Social problem: I feel awkward and embarassed

First off to remind you guys, I made this topic thread:

http://www.gamespot.com/pages/forums/show_msgs.php?topic_id=26964745

After work last night, I told a guy this: "I have a lot of time on my hands, and I wondered if you'd like to come bowling with me." And he even said "yeah, sure. I gotta check my schedule"...or something like that.

I felt so amazed and happy that I got a real friend. But about an hour or 2 later, I was thinking about it and I felt kind of awkward, and for some reason even embarassed that I said that. I think it's because I'm afraid that I seem desperate to go out with people.

Does this feeling go away after a while? Should I really just push and force myself to be as more sociable as possible?

Sounds like you asked him on a date.

Don't force yourself to get friends. They come naturally through common interests and similaritiesturbotoby95

Yeah, but I'm really shy and quiet, and I think forcing myself is the best way.

Sounds like you asked him on a date.

TecmoGirl

A date as in...a gay relationship?? I'm a guy btw.

[QUOTE="turbotoby95"]Don't force yourself to get friends. They come naturally through common interests and similaritiesaction1234

Yeah, but I'm really shy and quiet, and I think forcing myself is the best way.

the more your social skills builds up the less akward it becomes, and you dont get that horrible feeling in your stomache that you somehow did something "wrong".

Being social is very hard tho, and gettiong relationships with people built is long and hard, and very fragile.

The more your social experince expands the less "akward" you'll feel.DarknessLion

this

usually good friends just kind of happen like at school or something, not like, forcing just walking up to some random person and asking if they want to hang...

usually good friends just kind of happen like at school or something, not like, forcing just walking up to some random person and asking if they want to hang...

WiiMan21

I'll explain more now. We spoke a few times before and had some conversations. The question wasn't the first time I ever spoke to him.

Don't blow people off, but don't try to make friends too quickly, if you do, you might start treating everyone poorly.

usually good friends just kind of happen like at school or something, not like, forcing just walking up to some random person and asking if they want to hang...

WiiMan21

Sounds like you asked him on a date.

TecmoGirl

Double dates ftw!!! :P

[QUOTE="WiiMan21"]

usually good friends just kind of happen like at school or something, not like, forcing just walking up to some random person and asking if they want to hang...

Wolls

I never said he shouldn't make an effort, but before he made it sound as if he had walked up to some random person and asked if he wanted to go bowling.

[QUOTE="Wolls"][QUOTE="WiiMan21"]

usually good friends just kind of happen like at school or something, not like, forcing just walking up to some random person and asking if they want to hang...

I never said he shouldn't make an effort, but before he made it sound as if he had walked up to some random person and asked if he wanted to go bowling.

[QUOTE="WiiMan21"]

[QUOTE="Wolls"] Well if it didnt 'just happen' then making an effot seems like the best thing to do.Wolls

I never said he shouldn't make an effort, but before he made it sound as if he had walked up to some random person and asked if he wanted to go bowling.

All he said was after work, he might have worked with him but as I see it he doesn't.

[QUOTE="Wolls"][QUOTE="WiiMan21"]

I never said he shouldn't make an effort, but before he made it sound as if he had walked up to some random person and asked if he wanted to go bowling.

All he said was after work, he might have worked with him but as I see it he doesn't.

[QUOTE="WiiMan21"]

[QUOTE="Wolls"] Nar i think he works with himArctic_Grillz

All he said was after work, he might have worked with him but as I see it he doesn't.

YES. I do work with him and we have spoken before.

[QUOTE="Arctic_Grillz"][QUOTE="WiiMan21"]

All he said was after work, he might have worked with him but as I see it he doesn't.

action1234

YES. I do work with him and we have spoken before.

Alright that seems fine then.

Sounds like you asked him on a date.

TecmoGirl

Edit: I'm at the assumption he knows the person.

people never care about awkward stuff you do or say as much as you might think. sometimes i'll do something stupid and expect people to laugh about it the next day, but they usually forget.

Better hope he's not gay that's quite a hole to dig yourself out of.

friends are overrated i get to the point were i dont even call some people i chillwithfriends just mere acquintances. All you really need is one good friend the rest are just like dead weight.

All you really need to do chill out. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.

Just don't make it awkward.

I think you should seem more natural, say things that you feel like saying, just be YOU. Talk about yourself and ask others questions to start friendly conversations, you might find something in common if your looking for a friend. Just don't force yourself to ask people out.

Don't force yourself to get friends. They come naturally through common interests and similaritiesturbotoby95

Exactly.

You'll only regret it if you force them to happen.