What Are Your Thoughts on a Open Relationship?

I think it's Disgusting.

I think it's Disgusting.

Snipes_2

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I think it's Disgusting.

warownslife

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[QUOTE="Snipes_2"]

I think it's Disgusting.

Snipes_2

I was just wondering what OT's stance is on the idea of an open relationship. I know OT is pretty liberal, but I have never seen this kind of moral dilemma covered. So I just want your opinions.

Jazz_Fan

Do I care if some other couple want to ? No, go ahead if it makes both of you happy. As for if I would do it, somethign I don't know if I could answer unless I had to. Depends on how much I loved her I guess.

I wouldn't be able to do it. If i am emotionally invested in someone, that far outweighs any physical attraction i may have for another person. Plus, i am the jealous type, just seeing my partner flirting with another person would drive me mental, let alone them hooking up.

That being said, i don't care if other couples are in open relationships, whatever works for them is cool with me.

Sigh_han

Of course, my favorite words this subject perfectly. =3

Well, that would pretty much defeat the whole purpose of being in a relationship... I don't see the point.Laserwolf65

I wouldnt want to be part of one, but i dont care if other people have them.

its a neat concept, but human nature generally does not allow it.

I know a few people that tried it, and they are incredibly open-minded, generous, etc, etc, and it all ended in bitterness and resentment for all parties.

Forever is a mighty long time to be with one person but i'd rather be single than be in a relationship where you just sleep around. Why even call it a relationship? Just go sleep around.

I don't like em'. I tend to get emotionally attached in a realtionship.

I don't care what others do, but I wouldn't be part of one. mattbbpl

Pretty much this.

Anytime I've ever been in a relationship I've always had eyes for that person. If you truly love someone and they truly make you happy, why should you need to persue other partners?

A lot of harsh words towards open relationships, I was just recently in one and we'll continue to pursue only open relationships both on physical and an emotional level.

I find it rather easy to love more than one person @ a time for various reasons. So much in fact that I find it absolutely mind-boggling that people choose to box themselves into a corner by having to "pick" only one person to love @ any one given time. That love will wax and wane through the times and perhaps your current partner or future partner may not be able to fulfill you adequately in certain aspects big or small. So why not let go of those feelings of betrayal or jealousy and instead accept the fact that being monogamous holds many pitfalls and if anything else in the country/world/universe had a 50% failure rate would you continue down that path? I think not. And with that I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes on the matter,

" we happily accept that we can love more than one child,parent, sibling, teacher, friend or pet. When you think of it like that , isn't the total exclusiveness that we expect of spousal love positively weird?"
~ Richard Dawkins

I generally don't care about other folks' relationship situations. Whatever works for you.

I generally don't care about other folks' relationship situations. Whatever works for you.

binpink

I knew that right when I clicked on this thread, you were gonna say exactly this. :P

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I generally don't care about other folks' relationship situations. Whatever works for you.

no_more_fayth

I knew that right when I clicked on this thread, you were gonna say exactly this. :P

Either you're a mind reader or I'm terribly predictable. Likely both.

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[QUOTE="binpink"]

I generally don't care about other folks' relationship situations. Whatever works for you.

binpink

I knew that right when I clicked on this thread, you were gonna say exactly this. :P

Either you're a mind reader or I'm terribly predictable. Likely both.

Neither.

I just know you don't like stepping on people's shoes.

I don't care what others do, but I wouldn't be part of one. mattbbpl

Either you're a mind reader or I'm terribly predictable. Likely both.

binpink

He is as good with predictions as Michael Patcher. So it's most likely the second.

[QUOTE="binpink"]

Either you're a mind reader or I'm terribly predictable. Likely both.

CocoMarshmellow

He is as good with predictions as Michael Patcher. So it's most likely the second.

Who's that? :|

A lot of harsh words towards open relationships, I was just recently in one and we'll continue to pursue only open relationships both on physical and an emotional level.

I find it rather easy to love more than one person @ a time for various reasons. So much in fact that I find it absolutely mind-boggling that people choose to box themselves into a corner by having to "pick" only one person to love @ any one given time. That love will wax and wane through the times and perhaps your current partner or future partner may not be able to fulfill you adequately in certain aspects big or small. So why not let go of those feelings of betrayal or jealousy and instead accept the fact that being monogamous holds many pitfalls and if anything else in the country/world/universe had a 50% failure rate would you continue down that path? I think not. And with that I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes on the matter,

" we happily accept that we can love more than one child,parent, sibling, teacher, friend or pet. When you think of it like that , isn't the total exclusiveness that we expect of spousal love positively weird?"
~ Richard Dawkins

XturnalS

As far as I know we don't sleep with our children, parents, siblings or pets unless we live in some small redneck town down south. So what's positively weird to me is that he and you would equate that love with spousal love.

I'm all for people doing whatever they want in their bedrooms and I was actually with you until you used that quote. I don't think it is very well thought out.

Neither.

I just know you don't like stepping on people's shoes.

no_more_fayth

Guess so. :P

[QUOTE="XturnalS"]

A lot of harsh words towards open relationships, I was just recently in one and we'll continue to pursue only open relationships both on physical and an emotional level.

I find it rather easy to love more than one person @ a time for various reasons. So much in fact that I find it absolutely mind-boggling that people choose to box themselves into a corner by having to "pick" only one person to love @ any one given time. That love will wax and wane through the times and perhaps your current partner or future partner may not be able to fulfill you adequately in certain aspects big or small. So why not let go of those feelings of betrayal or jealousy and instead accept the fact that being monogamous holds many pitfalls and if anything else in the country/world/universe had a 50% failure rate would you continue down that path? I think not. And with that I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes on the matter,

" we happily accept that we can love more than one child,parent, sibling, teacher, friend or pet. When you think of it like that , isn't the total exclusiveness that we expect of spousal love positively weird?"
~ Richard Dawkins

VladJasonDrac

As far as I know we don't sleep with our children, parents, siblings or pets unless we live in some small redneck town down south. So what's positively weird to me is that he and you would equate that love with spousal love.

I'm all for people doing whatever they want in their bedrooms and I was actually with you until you used that quote. I don't think it is very well thought out.

What makes that "love" any more special in its need to be exclusive? Many a parent would lay down their lives for their children, isn't that type of love one could have be considered to be more special than spousal love? What makes spousal love so much more special that it must be exclusively with only one person?

As I've said before I've loved people and connected with people on a physical and emotional level concurrently and recognized that each individual could provide me with happiness and I didn't need to "pick" one to artificially make it more special then what it was in its current state.

King Solomon had many wives. But they didn't have many husbands. That's where I stand on open relationships :P

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[QUOTE="XturnalS"]

A lot of harsh words towards open relationships, I was just recently in one and we'll continue to pursue only open relationships both on physical and an emotional level.

I find it rather easy to love more than one person @ a time for various reasons. So much in fact that I find it absolutely mind-boggling that people choose to box themselves into a corner by having to "pick" only one person to love @ any one given time. That love will wax and wane through the times and perhaps your current partner or future partner may not be able to fulfill you adequately in certain aspects big or small. So why not let go of those feelings of betrayal or jealousy and instead accept the fact that being monogamous holds many pitfalls and if anything else in the country/world/universe had a 50% failure rate would you continue down that path? I think not. And with that I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes on the matter,

" we happily accept that we can love more than one child,parent, sibling, teacher, friend or pet. When you think of it like that , isn't the total exclusiveness that we expect of spousal love positively weird?"
~ Richard Dawkins

XturnalS

As far as I know we don't sleep with our children, parents, siblings or pets unless we live in some small redneck town down south. So what's positively weird to me is that he and you would equate that love with spousal love.

I'm all for people doing whatever they want in their bedrooms and I was actually with you until you used that quote. I don't think it is very well thought out.

What makes that "love" any more special in its need to be exclusive? Many a parent would lay down their lives for their children, isn't that type of love one could have be considered to be more special than spousal love? What makes spousal love so much more special that it must be exclusively with only one person?

As I've said before I've loved people and connected with people on a physical and emotional level concurrently and recognized that each individual could provide me with happiness and I didn't need to "pick" one to artificially make it more special then what it was in its current state.

You don't have to justify your choices to anyone. They are your choices to make and I personally am not saying you are wrong. I myself would find it extremely hard to be with one person for the rest of my life. That is a huge endeavor that numerous people say they are ready for but fail at miserably. The percentages are against you from the start.

However I am saying tossing around a quote that equates spousal love, a love where reproduction takes place should not be compared to the love of a pet or a child or sibling or parent. That is all lol

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[QUOTE="VladJasonDrac"]

As far as I know we don't sleep with our children, parents, siblings or pets unless we live in some small redneck town down south. So what's positively weird to me is that he and you would equate that love with spousal love.

I'm all for people doing whatever they want in their bedrooms and I was actually with you until you used that quote. I don't think it is very well thought out.

VladJasonDrac

What makes that "love" any more special in its need to be exclusive? Many a parent would lay down their lives for their children, isn't that type of love one could have be considered to be more special than spousal love? What makes spousal love so much more special that it must be exclusively with only one person?

As I've said before I've loved people and connected with people on a physical and emotional level concurrently and recognized that each individual could provide me with happiness and I didn't need to "pick" one to artificially make it more special then what it was in its current state.

You don't have to justify your choices to anyone. They are your choices to make and I personally am not saying you are wrong. I myself would find it extremely hard to be with one person for the rest of my life. That is a huge endeavor that numerous people say they are ready for but fail at miserably. The percentages are against you from the start.

However I am saying tossing around a quote that equates spousal love, a love where reproduction takes place should not be compared to the love of a pet or a child or sibling or parent. That is all lol

I know I don't need to justify, but you sir do need to justify why spousal love shouldn't be equated to the other types when the entire point is to show how odd it is that spousal love needs to be placed on this pedestal apart from the others?

Justify why reproduction somehow trumps the other loves? And what of gay and lesbian couples who without outside assistance cannot reproduce. What of their love? If its simply sex, justify why sex elevates spousal love to another plain when I can love somebody deeply without ever having any type of physical relations with them.

What are you talking about? This topic has been done less than the others, but still done to death.X360PS3AMD05

I would never want to be in one.ghoklebutter

Hit it and quit it. One night stands. Are both okay in my book. But I dont get, or like the idea of open relationships. Why would I share this friends with benefit person who I am in an open relationship with, to somebody else? Makes no sense. And I also despise "swingers." It's repulsive.

If others are fine being in one, I don't mind. I also would not mind being in one, if I did not love or care about my partner but was forced to be in a relationship with him or her . They can see whoever they want, just as long as they keep up appearances and pretend they are with me.

I wouldn't like to be in a open relationship.

[QUOTE="Laserwolf65"]Well, that would pretty much defeat the whole purpose of being in a relationship... I don't see the point.Baconbits2004

Haha, would never work for me, I'm jealousy personified.