What did I do wrong? (Girl Topic)

A couple of months ago, I had a very good friend of mine that I eventually fell for. I thought she liked me, based on the way she talked to me and the way she treated me. However, when I asked her out last month she shot me down and said that we were only good friends and all that good stuff. Well, we still were friends and we still talked. All of the sudden, she stops communicating with me altogether (avoiding me at school, not texting me back, etc.). Note that ever since i asked her out I never hit on her or anything i just treated her as a normal friend. It doesn't make any sense that she would hate me or something cuz I never really did anything?

Anybody have any clue why? I'm just curious why she's ignoring me because I have a very unforgiving conscience.

I sense there is more to this than meets the eye. Unless she is just being a jerk, you obviously must have done something to upset her.

I sense there is more to this than meets the eye. Unless she is just being a jerk, you obviously must have done something to upset her.

foxhound_fox

Generally I thought the rule was that unless its with benefits its best just to stay friends. Of course most people don't like to talk to me so your on your own. Perhaps she was afriad you'd still harbor the same feelings.

Generally I thought the rule was that unless its with benefits its best just to stay friends. Of course most people don't like to talk to me so your on your own. Perhaps she was afriad you'd still harbor the same feelings.

Wilfred_Owen

A couple of months ago, I had a very good friend of mine that I eventually fell for. I thought she liked me, based on the way she talked to me and the way she treated me. However, when I asked her out last month she shot me down and said that we were only good friends and all that good stuff. Well, we still were friends and we still talked. All of the sudden, she stops communicating with me altogether (avoiding me at school, not texting me back, etc.). Note that ever since i asked her out I never hit on her or anything i just treated her as a normal friend. It doesn't make any sense that she would hate me or something cuz I never really did anything?

Anybody have any clue why? I'm just curious why she's ignoring me because I have a very unforgiving conscience.

Guntrix7

honestly, since she didn't have feelings for you there is a good chance that now she feels uncomfortable around you because you stepped across the friend to more than a friend boundary. maybe she found a guy that she's into, but now she's worried that it may hurt you so she's keeping her distance. finally, maybe she's just been busy with life in general and your reading to far into the whole thing. give it a week or two and if it hasn't changed then just ask her if something has happened to cause the distance between you two. good luck.

first thought would be she likes somebody else and has the decency not to be all up close and personal with a friend that has a crush on her while trying to date somebody else.XilePrincess

I hate highschool drama... TC is in the right on this one. He kept it platonic in the end, and she all of a sudden flips out.

1. You waited too long. Once you become "friends" it's almost impossible to go beyond that. If you like a girl, ask her out as soon as possible.

2. Just because a girl wants to be friends with you doesn't mean she wants more than that.

3, She is ignoring you because it's probably awkward after she shot you down and she wants to prevent you from asking her out again.

Okay. One thing you've gotta realise is that girls can be cruel and heartless.

What happened here I'm guessing was that she was being very comfortable with you and was able to act like her free little self. That in turn lead you to believe she was interested. All girls do this at one point or another with a male friend and they usually don't realise what they've done until it's too late. So now that she's realised she's lead you on, she wants you to rectify the problem by leading you to believe she's not interested. In her small mind the only way to do that is not to be nice to you and to just ignore you.

Solution?

Find another girl or somehow deal with it. Or both. =/

1. You waited too long. Once you become "friends" it's almost impossible to go beyond that. If you like a girl, ask her out as soon as possible.

2. Just because a girl wants to be friends with you doesn't mean she wants more than that.

3, She is ignoring you because it's probably awkward after she shot her down and she wants to prevent you from asking her out again.

Rocky32189

1. That depends on the girl, some likes time, some likes spontanious crap.

2. True

3. TC didn't make any advances (atleast that what he says), otherwise if she can't get over herself and just be friends in general, then she needs to shave her head.

Yea pretty common behavior if you ask me. Never ask a girl out unless you have some idea that she likes you first especially if you're firends. It becomes akward for her after she shoots you down. And it will always be in the back of ehr mind when she sees you.

you did nothing wrong. i think she just feels awkward being around you because she shot you down.

Well she is ignoring you and treating you bad then move on, you dont need her as a friend. You need someone who respects you, i wouldnt waste my time if i were you.Dr_Brocoli

A couple of months ago, I had a very good friend of mine that I eventually fell for. I thought she liked me, based on the way she talked to me and the way she treated me. However, when I asked her out last month she shot me down and said that we were only good friends and all that good stuff. Well, we still were friends and we still talked. All of the sudden, she stops communicating with me altogether (avoiding me at school, not texting me back, etc.). Note that ever since i asked her out I never hit on her or anything i just treated her as a normal friend. It doesn't make any sense that she would hate me or something cuz I never really did anything?

Anybody have any clue why? I'm just curious why she's ignoring me because I have a very unforgiving conscience.

A couple of months ago, I had a very good friend of mine that I eventually fell for. I thought she liked me, based on the way she talked to me and the way she treated me. However, when I asked her out last month she shot me down and said that we were only good friends and all that good stuff. Well, we still were friends and we still talked. All of the sudden, she stops communicating with me altogether (avoiding me at school, not texting me back, etc.). Note that ever since i asked her out I never hit on her or anything i just treated her as a normal friend. It doesn't make any sense that she would hate me or something cuz I never really did anything?

Anybody have any clue why? I'm just curious why she's ignoring me because I have a very unforgiving conscience.

Give it more time.

I mean it's gonna take time for her to get over the fact that you are attracted to her that way. She said no, so don't push it.

so she doesnt talk or text, call you anymore?? you should do the same, why would you want to waste your time with her.

Okay. One thing you've gotta realise is that girls can be cruel and heartless.

What happened here I'm guessing was that she was being very comfortable with you and was able to act like her free little self. That in turn lead you to believe she was interested. All girls do this at one point or another with a male friend and they usually don't realise what they've done until it's too late. So now that she's realised she's lead you on, she wants you to rectify the problem by leading you to believe she's not interested. In her small mind the only way to do that is not to be nice to you and to just ignore you.

Solution?

Find another girl or somehow deal with it. Or both. =/

She's trying to avoid the awkwardness of talking to you.

[QUOTE="Serraph105"][QUOTE="Guntrix7"]

A couple of months ago, I had a very good friend of mine that I eventually fell for. I thought she liked me, based on the way she talked to me and the way she treated me. However, when I asked her out last month she shot me down and said that we were only good friends and all that good stuff. Well, we still were friends and we still talked. All of the sudden, she stops communicating with me altogether (avoiding me at school, not texting me back, etc.). Note that ever since i asked her out I never hit on her or anything i just treated her as a normal friend. It doesn't make any sense that she would hate me or something cuz I never really did anything?

Anybody have any clue why? I'm just curious why she's ignoring me because I have a very unforgiving conscience.

trubluah

See this is why you don't come to GS for girl advice. Confronting her will just make you sound needy and desperate, not to mention a bit of a creep.

Why don't you like me anymore?? Please like me, PLEASE!

Here is how you find out:

Ask her.

[QUOTE="trubluah"][QUOTE="Serraph105"] go to her place and force her to talk this could destroy your friendship (but then again since that has already happened who cares) or you could find out why she is ticked and possibly get to inform her that she is wrongbobaban

See this is why you don't come to GS for girl advice. Confronting her will just make you sound needy and desperate, not to mention a bit of a creep.

Why don't you like me anymore?? Please like me, PLEASE!

Here is how you find out:

Ask her.

[QUOTE="McJugga"]

Here is how you find out:

Ask her.

Serraph105

Not a good idea.

If TC has been trying to get in contact with her, she might think he's desperate. If you need to know right away, just go up and talk to her like it never happend.

[QUOTE="Serraph105"][QUOTE="McJugga"]

Here is how you find out:

Ask her.

sinistergoggles

Not a good idea.

If TC has been trying to get in contact with her, she might think he's desperate. If you need to know right away, just go up and talk to her like it never happend.

[QUOTE="sinistergoggles"]

thank you how hard is thatSerraph105

Not a good idea.

If TC has been trying to get in contact with her, she might think he's desperate. If you need to know right away, just go up and talk to her like it never happend.

She's probably just over it and over you. If she'd come right out and told you she didn't want to talk to you anymore, you'd probably be writing here about that instead. So I don't think she could've done anything "right" or that you wouldn't think was hurtful. In the mean time if you were just friends and nothing happened, move on. You may not appreciate being left in the dark but it's not a good idea to dwell on someone you didn't get THAT close to anyway. No need to obsess or give yourself unneccessary drama.

[QUOTE="trubluah"][QUOTE="Serraph105"] go to her place and force her to talk this could destroy your friendship (but then again since that has already happened who cares) or you could find out why she is ticked and possibly get to inform her that she is wrongbobaban

See this is why you don't come to GS for girl advice. Confronting her will just make you sound needy and desperate, not to mention a bit of a creep.

Why don't you like me anymore?? Please like me, PLEASE!

[QUOTE="sinistergoggles"]

[QUOTE="Serraph105"] thank you how hard is thatGuntrix7

Not a good idea.

If TC has been trying to get in contact with her, she might think he's desperate. If you need to know right away, just go up and talk to her like it never happend.

becouse women are freaking insane and difficult

I can definitely sympathize with you TC. I know what it's like to think one thing about a girl, think she thinks the same thing about you, then have it all blow up in your face. All I can really say is give it time. Give yourself a little bit of time to get over her, then try talking again, and if she's still uncomfortable around you let her know that you're past your feelings.

I see that I was all wrong. Well, at least you know what to do now. :P

Sorries.

If you can't or don't want to talk to her directly, then maybe you should ask her friends instead.

becouse women are freaking insane and difficult

legend26