaden your social circle. I know you think she is important to you, and while she is, there are other worthwhile things to do as well. You two are in a relationship, but that doesn't mean the two of you need to spend every moment together

ariz3260

This is probably the best advice right now. Although you guys are friends, it's kind of obvious that she's over you now.

I don't understand this whole "ask her out" thing. You're hugging and kissing, and you're freaking out about officially asking her out? What does that even mean? Ask her out to the movies? Ask her out as your girlfriend? Does that matter? Boyfriend/girlfriend is just a silly title... it's just a way of saying you're exclusive with each other and somewhat serious. You don't need a perfect moment to do it because frankly, it's not a big deal.

Just call her up and ask her out to lunch or something and act normal. Hold her hand, flirt, and make your move. Simple as that.

I already banged her. She wasn't that good.MaxPred2010

What are you possibly trying to achieve aside from intending to solely annoy/offend the TC?

I read the whole thing (shut up, it's sunday and i am still on my vacation from work) and here are a few thoughts...

You need to be more open. I know at the tender age of 17 it is a hard thing to do to tell someone how you are truly, honestly feeling...but you won't stay in many relationships(romantic or otherwise) if you are not honest.

Why didn't you ask her out when school started up again? That made me raise an eyebrow...because (trust me) girls read into pretty much every little detail of our actions. . . she must've thought you were just egging her on, maybe? And i KNOW that it is hard not to be all pissy if you've had a bad day...but never ever take it out (you didn't really...but it did sound like you acted like a jerk) on your gf...or "girl that you really like".

If there are still feelings between you two...ask her out. No point putting it off...but she may have moved on.

As for the first part of your post with girl#C...you goofed there, friend. Never pay more attention to another girl with your girlfriend present. That is bad news :lol: Very...very bad news. Especially when it comes to teenagers.

Ummm... good luck?

TL;DR version.

Boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy kinda gets back with girl, promises to ask her out on a date one day, that day comes, and he smokes away that day thus making him forget all about her. She got mad.

Don't do drugs man thats all I can say. If you didn't smoke that weed in the BR you would of asked her out and you would of never had this problem.

pphhhwww! ok so i read it. it wasn't that bad heres my opinion:

the first paragraph i was thinking i wasn't going to like this girl after reading about her "fit" hiding under the cover. then i read the rest.

i gotta tell you TC im not trying to attack you (hear me out) but you're a douche (in this story). the two of you decide not to talk or date or whatever and you snoop her facebook and "call her out" for talking to a guy when the two of you weren't even together.:?

then you tell her you're going to ask her out, she spends all day with you waiting and you don't. then whenever she see's you you're "moody", you get upset because of you accidentally hurt her.etc etc

the girl is confused, you keep telling her you care about her but not showing it. and i can tell you feel you're at fault because of the was you wrote this.

the first thing you need to do is just apologize man. she's into you but im sure she feels you're mind ******* her.

as far a #C goes she might continue to pose a problem. when ya'll where hanging out and #L got mad, it wasn't just because you weren't paying attention to her. it was because what was really happening (subliminally) was #C was claiming you and parading you around like "back off *****, he's mine"

but yeah really i don't think you have anything to worry about. just say "hey i know i've been kinda hard to read...." and tell her how you feel. admitting fault is the MAIN thing tho (this gives her a reason to become "interested" in you again)

give us a follow up to see how it goes;)

[QUOTE="UT_Wrestler"]I can tell you right now, nobody is going to read all that. I'd suggest condensing it into 1-2 paragraphs.Immortalica

TL;DR version.

Boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy kinda gets back with girl, promises to ask her out on a date one day, that day comes, and he smokes away that day thus making him forget all about her. She got mad.

Don't do drugs man thats all I can say. If you didn't smoke that weed in the BR you would of asked her out and you would of never had this problem.

darkmark91

pphhhwww! ok so i read it. it wasn't that bad heres my opinion:

the first paragraph i was thinking i wasn't going to like this girl after reading about her "fit" hiding under the cover. then i read the rest.

i gotta tell you TC im not trying to attack you (hear me out) but you're a douche (in this story). the two of you decide not to talk or date or whatever and you snoop her facebook and "call her out" for talking to a guy when the two of you weren't even together.:?

then you tell her you're going to ask her out, she spends all day with you waiting and you don't. then whenever she see's you you're "moody", you get upset because of you accidentally hurt her.etc etc

the girl is confused, you keep telling her you care about her but not showing it. and i can tell you feel you're at fault because of the was you wrote this.

the first thing you need to do is just apologize man. she's into you but im sure she feels you're mind ******* her.

as far a #C goes she might continue to pose a problem. when ya'll where hanging out and #L got mad, it wasn't just because you weren't paying attention to her. it was because what was really happening (subliminally) was #C was claiming you and parading you around like "back off *****, he's mine"

but yeah really i don't think you have anything to worry about. just say "hey i know i've been kinda hard to read...." and tell her how you feel. admitting fault is the MAIN thing tho (this gives her a reason to become "interested" in you again)

give us a follow up to see how it goes;)

bebop013

Okay thank all of you for your replies. I am glad (and somewhat surprised) that most of you gave your time to me and read what I had to say. I couldn't keep up with all of your responses and replying to each quote in a single post just doesn't go down easy on GS. :P Anyway, I'll just answer most of you at once. The duration of my original post had taken place over the course of about a year. Take that into account. Yes, my mind has been running too much, and I've let all my problems get to me. Call me a pessimist, but I'm trying to be optimistic about this. I would say that this lack of communications, is a key factor in the downfall of many of my relationships. That's what I'm working on, and why I am seeking advice. It's not often I feel so strongly about something. I can't help but feel the way I do about her. Even though we had our differences in the beginning, we had recently decided that we would put those things behind us. Technically, she never cheated on me. It wasn't until after we broke up that she went after this other guy, whom apparently, is no longer in contact with her. I let that slide. Is that good or bad? She does have lots of male friends, who I watch carefully. She's told me about many of them, and those are the ones I'm not so worried about. It's the ones I've never met or talked to, that I don't know about. I try and wait until things are perfect to happen, but then it slips away. I had a good chance at school to ask her out, but I got we caught up in normal conversation, joking about some thing... friends came along, you know that deal. That's one of the things that I kinda bugged about. It's not so much what asking her out means, it's that I told her that I would, and she seemed pretty happy about the idea of us getting back together. I just never got to do it "right." But I think I will try again when the time is not an issue and our feelings are on the table. I think I am going to try and take it easy about telling her my true feelings. I don't wanna let the cat out of the bag too quick, have it come back and hit me in the face, then have to sit there and wonder while I'm sitting right next to her in class all year. I guess it would be best, if I just acted normal, and see if she'd like to hang out again. If all goes well, ask her if she'd be interested in going out again. Then go from there and then let her know what's been bottled up in my mind all this time. Best case scenario..? I dunno about sending her the link to this thread. I just wanted to hear what some of you had to say. I mean, I gotta preserve my online secret identity don't I? :P As for girl #C. We're still pretty good friends. This whole thing hasn't really effected our friendship. We still hang out here and there. I don't think she has much of a crush on me as she used to though. Our relationships are mostly our own business for the most part. But it's all good.Immortalica

well i think you approaching her on a more casual level before you tell her how you feel is not a bad idea, but you HAVE to tell her. and trust me about the apology thing

as far as other guys go. i've found the best thing to do is not let it faze you, DO NOT act jealous, act like you don't even give a ****. because its gonna make you seem cooler to her as a BF, and if she's gonna cheat on you she's gonna cheat on you and being protective will only make it happen sooner.

I read the whole thing (shut up, it's sunday and i am still on my vacation from work) and here are a few thoughts...

You need to be more open. I know at the tender age of 17 it is a hard thing to do to tell someone how you are truly, honestly feeling...but you won't stay in many relationships(romantic or otherwise) if you are not honest.

Why didn't you ask her out when school started up again? That made me raise an eyebrow...because (trust me) girls read into pretty much every little detail of our actions. . . she must've thought you were just egging her on, maybe? And i KNOW that it is hard not to be all pissy if you've had a bad day...but never ever take it out (you didn't really...but it did sound like you acted like a jerk) on your gf...or "girl that you really like".

If there are still feelings between you two...ask her out. No point putting it off...but she may have moved on.

As for the first part of your post with girl#C...you goofed there, friend. Never pay more attention to another girl with your girlfriend present. That is bad news :lol: Very...very bad news. Especially when it comes to teenagers.

Ummm... good luck?

Joshywaa

▲ Dude, you're only 17. Move on to the next girl. ▲

dude you gotta preface this stuff and let people know its highschool drama.... i read way too much before i realized that.

heres my simple answer, its highschool... none of this matters.

[QUOTE="Immortalica"]Okay thank all of you for your replies. I am glad (and somewhat surprised) that most of you gave your time to me and read what I had to say. I couldn't keep up with all of your responses and replying to each quote in a single post just doesn't go down easy on GS. :P Anyway, I'll just answer most of you at once. The duration of my original post had taken place over the course of about a year. Take that into account. Yes, my mind has been running too much, and I've let all my problems get to me. Call me a pessimist, but I'm trying to be optimistic about this. I would say that this lack of communications, is a key factor in the downfall of many of my relationships. That's what I'm working on, and why I am seeking advice. It's not often I feel so strongly about something. I can't help but feel the way I do about her. Even though we had our differences in the beginning, we had recently decided that we would put those things behind us. Technically, she never cheated on me. It wasn't until after we broke up that she went after this other guy, whom apparently, is no longer in contact with her. I let that slide. Is that good or bad? She does have lots of male friends, who I watch carefully. She's told me about many of them, and those are the ones I'm not so worried about. It's the ones I've never met or talked to, that I don't know about. I try and wait until things are perfect to happen, but then it slips away. I had a good chance at school to ask her out, but I got we caught up in normal conversation, joking about some thing... friends came along, you know that deal. That's one of the things that I kinda bugged about. It's not so much what asking her out means, it's that I told her that I would, and she seemed pretty happy about the idea of us getting back together. I just never got to do it "right." But I think I will try again when the time is not an issue and our feelings are on the table. I think I am going to try and take it easy about telling her my true feelings. I don't wanna let the cat out of the bag too quick, have it come back and hit me in the face, then have to sit there and wonder while I'm sitting right next to her in class all year. I guess it would be best, if I just acted normal, and see if she'd like to hang out again. If all goes well, ask her if she'd be interested in going out again. Then go from there and then let her know what's been bottled up in my mind all this time. Best case scenario..? I dunno about sending her the link to this thread. I just wanted to hear what some of you had to say. I mean, I gotta preserve my online secret identity don't I? :P As for girl #C. We're still pretty good friends. This whole thing hasn't really effected our friendship. We still hang out here and there. I don't think she has much of a crush on me as she used to though. Our relationships are mostly our own business for the most part. But it's all good.bebop013

well i think you approaching her on a more casual level before you tell her how you feel is not a bad idea, but you HAVE to tell her. and trust me about the apology thing

as far as other guys go. i've found the best thing to do is not let it faze you, DO NOT act jealous, act like you don't even give a ****. because its gonna make you seem cooler to her as a BF, and if she's gonna cheat on you she's gonna cheat on you and being protective will only make it happen sooner.

[QUOTE="bebop013"]

pphhhwww! ok so i read it. it wasn't that bad heres my opinion:

the first paragraph i was thinking i wasn't going to like this girl after reading about her "fit" hiding under the cover. then i read the rest.

i gotta tell you TC im not trying to attack you (hear me out) but you're a douche (in this story). the two of you decide not to talk or date or whatever and you snoop her facebook and "call her out" for talking to a guy when the two of you weren't even together.:?

then you tell her you're going to ask her out, she spends all day with you waiting and you don't. then whenever she see's you you're "moody", you get upset because of you accidentally hurt her.etc etc

the girl is confused, you keep telling her you care about her but not showing it. and i can tell you feel you're at fault because of the was you wrote this.

the first thing you need to do is just apologize man. she's into you but im sure she feels you're mind ******* her.

as far a #C goes she might continue to pose a problem. when ya'll where hanging out and #L got mad, it wasn't just because you weren't paying attention to her. it was because what was really happening (subliminally) was #C was claiming you and parading you around like "back off *****, he's mine"

but yeah really i don't think you have anything to worry about. just say "hey i know i've been kinda hard to read...." and tell her how you feel. admitting fault is the MAIN thing tho (this gives her a reason to become "interested" in you again)

give us a follow up to see how it goes;)

Immortalica

no prob man. you've got this on lock imo. you're thinking things out admitting when you're at fault. she's into you she's just doesn't wanna be played, if she's distancing herself now its because she's waiting for you to close the gap. like i said tho, you got this, man

*edit this includes the above post as well :lol:

▲ Dude, you're only 17. Move on to the next girl. ▲

Loco_Live

dude you gotta preface this stuff and let people know its highschool drama.... i read way too much before i realized that.

heres my simple answer, its highschool... none of this matters.

markinthedark