What do you think about online dating?

my belief is simple, you must meet the person in real life. While online sites are nice, they shouldn't be used for long term in the beginning. The internet allows for people to easily wear a masqureade, even if they don't realize that they are. Also, while you can hook up and start a relationship at a bar, it isn't a good start and the crowd is probably not the one you want to be a part of.

Relationships rely on social skills that can even be used across the internet. However, nothing can beat intimacy. The internet should only be used as a tool to keep in touch if you both live a distance away and are already in a relationship. Far distance relationships don't work most of the time, but for a few, they do. FYI, if you do get stuck away, actuall letters mostly all the time work better than emails. A letter is tangible, highly customisable, and personal. I've learned this one personally :). *God bless the French!

Ultimately, online dating is an acceptable choice if you both are sociable. Long term online dating should be avoided if possible, since you might not get to actually intimately know each other like you could. And while most people don't have the mentality for a long distance relationship, it is highly possible and and highly rewarding. @ A perfect example would be WWII letters.

Ah but that implies that people don't get to know the object of their affection in other than a physical sense and I don't buy that. One can be initially attracted to an individual but become interested in pursuing them for reasons other than lust. In fact, most relationships develop over time. One can have similar interests in someone they met online but zero chemistry.LJS9502_basic

I wasn't implying that traditional dating is doomed to failure, or that online dating is a magic bullet. My argument is that the commonly held notion that online dating is "wrong" is... wrong, especially because online dating websites can help you find people who are more likely to be compatible with you. This doesn't mean they WILL be compatible, or that they're even telling the truth, it just means more likely. Knowing something about the person you're going to approach is better than knowing nothing.

I've never done online dating, but I've met people off the internet (You know, just everyday users like you and me) and actually met them in real life and became awesome friends like that. For a lot of people, they might think that kind of idea is just strange; but for me, these friends are just as much as any other friend I've made in public places. I think if that's possible to make friends just like that after previously communicating with them on internet forums, it's definitely possible to have a relationship from meeting someone off the internet.

it seems more of a pro for the socially akward among us. they can meet and get to know each other then see each other face to face and have it work out, where as in real life they may have never even spoken at all based on personal prejuduceses and whats considered to be socially accpetable or the ever present "shes way out of your league" saying.

well to some ppl it works but not for me I dont have time for something like this lolz. I rather go out there talk to plenty of girls.

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No problem with it. At the very least, you can narrow your contacts down to people who might have something in common with you, rather than just lusting after someone's body and hoping there might be something in common.

LJS9502_basic

online dating doesnt work and its a big rip off

My Math teacher has done this before, and he got a really ugly girl. The picture showed someone else.

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]Ah but that implies that people don't get to know the object of their affection in other than a physical sense and I don't buy that. One can be initially attracted to an individual but become interested in pursuing them for reasons other than lust. In fact, most relationships develop over time. One can have similar interests in someone they met online but zero chemistry.pianist

I wasn't implying that traditional dating is doomed to failure, or that online dating is a magic bullet. My argument is that the commonly held notion that online dating is "wrong" is... wrong, especially because online dating websites can help you find people who are more likely to be compatible with you. This doesn't mean they WILL be compatible, or that they're even telling the truth, it just means more likely. Knowing something about the person you're going to approach is better than knowing nothing.

Never tried it. Can't tell, although it sounds a bit risky.

Eh...in both cases you have to be able to express yourself and part of the fun of a new relationship is finding things out. Which doesn't happen online unless you find out they haven't been truthful.:lol: Plus, being able to converse online does not mean one will be able to sustain the necessary communications in reality. Anyway, online relationships generally develop from people that can't make the connections in face to face meetings.

LJS9502_basic

Perhaps we're thinking of a different sort of online dating. The online aspect I have in mind serves as a facilitator, not as a replacement. You meet people through a website that you would be interested in meeting IRL. Of course the actual relationship has to occur in the real world at some point if it's ever going to become more than a friendship.

I have went on 3 dates from girls I met online. Date 1: Simply beautiful woman. We hit it off so incredibly well that my mind was blown into the next century. We were great for each other. The catch: she was in the Army and got deployed to Afghanistan about a month after us meeting. Date 2: Really awkward and shy girl. She was not very good at conversation and didn't talk much on our dates. Third date in we finished an awkward dinner; went to my place to watch a movie; and she says, "You want to **** me?" Not bad. Haven't spoken to her since. Date 3: Great girl. We had a lot in common. We actually dated for three months and got a long amazingly well (had some mind-blowing sex to boot) before she had to move half way across the country. I would recommend it to anyone. If you are a guy you have nothing to really lose: it's not like girl is going to lock you up in her trunk and rape you. The upsides: it is like window shopping. You can find out if you have something in common with the girl before you decide to waste your time and money on a real date. The downside: its the internet........... so sometimes you could deal with someone that is completely fake (hasn't happened to me yet); and you will have a lot rough competition as the selection of attractive women is low you can pretty much guarantee their mailboxes are flooded with messages from thousands of men just like you or better. Like anything else; just be smart about it.Noammonia

How cute! :P

my friend found his first gf on one, which surprised me it wasnt the pay date sites either just some free ones. So far it actually turned out pretty well for him.