Will this relationship work?

So there is this absolutely gorgeous girl that I am kind of friends with (more like acquaintences). I used to talk to her kind of often back in June and May (when we met) but then she went to college and I started my senior year in high school. So I didn't talk to her for 6 months until two days ago and I think it went well.

So basically, I was in love with this girl back in the day, but I got over her during the summer because we just stopped talking. So then I see her a few days ago, but I dojn't say anything because I didn't know if she would remember me, but then I see her on Facebook and I send her a messege and we have a conversation. I think I impressed her with my college lis (since she asked and the convo was about running in college.. we b oth run track). And also, I told her that her coach is recruiting me (which opens to door for potential convos) and she seemed VERY surprised.

Now, I asked her if she would be at any of my track meets and she said that she probably would since her sister runs track. I asked her if I could talk to her about college and she said "for sure." So I am clearly generating feelings for this girl again (she's the girl whomade meweak in the knees, analyze every part of your convo with her, rehearse your lines, etc) and I kind of want to try to get to know her more. I don't mean a date (althought that would be EPIC), but if we could just hang out with a group of our friends in the city one day, that'd be amazing.

So basically I'm asking how to get into the "friend zone" with this girl (because I don't think she likes me too muchl, but ignore that - long story) because I'm past the point where I'm trying to get her as my gf. I just want her to be a friend, you know? I don't want to lose her. Thanks

You just want her as a "friend"?

I don't believe it.

You just want her as a "friend"?

I don't believe it.

if your dating you wouldn't go your separate ways... in college relationships are actually serious enough to affect decisions like that.

[QUOTE="MrGeezer"]

You just want her as a "friend"?

I don't believe it.

cpo335

So you can't have her as a lover, so you want to keep her around as the next best thing?

Okay, you've probably got male friends who recently went to a different college. How much effort are you making to preserve your relationship with THEM?

So my answer is to act the same way as all of your male friends who went to different colleges. Because I still don't believe that you want to be "just friends" with this woman. "Friends" go away all the time, it's only the rare one that anyone bats an eyelash over. So ask yourself why THIS friend is so special? Is it because you JUST value her as a friend? I doubt it. More likely, you're letting your romantic feelings for her delude you into THINKING that you only want her to be your friend, because at least then she's not completely gone and you still have a tiny chance with her.

You probably don't even realize this, but I'm fairly confident that's EXACTLY what's going on.

Anyway, if you just want to be her friend, then give her your phone number, email address, and myspace url, and then let that be that. If she wants to keep in touch, she will. If she doesn't, then the hell with her.

It's easy to just be friends and hang out, you are doing it already. But in the long run its going to eat you up, seeing her all the time because of track meet and you can't date her, and its going to suck even more once she gets herself a bf (if she hasn't already... which I highly doubt, if she is every bit as hot as you say she is).

This one will be very very tough...

So you can't have her as a lover, so you want to keep her around as the next best thing?

Okay, you've probably got male friends who recently went to a different college. How much effort are you making to preserve your relationship with THEM?

So my answer is to act the same way as all of your male friends who went to different colleges. Because I still don't believe that you want to be "just friends" with this woman. "Friends" go away all the time, it's only the rare one that anyone bats an eyelash over. So ask yourself why THIS friend is so special? Is it because you JUST value her as a friend? I doubt it. More likely, you're letting your romantic feelings for her delude you into THINKING that you only want her to be your friend, because at least then she's not completely gone and you still have a tiny chance with her.

You probably don't even realize this, but I'm fairly confident that's EXACTLY what's going on.

Anyway, if you just want to be her friend, then give her your phone number, email address, and myspace url, and then let that be that. If she wants to keep in touch, she will. If she doesn't, then the hell with her.

MrGeezer

[QUOTE="MrGeezer"]So you can't have her as a lover, so you want to keep her around as the next best thing?

Okay, you've probably got male friends who recently went to a different college. How much effort are you making to preserve your relationship with THEM?

So my answer is to act the same way as all of your male friends who went to different colleges. Because I still don't believe that you want to be "just friends" with this woman. "Friends" go away all the time, it's only the rare one that anyone bats an eyelash over. So ask yourself why THIS friend is so special? Is it because you JUST value her as a friend? I doubt it. More likely, you're letting your romantic feelings for her delude you into THINKING that you only want her to be your friend, because at least then she's not completely gone and you still have a tiny chance with her.

You probably don't even realize this, but I'm fairly confident that's EXACTLY what's going on.

Anyway, if you just want to be her friend, then give her your phone number, email address, and myspace url, and then let that be that. If she wants to keep in touch, she will. If she doesn't, then the hell with her.

en-z-io