You might remember this... www.gamespot.com/forums/topic/29221255/sigh...-girl-help-thread...?page=0 So I didn't do the poem... I waited until my schedule changed,(she was just a summer intern) got a great hair cut,(ironically led to me having to friendzone a few chicks myself at work...), got new cologne; and scored them digits! Been texting all this time and finally tonight got this text... "I'm not interested in being more than friends. You are a cool person." What now??? Can't seem to shake her(yeah I know it did just happen) Do I call it quits? Keep trying? She was like everything I wanted in a women... How do you deal with being rejected ot? Disclaimer: Yes I've been rejected before but its usually right on the spot...
No but in all seriousness, I got that feeling when I read the line. It's just cold and there's this thing that hits you inside when you get that kind of answer.
What I'd recommend though is to turn to a support system like music, movies or something else that can get you distracted. Second, you have to get yourself away from here at this moment because those feeling you have are not going to simply fade away just because she friendzone'd you man. You have to do that for your well being and mental peace. And finally, move on to the next thing in your life. Whether it's job, school or girl oriented, find the next big goal and keep moving forward.
No but in all seriousness, I got that feeling when I read the line. It's just cold and there's this thing that hits you inside when you get that kind of answer.
What I'd recommend though is to turn to a support system like music, movies or something else that can get you distracted. Second, you have to get yourself away from here at this moment because those feeling you have are not going to simply fade away just because she friendzone'd you man. You have to do that for your well being and mental peace. And finally, move on to the next thing in your life. Whether it's job, school or girl oriented, find the next big goal and keep moving forward.
Good luck man.
undergroundLPx
Yeah I get it... seems like the only other women I attract are single mothers...
Just get out while you still can. If she doesn't realise that you're into her, then she may not be worth your time. Unless you actually want to be friends, of course.
Just tell her ok and move on. Never make yourself seem desperate and never chase women.Shottayouth13-
Pretty much my response "oh ok" My first instinct is to move on but you know my gut says "be her friend for now and win her over with kindness does that not happen in reality?
get over it, move on and embrace solitude
Crazyguy105
There are many in this world who prefer solitude, there are none who can withstand it...
[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]Learn from your mistakes Move on Approach the next one differently Pretty much this. Seems like you got desperate. Girls don't like that. If you continue to pursue her, the stench of desperation will just thicken. Move on.
There is only one thing to do. Move on. It seems like peopel make these threads just to get attention for themselves. We see these threads over and over and people always say the same thing.
[QUOTE="GamerForca"][QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]Learn from your mistakes Move on Approach the next one differently Pretty much this. Seems like you got desperate. Girls don't like that. If you continue to pursue her, the stench of desperation will just thicken. Move on. I think my mistake was assuming I was "in there" because I got her number... She complimented my looks several times too... lol I just knew she was mine. Lol
[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Continuing to try is called stalking. Let's avoid that okay?jeremiah06
I get what you mean but it's not like I'd start showing up unannounced... If anything I'd just keep texting her... I'd leave it alone. My friend just recently got turned down and when he tried to be a friend to her she thought he was a creep. Though he ended up with the last laugh in that situation (bizarre circumstances), the point is she said the same thing more or less just to be nice. If she's not completely and utterly through with you, she'll let you know, but don't count on it. Don't keep texting her. Hell, I might be in the same boat pretty soon, but then its on to the next one.
There is only one thing to do. Move on. It seems like peopel make these threads just to get attention for themselves. We see these threads over and over and people always say the same thing.
Toxic-Seahorse
Well I don't do "attention" I really just wanted to talk about what happened... It's how I get over things by analyzing them...
[QUOTE="jeremiah06"][QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Continuing to try is called stalking. Let's avoid that okay?TacticaI
I get what you mean but it's not like I'd start showing up unannounced... If anything I'd just keep texting her... I'd leave it alone. My friend just recently got turned down and when he tried to be a friend to her she thought he was a creep. Though he ended up with the last laugh in that situation (bizarre circumstances), the point is she said the same thing more or less just to be nice. If she's not completely and utterly through with you, she'll let you know, but don't count on it. Don't keep texting her. Hell, I might be in the same boat pretty soon, but then its on to the next one. Yeah I've already deleted her number... If she texts me I'll probably say hi but thats it...
If she's really not interested, or she seems uncertain, don't waste your time trying. Don't even be a special close friend because you'd be doing that with expectations, and that'll just mess you up. Enjoy your life and enjoy a whole world of new connections, instead of getting hung up on one chick. Be confident on what you've accomplished so far in trying this, though, and always be your best, honest self.
No but in all seriousness, I got that feeling when I read the line. It's just cold and there's this thing that hits you inside when you get that kind of answer.
What I'd recommend though is to turn to a support system like music, movies or something else that can get you distracted. Second, you have to get yourself away from here at this moment because those feeling you have are not going to simply fade away just because she friendzone'd you man. You have to do that for your well being and mental peace. And finally, move on to the next thing in your life. Whether it's job, school or girl oriented, find the next big goal and keep moving forward.
Good luck man.
undergroundLPx
Pretty much what this guy said. Assuming you want to keep your job and hence, still have to be in her presence, I suggest you remain how you've always been and not lash out or something. Good luck, and don't mope around. :)
[QUOTE="bjvill"]If she's really not interested, or she seems uncertain, don't waste your time trying. Don't even be a special close friend because you'd be doing that with expectations, and that'll just mess you up. Enjoy your life and enjoy a whole world of new connections, instead of getting hung up on one chick. Be confident on what you've accomplished so far in trying this, though, and always be your best, honest self. Honestly I'm never really myself... The last time I tried that. "Jeremiah you know why we'll never be together? Because you're a know it all jerk" I've been playing the smooth guy full of wisdom every since...
No but in all seriousness, I got that feeling when I read the line. It's just cold and there's this thing that hits you inside when you get that kind of answer.
What I'd recommend though is to turn to a support system like music, movies or something else that can get you distracted. Second, you have to get yourself away from here at this moment because those feeling you have are not going to simply fade away just because she friendzone'd you man. You have to do that for your well being and mental peace. And finally, move on to the next thing in your life. Whether it's job, school or girl oriented, find the next big goal and keep moving forward.
Good luck man.
killa4lyfe
Pretty much what this guy said. Assuming you want to keep your job and hence, still have to be in her presence, I suggest you remain how you've always been and not lash out or something. Good luck, and don't mope around. :) Thanks she was just an intern her internship ended a several weeks ago... So don't have to worry about seeing her out of sight out of mind...
[QUOTE="jeremiah06"]Honestly I'm never really myself... The last time I tried that. "Jeremiah you know why we'll never be together? Because you're a know it all jerk" I've been playing the smooth guy full of wisdom every since... You should probably stop with that.
[QUOTE="Sajo7"][QUOTE="jeremiah06"]Honestly I'm never really myself... The last time I tried that. "Jeremiah you know why we'll never be together? Because you're a know it all jerk" I've been playing the smooth guy full of wisdom every since... You should probably stop with that. Hey I can be smooth... My thing is 55% charisma 45% wisdom(like saying the right things to cheer them up/keep them motivated) Wow typing that out it just screams friend... Well what do you suggest?
[QUOTE="jeremiah06"][QUOTE="Sajo7"][QUOTE="jeremiah06"]Honestly I'm never really myself... The last time I tried that. "Jeremiah you know why we'll never be together? Because you're a know it all jerk" I've been playing the smooth guy full of wisdom every since... You should probably stop with that. Hey I can be smooth... My thing is 55% charisma 45% wisdom(like saying the right things to cheer them up/keep them motivated) Wow typing that out it just screams friend... Well what do you suggest? No one likes a faker. Especially in a relationship.
[QUOTE="Sajo7"][QUOTE="jeremiah06"][QUOTE="Sajo7"] You should probably stop with that. Hey I can be smooth... My thing is 55% charisma 45% wisdom(like saying the right things to cheer them up/keep them motivated) Wow typing that out it just screams friend... Well what do you suggest? No one likes a faker. Especially in a relationship. Hmm that has merits... I seem to come off pretentious or nerdy being myself... I'm a dream come true to women with 2+ kids though... as a matter of fact I have to beat them off with a stick...
You might remember this... www.gamespot.com/forums/topic/29221255/sigh...-girl-help-thread...?page=0 So I didn't do the poem... I waited until my schedule changed,(she was just a summer intern) got a great hair cut,(ironically led to me having to friendzone a few chicks myself at work...), got new cologne; and scored them digits! Been texting all this time and finally tonight got this text... "I'm not interested in being more than friends. You are a cool person." What now??? Can't seem to shake her(yeah I know it did just happen) Do I call it quits? Keep trying? She was like everything I wanted in a women... How do you deal with being rejected ot? Disclaimer: Yes I've been rejected before but its usually right on the spot... jeremiah06
I'm pretty sure there's a way to get out of the friendzone and get her. I don't know about it though since I never been friendzoned. So my tip then is probably to move on.
You have one last hope---act like you are completely over her, into someone else and if you can start ignoring her by telling her your busy. You want to try to make her think it was your choice not to be with her, even if it wasn't. This may trigger this strange mechanism that women have inherently which is they want what they can't have. She may start wondering why you don't like her and pursue you. I've used this successfully before.
If that doesn't work then go to youporn and beat off.
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