What was the cause of your last break up?

Not having a job, and not attempting to get one/not wanting one at all. :P raven_squad

It just makes everything weird. :|MrLions

[QUOTE="MrLions"]It just makes everything weird. :|JustPlainLucas

Those damn woman! Playing with our feelings and such! :xMrLions

There was too much distance between us. Soon after she had dumped me, she banged someone older than 20, and she was 16 at the time. Talk about hitting on the rebound.

[QUOTE="MrLions"]Those damn woman! Playing with our feelings and such! :xJustPlainLucas

Women can go to hell! :cry: :cry:MrLions

[QUOTE="MrLions"]Women can go to hell! :cry: :cry:JustPlainLucas

she talked....:|

She got drunk pretty much every other night and wanted sex after only two weeks. I was still a virgin at the time. I wasn't going to lose my virginity to her, I wanted to wait until I was in love rather than just having a drunk fling with her. Just before my birthday, she said she wanted to go on a break. It was on my birthday that I met my current girlfriend (and we've been together for over a year now). Also, I got a bit tipsy (and mostly everyone else was drunk) and we made it to this park because I was meant to be sleeping round my mate's house instead of going home. I ended up pulling this girl by the end of the night, who my current girlfriend apparently hates.

So yeah. Basically in a nutshell, she wanted sex way too early.

It was sort of a slow dying process for me. After 8 years it just seemed like my girlfriend didn't demonstrate any interest in my general interests and passions despite my continued support of anything that she was interested in. She also seemed to become increasingly determined to force me into participating in new activities that she had no real interest in herself. We just slowly became somewhat distant from each other and eventually I just cut it off as it seemed like the only reason we were together was because we were both sure that nobody would go out with either of us which seemed like a rather silly reason to stay together.

we both got really high on whatever, don't remember, several things and had a fight about something completely irrelevant but i ended up throwing an ashtray at her head and she punched me in the eye ... that was it ... but we're still friends ... and i'm serious

We had a lot in common. So much, in fact, that we thought we totally knew each other and didn't really establish a great line of communication. I started to change, and he couldn't really accept that. He felt like he didn't know me anymore and the whole thing just fell apart.

Now, I'm dating someone who is quite a bit different than me. Learning the lessons from my previous relationship, I try my best to keep in suitable contact with him, without being clingy. We've been dating for almost two years, and things are going great. In fact, I'm vacationing with him in his hometown right now, meeting his extended family, high school friends, and all that.

So I think the lesson I learned from all this, is that I think it's best to try and date some one who is a little different than yourself. You see a lot of people (especially kids) who date carbon copies of themselves. It's nice that you can identify with somebody, but you usually talk about stuff you already know, and do things with them, that you normally do anyway. There isn't much of a learning experience.

On the other hand, dating someone who does different things and hangs out with different people, you do these things with them that you wouldn't normally do. It kind of "expands your horizons" so to speak.

hoping we could still be "friends". God, that never works.JustPlainLucas

[QUOTE="JustPlainLucas"]hoping we could still be "friends". God, that never works.tofu-lion91

We had a lot in common. So much, in fact, that we thought we totally knew each other and didn't really establish a great line of communication. I started to change, and he couldn't really accept that. He felt like he didn't know me anymore and the whole thing just fell apart.

Now, I'm dating someone who is quite a bit different than me. Learning the lessons from my previous relationship, I try my best to keep in suitable contact with him, without being clingy. We've been dating for almost two years, and things are going great. In fact, I'm vacationing with him in his hometown right now, meeting his extended family, high school friends, and all that.

So I think the lesson I learned from all this, is that I think it's best to try and date some one who is a little different than yourself. You see a lot of people (especially kids) who date carbon copies of themselves. It's nice that you can identify with somebody, but you usually talk about stuff you already know, and do things with them, that you normally do anyway. There isn't much of a learning experience.

On the other hand, dating someone who does different things and hangs out with different people, you do these things with them that you wouldn't normally do. It kind of "expands your horizons" so to speak.

effena

I had a girlfriend? That was broken up with?!?!?!GodofBigMacs

It happened while you were in that coma. I didn't want you to find out this way...

@JustPlainLucas- Maybe she started distancing herself from you because she was affected by everything and really does care about you.

I really like your post and it's definitely worth quoting! You hit on so many things I've found to be important. Everyone should read your post carefullyMaddy_K

[QUOTE="Maddy_K"]I really like your post and it's definitely worth quoting! You hit on so many things I've found to be important. Everyone should read your post carefullytofu-lion91

[QUOTE="Maddy_K"]I really like your post and it's definitely worth quoting! You hit on so many things I've found to be important. Everyone should read your post carefullytofu-lion91

Naw, I'm just speaking from personal experience, and from what I've seen. I was only trying to make a point to defy the "having a lot in common" thing, and that it isn't for everyone. I know I didn't really word it like that, but that's what I meant =p

Most people seek comfort in a relationship, and those are the type of people who like to have a partner they can identify with. Other people, like myself, look at the relationship as a learning process to try out new things and such. You CAN do that with someone similar to yourself, but in my experience, it just ends up being boring. I guess you're luckier than me, tofu:P

[QUOTE="Maddy_K"]That's a nice story : ) If only more things could work out so well!t3hrubikscube

I'm a really close friend with one of my ex's too, it's good.
As for my last break up, I got cheated on.

I was too involved in my music plus she Hated the Marine Corps !!!

effena

Unfortunately I cannot subscribe to the whole "just being friends" thing after a breakup.D3nnyCrane

hoping we could still be "friends". God, that never works.JustPlainLucas