Step son doesn't seem to want what he has, He wants what everyone else has!

Hi,I am looking for some advice. Mature good advice to be exact. I am 31 and am a gamer, been playing since the nintendo came out. I love video gaming. I have many systems and own a 360 and a wii. The wii is thanks to my wife. We have 5 kids all together. 2 are mine and 2 are hers and 1 together. Everyone in the family loves to play with the exception of the baby and my daughter who never got into it much. I know this is a lot of information but it's needed to give the full scope of the issue.

At Christmas we got the 3 boys, ages 7,7 and 11 a gamecube. This is what they wanted and of course we got them each a game. They are really into zelda the windwaker. The 2 seven year olds we have no problem with. It's the 11 yr old thats the issue. Chris is his name. Chris also has a ps2 which his mother had bought for him when he was 5, I think.

This was before we met and married. He loves his ps2 to say the least. It is old and is about to die but it does still work. So, here is the problem. he wants a xbox 360. He has 20 some games for the ps2 and 5 for the cube. None of which he has beat on the cube. Now he has some great games on the cube, zelda, metroid 1 and 2 and something else I just don't recall.I have had to ban all the children from swapping games because we will not play his own. He seems to only want what others have. I have a nice collection including Gears and bioshock and many more. I don't allow him to play or even watch.

I have in the past but very little. i don't want him playing something he is to young for. The language and mature content is the kicker. It has come to the point where I will rarly even discuss games with him because of his attitude. I have told him he is not allowed to buy anymore games until he has played and beat some of his current games. He says he will save up for a system and that is fine by me. I know that will take a long time at his age. The thing is, is what system is good for a kid of 11. He has 2 good systems. i looved my cube.

I think he has a "want" problem. Wanting what he doesn't have. And lets face it, In a house with 5 kids, money isn't exactly plentyfull. So I guess I am looking to resolve this internally. Are the sytems he has satisfactory or should I take it all and sell it, add what money he has saved up and buy him a next generation system. I also take issue with the lack of kid friendly games on the 360. I love the system but I know what will happen if I was to buy him one. He would bugg the you know what out of me about playing my games which are mature.

I know this is quite long but I need a little bit of fellow dad advice. Thanks for your time and response.

then give him aids. Hewkii

What is that suppose to mean.

Just thought I'd suggest that you remove the bold and change it into a couple paragraphs so it's easier for others to read, it really hurts my eyes.Zaeryn

sorry Zaeryn, I don't post alot. I will try better next time.;)

If you feel like it is too muture for him , then he needs to deal with it. You're the father.

By the way , you should really change the text. it is hard to read.

Riiiiight. I don't feel like going blind reading that.Wetall_basic

Yeah. my eyes hurt :(

How is that?

You should just share the 360 with him. Get him Viva Piniata or something like that...I see no need for 2 360s in the house.

You should just share the 360 with him. Get him Viva Piniata or something like that...I see no need for 2 360s in the house.

buu96322

I have added everyone to my 360. But, there again, all he wants then is to play my 360. buggs me to no end. Good sugestion tho

Being 32 and a dad myself you just have to lay the smack down. The 360 really has nothing age appropriate for him. Just tell him no and explain to him why.CIoud_S

You know, you are right. In fact that is the last thing I said to him before he went back to his dads. Then my wife questioned me about it tonight and i told her the same thing. There aren't any age appropriet games on the 360. I encouraged the wii.

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You should just share the 360 with him. Get him Viva Piniata or something like that...I see no need for 2 360s in the house.

29nintendaddy

I have added everyone to my 360. But, there again, all he wants then is to play my 360. buggs me to no end. Good sugestion tho

Maybe you should set some kind of schedual up so he won't have to bug you, and you would have to get off at that time. It would take alot of commitment, but I'm sure you could do without the 360 for an hour or 2 a day. Also, make him work for playtime, such as if he dosn't do his chores, he can't play on the 360...But I do agree he should finish some of his cube games first.

Edit: I agree with the Wii. They have many fun age appropriate games.

Make him save, but your son will learn the stuff that don't want your son to learn from his friends, so I say let him play Gears of War.

You know, you are right. In fact that is the last thing I said to him before he went back to his dads. Then my wife questioned me about it tonight and i told her the same thing. There aren't any age appropriet games on the 360. I encouraged the wii.

29nintendaddy

Make him save, but your son will learn the stuff in school that you don't want your son to learn from his friends, so I say let him play Gears of War.

KillaHalo2o9

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You know, you are right. In fact that is the last thing I said to him before he went back to his dads. Then my wife questioned me about it tonight and i told her the same thing. There aren't any age appropriet games on the 360. I encouraged the wii.

CIoud_S

Whatever you do just make sure that your wife is on your side when it comes to the decision. Conflicting messages are bad and will just make you out to be the bad guy. Just do what you think is right, but if you do decide to buy it for him you should know that I've been playing violent video games and watching violent movies since I was like 9, and I haven't killed anyone lately.

Again, if you do decide to buy it, maybe you could tell him to save up 70 or a 100 dollars towards the purchase. Aaaaaand finally, you could talk to him before hand about how things are going to be if he does get the system (IE no extra violent games, needs to let his brothers play occasionally assuming the game is appropriate for them).

Just some ideas...