would you forgive your parents if they cheated?

I do think having kids should change a couples lives, you can afford to fuk up without kids. But kids change things you know.

I do think having kids should change a couples lives, you can afford to fuk up without kids. But kids change things you know.

Ilovegames1992

It's really not your place to need to forgive them for cheating although it's difficult not to be upset when their actions adversly affect you. Cheating is a very complicated matter though.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

I do think having kids should change a couples lives, you can afford to fuk up without kids. But kids change things you know.

LeonardHatred

Hard to make that argument when you dont exactly have dependents

I'll be honest, i personally think it would be better to at least start out with both parents. Divorce isn't that traumatising i would assume.

Having only one parent, and an abusive scumbag who's never been in your life, ergo no father figure, kinda sucks balls.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

I do think having kids should change a couples lives, you can afford to fuk up without kids. But kids change things you know.

LeonardHatred

Hard to make that argument when you dont exactly have dependents

i could never forgive anyone for cheating and even if it were my parents, i would be fcking pissed. i would probably punch a hole through a wall with my brass knuckles and probably never forgive them. if one of your parents were to cheat on the other, what kind of feelings would you have about that? could you ever forgive them?ZumaJones07

id be dissapointed......it truly hurts....

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"][QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

I do think having kids should change a couples lives, you can afford to fuk up without kids. But kids change things you know.

junglist101

Hard to make that argument when you dont exactly have dependents

Conno08

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"][QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

I do think having kids should change a couples lives, you can afford to fuk up without kids. But kids change things you know.

Ilovegames1992

Hard to make that argument when you dont exactly have dependents

I'll be honest, i personally think it would be better to at least start out with both parents. Divorce isn't that traumatising i would assume.

Having only one parent, and an abusive scumbag who's never been in your life, ergo no father figure, kinda sucks balls.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"]Precisely. Hence why my dad waited til I was 22 and he was in America for a few weeks to do it :\

Hard to make that argument when you dont exactly have dependentsLeonardHatred

I'll be honest, i personally think it would be better to at least start out with both parents. Divorce isn't that traumatising i would assume.

Having only one parent, and an abusive scumbag who's never been in your life, ergo no father figure, kinda sucks balls.

Nah fuk him. Not deserving of sympathy.

Thank you though.

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"][QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

I'll be honest, i personally think it would be better to at least start out with both parents. Divorce isn't that traumatising i would assume.

Having only one parent, and an abusive scumbag who's never been in your life, ergo no father figure, kinda sucks balls.

Ilovegames1992

Nah fuk him. Not deserving of sympathy.

Thank you though.

It's really not your place to need to forgive them for cheating although it's difficult not to be upset when their actions adversly affect you. Cheating is a very complicated matter though.

junglist101

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"]This much I have seen with some of my friends, you have my deepest sympathies dude. As does your dad, he's missing out Im sure. LeonardHatred

Nah fuk him. Not deserving of sympathy.

Thank you though.

*BROFIST*

By the way, who's alt is this? :lol:

I feel bad like i should know but sh!t it it's 8am and i haven't slept so cut me SOME FUKING SLACK!!!

[QUOTE="junglist101"]

It's really not your place to need to forgive them for cheating although it's difficult not to be upset when their actions adversly affect you. Cheating is a very complicated matter though.

ZumaJones07

Dude, it's nobodies business but theirs i'm afraid. They have their life, you have yours.

[QUOTE="ZumaJones07"][QUOTE="junglist101"]

It's really not your place to need to forgive them for cheating although it's difficult not to be upset when their actions adversly affect you. Cheating is a very complicated matter though.

Ilovegames1992

Dude, it's nobodies business but theirs i'm afraid. They have their life, you have yours.

Im actually a genuine newbie to this place. I came on here earlier asking for help with a decent gaming KB&M and poked around in here whilst waiting for replies.

Mindblown? -_-LeonardHatred

Total mindfuk.

My apologies.

Doesn't make you any less awesome.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="ZumaJones07"] it's totally my business and it would be selfish of them to think otherwise imo. i couldn't stand the idea of any of them cheating :? i hope i never have to go through that, but i'm sure i won't.Ringx55

Dude, it's nobodies business but theirs i'm afraid. They have their life, you have yours.

They have a right to be p!ssed off and as i said, adults really need to get it together when they have kids.

But no, its not their place to dictate the outcome of a persons relationship.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="ZumaJones07"] it's totally my business and it would be selfish of them to think otherwise imo. i couldn't stand the idea of any of them cheating :? i hope i never have to go through that, but i'm sure i won't.Ringx55

Dude, it's nobodies business but theirs i'm afraid. They have their life, you have yours.

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"]Im actually a genuine newbie to this place. I came on here earlier asking for help with a decent gaming KB&M and poked around in here whilst waiting for replies.

Mindblown? -_-Ilovegames1992

Total mindfuk.

My apologies.

Doesn't make you any less awesome.

[QUOTE="junglist101"]

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"]Precisely. Hence why my dad waited til I was 22 and he was in America for a few weeks to do it :\

Hard to make that argument when you dont exactly have dependentsLeonardHatred

But do take the time to ask yourself why you'd feel the need to embarrass yourself by asking such a question. And no matter what conclusion you reach, keep it in that sharp ol' mind.

Unless your dad boned a family member or your little sister I don't see how your situation is different then anyone elses when it comes to your parents infidelity. Except for the fact you acted like you were 14 instead of 22 when you got the news.

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"][QUOTE="junglist101"]If you were 22 then why were you upset enough to punch a door?

junglist101

But do take the time to ask yourself why you'd feel the need to embarrass yourself by asking such a question. And no matter what conclusion you reach, keep it in that sharp ol' mind.

Unless your dad boned a family member or your little sister I don't see how your situation is different then anyone elses when it comes to their parents infidelity. Except for the fact you acted like you were 14 instead on 22 when you got the news.

Its one person being an utter kunt to another person, who you love. Why wouldn't you be p!ssed off.

Your condescension is unfair here.

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"][QUOTE="junglist101"]If you were 22 then why were you upset enough to punch a door?

junglist101

But do take the time to ask yourself why you'd feel the need to embarrass yourself by asking such a question. And no matter what conclusion you reach, keep it in that sharp ol' mind.

Unless your dad boned a family member or your little sister I don't see how your situation is different then anyone elses when it comes to your parents infidelity. Except for the fact you acted like you were 14 instead of 22 when you got the news.

[QUOTE="junglist101"]

[QUOTE="LeonardHatred"]Sure, cuz of course all emotional responses lessen when you turn 21... Not to mention you are of course uninformed on the subject and all preceeding and surrounding events so I wont shame you or myself by responding otherwise.

But do take the time to ask yourself why you'd feel the need to embarrass yourself by asking such a question. And no matter what conclusion you reach, keep it in that sharp ol' mind. Ilovegames1992

Unless your dad boned a family member or your little sister I don't see how your situation is different then anyone elses when it comes to their parents infidelity. Except for the fact you acted like you were 14 instead on 22 when you got the news.

Its one person being an utter kunt to another person, who you love. Why wouldn't you be p!ssed off.

Your condescension is unfair here.

As far as I'm concerned I'm a f ucking expert on the topic.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="junglist101"]I apologize. I should never have assumed that one should behave like a mature adult in that situation:roll:

Unless your dad boned a family member or your little sister I don't see how your situation is different then anyone elses when it comes to their parents infidelity. Except for the fact you acted like you were 14 instead on 22 when you got the news.

junglist101

Its one person being an utter kunt to another person, who you love. Why wouldn't you be p!ssed off.

Your condescension is unfair here.

As far as I'm concerned I'm a f ucking expert on the topic.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="junglist101"]I apologize. I should never have assumed that one should behave like a mature adult in that situation:roll:

Unless your dad boned a family member or your little sister I don't see how your situation is different then anyone elses when it comes to their parents infidelity. Except for the fact you acted like you were 14 instead on 22 when you got the news.

junglist101

Its one person being an utter kunt to another person, who you love. Why wouldn't you be p!ssed off.

Your condescension is unfair here.

As far as I'm concerned I'm a f ucking expert on the topic.

So why on Earth can't you empathise with him then? And why do you chastise him for showing emotion?

[QUOTE="junglist101"]

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

Its one person being an utter kunt to another person, who you love. Why wouldn't you be p!ssed off.

Your condescension is unfair here.

Ilovegames1992

As far as I'm concerned I'm a f ucking expert on the topic.

So why on Earth can't you empathise with him then? And why do you chastise him for showing emotion?

Perhaps I was a little condescending after having my intelligence attacked but the last few post are ridiculous and I will not respond to him any further.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="junglist101"]I'm unfair...when both my parents cheated on each other one of which cheated with a non-blood family member when I was 14 which consequently caused a great degree of problems for me.

As far as I'm concerned I'm a f ucking expert on the topic.

junglist101

So why on Earth can't you empathise with him then? And why do you chastise him for showing emotion?

Perhaps I was a little condescending after having my intelligence attacked but the last few post are ridiculous and I will not respond to him any further.

I agree to a certain extent but i can't really just call him immature as it's unfair. They're his parents, whom he loves unconitionally. And one, or both, have commited a sin, for want of a better word.

I guess a lot of it hinges on how far you despise infidelity. I for one loathe it.

And i'll be honest, when i realised what my father was, going around having illegitimate kid after kid, spreading disgusting bile everywhere he went like a disease, i got very, very angry. Even though its his life and he can do whatever the fuk he wants. I got angry to the point of rage.

That was probably immature to you but i must say if that's the case then i don't see it being a bad thing if i'm honest.

My Dad cheated on my Mom when I was just 3 years old so I didn't know what was going on. They divorced and I stayed with my Mom. I've only seen my Dad a few times over the years. I don't feel any anger towards him. He's like a stranger to me. I was lucky to be so young when it happened. I imagine it would suck to be older and have to deal with something like that.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="junglist101"]I'm unfair...when both my parents cheated on each other one of which cheated with a non-blood family member when I was 14 which consequently caused a great degree of problems for me.

As far as I'm concerned I'm a f ucking expert on the topic.

junglist101

So why on Earth can't you empathise with him then? And why do you chastise him for showing emotion?

Perhaps I was a little condescending after having my intelligence attacked but the last few post are ridiculous and I will not respond to him any further.

[QUOTE="junglist101"]

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

So why on Earth can't you empathise with him then? And why do you chastise him for showing emotion?

Ilovegames1992

Perhaps I was a little condescending after having my intelligence attacked but the last few post are ridiculous and I will not respond to him any further.

I agree to a certain extent but i can't really just call him immature as it's unfair. They're his parents, whom he loves unconitionally. And one, or both, have commited a sin, for want of a better word.

I guess a lot of it hinges on how far you despise infidelity. I for one loathe it.

And i'll be honest, when i realised what my father was, going around having illegitimate kid after kid, spreading disgusting bile everywhere he went like a disease, i got very, very angry. Even though its his life and he can do whatever the fuk he wants. I got angry to the point of rage.

That was probably immature to you but i must say if that's the case then i don't see it being a bad thing if i'm honest.

[QUOTE="junglist101"]

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

So why on Earth can't you empathise with him then? And why do you chastise him for showing emotion?

Ilovegames1992

Perhaps I was a little condescending after having my intelligence attacked but the last few post are ridiculous and I will not respond to him any further.

I agree to a certain extent but i can't really just call him immature as it's unfair. They're his parents, whom he loves unconitionally. And one, or both, have commited a sin, for want of a better word.

I guess a lot of it hinges on how far you despise infidelity. I for one loathe it.

And i'll be honest, when i realised what my father was, going around having illegitimate kid after kid, spreading disgusting bile everywhere he went like a disease, i got very, very angry. Even though its his life and he can do whatever the fuk he wants. I got angry to the point of rage.

That was probably immature to you but i must say if that's the case then i don't see it being a bad thing if i'm honest.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="junglist101"]I simply posed a simple question as to why he was punching doors at 22 when his parents cheated and was attacked for doing so. I do empathise but at the same time as a full grown man I find it a little immature to be so upset to hear that one of your parents cheated that you are punching stuff. For Christ's sake they are adults, he's an adult. Maybe his father was unhappy in his relationship. Maybe his father put up with his mother for 18 years out of love for his kids and waited until it wouldn't affect there lives as much. It is so naive to think that your parents are dicks if they cheat as if it is a direct attack on the children.

Perhaps I was a little condescending after having my intelligence attacked but the last few post are ridiculous and I will not respond to him any further.

junglist101

I agree to a certain extent but i can't really just call him immature as it's unfair. They're his parents, whom he loves unconitionally. And one, or both, have commited a sin, for want of a better word.

I guess a lot of it hinges on how far you despise infidelity. I for one loathe it.

And i'll be honest, when i realised what my father was, going around having illegitimate kid after kid, spreading disgusting bile everywhere he went like a disease, i got very, very angry. Even though its his life and he can do whatever the fuk he wants. I got angry to the point of rage.

That was probably immature to you but i must say if that's the case then i don't see it being a bad thing if i'm honest.

Well i would indeed empathise with you if your father did something unforgiveable and you become angry to the point of punching doors or whatever kind of venting you would use.

And also, i guess you could argue you transgress to a child when it comes to your parents maybe.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="junglist101"]I simply posed a simple question as to why he was punching doors at 22 when his parents cheated and was attacked for doing so. I do empathise but at the same time as a full grown man I find it a little immature to be so upset to hear that one of your parents cheated that you are punching stuff. For Christ's sake they are adults, he's an adult. Maybe his father was unhappy in his relationship. Maybe his father put up with his mother for 18 years out of love for his kids and waited until it wouldn't affect there lives as much. It is so naive to think that your parents are dicks if they cheat as if it is a direct attack on the children.

Perhaps I was a little condescending after having my intelligence attacked but the last few post are ridiculous and I will not respond to him any further.

LeonardHatred

I agree to a certain extent but i can't really just call him immature as it's unfair. They're his parents, whom he loves unconitionally. And one, or both, have commited a sin, for want of a better word.

I guess a lot of it hinges on how far you despise infidelity. I for one loathe it.

And i'll be honest, when i realised what my father was, going around having illegitimate kid after kid, spreading disgusting bile everywhere he went like a disease, i got very, very angry. Even though its his life and he can do whatever the fuk he wants. I got angry to the point of rage.

That was probably immature to you but i must say if that's the case then i don't see it being a bad thing if i'm honest.

Right, yes yes.

[QUOTE="junglist101"]

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

I agree to a certain extent but i can't really just call him immature as it's unfair. They're his parents, whom he loves unconitionally. And one, or both, have commited a sin, for want of a better word.

I guess a lot of it hinges on how far you despise infidelity. I for one loathe it.

And i'll be honest, when i realised what my father was, going around having illegitimate kid after kid, spreading disgusting bile everywhere he went like a disease, i got very, very angry. Even though its his life and he can do whatever the fuk he wants. I got angry to the point of rage.

That was probably immature to you but i must say if that's the case then i don't see it being a bad thing if i'm honest.

Ilovegames1992

Well i would indeed empathise with you if your father did something unforgiveable and you become angry to the point of punching doors or whatever kind of venting you would use.

And also, i guess you could argue you transgress to a child when it comes to your parents maybe.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="junglist101"]What your father has done is more than enough reason to be pissed. That kind of behaivor speaks to beyond sex and to what kind of person your father is. Sorry to hear that. You would find we share something in common as my father has done stuff over the years that really pisses me off. Although he has made some changes I find forgiveness difficult.

junglist101

Well i would indeed empathise with you if your father did something unforgiveable and you become angry to the point of punching doors or whatever kind of venting you would use.

And also, i guess you could argue you transgress to a child when it comes to your parents maybe.

Well you're a bigger man than me, i can never forgive my father. I just never will. And if i ever meet him, i don't know what i am capable of, i've never hurt a fly in my life but i can't say its not beyond the realms of possibility for me to react in a volatile manner towards him.

Its probably immature for me to never forgive but i can't help it.

Plus i am naturally a very childlike person, i have somewhat of an arrested development. I wouldn't even deny that. :lol:

[QUOTE="junglist101"]

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

Well i would indeed empathise with you if your father did something unforgiveable and you become angry to the point of punching doors or whatever kind of venting you would use.

And also, i guess you could argue you transgress to a child when it comes to your parents maybe.

Ilovegames1992

Well you're a bigger man than me, i can never forgive my father. I just never will. And if i ever meet him, i don't know what i am capable of, i've never hurt a fly in my life but i can't say its not beyond the realms of possibility for me to react in a volatile manner towards him.

Its probably immature for me to never forgive but i can't help it.

Plus i am naturally a very childlike person, i have somewhat of an arrested development. I wouldn't even deny that. :lol:

My dad is huge so I never considered punching him as an option because I didn't want to get my ass kicked.

[QUOTE="Ilovegames1992"]

[QUOTE="junglist101"]Well, at age 33 I live on my own, married etc etc. At this point as could be said for the last 13 years or so if he's really doing something ridiculous I just tell him. But like you said it's difficult not to revert back to the child/parent relationship but I pride myself on handling things as maturely and wisely as possible with my father. I find I'm much happier that way.

junglist101

Well you're a bigger man than me, i can never forgive my father. I just never will. And if i ever meet him, i don't know what i am capable of, i've never hurt a fly in my life but i can't say its not beyond the realms of possibility for me to react in a volatile manner towards him.

Its probably immature for me to never forgive but i can't help it.

Plus i am naturally a very childlike person, i have somewhat of an arrested development. I wouldn't even deny that. :lol:

My dad is huge so I never considered punching him as an option because I didn't want to get my ass kicked.

Oh same for me. I'm about as pacifistic as it gets. But i'd still punch the sh!t out of him. Or at least get a cricket bat out or something.

i have somewhat of an arrested development. I wouldn't even deny that. :lol:Ilovegames1992

My dad cheated on my mum and they split up when I was 8. They got back together around 5/6 years later.

[QUOTE="ZumaJones07"][QUOTE="junglist101"]

It's really not your place to need to forgive them for cheating although it's difficult not to be upset when their actions adversly affect you. Cheating is a very complicated matter though.

Ilovegames1992

Dude, it's nobodies business but theirs i'm afraid. They have their life, you have yours.

No

The moment you put a child in the world you have the responsibility to do what's best for them. You don't do as you please. Being a parent is precisely that, putting your child's interests in front of yours.