These last two years have been very lonely for me.

[QUOTE="lancelot200"]TC, 1) Was there a welcome week during you freshmen year? 2) Did you go to the campus pub? That's where you go to meet random people. I live off campus. I had two friends from high school going to the same university. I befriended myself some classmates, but the rest of my friends were friends of my other university friends. First year wasn't that good, but second year was great and third was just as great. The_Capitalist

Yes. I didn't go to every event, but I did go to the ones I could. They had a barbeque on the quad. Talked to some people and had a good time. Good food, too, if I recall.

As for the campus pub, it's two miles away from the school, but it's the bar that most faculty and students frequent. Unfortunately, I am not of drinking age yet.

I think my current state of life is far worse.

I sometimes feel like I'm merely alive, but not enjoying it in any way.

I have no friends, I'm incapable of any form of socializing, live in anxiety of fear all the time.

I still stay hopeful though, as long as I'm alive there are reason to stay hopeful:)

Yeah well at least you are surrounded by people. I've been looking for work for the past year, no luck whatsoever and I'm just staying home, I have no money to go out and like you I have no high school friends around anymore. It bums me out a lot at times but I'm not a depressed person, we all go through periods of ups and downs, I'm going through that right now, my solution don't think about it.

I know I'm not going to be stuck in this situation forever, I really truly know that and you just have to look at your situation in life generally, you've got it good, your quality of life is great and people are everywhere. This is a really sad topic with some sad responses, especially the poster who said he had diabetes but we've all just got to not worry or dwell on the negatives of our life. That's honestly it if you can honestly do those two things, not worry about something in the future or dwell on our past/life now, we can just get on with it. This is the way I think and I'm defintely happier for it and everyone should be doing the same, seriously.

Alot of people don't realise it, but you NEVER see anyone after High School. EVER.

Well ok that isn't entirely true, you do run into the odd person at the store once ina blue moon. But for the most part, you won't hang out with them. And that's fine because people get on with their lives and move onto other things. People change, sometimes for the best and sometimes for the worst. But you have no control over that, you can only control your own outcome.

My advice for you is to just meet more people, your going into college so you will definately make new friends. And don't worry about feeling lonely, there are times when I don't want to hang out with anyone and I just want some alone time for myself you know. Just get out there and meet new people and you'll be fine. Also just get off this site if you feel it's taking too much of your time up, these are just anonymes people on here. They can't really be "real" friends you know, I come here to help people sometimes and get some help on games. But I don't really spend too much time on here as it's not really productive.

Although I do like the how the community here is vaired and there are alot of people to discuss current events with. And there is a wide range of opinions here so you get different perspectives.

That's kinda how I was my 2 years at community college (though I have a group of close friends). Now I'm living on campus at a university, and I'm not working, so maybe I'll turn into a social butterfly!Guppy507

I know exactly how you feel because I'm the exact same. I live at home, commute to school, finish class, go to work, go home rinse and repeat. On the other hand, I also have an incredibly crappy life at home as well with parents who live in the same house but don't talk to one another; their communication is yelling at me about how horrible the other one is but thats beside the point.

For some people it just seems so easy for them to make friends just by talking to strangers and it may be that easy for some people. FOr me tho, and I suspect alot of other people in this thread its tough to just walk up to a group of people at a social event and just "join in" on their conversation. I don't know how to strike up a convo without looking like an intruder or worse yet a creeper.

Sometimes the only people who end up being available for a conversation are also the other "loners" who in the end don't make any effort to maintain a conversation with me.

Overall really the only advice I can give is to just get through school as quick as possible and then hopefully create a social life at a new job with your new degree. Otherwise you can still always attempt to join some casual sporting groups, usually you'll have to pay some sort of fee for equipment or gym rentals but they're always open. My university has quite a few sporting clubs for things like tennis, badminton, fencing, volleyball, soccer, etc. where its just for people to find other players and come around to have a good time.

Same exact situation

I don't know what to do know because my dad had an affair and so hes gone, and now its just me and my mom.. and we live a couple hours away from friends and family.. so I feel like I can't go to a dorm or w/e because then my mom will be completely alone.

I know exactly how you feel because I'm the exact same. I live at home, commute to school, finish class, go to work, go home rinse and repeat. On the other hand, I also have an incredibly crappy life at home as well with parents who live in the same house but don't talk to one another; their communication is yelling at me about how horrible the other one is but thats beside the point.

For some people it just seems so easy for them to make friends just by talking to strangers and it may be that easy for some people. FOr me tho, and I suspect alot of other people in this thread its tough to just walk up to a group of people at a social event and just "join in" on their conversation. I don't know how to strike up a convo without looking like an intruder or worse yet a creeper.

Sometimes the only people who end up being available for a conversation are also the other "loners" who in the end don't make any effort to maintain a conversation with me.

Overall really the only advice I can give is to just get through school as quick as possible and then hopefully create a social life at a new job with your new degree. Otherwise you can still always attempt to join some casual sporting groups, usually you'll have to pay some sort of fee for equipment or gym rentals but they're always open. My university has quite a few sporting clubs for things like tennis, badminton, fencing, volleyball, soccer, etc. where its just for people to find other players and come around to have a good time.

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I can strike up a conversation with just about anyone. In fact, the only place where I get most of my face-to-face social interaction these days is with the customers at the supermarket where I work as a cashier. But, these people are just acquaintances, not friends.

Glad to hear that I am not alone. I am sure most people feel this way and are living out in frustration. I am always around people, but social norms prevent me from doing too much.

Well thats better off than me then. I go to social events and everyone is already in groups chatting away I just can't go up and join in without feeling like I'm intruding. It would be different if I knew someone at the event already or was introduced by someone to the people at the event but these are open functions that have no one specific host.

College was an awesome experience for me. In all honesty I do feel that I have a closer bond with the friends I made in college than the ones I've had in high school. It's been almost 2 years since I've graduated college and I still keep in touch with my college friends more than my friends from high school. lilasianwonder

I think that is true for most people.