It doesn't make any sense. I'm a human being, supposedly rational, why do I behave irrationally when love comes into the equation? Love isn't helping me. Any point for its existence?
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It doesn't make any sense. I'm a human being, supposedly rational, why do I behave irrationally when love comes into the equation? Love isn't helping me. Any point for its existence?
you see other higher anmals spending their entire life together. They hold hands, groom eachother, etc... What makes you think that they don't experience some sort of love?
Then just ignore that part, my point still stands. Why do I love? What is the purpose?you see other higher anmals spending their entire life together. They hold hands, groom eachother, etc... What makes you think that they don't experience some sort of love?
BumFluff122
Bollocks. What about gay love? What about fraternal love?Love helps preserve and propagate genes. That's why it evolved in the way it has.
Tezcatlipoca666
Many animals certainly do stick together much like humans do.Nerd_ManBesides the point. Matter of fact, I'm editing the OP to avoid this kind of reply. Thanks anyway.
The emotion of love can be seen in many other species, mammalian and otherwise. Love is a visceral genetic survival instinct.It is a genetic self-preservation tool. It's not a bad thing. Go with it. After all, we are notVulcans or robots, we are Humans.
I disagree. Love does not have much to do with evolution aside from being specific to those with higher brain functionality. Love is merely the need for companionship. Of course there is a few more things thrown in but none of it has to do with evolution. At least not the main aspect of it.Love helps preserve and propagate genes. That's why it evolved in the way it has.
Tezcatlipoca666
A survival instinct that get many people killed. Counter-productive much?Love is a visceral genetic survival instinct.
compost-mentis
[QUOTE="BumFluff122"]Then just ignore that part, my point still stands. Why do I love? What is the purpose?Before we begin a debate concerning why we love I think first we need to give a definition of what exactly love is.you see other higher anmals spending their entire life together. They hold hands, groom eachother, etc... What makes you think that they don't experience some sort of love?
Neon-Tiger
[QUOTE="Tezcatlipoca666"]Bollocks. What about gay love? What about fraternal love?Love helps preserve and propagate genes. That's why it evolved in the way it has.
Neon-Tiger
Gay love is due to a genetic abnormality (not necessarily a bad thing with spiralling population crises). Fraternal love links back to genetic survival/self-preservation instinct.
It doesn't make any sense. I'm a human being, supposedly rational, why do I behave irrationally when love comes into the equation? Love isn't helping me. Any point for its existence?
Neon-Tiger
Love is an emotion which helps to build long-term bonds for people. Since humans are a social species that would have long gone extinct if not for cooperation between members of a society, and since humans take a long time to develop and are vulnerable for many years before reaching sexual maturity, "love" is merely something that we've evolved to have as a means of helping us to strengthen the social bonds which allow us to survive.
Then just ignore that part, my point still stands. Why do I love? What is the purpose?Neon-Tiger
Response 1:
It stimulates the production of chemicals in your brain whose presence creates a sensation that evolution has deemed desirable as it aids us in surviving and reproducing.
Response 2:
God wants us to be happy, and being in love makes us happy; therefore, God wants us to love.
Take your pick, depending on your outlook on life. :P
Then just ignore that part, my point still stands. Why do I love? What is the purpose?Before we begin a debate concerning why we love I think first we need to give a definition of what exactly love is. Fair enough. From Wikipedia (this is the aspect that I'm trying to focus on): "As an abstract concept, love usually refers to a deep, ineffable feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic love to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts."[QUOTE="Neon-Tiger"][QUOTE="BumFluff122"]
you see other higher anmals spending their entire life together. They hold hands, groom eachother, etc... What makes you think that they don't experience some sort of love?
BumFluff122
Bollocks. What about gay love? What about fraternal love?[QUOTE="Neon-Tiger"][QUOTE="Tezcatlipoca666"]
Love helps preserve and propagate genes. That's why it evolved in the way it has.
compost-mentis
Gay love is due to a genetic abnormality (not necessarily a bad thing). Fraternal love links back to genetic survival/self-preservation instinct.
Love is a combination of many different emotions and feelings. I highly doubt any of it is genetic.Stuffed if I know, just mentally kill the thought and make sure it doesn't come back then spread your seeds around the world.
Far from it. I'd rather not be in love. It's driving me nuts.You love because you made the choice to do so.
CrystalFox
[QUOTE="CrystalFox"]Far from it. I'd rather not be in love. It's driving me nuts.You love because you made the choice to do so.
Neon-Tiger
You always have a choice when it comes to a person you want to love or not. At least
that's what I believe. Whether you do it subconsciously or not, and even if you're wrong
you also have the choice of leaving it subsequently. I say invite it, don't fight it.
Far from it. I'd rather not be in love. It's driving me nuts.[QUOTE="Neon-Tiger"][QUOTE="CrystalFox"]
You love because you made the choice to do so.
CrystalFox
You always have a choice when it comes to a person you want to love or not. At least
that's what I believe. Whether you do it subconsciously or not, and even if you're wrong
you also have the choice of leaving it subsequently. I say invite it, don't fight it.
I disagree. Some people can't help but feel affectionate for certain people; just like most people can't help it when they get upset or angry.[QUOTE="compost-mentis"]
[QUOTE="Neon-Tiger"] Bollocks. What about gay love? What about fraternal love?BumFluff122
Gay love is due to a genetic abnormality (not necessarily a bad thing). Fraternal love links back to genetic survival/self-preservation instinct.
Love is a combination of many different emotions and feelings. I highly doubt any of it is genetic.Of course it is! ALL of it is. We are ALL subject to the Human Condition, no matter how complex or well thought-out it may seem.
Love is a combination of many different emotions and feelings. I highly doubt any of it is genetic.[QUOTE="BumFluff122"]
[QUOTE="compost-mentis"]
Gay love is due to a genetic abnormality (not necessarily a bad thing). Fraternal love links back to genetic survival/self-preservation instinct.
compost-mentis
Of course it is! ALL of it is. We are ALL subject to the Human Condition, no matter how complex or well thought-out it may seem.
No. The only genetic part of love is higher brain functionality. Love is more a social construct than a genetic reality. As stated love is a combination of many different emotions. Those emotions are built on experiences. If love was genetic more than likely those who showed less love would end up spreading their genetic code further because they would not love and they would be able to have more children with many different women without having any feelings for them.Not funny and irrelevant to the topic. *breaks stick*Looks like someone is in L-O-V-E. ;3333 "Pokes Neontiger with a stick"
Dystopian-X
[QUOTE="CrystalFox"][QUOTE="Neon-Tiger"] Far from it. I'd rather not be in love. It's driving me nuts.Nerd_Man
You always have a choice when it comes to a person you want to love or not. At least
that's what I believe. Whether you do it subconsciously or not, and even if you're wrong
you also have the choice of leaving it subsequently. I say invite it, don't fight it.
I disagree. Some people can't help but feel affectionate for certain people; just like most people can't help it when they get upset or angry.Well, from personal experience, I've had no problem choosing who I love and who I don't. As
for the upset and angry part eeehh not so much. But you're right, some people can't help it, and
this is one of those cases. But even so, you still have a choice on whether you choose to stay
with the person or not once you're with them. I think he should just give it a try, you never know.
I disagree. Some people can't help but feel affectionate for certain people; just like most people can't help it when they get upset or angry.[QUOTE="Nerd_Man"][QUOTE="CrystalFox"]
You always have a choice when it comes to a person you want to love or not. At least
that's what I believe. Whether you do it subconsciously or not, and even if you're wrong
you also have the choice of leaving it subsequently. I say invite it, don't fight it.
CrystalFox
Well, from personal experience, I've had no problem choosing who I love and who I don't. As
for the upset and angry part eeehh not so much. But you're right, some people can't help it, and
this is one of those cases. But even so, you still have a choice on whether you choose to stay
with the person or not once you're with them. I think he should just give it a try, you never know.
I think everyone has a choice for everything. Everyone has the choice to not show anger. I know a lot of people can get upset a lot of times with other people and still keep a straight face. I'm sure most of us here have done that. It's really just the person's choice to not show anger to other people. But does that mean the person no longer has such emotions? Just because one chooses not to flip out when they're angry doesn't mean they're not upset on the inside. I think the same thing can go for when one builds affection for another person. I'm sure you've had more than enough times where you built affection towards another person, and had a crush on them, but you decided anyways not to go for them because you knew it wouldn't work out - but does that mean you no longer have that affection towards that person? It's certainly still inside you at that point, and it's an emotion that you can't help. Of course that emotion will subside after a while, as does any emotion (One can't stay angry forever), but my point is one simply can't control their own feelings, whether they like it or not.
[QUOTE="compost-mentis"]
[QUOTE="BumFluff122"]Love is a combination of many different emotions and feelings. I highly doubt any of it is genetic.
BumFluff122
Of course it is! ALL of it is. We are ALL subject to the Human Condition, no matter how complex or well thought-out it may seem.
No. The only genetic part of love is higher brain functionality. Love is more a social construct than a genetic reality. As stated love is a combination of many different emotions. Those emotions are built on experiences. If love was genetic more than likely those who showed less love would end up spreading their genetic code further because they would not love and they would be able to have more children with many different women without having any feelings for them.Feelings of love do not implicitly represent monogamy. Mammalian monogamy traits are in place to ensure a greater likelihood of healthy happy offspring with the individual mate that was chosen for their genetic qualities, but that is beside the point. Even higher brain function is subject to genetics and Human limitations. Consider it the difference between machine code and markup language.
[QUOTE="CrystalFox"]
[QUOTE="Nerd_Man"]Nerd_Man
I think everyone has a choice for everything. Everyone has the choice to not show anger. I know a lot of people can get upset a lot of times with other people and still keep a straight face. I'm sure most of us here have done that. It's really just the person's choice to not show anger to other people. But does that mean the person no longer has such emotions? Just because one chooses not to flip out when they're angry doesn't mean they're not upset on the inside. I think the same thing can go for when one builds affection for another person. I'm sure you've had more than enough times where you built affection towards another person, and had a crush on them, but you decided anyways not to go for them because you knew it wouldn't work out - but does that mean you no longer have that affection towards that person? It's certainly still inside you at that point, and it's an emotion that you can't help. Of course that emotion will subside after a while, as does any emotion (One can't stay angry forever), but my point is one simply can't control their own feelings, whether they like it or not.
I don't know about that last part, I think whether or not a person can subdue what they feel is incorporated on a multitude
of conditions such as how they were raised and where, how old they are, etc etc. Like you said earlier, some people simply
can't control what they feel. Just as you believe that, I believe there are people who can, maybe not every kind of emotion
there is to feel, but some.
Feelings of love between a man and a woman come about when someone feels familiarity with someone, is comfortable being around them and is attracted to them. Love is not a product of genetics.Feelings of love do not implicitly represent monogamy. Mammalian monogamy traits are in place to ensure a greater likelihood of healthy happy offspring with the individual mate that was chosen for their genetic qualities, but that is beside the point. Even higher brain function is subject to genetics and Human limitations. Consider it the difference between machine code and markup language.
compost-mentis
Feelings of love between a man and a woman come about when someone feels familiarity with someone, is comfortable being around them and is attracted to them. Love is not a product of genetics.[QUOTE="compost-mentis"]
Feelings of love do not implicitly represent monogamy. Mammalian monogamy traits are in place to ensure a greater likelihood of healthy happy offspring with the individual mate that was chosen for their genetic qualities, but that is beside the point. Even higher brain function is subject to genetics and Human limitations. Consider it the difference between machine code and markup language.
BumFluff122
Those very feelings are a product of Human genetics, not rationality. As if that wasn't obvious.
Those feelings are a product of a heightened sense of awareness, a heightened intelligence and so on. Love is not directly encoded into our DNA. If it is perhaps you can point me to a peer reviewed scientific article that states exactly where the genetic code for love is? You can't because there isn't one. It is a product of emotion and societal living. If you want to argue that love is a product of the evolution of society then I'll be right there along with you but it is not a product of biological evolution.Those very feelings are a product of Human genetics, not rationality. As if that wasn't obvious.
compost-mentis
[QUOTE="compost-mentis"]A survival instinct that get many people killed. Counter-productive much? It probably makes more people than kills in the end.Love is a visceral genetic survival instinct.
Neon-Tiger
[QUOTE="Neon-Tiger"][QUOTE="compost-mentis"]A survival instinct that get many people killed. Counter-productive much? It probably makes more people than kills in the end.sex makes people. Love doesn't.Love is a visceral genetic survival instinct.
Faber_Fighter
It probably makes more people than kills in the end.sex makes people. Love doesn't. Loves influences people to have sex.[QUOTE="Faber_Fighter"][QUOTE="Neon-Tiger"] A survival instinct that get many people killed. Counter-productive much?BumFluff122
Loves influences people to have sex.Faber_FighterAnd religion influences some people to kill but that doesn't mean religion is reposible for their murder.
Those feelings are a product of a heightened sense of awareness, a heightened intelligence and so on. Love is not directly encoded into our DNA. If it is perhaps you can point me to a peer reviewed scientific article that states exactly where the genetic code for love is? You can't because there isn't one. It is a product of emotion and societal living. If you want to argue that love is a product of the evolution of society then I'll be right there along with you but it is not a product of biological evolution.[QUOTE="compost-mentis"]
Those very feelings are a product of Human genetics, not rationality. As if that wasn't obvious.
BumFluff122
Rubbish! All of society is a mature product of Human genetics. Emotion is genetic and society is an end-product of Human genetics combined with millenia of life experience/social construction.
Not surprisingly, I do not have research papers at my fingertips. On a quick Google search, how about this. This is relevant and interesting too.
Those feelings are a product of a heightened sense of awareness, a heightened intelligence and so on. Love is not directly encoded into our DNA. If it is perhaps you can point me to a peer reviewed scientific article that states exactly where the genetic code for love is? You can't because there isn't one. It is a product of emotion and societal living. If you want to argue that love is a product of the evolution of society then I'll be right there along with you but it is not a product of biological evolution.[QUOTE="BumFluff122"]
[QUOTE="compost-mentis"]
Those very feelings are a product of Human genetics, not rationality. As if that wasn't obvious.
compost-mentis
Rubbish! All of society is a matureproduct of Human genetics. Emotion is genetic and society is an end-product of Human genetics combined with millenia of life experience/social construction.
Not surprisingly, I do not have research papers at my fingertips. On a quick Google search, how about this.
I'd just like to point out that despite the title of the article, it has absolutely nothing to do with love, and everything to do with basic sexual attraction.Yeah I looked at that before you posted it. That article has nothing to do with the love humans feel for eachother. What it concerns is how a species of fly is primed for sexual intercourse dependant on the genes the male displays before actually doing the deed. This does not show that love is embedded within our genes. It is well known that attraction is based on a number of various things, one of them being genetic similarity. But love is not only based on attraction. Love is a more intense emotion that deals with the comfort one feels around an individual, and as I mentioned before, familiarity among many others.Rubbish! All of society is a matureproduct of Human genetics. Emotion is genetic and society is an end-product of Human genetics combined with millenia of life experience/social construction.
Not surprisingly, I do not have research papers at my fingertips. On a quick Google search, how about this.
compost-mentis
[QUOTE="BumFluff122"]Those feelings are a product of a heightened sense of awareness, a heightened intelligence and so on. Love is not directly encoded into our DNA. If it is perhaps you can point me to a peer reviewed scientific article that states exactly where the genetic code for love is? You can't because there isn't one. It is a product of emotion and societal living. If you want to argue that love is a product of the evolution of society then I'll be right there along with you but it is not a product of biological evolution.
Rubbish! All of society is a matureproduct of Human genetics. Emotion is genetic and society is an end-product of Human genetics combined with millenia of life experience/social construction.
Not surprisingly, I do not have research papers at my fingertips. On a quick Google search, how about this.
I'd just like to point out that despite the title of the article, it has absolutely nothing to do with love, and everything to do with basic sexual attraction. Yeah I admit I dont really believe in love. Well thats not true... I loved my Mom and Dad... And I love my Dog... But its hard to truly love the one you like to f... And if you ever do, as a guy it wont last... Or it will last but you wont want to f... her anymore. You will want to f.. someone else you dont love. Thats just the way we are wired. I believe that love and sex dont mix, or at least dont mix for very long... If you are a guy.Please Log In to post.
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