If those who engage in "casual sex" have reason to believe they can deal with the potential consequences, then it's not particularily unethical. I could imagine that sex without a relationship isn't something one would feel good about in the long run though.
I've always had a hard time believing that people who engage in casual sex really have no emotional attachment to the whole ordeal. Unless it really means nothing to them, i've always been confused when i see people who are just like "yeaahhhh casual sex is fun"...i always think that deep down theymust beupsetthat they don't have a real relationship andthat theyhave resorted to something so impersonal (impersonal IMO).
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I am being a little hypocritical here, though. But the best sex in my opinion/experienceis the kind where you actualy...you know...care?
My thoughts are, there is absolutely nothing wrong with two consenting adults enjoying each other's bodies. I mean, its something our bodies are designed to desire to do, and it feels good. So if two people want to do it, regardless of emotional attachment, and can do it safely, why not?
Good call on making this on a sunday morning as well :P
This is totally a personal choice. Sex, to me, isn't a fundamentally immoral act and doesn't require a long-term commitment or marriage to justify it.Paladin_King
If people wnt to bang it out for no rason let them. I see no reason for them not to. As others have stated it's definitely not the "most" romantic thing you can do ith a woman/man.
Others can do it, but it isn't for me (unless I am wasted...) and I honestly think it can reflect on ones personality negatively, depending on the person and situations that is.
I had a thing you would call "friend with benefits" and it was great, now I'm in a relationship it feels better with emotions involved with my partner. :)
there's no such thing as "casual sex". One or the other or both allways ends up with feelings. The concept of the condom boggled my mind when I first heard of it. I thought: "Why would two people have sex if they don't know each other well enough to know if they have a disease?"
there's no such thing as "casual sex". One or the other or both allways ends up with feelings. The concept of the condom boggled my mind when I first heard of it. I thought: "Why would two people have sex if they don't know each other well enough to know if they have a disease?"GmasterRED
That's not true. I've had a best friend or 2 that was willing to do it with me. Personally I didn't want to as it can mess up a good friendship, but I know many that do engage in ti and have no feelings like that for each other at all. Also look at porn stars. Do you think every guy and girl in a scene develop feelings for one another?
I think its okay as long as thats what both parties are looking for.
Now if you have a guy lying to girls promising the world and eternal love, only to get into their pants and move on to the next.. well thats just ****ed.
[QUOTE="GmasterRED"]there's no such thing as "casual sex". One or the other or both allways ends up with feelings. The concept of the condom boggled my mind when I first heard of it. I thought: "Why would two people have sex if they don't know each other well enough to know if they have a disease?"bigblunt537
That's not true. I've had a best friend or 2 that was willing to do it with me. Personally I didn't want to as it can mess up a good friendship, but I know many that do engage in ti and have no feelings like that for each other at all. Also look at porn stars. Do you think every guy and girl in a scene develop feelings for one another?
But you see, it still messes up the relationship. The girls were lying when they said they just wanted sex. Of course they were into you romantically, they just didn't tell you. It happens a lot.
[QUOTE="GmasterRED"]there's no such thing as "casual sex". One or the other or both allways ends up with feelings. The concept of the condom boggled my mind when I first heard of it. I thought: "Why would two people have sex if they don't know each other well enough to know if they have a disease?"GmasterRED
That's not true. I've had a best friend or 2 that was willing to do it with me. Personally I didn't want to as it can mess up a good friendship, but I know many that do engage in ti and have no feelings like that for each other at all. Also look at porn stars. Do you think every guy and girl in a scene develop feelings for one another?
But you see, it still messes up the relationship. The girls were lying when they said they just wanted sex. Of course they were into you romantically, they just didn't tell you. It happens a lot.
Maybe one of them was, but the other one definitely wasn't I actually tried to go out with her and she rejected me. She had and still has 0 interest in me. She doesn't think I'm ugly or anything but I felt more like a best friend to her. She was also a virgin at the time. Love that girl though she is my true best amiga :).
I find mindless sex boring i like it wihen it has passion and emotion involved with it, just doing a random or someone i barely know seems weird to me.
I find mindless sex boring i like it wihen it has passion and emotion involved with it, just doing a random or someone i barely know seems weird to me.
Blake135
Why do they have to be random? What if it was your reallllllly hot friend you've known for years?
I find mindless sex boring i like it wihen it has passion and emotion involved with it, just doing a random or someone i barely know seems weird to me.
bigblunt537
Why do they have to be random? What if it was your reallllllly hot friend you've known for years?
Thats slightly peaked my interest haha but i rather have close friends then a f buddy, sex with friends becomes complicated, bad experiences before =s.
I find mindless sex boring i like it wihen it has passion and emotion involved with it, just doing a random or someone i barely know seems weird to me.
Blake135
Why do they have to be random? What if it was your reallllllly hot friend you've known for years?
Thats slightly peaked my interest haha but i rather have close friends then a f buddy, sex with friends becomes complicated, bad experiences before =s.
Lol I see what you mean. I personally easily get emotionally involved so thats why I chose to not do it as well. Personally only like to do it with someone I have interest in, but I see no problem with casual sex in general, but if the opportunity did present itself and I was extremely horny then "I'm going innn. And Ima go hard"(song) lmao
i'm all for smashing and dashing... that's just me, for those that prefer to be romantically involved with another person that's cool too. I would rather settle down a little later in the upcoming years
While it would be better in a meaningful relationship, I do not look upon Casual sex as being bad aslong as you make sure you protect yourself and your partner. Would I have casual sex if the opportunity presented itself?, Yes. It is a personal choice though.
Why do they have to be random? What if it was your reallllllly hot friend you've known for years?
bigblunt537
Thats slightly peaked my interest haha but i rather have close friends then a f buddy, sex with friends becomes complicated, bad experiences before =s.
Lol I see what you mean. I personally easily get emotionally involved so thats why I chose to not do it as well. Personally only like to do it with someone I have interest in, but I see no problem with casual sex in general, but if the opportunity did present itself and I was extremely horny then "I'm going innn. And Ima go hard"(song) lmao
Lol Yeah fair enough i mean i dont care what people do with their lives its really their choice, sex is a great thing if your in the right state of mind. Made up my mind some time ago im still young but awhile ago i actually had a relationship were all she really wanted was sex and i wanted something more. It was enjoyable ill admit but still pointless to me i just like it with emotion it seems more fulfilling to me personally. But like you said i probably would given the opportunity as im sure most guys would, we are animals after all so lets do it like they do it on the discovery channel =p.
[QUOTE="Blake135"] Thats slightly peaked my interest haha but i rather have close friends then a f buddy, sex with friends becomes complicated, bad experiences before =s.
Blake135
Lol I see what you mean. I personally easily get emotionally involved so thats why I chose to not do it as well. Personally only like to do it with someone I have interest in, but I see no problem with casual sex in general, but if the opportunity did present itself and I was extremely horny then "I'm going innn. And Ima go hard"(song) lmao
Lol Yeah fair enough i mean i dont care what people do with their lives its really their choice, sex is a great thing if your in the right state of mind. Made up my mind some time ago im still young but awhile ago i actually had a relationship were all she really wanted was sex and i wanted something more. It was enjoyable ill admit but still pointless to me i just like it with emotion it seems more fulfilling to me personally. But like you said i probably would given the opportunity as im sure most guys would, we are animals after all so lets do it like they do it on the discovery channel =p.
Lol sounds like my ex girl friend. Although she did want emotions she loved sex and it actually got annoying. She didn't want to to do anything other than that. Although she loved me it drove me crazy. I guess be careful of what you wish for!
Lol I see what you mean. I personally easily get emotionally involved so thats why I chose to not do it as well. Personally only like to do it with someone I have interest in, but I see no problem with casual sex in general, but if the opportunity did present itself and I was extremely horny then "I'm going innn. And Ima go hard"(song) lmao
bigblunt537
Lol Yeah fair enough i mean i dont care what people do with their lives its really their choice, sex is a great thing if your in the right state of mind. Made up my mind some time ago im still young but awhile ago i actually had a relationship were all she really wanted was sex and i wanted something more. It was enjoyable ill admit but still pointless to me i just like it with emotion it seems more fulfilling to me personally. But like you said i probably would given the opportunity as im sure most guys would, we are animals after all so lets do it like they do it on the discovery channel =p.
Lol sounds like my ex girl friend. Although she did want emotions she loved sex and it actually got annoying. She didn't want to to do anything other than that. Although she loved me it drove me crazy. I guess be careful of what you wish for!
Yeah basically the same situation as mine all the time just begged me for it wherever eventually got annoying, and i eventually got dumped. Best thing to happen to me tho she was alittle bit of a *nutter*.
well considering the only times i've had sex, i was not in a relationship with the other person, i guess i have no choice but to be okay with it. though i would prefer to be in a relationship with the person.
I fully support it, but I think it depends on who it is for there to be real affection. You should show affection in casual sex too, but not the kind you would for somebody you love.
Better than formal sex. A tux is such a pain to get off.Bourbons3
I nominate this post for excessive amounts of win. Also, lot of high horses here. Some of ya might want to ride a little further into the sunset before uttering the word "never" in this context. Besides, it's a not big deal. It's alright for the newness but it wears thin quickly if that's all ya got. Sex is better in a trusting relationship; I'd highly doubt I could get all the things on a one night stand that I could out of my gf, I'll leave it at that.
Yeah, its only sex ? I don't really see it as something to be shared with one person. Not only is it good exercise for your body, its also a good stress relief.
Couldn't care less what people do, it's foreign ground for me though, I've been dating the same girl since I was at an apt age for dating (16 for those wondering, 20 now) but from what I have observed of some friends, casual sex doesn't bring any good, and sometimes it can have negative affects on a persons self worth or self esteem, but that's just what I've observed. don't take my word for it.
I think sex without emotional connection is pretty worthless. I think sex without commitment is cheap. I think it disrespects yourself and the other person. It's a shortcut to avoid having to demonstrate the real discipline that it takes to wait until you are in a committed relationship. From my experience it seriously devalues what physical intimacy can mean when used in a committed, loving, monogamous relationship. While sex is far from the only benefit you get in a committed relationship with someone that you know well, it is the physical indicator of reaching a certain comfort level and familiarity with that person.
I laugh when people say that sex is just a physical function, and that human physical desires to have casual sex are proof that it doesn't mean anything special. To me that's like saying that everybody should get a trophy just because they want one. No.. to feel the full physical and emotional benefit of it, and not cheapen the experience, you have to work for it. Sex can be even more special because it takes 2 people working for that relationship together. The excuse that it's "good physical exercise" is laughable too. If you need exercise, go for a run or a swim. Mating is meant for mates.
From my lengthy experience of listening to other people's stories, a lot of the times casual sex doesn't remain casual for long, and one person ends up getting emotionally screwed up. It always results in misery for one person, unless you're both cold-hearted bastards.
Sex really only serves one purpose and that is to reproduce. When it comes down to it, it's actually a really gross thing if you think about it but very natural because many animals on this planet use it to reproduce including humans. Humanity usually views this way of thinking as "oh this guy has never had sex lolol" immature comments etc I don't believe in having sex with multiple partners or people you're only friends with because if a mistake does ever happen and you do end up getting pregnant (or your girlfriend) then you will be faced with the decision to destroy a unborn baby or keep it and ultimatly it's the kid who has to deal with the mistakes the parents made.
At least if you are in love with somebody and they do get pregnant it is much easier on the kid if he is born because he has parents that are together and if the kid is aborted at least your love for that person doesn't die and you can comfort each other. Sex is as natural as going to the bathroom but something that I believe should only be shared between two people who care for each other. It really would be a gross thing if we lacked the ability to be attracted to each other and have orgasms. Think about it, sticking your penis where some girl goes to the bathroom. If it wasn't for attraction and the excitement we get from it I think humans would find it very gross.
It depends completely on the situation. I for example, would be fine getting into a relationship with my best friend (who is a girl) right now, but not in a FWB situation. If I didn't care about her as much, maybe I would persue that, but I couldn't have a half-baked relationship with her at this point just for it to be potentially taken away. I need the whole package.
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