Why do people think men shouldn't cry??

I never understood this. I always hear people say "don't cry, be a man" Do men not have feelings or something??

I've cried before, and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. If someone doesn't cry if something bad has happened like someone dying, I usually think that person doesn't care about what happened.

I don't really believe a man is sensetive if he cries, it's normal to show your feelings when something bad has happened.
It's weird not to.

So how come people think men can't cry??
Do you think people who don't cry just don't have feelings and don't care about anything bad that happens?

I think everybody's got their own way of dealing with grief. Some cry, some don't.

And yeah, the idea that men shouldn't cry is pretty stupid. I haven't cried in a very long time, but if I ever felt the need to, I definitely wouldn't be ashamed of it.

The people that think like that are usually very religiousSplinter720

What? How does that come into play? :?

The people that think like that are usually very ignorant, very religious, and think they are the macho alpha.Splinter720

It is well known fact that for each tear a man sheds, he loses approximately 5 man points.

That saying is usually used when a boy is being a drama queen. There's justified crying and there's unjustified crying. It's natural to cry at a funeral but it's a whole 'nother thing to cry when your mom won't get you the latest Bring Me The Horizon album.

Sometimes a person can act like a wuss-- that's when the "be a man" thing works because they are being a child.

My father never let me cry when I was younger. "Not a man thing to do, son." (He had methods of reinforcement.) The "alpha" gene is integrated into my being now. And, as my father used to say, "Don't let them see you cry, boy. Never , ever let `em see you cry. And if you're alone, and you cry, think of wounds, salt, and alcohol." "Tee-hee." a55assin

I think not crying is bad though.
Some men can have depression but if they hide in their feelings they will never tell anyone they have depression, so they won't get help.

I heard thats why the suicide rate is higher for men.

it is a society thing media depicts it and people buy it. People see the man as the protector and therefore unemotional in his duties and it is fed to us by everyone our parents, grandparents, media men are supposed to be able to do anything without feeling and therefore are powerful over women and children because they are emotionless. Really though it's dumb all people have emotions and all people feel the need to share those emotions and when they don't it causes problems for everyone it's a dumb idea that men should not cry and a dumber thing that people pass this ideology downt otheir children without even thinking about it. Lets hope that someoday it goes away and we can all be emotionaly free to feel how we need to.

[QUOTE="a55assin"]My father never let me cry when I was younger. "Not a man thing to do, son." (He had methods of reinforcement.) The "alpha" gene is integrated into my being now. And, as my father used to say, "Don't let them see you cry, boy. Never , ever let `em see you cry. And if you're alone, and you cry, think of wounds, salt, and alcohol." "Tee-hee." joshrocks2245

I think not crying is bad though.
Some men can have depression but if they hide in their feelings they will never tell anyone they have depression, so they won't get help.

I heard thats why the suicide rate is higher for men.

I can see that, and it makes me sad.

Machismo insecurity. Only real men are in touch with their emotions and can cry freely.

[QUOTE="a55assin"]My father never let me cry when I was younger. "Not a man thing to do, son." (He had methods of reinforcement.) The "alpha" gene is integrated into my being now. And, as my father used to say, "Don't let them see you cry, boy. Never , ever let `em see you cry. And if you're alone, and you cry, think of wounds, salt, and alcohol." "Tee-hee." joshrocks2245

I think not crying is bad though.
Some men can have depression but if they hide in their feelings they will never tell anyone they have depression, so they won't get help.

I heard thats why the suicide rate is higher for men.

You can always express yourself in some bizarre way that doesn't include moisture of the eyes. I, for example, tend to write a lot. Usually on the darker side of things. Others play video games like there is no tomorrow. And I don't think the fact that men don't cry is the reason for those suicide rates. It's really more loneliness. You need someone to hear you out, to really listen . . . to supply advice. Human contact is the cure to depression. Real contact, on an emotional level. (Not that I need it. I hate humans. I hate crying. I hate everything but myself and how I live my life.) Ahem . . . anyway . . .

Machismo insecurity. Only real men are in touch with their emotions and can cry freely.

foxhound_fox

EDIT: And frankly, I don't think the relevant subject should be about whether guys "should" cry or not, but that sometimes guys can't help it ANYWAY.

The people that think like that are usually very ignorant, very religious, and think they are the macho alpha.Splinter720

This part confuses me. :|

I think it's okay to cry no matter what gender you are.

Just as long as you don't cry too much.

Then I just think you're a baby regardless of what gender you are.

[QUOTE="foxhound_fox"]

Machismo insecurity. Only real men are in touch with their emotions and can cry freely.

matthayter700

It shows weakness. In some countries it's OK to cry if you drink though.

[QUOTE="Splinter720"]The people that think like that are usually very ignorant, very religious, and think they are the macho alpha.kingdre

This part confuses me. :|

[QUOTE="matthayter700"] So what about when girls label crying guys "crybabies"? I doubt girls are being motivated by "machismo insecurity"harashawn

Extremely mean ones, I assume.

[QUOTE="matthayter700"] So what about when girls label crying guys "crybabies"? I doubt girls are being motivated by "machismo insecurity"harashawn

well just a thought but he is right to a point GIRLS now a days are meaner then boys and are know to even be more violent then boys so seeing this play out wouldn't surprise me. Yet mature young women would know better then to label a man/boy a cry baby or call them a crybaby.

[QUOTE="harashawn"][QUOTE="matthayter700"] So what about when girls label crying guys "crybabies"? I doubt girls are being motivated by "machismo insecurity"observer77

well just a thought but he is right to a point GIRLS now a days are meaner then boys and are know to even be more violent then boys so seeing this play out wouldn't surprise me. Yet mature young women would know better then to label a man/boy a cry baby or call them a crybaby.

Well if somebody is an overemotional whiny person that just annoys everyone I wouldn't be surprised if they get called a crybaby.

Men shouldn't cry, unless someone very close to them has died or they've just won the world series; otherwise, it's rather feminine and weak to be so effusive and weakly sentimental.bt_the_great_78

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[QUOTE="harashawn"] What kind of girls do that? :? Nifty_Shark

well just a thought but he is right to a point GIRLS now a days are meaner then boys and are know to even be more violent then boys so seeing this play out wouldn't surprise me. Yet mature young women would know better then to label a man/boy a cry baby or call them a crybaby.

Well if somebody is an overemotional whiny person that just annoys everyone I wouldn't be surprised if they get called a crybaby.

maybe, maybe not it depends on ones perception of that person.

well just a thought but he is right to a point GIRLS now a days are meaner then boys and are know to even be more violent then boys so seeing this play out wouldn't surprise me. Yet mature young women would know better then to label a man/boy a cry baby or call them a crybaby.

observer77

Men shouldn't cry, unless someone very close to them has died or they've just won the world series; otherwise, it's rather feminine and weak to be so effusive and weakly sentimental.bt_the_great_78

Men should cry, that way they don't hold everything in.

If someone cries a lot it does not mean they are weak, it means they don't hold their feelings in, which is a good thing.

[QUOTE="matthayter700"] So what about when girls label crying guys "crybabies"? I doubt girls are being motivated by "machismo insecurity"harashawn

... are you seriously suggesting girls don't do that? I specifically recall a particular girl in elementary school calling me a crybaby on separate occasions when I ended up crying, couldn't help it, tried to keep it to myself, and yet some people noticed it and told everyone else. -.-

matthayter700

[QUOTE="observer77"]

What kind of girls do that? :? harashawn

well just a thought but he is right to a point GIRLS now a days are meaner then boys and are know to even be more violent then boys so seeing this play out wouldn't surprise me. Yet mature young women would know better then to label a man/boy a cry baby or call them a crybaby.

Well if somebody is an overemotional whiny person that just annoys everyone I wouldn't be surprised if they get called a crybaby.

[QUOTE="matthayter700"] ... are you seriously suggesting girls don't do that? I specifically recall a particular girl in elementary school calling me a crybaby on separate occasions when I ended up crying, couldn't help it, tried to keep it to myself, and yet some people noticed it and told everyone else. -.-

harashawn

[QUOTE="matthayter700"] ... are you seriously suggesting girls don't do that? I specifically recall a particular girl in elementary school calling me a crybaby on separate occasions when I ended up crying, couldn't help it, tried to keep it to myself, and yet some people noticed it and told everyone else. -.-

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[QUOTE="observer77"]

well just a thought but he is right to a point GIRLS now a days are meaner then boys and are know to even be more violent then boys so seeing this play out wouldn't surprise me. Yet mature young women would know better then to label a man/boy a cry baby or call them a crybaby.

matthayter700

Well if somebody is an overemotional whiny person that just annoys everyone I wouldn't be surprised if they get called a crybaby.

Well I don't know what happened to you cause you didn't get into it. Personally I thought I was going to cry once (not from physical injury) but got over it. I find myself only crying when I'm alone. Usually it happens after a long interval where I just kind of break down for a few minutes.

[QUOTE="matthayter700"] No **** sherlock. I was saying that happened BACK in elementary school. How hard is that to understand?harashawn

What do you mean? What "other guy"? I got the impression that you were claiming that I was in elementary school...

matthayter700

[QUOTE="matthayter700"]What do you mean? What "other guy"? I got the impression that you were claiming that I was in elementary school...

So what about when girls label crying guys "crybabies"? I doubt girls are being motivated by "machismo insecurity"

EDIT: And frankly, I don't think the relevant subject should be about whether guys "should" cry or not, but that sometimes guys can't help it ANYWAY.

matthayter700

Men shouldn't cry, unless someone very close to them has died or they've just won the world series; otherwise, it's rather feminine and weak to be so effusive and weakly sentimental.bt_the_great_78

[QUOTE="matthayter700"] I'm 19 actually, not sure if it says so in my profile though. Anyway, I don't know whether girls my age do that or not, but I fail to see how "when girls label crying guys crybabies" qualifies as being in the present tense. In any case, my point was more so in response to foxhound fox claiming that it's all about macho insecurity; I doubt that's the case when it involves little girls insulting little boys for crying.harashawn

Men lose testosterone through tears.

It isn't the "macho" thing to do. Apparently guys aren't supposed to cry, but girls like guys with a sensitive side. At least I do. :oops:

[QUOTE="Splinter720"]The people that think like that are usually very religiousCurlyfrii87

What? How does that come into play? :?

It depends on what you mean by cry. If you mean cry due to emotions then yes it would be seen as a sign of weakness. Now, if you mean cry due to sudden intense pain (i.e. hard kick to the groin) then I'd give a guy a pass on that one.

I don't think there's anything wrong with a man crying.