Would you date a girl who already has a kid?

i think you will get just as many yes answers from guys as you would girls if you asked them if they would date a guy with two penises surrealnumber5

Wait, not everyone has two? :?

[QUOTE="surrealnumber5"]i think you will get just as many yes answers from guys as you would girls if you asked them if they would date a guy with two penises entropyecho

Wait, not everyone has two? :?

[QUOTE="testfactor888"]So to date a girl with a child you want her to say that the child was a mistake? You are pretty messed upGenetic_Code

[QUOTE="Genetic_Code"][QUOTE="testfactor888"]So to date a girl with a child you want her to say that the child was a mistake? You are pretty messed uptestfactor888

Yeah, I dont think any girl would like that. Just because a long standing relationship (long enough to result in children) ends, does not mean that said child was a mistake. Its very possible that the child was planned but the relationship break up wasnt.The only time I can see a child being thought of as a mistake is when theparentswent threw with unprotected sex, wereunder the influence, or theybeing forced.

Don't call it a mistake, just call it an Oops-Baby. I'm one so I can say that.

lol I honestly doubt that a girl would want to date you if you forced them to say their child was a mistake beforehand so you have nothing to worry abouttestfactor888

Don't call it a mistake, just call it an Oops-Baby. I'm one so I can say that.

Zyrokin

Ha, my mom told me I wasn't "exactly planned."

Feels good man.

What if she wanted the child, is fully capable of raising the child on her own (including a job with enough money to cover expenses), and at the same time is pretty well adjusted. Would you still force the girl to admit she made a mistake when in fact she really diden't. Some girls make mistakes sure but not every young person with a child has one because of a "mistake" as you so clearly are trying to make it seem.testfactor888

[QUOTE="Zyrokin"]

Don't call it a mistake, just call it an Oops-Baby. I'm one so I can say that.

entropyecho

Ha, my mom told me I wasn't "exactly planned."

Feels good man.

[QUOTE="Zyrokin"]

Don't call it a mistake, just call it an Oops-Baby. I'm one so I can say that.

entropyecho

Ha, my mom told me I wasn't "exactly planned."

Feels good man.

My parents told me I was planned...but I was born shortly after September 1...sooooo, not sure exactly how planned I was.

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]

[QUOTE="Zyrokin"]

Don't call it a mistake, just call it an Oops-Baby. I'm one so I can say that.

Genetic_Code

Ha, my mom told me I wasn't "exactly planned."

Feels good man.

Well, it was in the context of my mom telling me how hard things were when she first got married. Naturally, I felt a little guilty.

Well, it was in the context of my mom telling me how hard things were when she first got married. Naturally, I felt a little guilty.

entropyecho

You shouldn't. You have no control over their marriage.

Also, what do you guys think about this statement? "The child isn't a mistake. Unprotected sex is a mistake. The child is just the product of a mistake."

yeah i would

[QUOTE="entropyecho"]

Well, it was in the context of my mom telling me how hard things were when she first got married. Naturally, I felt a little guilty.

Genetic_Code

You shouldn't. You have no control over their marriage.

Also, what do you guys think about this statement? "The child isn't a mistake. Unprotected sex is a mistake. The child is just the product of a mistake."

is unprotected sex a mistake if the girl was in a serious relationship at the time? i don't think so. and what if she wanted the child? is it still a mistake? what if the guy was a total piece of **** and left after he told her he would help raise the child? you seem to be quick to judge...

is unprotected sex a mistake if the girl was in a serious relationship at the time? i don't think so. and what if she wanted the child? is it still a mistake? what if the guy was a total piece of **** and left after he told her he would help raise the child? you seem to be quick to judge...

lazerface216

[QUOTE="lazerface216"]

is unprotected sex a mistake if the girl was in a serious relationship at the time? i don't think so. and what if she wanted the child? is it still a mistake? what if the guy was a total piece of **** and left after he told her he would help raise the child? you seem to be quick to judge...

Genetic_Code

marriage doesn't prove ANYTHING. a guy can turn into a total douchebag once married. who knows? and what if the guy divorces her after the child is born, is it still a mistake?

easier said than done...a whole lot more complicated than you are making it out to be.

Why the hell not?

Just because she has a kid means she's untouchable?

TroubleMaker411

Yes.

Why put yourself in that kind of drama when you can date a woman without kids? Doesn't make much sense, IMO.

[QUOTE="TroubleMaker411"]

Why the hell not?

Just because she has a kid means she's untouchable?

HammerSmashBass

Yes.

Why put yourself in that kind of drama when you can date a woman without kids? Doesn't make much sense, IMO.

But there isn't always drama.

Assuming that someone is damaged goods because they don't have a man, without knowing the full story, is blatently nasty, horrendously judgmental, and frankly, makes the person making the assumption a complete dirtbag!

[QUOTE="TroubleMaker411"]

Why the hell not?

Just because she has a kid means she's untouchable?

HammerSmashBass

Yes.

Why put yourself in that kind of drama when you can date a woman without kids? Doesn't make much sense, IMO.

it depends on how old you are too. when you get older your opinions change.

[QUOTE="HammerSmashBass"]

[QUOTE="TroubleMaker411"]

Why the hell not?

Just because she has a kid means she's untouchable?

TroubleMaker411

Yes.

Why put yourself in that kind of drama when you can date a woman without kids? Doesn't make much sense, IMO.

But there isn't always drama.

Assuming that someone is damaged goods because they don't have a man, without knowing the full story, is blatently nasty, horrendously judgmental, and frankly, makes the person making the assumption a complete dirtbag!

So be it--call me a "dirtbag" if you want but that's where I stand on the issue.

It just seems like getting involved with someone young who already has kids is the last thing I would be interested in. Baby daddy drama, etc.

A MILF? I dont know that I would date her but I would definetly have sex with her.

[QUOTE="TroubleMaker411"]

[QUOTE="HammerSmashBass"]

Yes.

Why put yourself in that kind of drama when you can date a woman without kids? Doesn't make much sense, IMO.

HammerSmashBass

But there isn't always drama.

Assuming that someone is damaged goods because they don't have a man, without knowing the full story, is blatently nasty, horrendously judgmental, and frankly, makes the person making the assumption a complete dirtbag!

So be it--call me a "dirtbag" if you want but that's where I stand on the issue.

It just seems like getting involved with someone young who already has kids is the last thing I would be interested in. Baby daddy drama, etc.

Young?

Who said anything about young?

it depends on how old you are too. when you get older your opinions change.

lazerface216

That's true. when I was a teen, I didn't think I'd ever date a single mom. By the time I approached 30, It didn't matter. Single mom, single girl, they all feel the same to me.

[QUOTE="HammerSmashBass"]

[QUOTE="TroubleMaker411"]

But there isn't always drama.

Assuming that someone is damaged goods because they don't have a man, without knowing the full story, is blatently nasty, horrendously judgmental, and frankly, makes the person making the assumption a complete dirtbag!

TroubleMaker411

So be it--call me a "dirtbag" if you want but that's where I stand on the issue.

It just seems like getting involved with someone young who already has kids is the last thing I would be interested in. Baby daddy drama, etc.

Young?

Who said anything about young?

lol i noticed that too. some people are taking this as a 16 year old having a kid when the TC simply asked if you would date a girl (no age specified) who has a kid.

[QUOTE="lazerface216"]

it depends on how old you are too. when you get older your opinions change.

jun_aka_pekto

That's true. when I was a teen, I didn't think I'd ever date a single mom. By the time I approached 30, It didn't matter. Single mom, single girl, they all feel the same to me.

exactly.

A MILF? I dont know that I would date her but I would definetly have sex with her.

DillonShwing

Yeah better to bang the broad then bounce just like the man before me did not try to clean up his mistake imo. I have no doubt she will find some sucker that will fall in love and take on that problem just not me.

Maybe if I was older...but at my current age, no way.

UnknownSniper65

I agree with this.

I'm 20 right now, why the **** would I want to deal with something like that?

marriage doesn't prove ANYTHING. a guy can turn into a total douchebag once married. who knows? and what if the guy divorces her after the child is born, is it still a mistake?

easier said than done...a whole lot more complicated than you are making it out to be.

lazerface216

If the guy divorces her after she gave birth to the baby, then good. He must've not been right for her. Again, she could have possibly made a mistake in reading him or he could just be that good at acting. Either way, the child was not a mistake. Marriage is a very good indicator of how reliable a person is if you enter the union with the right amount of precaution and commitment.

You said that I am too quick to judge. Perhaps you're too skeptical.

nope, damaged goods in my mind

[QUOTE="lazerface216"]

marriage doesn't prove ANYTHING. a guy can turn into a total douchebag once married. who knows? and what if the guy divorces her after the child is born, is it still a mistake?

easier said than done...a whole lot more complicated than you are making it out to be.

Genetic_Code

well i guess we'll have to agree to disagree.

[QUOTE="TroubleMaker411"]

[QUOTE="HammerSmashBass"]

So be it--call me a "dirtbag" if you want but that's where I stand on the issue.

It just seems like getting involved with someone young who already has kids is the last thing I would be interested in. Baby daddy drama, etc.

lazerface216

Young?

Who said anything about young?

lol i noticed that too. some people are taking this as a 16 year old having a kid when the TC simply asked if you would date a girl (no age specified) who has a kid.

I'm 19, so I'm specifically talking about girls in the 17-25ish range. I wouldn't date a 40-year old but it wouldn't have anything to do with her having a kid.

So I'm saying I wouldn't pursue a girl close to my age who already had kids.

[QUOTE="lazerface216"]

marriage doesn't prove ANYTHING. a guy can turn into a total douchebag once married. who knows? and what if the guy divorces her after the child is born, is it still a mistake?

easier said than done...a whole lot more complicated than you are making it out to be.

Genetic_Code

If the guy divorces her after she gave birth to the baby, then good. He must've not been right for her. Again, she could have possibly made a mistake in reading him or he could just be that good at acting. Either way, the child was not a mistake. Marriage is a very good indicator of how reliable a person is if you enter the union with the right amount of precaution and commitment.

You said that I am too quick to judge. Perhaps you're too skeptical.

Most people I know that are married have problems with money and sex not that they don't know or care about their partner. Also people are not static your not the same person you were 10 years ago. The biggest problem is getting into a marriage with a person from a broken home or coming from a home with a unhealthy marriage. My ex was a good person but had no clue how a healthy relationship worked because her parents were so screwed up. In the end I could not put up with the drama and I had to give her the boot.

[QUOTE="lazerface216"]

[QUOTE="TroubleMaker411"]

Young?

Who said anything about young?

HammerSmashBass

lol i noticed that too. some people are taking this as a 16 year old having a kid when the TC simply asked if you would date a girl (no age specified) who has a kid.

I'm 19, so I'm specifically talking about girls in the 17-25ish range. I wouldn't date a 40-year old but it wouldn't have anything to do with her having a kid.

So I'm saying I wouldn't pursue a girl close to my age who already had kids.

So, you go out for a beer.

You meet a girl in a bar, you hit it off and she is more than simply hot, she's PERFECT!

BUT

You discover that she is out on a work do and has left her kid with her mum (or whoever, someone responsible) for the night so she can go out.

You're telling me, that when you discover she had a kid, you will do a runner?

Dude, you're shooting yourself in the foot. She aint asking you to be the kids dad, she is perfectly cabale of taking care of the kid without you. you're just the bloke she happens to be seeing. one has nothing to do with the other.

Of course, this is just my opinion, and you're entitled to yours.

Maybe being a little older has changed my perspective.

But i think that running from someone because they have a child actually means you're doing the woman a favour. because you obviously don't have the strength of mind or maturity to deal with acting like a grown up around someone elses kid.

[QUOTE="HammerSmashBass"]

[QUOTE="lazerface216"]

lol i noticed that too. some people are taking this as a 16 year old having a kid when the TC simply asked if you would date a girl (no age specified) who has a kid.

I'm 19, so I'm specifically talking about girls in the 17-25ish range. I wouldn't date a 40-year old but it wouldn't have anything to do with her having a kid.

So I'm saying I wouldn't pursue a girl close to my age who already had kids.

So, you go out for a beer.

You meet a girl in a bar, you hit it off and she is more than simply hot, she's PERFECT!

BUT

You discover that she is out on a work do and has left her kid with her mum (or whoever, someone responsible) for the night so she can go out.

You're telling me, that when you discover she had a kid, you will do a runner?

Dude, you're shooting yourself in the foot. She aint asking you to be the kids dad, she is perfectly cabale of taking care of the kid without you. you're just the bloke she happens to be seeing. one has nothing to do with the other.

Of course, this is just my opinion, and you're entitled to yours.

Maybe being a little older has changed my perspective.

But i think that running from someone because they have a child actually means you're doing the woman a favour. because you obviously don't have the strength of mind or maturity to deal with acting like a grown up around someone elses kid.

[QUOTE="rawsavon"]

[QUOTE="Gamingclone"]

For me? Never, I dont plan on leaving my current girlfriend. Gamingclone

(just curious)

Thought someone would ask that eventually. Im 54 :P

jk...Im 17. But now I have good reason to believe that I will be with her for a long time. I would go into detail but you would get hit by an unreadable wall of text:P

If we both have a lot in common and enjoy each others company I don't see why not.

[QUOTE="TroubleMaker411"]

[QUOTE="HammerSmashBass"]

I'm 19, so I'm specifically talking about girls in the 17-25ish range. I wouldn't date a 40-year old but it wouldn't have anything to do with her having a kid.

So I'm saying I wouldn't pursue a girl close to my age who already had kids.

rawsavon

So, you go out for a beer.

You meet a girl in a bar, you hit it off and she is more than simply hot, she's PERFECT!

BUT

You discover that she is out on a work do and has left her kid with her mum (or whoever, someone responsible) for the night so she can go out.

You're telling me, that when you discover she had a kid, you will do a runner?

Dude, you're shooting yourself in the foot. She aint asking you to be the kids dad, she is perfectly cabale of taking care of the kid without you. you're just the bloke she happens to be seeing. one has nothing to do with the other.

Of course, this is just my opinion, and you're entitled to yours.

Maybe being a little older has changed my perspective.

But i think that running from someone because they have a child actually means you're doing the woman a favour. because you obviously don't have the strength of mind or maturity to deal with acting like a grown up around someone elses kid.

This.

There's nothing wrong with me for preferring to date someone without kids. I really don't see what the problem is.

I guess so.

As long as having a kid didn't deplete her sex drive.

(was not directed at me, but 'meh') I would say we can have sex...but that's it For those of us that hate kids (and will never have them), what would be the point of starting a relationship?rawsavon

Not liking kids is a good excuse to tell her to do one.

Simply thinking she is damaged goods, on the other hand, makes you a douchebag :)

I guess so.

As long as having a kid didn't deplete her sex drive.

no_more_fayth

You better wear two condoms I would not trust her with birth control.

Most people I know that are married have problems with money and sex not that they don't know or care about their partner. Also people are not static your not the same person you were 10 years ago. The biggest problem is getting into a marriage with a person from a broken home or coming from a home with a unhealthy marriage. My ex was a good person but had no clue how a healthy relationship worked because her parents were so screwed up. In the end I could not put up with the drama and I had to give her the boot.

pimpog

[QUOTE="rawsavon"] (was not directed at me, but 'meh') I would say we can have sex...but that's it For those of us that hate kids (and will never have them), what would be the point of starting a relationship?TroubleMaker411

Not liking kids is a good excuse to tell her to do one.

Simply thinking she is damaged goods, on the other hand, makes you a douchebag :)

[QUOTE="Gamingclone"]

[QUOTE="rawsavon"] How old are you?

(just curious)

cybrcatter

Thought someone would ask that eventually. Im 54 :P

jk...Im 17. But now I have good reason to believe that I will be with her for a long time. I would go into detail but you would get hit by an unreadable wall of text:P

[QUOTE="no_more_fayth"]

I guess so.

As long as having a kid didn't deplete her sex drive.

pimpog

You better wear two condoms I would not trust her with birth control.

What? I don't get what you're trying to say here.