Im a very withdrawn person and when I date a girl I try to keep in contact when I can but I stay very busy and I can not always be in touch. It has pissed a lot of girls off in the past.
No. I've been with my girlfriend for 4 months and have been very happy together. We try to have contact via phone calls or facebook when we can't see each other, but there is a day every now and then where we aren't in touch. It's not a big deal.
It tends to be a thing with guys where they complain to themselves about their girlfriend spam texting, then they worried when it stops or miss them when it's gone.
You should expect to. With the ease of communication these days, women don't typically like to be ignored all day. Bare minimum at least say hi, ask how their day is going, etc.
But If you are busy it would be understandable, but no girl is gonna accept that.
I had the same problem because I dont really like texting and the girl I was with was younger than me so texting to her was literally her main format of conversating. I tried doing what I used to do with a previous girl, which was talk to her by phone call around 11pm -midnight for an hour or two (sometimes more).
But if you are in a relationship (and depending on the type of girl and what she does to you) you should always ask them how their day was on regular days. If you guys see alot of each other and spend alot of time together then the text and such could be minimal, but if you guys dont see each other that much then it is very important that you have multiple formats of having a presence in her day (which is what they generally want).If you guys are the type to always say goodmorning to each other, do so. If you guys are the type to always say goodnight to each other, do so. If you guys have some type of ritual/pattern/in-side-thing (which you should/or atleast try to in a relationship), do so consistently.
It tends to be a thing with guys where they complain to themselves about their girlfriend spam texting, then they worried when it stops or miss them when it's gone.
That is quite a generalization.
That said, there might be a science within breakups and recovery.
I learned one thing. Text good morning and hi is good enough to keep the other person from feeling ignored. No need to nag, but, every morning and afternoon is good enough.
Pretty much. There's perhaps a point where it will begin to feel redundant because it essentially lessens interesting things to talk about in person if you're constantly in communication via text...but yea, just saying Hi a few times and asking how it's going is enough, and it's not really hard to do, even if it might feel pointless.
Joking aside, i don't get it ... you think ppl here don't have decent relationships and are incapable of advising on such matters?
In OT you can ask anything which @BranKetra pretty much summed it up :D
Honestly? A good number of people here would probably fit a similar profile as that Oregon gunman. If they have problems, consult a real pro and not a forum.
Nah. Maybe you should talk about what you two find acceptable intervals and see if you can come to an agreement. That said, being busy is not really an excuse not to spend a few minutes on easy communication, though.
Well see for me if I'm truly in love with someone I'm not going to mind texting daily, if only just for a bit. If I get annoyed at her talking to me during the day and I'd have preferred no communication, then I can't be feeling too much towards her.
Now what is annoying is if she wants to be talking all the time, or whatsapping with her is starting to get in the way of whatever the hell else I'd be doing. This happened sometimes with my last relationship and it got to be pretty tedious.
Joking aside, i don't get it ... you think ppl here don't have decent relationships and are incapable of advising on such matters?
In OT you can ask anything which @BranKetra pretty much summed it up :D
Honestly? A good number of people here would probably fit a similar profile as that Oregon gunman. If they have problems, consult a real pro and not a forum.
It's not THAT serious! He just wants to hear some advice from ppl with some experience , yeah i know consulting with someone having some expertise regarding the issue is the most legitimate way , but as i said it's not that serious ... i mean they're just in the "dating" stage, not married or sth ... and ppl here have offered good insights so far.
It's not THAT serious! He just wants to hear some advice from ppl with some experience , yeah i know consulting with someone having some expertise regarding the issue is the most legitimate way , but as i said it's not that serious ... i mean they're just in the "dating" stage, not married or sth ... and ppl here have offered good insights so far.
Oregon gunman ....oh c'mon {laughs}
I know it seems far-fetched. I mean other posters are welcome to provide suggestions. Don't let me stop them. But, taking into account other threads that give an indication of people's conditions and attitudes, it's not hard to see the similarities. I think it's better to have an awareness of where such situations may eventually lead to. When people are aware, there's less chance they'll go off the deep end.
Gee. I can still remember the time before my wife and I got married. Long-distance relationship. I sent one letter maybe once a month. I might have called her once every few weeks. I might fly over every few months to get some.
Well, I've been in two long-term relationships in my life and if either of them had ignored me for a whole day I'd be pretty mad. I just find that at the start of the relationship or just prior to we talk every day so why change it once you're comfortable in the relationship?
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