Would you need to sleep with someone before you considered marrying them?

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#1 entropyecho
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Assuming you are interested or capable of getting married, would you have to sleep with a potential partner before making that kind of commitment?

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#2 SilentSoprano
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How would getting sleep in the same bed make any difference?

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#3 entropyecho
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How would getting sleep in the same bed make any difference?

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They could be kickers!

But in all seriousness, I meant sleep as in "have sexual relations with."

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#4 Theokhoth
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No. Marriage and love are not founded--at least, not sturdily founded--on sex, and therefore I would not need to have sex with someone before deciding whether or not I want to marry them. Were it otherwise, then I would have to divorce the moment either one of us became impotent or uninterested.
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[QUOTE="Theokhoth"]No. Marriage and love are not founded--at least, not sturdily founded--on sex, and therefore I would not need to have sex with someone before deciding whether or not I want to marry them. Were it otherwise, then I would have to divorce the moment either one of us became impotent or uninterested.

You seem to be suggesting a dichotomy where a relationship/marriage is entirely about sex or where sex is not a factor at all. That is silly.
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#6 deactivated-5b19214ec908b
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I wouldn't "need" to. but it's very doubtful that I would get that far in a relationship and not sleep with them

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#7 MgamerBD
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Yes...I need to see if she can give that sweet hardcore loving I desire and give back to her over and over again....Back and forth...non stop...harder and harder. So yes I do :)
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#8 AutoPilotOn
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I wouldn't "need" to. but it's very doubtful that I would get that far in a relationship and not sleep with them

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#9 Theokhoth
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[QUOTE="xaos"][QUOTE="Theokhoth"]No. Marriage and love are not founded--at least, not sturdily founded--on sex, and therefore I would not need to have sex with someone before deciding whether or not I want to marry them. Were it otherwise, then I would have to divorce the moment either one of us became impotent or uninterested.

You seem to be suggesting a dichotomy where a relationship/marriage is entirely about sex or where sex is not a factor at all. That is silly.

That's not what I'm suggesting at all. But once I make sex the deciding factor in whether or not I marry someone, it stands to reason that once the sex aspect wears off, the marriage probably would be next to go.
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#10 _BlueDuck_
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Yes. Not because sex is necessarily a deciding factor on a potential life mate, rather, I'd assume I'd be in a relationship with someone for a good amount of years before marriage, and I would not be in a sexless relationship.

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#11 deactivated-6016e81e8e30f
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They say knowing a partner better than yourself is a must for a successful marriage, and I'd like to think they don't just mean that in a mental figure.
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#12 fidosim
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I wouldn't "need" to. but it's very doubtful that I would get that far in a relationship and not sleep with them

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This. I don't know how I could get enough XP to get to that level otherwise.
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#13 entropyecho
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[QUOTE="toast_burner"]

I wouldn't "need" to. but it's very doubtful that I would get that far in a relationship and not sleep with them

fidosim

This. I don't know how I could get enough XP to get to that level otherwise.

You need to complete side quests.

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#14 Theokhoth
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[QUOTE="fidosim"][QUOTE="toast_burner"] This. I don't know how I could get enough XP to get to that level otherwise.

[QUOTE="toast_burner"]

I wouldn't "need" to. but it's very doubtful that I would get that far in a relationship and not sleep with them

fidosim
This. I don't know how I could get enough XP to get to that level otherwise.

Grinding. Lots and lots of grinding.
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#15 ShadowJax04
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done and done...
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#16 dunl12496
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No unless they're actually, AHEM!

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#17 entropyecho
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Grinding. Lots and lots of grinding.Theokhoth

This answer destroys my answer; well done.

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#18 _BlueDuck_
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[QUOTE="fidosim"][QUOTE="toast_burner"] [QUOTE="fidosim"][QUOTE="toast_burner"]

I wouldn't "need" to. but it's very doubtful that I would get that far in a relationship and not sleep with them

Theokhoth

This. I don't know how I could get enough XP to get to that level otherwise.

Grinding. Lots and lots of grinding.

That's just outstanding.

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Grinding. Lots and lots of grinding.Theokhoth
:|:oops::lol:

That was brilliant

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#20 Suzy_Q_Kazoo
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This is a good question! Honestly, I'd be fine either way. I think it's important to have a good sex life with your partner, as it's a sign of closeness through intimacy, but I don't think I'd need it to actually consider marrying them. Whatever happens happens, I suppose.

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#21 cd_rom
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No, but I need some sort of confirmation that she was indeed born a woman. Sex gives strong hints towards that position.
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#22 entropyecho
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This is a good question! Honestly, I'd be fine either way. I think it's important to have a good sex life with your partner, as it's a sign of closeness through intimacy, but I don't think I'd need it to actually consider marrying them. Whatever happens happens, I suppose.

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Are there any other acts that have the same level of intimacy as sexual relations, or is sex in its own category in that respect?

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#23 rcignoni
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No, but it'd be nice to get that chance. Also, I couldn't be in a long relationship without sex, so I'd have to make up my mind FAST.
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#24 F1_2004
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I can't imagine the kind of sexual tension that would exist in a relationship that's gone on for years without sex, waiting for marriage. The two of you would either feel awkward/uncomfortable and not too close to each other, or you'd develop into a sexless unromantic relationship like some boring middle-aged couples have, where they're not particularly attracted to each other but just really good friends.
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#25 ShadowJax04
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Read the topic totally wrong.. to answer your question, I probably wouldn't know my partner that well if I hadn't even slept with her. So I most probably WOULD have banged her before getting married.

So that's a yes I suppose :P

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#26 Suzy_Q_Kazoo
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[QUOTE="Suzy_Q_Kazoo"]

This is a good question! Honestly, I'd be fine either way. I think it's important to have a good sex life with your partner, as it's a sign of closeness through intimacy, but I don't think I'd need it to actually consider marrying them. Whatever happens happens, I suppose.

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Are there any other acts that have the same level of intimacy as sexual relations, or is sex in its own category in that respect?

Well, I may be the wrong person to ask this because I place a lot of emphasis on sex. I feel that having sex with someone requires a very large amount of trust, as it'd leave me feeling very open and vulnerable at that point. I guess that's intimacy in general, for me, but if I felt like those feelings were present through alternate means and/or there was enough of an actual physical closeness of any sort then that'd be appropriate; a combination of the two. I'm not sure if that makes much sense :P

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On one of them there dating websites, are you now?
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#28 PeaceChild90
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I don't think I could get that far in a relationship without sleeping with them. It just kinda happens.

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#29 _R34LiTY_
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No. If she doesn't know anything by the time we get married, she can most certainly get trained :twisted:

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#30 weezyfb
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SEX IS A MUST. I cant tell how many people who went the abstinence route and have failed miserably. One guy i knew fond out on the wedding night that they couldn't have sex as it turns out she had a "vaginal condition". So that ended... You need to test out the car before you buy it
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#31 Theokhoth
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:|:oops::lol:

That was brilliant

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That's just outstanding.

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This answer destroys my answer; well done.

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*Bows* Thank you, thank you, you've been a wonderful audience.

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#32 Kcube
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No, but I need some sort of confirmation that she was indeed born a woman. Sex gives strong hints towards that position.cd_rom

The Crocodile Dundee way :)

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#33 angrules23
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If you marry someone and the sex is bad well then the whole marriage is doomed.
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#34 kev_stevens67
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Not at all. I'm married to a wonderful woman and we did not sleep together before marriage.

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#35 F1_2004
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Not at all. I'm married to a wonderful woman and we did not sleep together before marriage.

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Yeah but how often do you do it now?
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#36 scoots9
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As long as I'm sure they have the proper organs and they aren't hideously ugly under their clothes, no I wouldn't need to.

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#37 Wolls
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Yes 100%. If I'm spending the rest of my life having sex with only one person then they better do it for me in the bedroom.
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#38 tocool340
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Yes. If the sex is bad, than the marriage probably won't last long.....

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#39 curono
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[QUOTE="AutoPilotOn"][QUOTE="toast_burner"]

I wouldn't "need" to. but it's very doubtful that I would get that far in a relationship and not sleep with them

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Also... but what if you hate her in bed.... You cant leave that part of your life... to chance.
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#40 binpink
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Don't know. Not sure what else to say about it. There are several things to consider and I don't think one option is for sure right and one for sure wrong.

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#41 Z0MBIES
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Yes, need to make sure everything works out about it, otherwise it could become a nagging sore point. I wouldn't marry someone who acts like a board during sex.
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#42 F1_2004
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tbh if the sex is bad, both of you are terrible and there's no hope for you. Nobody was born a pornstar, and after you're married you have a lifetime to learn/perfect it, provided you have the will.
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#43 branketra
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lol At this thread.
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#44 funsohng
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I do not believe they are directly connected, but that's probably how it will play out. But I would definitely want to live with them before marrying them.
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#45 JonnyEagle
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Yeah, you gotta test drive a car to make sure you want it or not..........
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#46 VaguelyTagged
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trust me,you wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life with a saggy boobed woman.

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#47 Ghost_702
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No. However at the same time, I wouldn't marry someone that never puts out. It may seem selfish but I, as well as any other human being, have needs that I would like to see fulfilled.
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#48 MagnumPI
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Of course. Sometimes marriage is allbusiness andother timesmarriage results because you hit itbut didn't want to quit it.

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#49 MRBUCKMASTER
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No, but i want to know what they look like naked first :P
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#50 swoosh18
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I always download the demo if possible before purchasing the game. Need to know what if it's worth the investment.