Why the hurry to get a girlfriend?

Highschool is where teens learn the hump n dump...

I am 25 and currently single. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. Although, I do miss the cuddling and hawt sex.

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I am 25 and currently single. I don't see anything wrong with it at all. Although, I do miss the cuddling and hawt sex.

_en1gma_

Yeah OP ever have hawt sex? Theres a main reason to get one. 8)

Same for me, never had a girlfriend, been on a date, or anything. You could say I just don't have any interest being in a relationship.

[QUOTE="Shake_N_Bake4"]Oh ok im not one to judge (i have the same feeling as you right now) but you should try to go out on a date at least or something my personal opiniondog64

Well, that's my point. I don't want to get involved in it right now as I have other goals in life. Besides, I have no job and still live with my mom. Who would want to date that?

Its good practice for the rest of your life. Also, whats wrong with feeling wanted, even if its just for a little while.majoras_wrath

But how does having a girlfriend at the age of 12 benefit you?

The whole point of dating is to become more experienced at the finer aspects of dating. You need to get over the akward moments earlier on and learn what you like. Most people don't start seriously dating until they are sixteen, even then most don't take it to a mature level unless they have a fairly worldly outlook on life. No one says you have to propose right now, I do think it would be good for you to get out and go on a few dates. It's fun if you take dating with a grain of salt, it's all about getting to know a person, if you don't mesh that well with them then maybe you had a good time? There's no harm in dating a little at your age I'd say. Ask a girl or two out and have a good time, don't worry that you live with your mother right now. If you happen to get into anything serious the girl will understand, (it isn't like you're 40 bud) and she will understand that once your situation is a little different then you will get a place of your own. Go for it, grab life by the horns and try to enjoy it, you're overthinking it right now.

It's probably uncommon but I don't think that it's synonymous with weird. I was in a long term relationship for the first three years I was at university. When it ended, I decided that I wouldn't enter into another relationship until I was finished at uni, even though uni is a relationship breeding ground. So basically, I decided there was no rush and that I would just wait for a few years until getting involved with someone else. Four months to go.

I honestly never felt the need to get a girlfriend. Sure I would think about it and consider it, but I always felt that there wasn't any point to it, because it probably wouldn't last anyway. Recently I've changed this attitude towards a particular individual though. :oops:

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Have you gone out on any dates with girls?

(Technically not having a girlfriend)

No, no dates or anything.

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Have you gone out on any dates with girls?

(Technically not having a girlfriend)

josh494

No, no dates or anything.

Maybe he can't get a date.

There are.... Perks.:P

There's nothing wrong with that. I find guys that think having sex with x many women makes them awesome, is stupid. I guess whatever makes you truly happy as far as relationships goes and being honest with yourself is the way to go.

So, I'm 20 years old and have never had a girlfriend. dog64

I dont find it weird. Alot of people have te urge to get one during the teenage years cause they are hitting puberty and, basically, are horny? But, then again, making your life better financially and other ways can result in much more pleasure for you. Some people are like that.

Besides, a woman is only woman if you want sex. If you dont require sex, then you dont need a woman. Friends, be it male or female, are all equal as far as company goes.

I wish I could get a girlfriend, but I'm relatively ugly and I'm handicapped. Who wants that?

No, you aren't weird. It's high time our entire society stopped placing so much emphasis on romantic relationships. If they make you happy, then pursue them. But if they don't (and this is true for a great number of people), what's the point? Why would you purposely subject yourself to something that makes you unhappy?

I wish I could get a girlfriend, but I'm relatively ugly and I'm handicapped. Who wants that?

_IronManDude_

A part of life is the whole dating experience. Sure people say that they don't need to get a girlfriend right away and to some degree that is true, but if you never go on a date then you are going to be very awkward on your datewhen it finally happens which is ok when you are 15. However you are going to lose that date incredibly fast ifit ishappening in your 30's.

Serraph105

Thats an assumption.

Not rushing around to get a girlfriend dosn't mean that you are a socially awkward weird-o who struggles to speak.

And what are you going to learn? how to talk to girls? If you have a fully functioning brain you can manage that.

I'm in the exact same position as the TC: never been in a relationship, same age and everything. That isn't to say I've never tried to enter the dating scene, but where I live there have always been few girls whom I was truly attracted to. And like some other people have posted, the early dating is usually from peer pressure, though in this case the pressure for me was coming from the family. Apparently, they wanted to uphold the tradition of starting a family BEFORE getting out of High School, something every single member of the previous generation had done, while this generation (myself and my cousins who are already out) hasn't.

And though I'm enjoying my current life, I do long for the day when "true love", if it even exists, to happen. I just feel there's no need to swim faster than the current of life.

Tis better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all.Mu5uk0

So, I'm 20 years old and have never had a girlfriend. Many people would probably find that very weird, but I ask why? There are kids in their early teens (and even younger) who get involved in love and finding girlfriends/boyfriends. And what happens to most of them? They break up after a while, sometimes tears are shed, and they find someone else and it usually repeats. So why even go through that? It's like kids are just dating for fun or play.

But anway, as I said I'm 20 and never had a girfriend, and I'm not really interested in getting one right now. So I ask of you, OT, do you think that's weird?

dog64

Nope, it's perfectly normal. I myself haven't had a GF (thank God) and I'm 16.

There's nothing weird with it at all. But some people do value companionship very highly and find much happiness in a romantic partner.

It's certainly not for everybody. I like dating women because of the companionship, company, etc. However, I dont think you should be stigmatized because you havent dated someone. You don't have to be married/dating someone to have a complete or meaningful life.

It's certainly not for everybody. I like dating women because of the companionship, company, etc. However, I dont think you should be stigmatized because you havent dated someone. You don't have to be married/dating someone to have a complete or meaningful life.

sonicare

And TC, that's your vision of dating. As people have different dreams and goals, they also have different opinions in a lot of subjects. So it's perfectly natural for you to think differently about dating. But it's also natural that you, as an animal, will want to procriate sooner or later. It's inevitable after all. One day, you'll want to go find someone.

The hurry to get a girlfriend may be because of peer pressure. It seems like the normal thing to do, and if you don't people may say that you're gay or that there's something wrong with you. Family members may ask you how the girlfiend is, or your mom tells you she wants grandchildren or something. But it doesn't matter if you have a girlfriend or not. Some people are happy with the single life, and it's perfectly normal to have a girlfiend or not.the_foreign_guy

I don't care if you have a girl friend.

Yeah, I think being 20 and not having ever had a girlfriend is rather wierd. However, I do agree with your mentality to some extent. People are starting to get involved with relationships way too early. I say you shouldn't be dating until you can drive anyway, if only so you don't have to depend on somebody else to get you somewhere.