Why is it when a Friend passes away...

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#1 Mesden
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One of my Friends passed away recently, it was a little tough getting passed it, but I think I'm ready to move on now. The only thing that still bothers me is when I look at his Profile on Facebook, or when I look at his Tribute Page on Facebook, It just hits me like a ton of bricks, like, "Wow, did this really happen?"

What I'd like to know though is, How come when someone passes away, if I see something that reminds me of them, I get this sense that I'm like the only person in the world. I feel really alone...

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#2 MuddVader
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I dont really know, but I'm sorry for your loss.

I know the type of reaction though.
Its like when my best friend comes online while i'm on messenger, my body and mind change. Into a Lion.
Okay, that last part was a lie, but the way I feel changes alot when she comes online, so I can sort of understand the unexplainable reaction process, even though its not the same thing in the least.

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#3 rook2rook
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sry for your loss bro,i know what you mean the only one i lost close to me was my grandma i think its getting us ready for more to come we live we die ,but sry for your loss.

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#4 Anti-Venom
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Sorry to hear that man. One of my best friends passed away 5 years ago. it still gets to me till this day. I really miss the guy.
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#5 Cpt-Obvious
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That's natural to feel that way, I haven't ever been there though (thankfully).

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#7 Ultrabeatdown55
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One of my friends passed away recently also. His name was Jonah and he really was a great friend and just an overall hilarious and amazing guy. He is missed :(

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#8 Mellosinferno
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One of my friends committed sucide(took a cyanide pill ) because he couldn't take the **** at school. Now when I go to school and feel cold and very angry inside.

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#9 Megaman5364
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One of my Friends passed away recently, it was a little tough getting passed it, but I think I'm ready to move on now. The only thing that still bothers me is when I look at his Profile on Facebook, or when I look at his Tribute Page on Facebook, It just hits me like a ton of bricks, like, "Wow, did this really happen?"

What I'd like to know though is, How come when someone passes away, if I see something that reminds me of them, I get this sense that I'm like the only person in the world. I feel really alone...

Mesden

Thats really depressing ...

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#10 Candy-Star
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It takes a while before someone can accept the death of another person. Just give it time.
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#11 Hallenbeck77  Moderator
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It's all the time you've spent together with them. When they're gone, there's a hole in your heart that's impossible to fill. It never goes away completely, but over time, for some people, it becomes a little easier to live with.

My condolences for your loss.

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#12 zarkon9
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sry for your loss bro,i know what you mean the only one i lost close to me was my grandma i think its getting us ready for more to come we live we die ,but sry for your loss.

rook2rook

same here. she was murdered.

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#13 ghoklebutter
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Sorry to hear your loss. I suggest finding a hobby, that might help you cope with your loss.
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#14 Homiegesus
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My mom died about 8 months ago and I should tell you that eventually you will think about the good things and keep in your memory like you are carrying on their legacy and their persona... if you think about it, we all end up dying so we essentially all would hope for someone to keep our legacy alive as people and keep who we are alive... she dies mysteriously and I didn't get any real sympathy from friends so I felt like I couldn't talk about it with guys that were close. Luckily my girlfriend and her family made me feel like I had someone to talk to. I think the more you talk to people about it the less hollow you will feel, but grieving as much as possible is also a good thing as long as it is in a healthy way and you do it with a positive light.

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#15 rook2rook
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[QUOTE="rook2rook"]

sry for your loss bro,i know what you mean the only one i lost close to me was my grandma i think its getting us ready for more to come we live we die ,but sry for your loss.

zarkon9

same here. she was murdered.

i dont know how to respond to that, i would want to kill for taking someone close to me.

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#16 XilePrincess
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grief is isolating. some people find it helpful to talk to others who knew the person well. Sorry for your loss, as well.
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#17 deactivated-6016f2513d412
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It's fairly easy to do the whole "out of sight, out of mind" thing when someone close to you passes away, and it's totally understandable to feel upset/sad/mad when you're presented with something that reminds you of that person. I totally know how that goes. I lost a good friend a number of years ago. It tends to get better with time.
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#18 ExpiredGhost
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I feel sorry for your lost, I hope it gets better.
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#19 AudioPrison
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Sorry for your loss :(

I wouldn't know how to anwser your question since i've never lost a friend, but again my condolences.

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#20 Evil_Saluki
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That is one of the worst feelings. It's been said and used in many movies so I can't say it again without being corney, but it's like how a father misses her daughter, but only realises just how much so whenher daughters friend phones up to ask if Sarah is home and wants to goto the movies, and the dad is left standing there with phone in hand, wondering what to say, that Sarah isn't with us anymore.

Sobs.

But yeah it's pretty nasty.

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#21 MasterBolt360
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I'm sorry for your loss TC. I'd hate for that to happen...

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#22 juice--box
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i think its just ebcuase when u see them you jsut realized how young they were and how close u were to the person u dont believe its true.. I had a friend pass away in a drunk driving accident and everytime i see their profile its just surreal becuase u knew the person so well and talked to them and saw them all the time and now they are just gone.