What do you think about online dating?

Ok so, I'm just wondering what are your views about it. Does it work? Do you think it's natural? Pros cons?

I think that it is very risky. I mean, we dont know if the people we are contacting is really the person that he/she says he/she is unless he/she uses a web camera.Miroku32

Honestly, I find it a little strange. Going out and getting some social contact is good for people. But I guess if it works for some people, all the power to them.

Seems fine. The only thing your risking is the chance that the person on the other side may not be of the opposite gender. O_o

yeah that little hottie you are talking to is probably this

Two friends of mine met via online dating and later met and now live together. It can work, sometimes it can't.

I think meeting people online is fine, even developing a crush/like for them, but for anything more serious you need to get face-to-face. Assuming both parties are honest, you're going to fall in love with someone who is a seperate person to who they are face-to-face, and when those two people meet it will be difficult. If an online relationship goes on for some time then it's likely the parties will forget they're in love and still see other people--though that happens face-to-face anyway.

I don't care, however it's not for me. I'm happy for the people that do have success with online dating.

Honestly, I find it a little strange. Going out and getting some social contact is good for people. But I guess if it works for some people, all the power to them.

redstorm72

Then you don't get what online dating is. You're not going on dates while online, you're meeting people, chatting, talking over webcam and then if you click with the person you can meet in real life. There is plenty of social contact to be had.

I think online dating is more likely to produce a positive outcome than just randomly meeting someone at a bar. If you set up a date with someone you've met online, you are most likely going to have some conversation and get to know each other's backgrounds before your first date. At least that way, you won't be meeting a total stranger. You will know whether or not the two of you share common interests.

I think that it is very risky. I mean, we dont know if the people we are contacting is really the person that he/she says he/she is unless he/she uses a web camera.Miroku32

I think meeting someone online has just as much chance of success as meeting in person. Two of my friends met online, and have been together for a while now. Their relationship doesn't have any less value just because they started it on the Internet.Bourbons3

Ok so, I'm just wondering what are your views about it. Does it work? Do you think it's natural? Pros cons?

Furi-Kun

I used to have a stigma about it but I know so many of my friends who do it now because they just do not have the time to go out or just gave up (and I dont blame them) due to all the creepers at bars and clubs... and I have seen a lot of success stories about it. As someone said, in this day and age - it is just as valid as anything else.

[QUOTE="redstorm72"]

Honestly, I find it a little strange. Going out and getting some social contact is good for people. But I guess if it works for some people, all the power to them.

Large_Soda

Then you don't get what online dating is. You're not going on dates while online, you're meeting people, chatting, talking over webcam and then if you click with the person you can meet in real life. There is plenty of social contact to be had.

True enough. I guess I'm just so used to the rabid facebook users who never talk face to face anymore, but still think they have a social life.

Personality matching is probably a heck of a lot better of a method than going to some place and hoping to find someone, especially if "some place" is a bar. I seriously don't get the idea of trying to find a date at a bar. That seems like one of the worst places one could go.

On one level it seems kind of odd to boil compatibility down to a database of numbers, but it has to be better than not using any criteria at all other than propinquity, right? I kind of think the whole concept of explicitly searching for a companion is kind of lame and almost superficial in a way, but that's just me. I'm not one of those people who needs to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship (as opposed to having someone in particular in mind). I'm quite content to spend a significant chunk of my time alone anyway. I like quiet. Actually, I wish I had a lot more of it than I currently do. :P

So, I think if one is explicitly setting out with the intention of finding a girlfriend or boyfriend, then using one of these dating sites that matches personality profiles is probably one of the more effective ways of doing so. Personally, I think the whole idea of even explicitly looking for a relationship is kind of a hollow endeavor in itself though. It just seems to me that if someone is actively trying to force themselves into a relationship (without having a particular person in mind that they happened to meet somehow), it's usually only going to lead to disappointment.

Why does everyone think you have to find someone in a bar or club? Life exists outside bars and clubs.....LJS9502_basic

bunch of losers telling other ppl false info about them selfs

tahts all

bunch of losers telling other ppl false info about them selfs

tahts all

hiphopballer

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Why does everyone think you have to find someone in a bar or club? Life exists outside bars and clubs.....Sajedene

I've never tried it myself, but I'd think it would be very effective, because you can find someone with the same interests and beliefs as you do without having to go through the hassle of asking them.

EDIT: Asking them would be easy though, so that's not really a factor.

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Why does everyone think you have to find someone in a bar or club? Life exists outside bars and clubs.....LJS9502_basic

I'll admit. I did it once. With a user I originally met on GS, no less. Trust me, real dating is better. Online dating you miss out on a lot of stuff.Cloud_765

It's fine, I've seen it work already. Just make sure it's cool before you walk into some creepers house lewl.

What do you mean by "online dating?" Do you mean services like eHarmony, or actually dating someone in a long-distance relationship online?

eHarmony worked for me (I didn't have to pay either, just used free communication weekends), I've been with my girlfriend for almost 8 months and we are still very strong and very much in love with each other, with no real signs of serious problems that "could" break us up.

Long-distance relationships don't work, no matter how much you "try" to make them work. A relationship without the physical intimacy is doomed for failure. Either by means of driving the two people apart, or them remaining together "emotionally" while one or both partners seek the physical aspect with other people.

bunch of losers telling other ppl false info about them selfs

tahts all

Why does everyone think you have to find someone in a bar or club? Life exists outside bars and clubs.....LJS9502_basic

I used to laugh at people who used it, but with how much the Internet is used, I can't hate on it. Basically, my view is, if you as a single man can spend hours on facebook for no reason, why not use it to find a potential love in your life.GrindingAxe

i wouldnt use it but if it works for other people good for them. :)

Larry David would say:

Whatever love you can get and give. Whatever happiness you can provide. Every temporary measure of grace. Whatever works.

I'm even too ugly for online dating, so it would never work for me. I need to be able to conquer my fears by actually speaking with a person directly, not behind the safety of my computer.

I'm even too ugly for online dating, so it would never work for me. I need to be able to conquer my fears by actually speaking with a person directly, not behind the safety of my computer.

yokofox33

What do you mean by "online dating?" Do you mean services like eHarmony, or actually dating someone in a long-distance relationship online?

eHarmony worked for me (I didn't have to pay either, just used free communication weekends), I've been with my girlfriend for almost 8 months and we are still very strong and very much in love with each other, with no real signs of serious problems that "could" break us up.

Long-distance relationships don't work, no matter how much you "try" to make them work. A relationship without the physical intimacy is doomed for failure. Either by means of driving the two people apart, or them remaining together "emotionally" while one or both partners seek the physical aspect with other people.

foxhound_fox

Not that you were questioning me in particular, but regarding my comment on the first page...yes, I was referring to services like E-Harmony. They are a decent way of meeting people. If you use the right service, I would say they are much more likely to produce positive, long-term results than hooking up with someone you met at a bar while wearing beer goggles (not that it isn't fun).

It's kinda hard to find quality women on dating sites. Most of them are either overweight, divorced or have a bunch of kids. Then when you finally do find one the chances of them messaging you back are slim. It all depends on what type of person you are looking for and other factors. So with that in mind I really dont have anything against online dating but it's really a hit or miss kinda deal. Just stay away from sites that try to make you pay to message people. Because alot of sites have fake profiles just to lure you into buying.

Don't like, prefer the real dathing ;]