What are you afraid of?

@korvus: Pretty much. It's a gamble since it usually depends on the place you end up.

Most of my grand parents were stuffed in places that seemed more like a clinic then a retirement home. Served porridge more or less every day cause "Some are old and can't chew, So it would be unfair and expensive to make two dinners"

Brought my grandma some soft chocolate once for her birthday when we visited back when I was little, nurse took it off the table as soon as she walked into the room and scolded us for bringing it. Then we were told to leave a half hour later on. Often had "accidents" and had to tend to herself afterwards or wait hours for help. They even managed to almost have her get an overdose of medication. And this was apparantly the nicest home around

So perhaps my view is a little biased, But If i'm put on a place like that. I'll probably go insane and not only be a massive hassle for the nurses and such, but I'll also get ahold of a lawyer, get them to sell everything I own and hand the money off to "Doctors without borders" or something so the family won't get a cent out of me.

@Treflis: Yeah, around here you get a menu to choose from and there's group activities planned every day...most retirement homes also have their own buses to take them out somewhere nice at least twice a week.

Sounds better then what we have here.

It is one of the largest things we should really improve here in Norway.

@Treflis: Yeah, it's a lot better than where I come from as well. The quality of such institutions here (Netherlands) really impressed me and I was even more impressed when I learned that a lot of them are almost entirely payed by the government. Where I come from (Portugal) most elderly get 40€ a month and that's it...whatever they do with it is their problem...it breaks my heart to see elderly at pharmacies with tears in their eyes trying to decide if they're getting their heart medication OR their asthma/blood pressure/whatever medication. I have more than once bought their medication for them but I obviously can't do it every month and for everyone.

@Kevlar101: I share a very similar fear to yours

My fear is losing my mind. I pride myself on having a very clear stress free mind. I can deal with stuff that would break the average person but losing my memory to something like dementia is scary. Everything you are is in your brain, your personality, thoughts, feelings and your memory. Lose your mind and you pretty much lose yourself.

My fear is heights. I cannot even be more than 10 feet up before I start to shake, legs give out and I get vertigo and nauseous. Even thinking about heights will give me vertigo.

detroit

not ever getting a gf and a decent career.