Very low self-esteem - What are good books to help myself?

Firstly, if you met me, youd think that im confident, easy-going and generally nice to be around and i guess i am. The problem is, my self-esteem is very low. As a result, i am constantly worrying about what i need to say next to keep a conversation going. I instead end up asking too many questions, or killing it off, again because i feel that im not almost worthy enough to hold somebody elses attention.

On its own its bad, but what makes it worse is that it has made making friends for me VERY difficult. In fact i know many people at my university but again, very few that i can call friends, i would never call them on their phones let alone have chat with them on Facebook.

So yeah, i want to get over this issue badly, because its affecting me in many ways, what are some good books to help myself?

Catcher in the Rye. It will help you go from awkward but gentile wallflower to angsty, self-hating misanthrope, and then everyone will like you.

In my opinion, the only real way forward is to get to know yourself properly. The more you know your limits (limiting beliefs), the more you can work at moving past them and naturally be more confident. This will show off to the people around you.

How to do this? Maybe take a public speaking course. That helped me.

Also therapy is totally underated. No mumbo jumbo, its simply a forum for you to express your fears, without being judged.

The idea is that somewhere, somehow you created a fear of expressing yourself properly. maybe one experiance made you feel bad, maybe alot of small experianced did it. The point is that unless you find some place to release this,it will behard to be your natural confident self.

A good book to read might be, "Feel the fear and do it anyway". I have a more of spiritual approach. "Converstaions with God" worked for me if you can get past the title, its got very little to with religion. Otherwise just go to the self help section and pick a book that feels right to you. And don't give up till you get the answer your after.

I'm supposed to recomment a book, I guess. Read the following book by cd_rom:

Exercise, lose weight, join a sport, get good at something. Train for a 5K, then a 10K, then a mini-marathon. Try to do your first pull-up. Then do 10 pull-ups. Then bench-press 250. It does wonders for people.cd_rom

bench-press 250. cd_rom

Anything by Dostoyevsky

Idk but I'm in your same position buddy lol.... heh :(. I'm reading Influence the Psychology of Persuasion.

Self help books are a scam.

Low self-esteem could just be a symptom of a deeper issue, I suffer from Chronic Anxiety which low self esteem was just a symptom of. It got alot worse when i hit my 20's and it manifested itself into physical issues. My advice is that if you think its a serious issue that is effecting your life then getting professional help is worth while. The sooner the better.

Exercise, lose weight, join a sport, get good at something. Train for a 5K, then a 10K, then a mini-marathon. Try to do your first pull-up. Then do 10 pull-ups. Then bench-press 250. It does wonders for people.cd_rom

[QUOTE="cd_rom"]bench-press 250. Fightingfan

Firstly, if you met me, youd think that im confident, easy-going and generally nice to be around and i guess i am. The problem is, my self-esteem is very low. As a result, i am constantly worrying about what i need to say next to keep a conversation going. I instead end up asking too many questions, or killing it off, again because i feel that im not almost worthy enough to hold somebody elses attention.

On its own its bad, but what makes it worse is that it has made making friends for me VERY difficult. In fact i know many people at my university but again, very few that i can call friends, i would never call them on their phones let alone have chat with them on Facebook.

So yeah, i want to get over this issue badly, because its affecting me in many ways, what are some good books to help myself?

allsystemsphai

The Art of War and the buybull.

[QUOTE="cd_rom"]bench-press 250. Fightingfan

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[QUOTE="cd_rom"]bench-press 250. markop2003

And the guys who went and lost their hair. Losers.