sorry for another girl help thread, but...

Crush is going out with someone... crush flirts with me a lot anyways, i've known her for several years, and i'm wondering if I should tell her how I feel instead of waiting for her to break up with her boyfriend..

Is she flirty with everyone, or just with you?

Is she flirty with everyone, or just with you?

Optical_Order

Just me, she doesnt even talk to other guys

Then she obviously likes you. Just be there for the inevitable break up and sweep her up.

Just flirt back in the time being.

Then she obviously likes you. Just be there for the inevitable break up and sweep her up.

Just flirt back in the time being.

Optical_Order

Show her how much of a boss you are so she can leave the other guy for you.

I'm a believer that if a girl has a BF, just leave it be.

I'm a believer that if a girl has a BF, just leave it be.

Pirate700

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

I'm a believer that if a girl has a BF, just leave it be.

StarFire571

Go to a party with her there, after a few drinks see how far the flirting goes. If all goes smoothly then make a move.

edit: sorry drinking ALOt

[QUOTE="StarFire571"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

I'm a believer that if a girl has a BF, just leave it be.

Pirate700

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="StarFire571"] Hah yeah, and the thing is that she gets into a fight with him every other day, and then tells me about what a jerk he is, but the next day its like nothing happened.

StarFire571

dude...

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="StarFire571"] Hah yeah, and the thing is that she gets into a fight with him every other day, and then tells me about what a jerk he is, but the next day its like nothing happened.

StarFire571

"Flirting" or "being friendly"?

I mean she told me she would **** me...
StarFire571

...and what you just sat there with a stupid look on your face? Tell. Her.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="StarFire571"] Hah yeah, and the thing is that she gets into a fight with him every other day, and then tells me about what a jerk he is, but the next day its like nothing happened.

StarFire571

Whoa. Scratch my previous advice. Next time you see her just pull up her skirt and bend her over.

[QUOTE="StarFire571"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Then let it take it's course. I'm guessing you're in high school. She'll be broken up with soon regardless.

Pirate700

[QUOTE="StarFire571"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]Then let it take it's course. I'm guessing you're in high school. She'll be broken up with soon regardless.

Optical_Order

Whoa. Scratch my previous advice. Next time you see her just pull up her skirt and bend her over.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="StarFire571"] You guessed right, and yeah I don't have much of a choice anyways. I guess I just am kind of getting tired of her sorta teasing me while she's going out with this other guy, and I'm kind of caught in the middle. I mean she told me she would **** me...

StarFire571

If you want to be with her you can't worry about being friends with her.

Don't try and screw with other people's relationships. If she wanted to be with you, she'd end it with him. You're asking to get raged on by her boyfriend. And why would you want to date somebody who flirts with other guys while she's in a relationship?XilePrincess

Don't try and screw with other people's relationships. If she wanted to be with you, she'd end it with him. You're asking to get raged on by her boyfriend. And why would you want to date somebody who flirts with other guys while she's in a relationship?XilePrincess

Rational question. My reasons are as follows:
1. I know her better than any other girl pretty much.

2. We get along really well.

3. I've gone to far to just kind of drop her.. also she likes her bf a lot too (obviously) so that's why she probably didn't just drop him out of nowhere..

I dont want to point this out...

but ur name is StarFire so thats kinda misleading...

Don't try and screw with other people's relationships. If she wanted to be with you, she'd end it with him. You're asking to get raged on by her boyfriend. And why would you want to date somebody who flirts with other guys while she's in a relationship?XilePrincess

Rational question. My reasons are as follows:
1. I know her better than any other girl pretty much.

2. We get along really well.

3. I've gone to far to just kind of drop her.. also she likes her bf a lot too (obviously) so that's why she probably didn't just drop him out of nowhere..

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Don't try and screw with other people's relationships. If she wanted to be with you, she'd end it with him. You're asking to get raged on by her boyfriend. And why would you want to date somebody who flirts with other guys while she's in a relationship?Pirate700

Ummm I've hooked up with girls with boyfriends, or should I say I was raped. Seriously girls just stay in relationships for security or some BS. I had a girl rip off my shirt. sex me and send me nasty texts every weekend, and she was with her b/f for 4 years. Of course I denied everything when somebody random would ask me, and the b/f never confronted me..... good times... except for when she thought she was pregnant

I dont want to point this out...

but ur name is StarFire so thats kinda misleading...

Feryraiser

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Don't try and screw with other people's relationships. If she wanted to be with you, she'd end it with him. You're asking to get raged on by her boyfriend. And why would you want to date somebody who flirts with other guys while she's in a relationship?StarFire571

Rational question. My reasons are as follows:
1. I know her better than any other girl pretty much.

2. We get along really well.

3. I've gone to far to just kind of drop her.. also she likes her bf a lot too (obviously) so that's why she probably didn't just drop him out of nowhere..

1. Irrelevant

2. Great. Be friends with her then

3. You aren't in a relationship. You wouldn't be dropping her. And why would you want to be in her BF's shoes of knowing that she will be flirting with other guys behind your back and doing who knows what else.

Then she obviously likes you. Just be there for the inevitable break up and sweep her up.

Just flirt back in the time being.

Optical_Order

You should probably do what I did in high school. Forget about a girlfriend and just worry about getting laid*. You probably won't meet "the one" until your 20s if not later. Worrying about relationships now is just going to give you too much drama. [spoiler] Don't be that guy who knocks up a girl in school like some people I knew. [/spoiler]

[QUOTE="Feryraiser"]

I dont want to point this out...

but ur name is StarFire so thats kinda misleading...

StarFire571

That explains it :D i wont say anything cause im not good at this stuff. :( Good Luck with ur problems!

Do you want to date a girl that flirts with other guys while she's in a relationship with someone?MichBelle

gotta agree

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

I'm a believer that if a girl has a BF, just leave it be.

StarFire571

Oh dear god does this sound familiar. The EXACT same thing happened to me based on what you were saying. Ther was some girl I was pretty good friends with and I had a crush on her. She would always flirt with me, and I mean really flirt with me. You'd have to be blind not to see it. She led me on for months and I was almost sure she would end it with him and go out with me. I was completely wrong. 10 months of desire, emotional hell, and disappointment later, we had a thing. It lasted a week and she got back with her boyfriend. Six more months of super emotional hell (i.e. worse than the emotional hell lol) later, we stopped talking and we hate each other. It's not worth it. If she's leading two guys on at once like this, odds are she won't be a good girlfriend and if you wait for her you're probably putting yourself through hell for nothing. That's just my voice of experience on the matter.

Yeah I don't know how faithful she will be, and to the person saying I should focus on getting laid, this girl is the closest thing to that happening, as well as an actual relationship.
just gonna wait it out.

[QUOTE="StarFire571"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

I'm a believer that if a girl has a BF, just leave it be.

HomicidalCherry

Oh dear god does this sound familiar. The EXACT same thing happened to me based on what you were saying. Ther was some girl I was pretty good friends with and I had a crush on her. She would always flirt with me, and I mean really flirt with me. You'd have to be blind not to see it. She led me on for months and I was almost sure she would end it with him and go out with me. I was completely wrong. 10 months of desire, emotional hell, and disappointment later, we had a thing. It lasted a week and she got back with her boyfriend. Six more months of super emotional hell (i.e. worse than the emotional hell lol) later, we stopped talking and we hate each other. It's not worth it. If she's leading two guys on at once like this, odds are she won't be a good girlfriend and if you wait for her you're probably putting yourself through hell for nothing. That's just my voice of experience on the matter.

To back up what I just said, this is what happens when you stay friends with her. She knows she can have you whenever she wants.

on to the next one my friend. Indifferent23

exactly

[QUOTE="StarFire571"]

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

I'm a believer that if a girl has a BF, just leave it be.

HomicidalCherry

Oh dear god does this sound familiar. The EXACT same thing happened to me based on what you were saying. Ther was some girl I was pretty good friends with and I had a crush on her. She would always flirt with me, and I mean really flirt with me. You'd have to be blind not to see it. She led me on for months and I was almost sure she would end it with him and go out with me. I was completely wrong. 10 months of desire, emotional hell, and disappointment later, we had a thing. It lasted a week and she got back with her boyfriend. Six more months of super emotional hell (i.e. worse than the emotional hell lol) later, we stopped talking and we hate each other. It's not worth it. If she's leading two guys on at once like this, odds are she won't be a good girlfriend and if you wait for her you're probably putting yourself through hell for nothing. That's just my voice of experience on the matter.

Wow, this seems like it might be my future XD

[QUOTE="HomicidalCherry"]

[QUOTE="StarFire571"] Hah yeah, and the thing is that she gets into a fight with him every other day, and then tells me about what a jerk he is, but the next day its like nothing happened.

cheese_game619

Oh dear god does this sound familiar. The EXACT same thing happened to me based on what you were saying. Ther was some girl I was pretty good friends with and I had a crush on her. She would always flirt with me, and I mean really flirt with me. You'd have to be blind not to see it. She led me on for months and I was almost sure she would end it with him and go out with me. I was completely wrong. 10 months of desire, emotional hell, and disappointment later, we had a thing. It lasted a week and she got back with her boyfriend. Six more months of super emotional hell (i.e. worse than the emotional hell lol) later, we stopped talking and we hate each other. It's not worth it. If she's leading two guys on at once like this, odds are she won't be a good girlfriend and if you wait for her you're probably putting yourself through hell for nothing. That's just my voice of experience on the matter.

To back up what I just said, this is what happens when you stay friends with her. She knows she can have you whenever she wants.

I made it unbelievably clear that I was interested in more. My mistake was not saying enough when she said she wasn't sure. I stuck around and did whatever possible to try to convince her to go out with me. You're right, she used that to her advantage. She knew I was going to stick around and take all of her crap. The best advice is to make a clear pass, then forget about her if she doesn't break up with the guy for you. Don't wait for her, you'll end up waiting forever.

[QUOTE="HomicidalCherry"]

[QUOTE="StarFire571"] Hah yeah, and the thing is that she gets into a fight with him every other day, and then tells me about what a jerk he is, but the next day its like nothing happened.

cheese_game619

Oh dear god does this sound familiar. The EXACT same thing happened to me based on what you were saying. Ther was some girl I was pretty good friends with and I had a crush on her. She would always flirt with me, and I mean really flirt with me. You'd have to be blind not to see it. She led me on for months and I was almost sure she would end it with him and go out with me. I was completely wrong. 10 months of desire, emotional hell, and disappointment later, we had a thing. It lasted a week and she got back with her boyfriend. Six more months of super emotional hell (i.e. worse than the emotional hell lol) later, we stopped talking and we hate each other. It's not worth it. If she's leading two guys on at once like this, odds are she won't be a good girlfriend and if you wait for her you're probably putting yourself through hell for nothing. That's just my voice of experience on the matter.

To back up what I just said, this is what happens when you stay friends with her. She knows she can have you whenever she wants.

Ok, this is guaranteed to work. Tell her she's pretty and feed her cake, you might have to force feed her cake but that's ok that means she likes it more.Fightingfan

Been there done that.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

I'm a believer that if a girl has a BF, just leave it be.

[QUOTE="HomicidalCherry"]

[QUOTE="StarFire571"] Hah yeah, and the thing is that she gets into a fight with him every other day, and then tells me about what a jerk he is, but the next day its like nothing happened.

cheese_game619

Oh dear god does this sound familiar. The EXACT same thing happened to me based on what you were saying. Ther was some girl I was pretty good friends with and I had a crush on her. She would always flirt with me, and I mean really flirt with me. You'd have to be blind not to see it. She led me on for months and I was almost sure she would end it with him and go out with me. I was completely wrong. 10 months of desire, emotional hell, and disappointment later, we had a thing. It lasted a week and she got back with her boyfriend. Six more months of super emotional hell (i.e. worse than the emotional hell lol) later, we stopped talking and we hate each other. It's not worth it. If she's leading two guys on at once like this, odds are she won't be a good girlfriend and if you wait for her you're probably putting yourself through hell for nothing. That's just my voice of experience on the matter.

To back up what I just said, this is what happens when you stay friends with her. She knows she can have you whenever she wants.

This can be averted if you find a different girlfriend while remaining friends with her.

here's what you do:

you gotta make it so that her boyfriend does something so bad that it will make her break up with him. i would say you should just talk her into breaking up with him, that might actually work but she will probably be thinking about her decision and maybe she will change her mind and decide she didn't want to break up with him. that's why he has to do something terrible enough for her to not want him anymore. that's where you come in. arrange a scenario (i'm not gonna tell you how, that's for you to figure out, i'm sure you're smart enough) where you get the boyfriend to make out with another girl and make sure your girlfriend sees it. she'll break up with him, and she's definitely going to want some rebound sex, so you make sure you're the guy she goes to, and she definitely won't regret that afterwards.

[QUOTE="cheese_game619"]

[QUOTE="HomicidalCherry"]

Oh dear god does this sound familiar. The EXACT same thing happened to me based on what you were saying. Ther was some girl I was pretty good friends with and I had a crush on her. She would always flirt with me, and I mean really flirt with me. You'd have to be blind not to see it. She led me on for months and I was almost sure she would end it with him and go out with me. I was completely wrong. 10 months of desire, emotional hell, and disappointment later, we had a thing. It lasted a week and she got back with her boyfriend. Six more months of super emotional hell (i.e. worse than the emotional hell lol) later, we stopped talking and we hate each other. It's not worth it. If she's leading two guys on at once like this, odds are she won't be a good girlfriend and if you wait for her you're probably putting yourself through hell for nothing. That's just my voice of experience on the matter.

Optical_Order

To back up what I just said, this is what happens when you stay friends with her. She knows she can have you whenever she wants.

This can be averted if you find a different girlfriend while remaining friends with her.

Nope, because if he got a decent girlfriend he wouldn't need to be friends with this crush. Getting some beta girl to follow him around will hardly make this girl jealous, and he is still spending time with his crush anyway so she knows she is still important. She doesn't fear losing him yet. I mean it's better than sitting around and just being her friend but it isn't going to work as well as just manning up and leaving her alone.