Would you marry a woman who refused to take your last name?

As the title indicates, I am wondering how many of you would marry a woman if she wanted to keep her last name. Also, to the ladies who are reading this post, do you care? Would it bother you to take his last name or not?

Being from the South that I am, I think it should be obvious as to what a lot of folks around here think. I once had a friend in high school, during a debate in English class, said he would never marry a woman who would not take his last name. His girlfriend of almost a year looked a bit shocked, disappointed and then proceeded to leave the classroom in tears. Needless, to say they are not together anymore. I also asked a female friend of mine what her thoughts were. She immediately and confidently responded with a profound yes. I asked her why and her reasoning was that (and I quote to the best of my memory) "In the [Christian] Bible it states that a man is ruler over his wife and the head of his household. It only makes sense to take his last name and I have no problem with it." Now do not turn this into a religous debate or if any and all religions are good and all that. Not this thread. That was merely her justification.

I personally do not care. If she wants to take my last name, then so be it. If she doesn't that is fine with her. The choice is of course hers.

So guys/gals what do you think?

I imagine that she would want to take my last name because she would want another way to be 'connected' to me. But honestly? It would probably bother me initially but I would eventually get over it.

Well i think getting a chick to marry me would be the hard part,

As for taking my name, i hope she does.

I think I'd rather she keep hers, taking the male's last name is a tradition I see as pretty mysogynestic.

I don't care. While my wife sometimes uses my last name informally she still uses her name legally. Doesn't bother me one bit. She may be my spouse, but she's her own person and it's her right to use whatever name she chooses.

I personally wouldn't really care to be honest. I have to say that if something as small as that gives you pause to marry her, then you probably shouldn't be getting married in the first place.

Sure so long as my kids took my last name...

If I marry a woman, I don't want her to take my last name. That "tradition" makes no sense. My mother didn't take my father's name and they aren't any less happy for it.

Then again I don't fancy the idea of marriage either.

We're gonna arm-wrestle over it.

My last name is the best last name ever so I'd feel insulted to say the very least.

My last name is the best last name ever so I'd feel insulted to say the very least.

Silverbond

Not gonna tell us? :P

To me, it seems like one of those dumb traditions, right up there with the father giving away the bride. Seems dated. Seems sexist.

Plus, I do not really care for my family name, regardless.

As long as my kids take my last name, I won't have a fit over hers. It's something I'd like to happen (and I guess I'm traditional in that sense) but it's not going to be a deciding factor.

To me, it seems like one of those dumb traditions, right up there with the father giving away the bride. Seems dated. Seems sexist.

Plus, I do not really care for my family name, regardless.

Blue_Shield

If a woman didn't want to take a ridiculous last name, such as "Horney" (pronounced "horn) or a name I cannot even write in GS because it gets censored (Sheila Dik****, chief minister of Delhi) then would it not be understandable?

I'd be honored. I would never put my ridiculous last name on any women.

No, she wouldn't feel like my wife.

Seems like a really silly thing to fret over. If she wants to use my name, great, if she wants to keep her name, thats fine as well.

If loved her enough to marry her, I wouldn't care about it.

I don't intend to ever get married, but if I do, I might actually keep my last name. I always imagined myself taking the man's name, but now that I've realized that I really don't want children, I don't really see why I would want to change my name. It's been my name for a long time. This doesn't really matter though since I don't intend to get married and I doubt anyone would ever want to marry me anyway.t3hrubikscube

Well, I mean, movie stars rarely change their last names when they get married. It would be nice to not have them worry about that but I would understand if they didn't want to change it.zombehhhhh

What do movie stars have to do with the issue of a last name? O.o

I don't get it.

Who cars? If you love each other, her last name doesn't matter.

Whoever I marry will take my last name. It's just tradition.

[QUOTE="t3hrubikscube"]I don't intend to ever get married, but if I do, I might actually keep my last name. I always imagined myself taking the man's name, but now that I've realized that I really don't want children, I don't really see why I would want to change my name. It's been my name for a long time. This doesn't really matter though since I don't intend to get married and I doubt anyone would ever want to marry me anyway.tofu-lion91

My last name is not good, so I would rather my kids had a better name.

I hate my last name. So yes.