Would you stay with your partner if they cheated on you?

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The big question! I'm finding in my youthful life that cheating doesn't seem to be the massive deal it once was. I know a whole bunch of couples who have cheated on each other, come clean and stayed together regardless. I think it's probably something to do with sex being more of a simple bodily function these days than the very serious, very important act that it once was to prior generations. But enough of my armchair theorising!

What would YOU do if your girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife cheated on you? And consider the two different scenarios:

1) You simply find out that they did it. Walk in while it's happening, hear it from someone else etc.

2) They tell you themselves, come clean and look sincerely sorry and upset that it happened.

What say you!? :o

Maybe, but if they did it again it's over.

I'd leave without a doubt. They knew it was wrong, now face the consequences.

No, no second chances regardless of if they came clean about it.

If they speak up about it before i find out then we have a chance...

But if i find out about it first before they speak to me about it... we have issues...

course this will all come down to the type of relationship you two have going on. Long term be easier to get over the cheating thing... while short term be done soon as one find out.

We are just flesh and blood and seduction is a B****.

ALot of us have the urge to have sex..even if it means hurting someone you love.

In my eyes love and sex are not the same thing..Like I said your justflesh and blood..love runs deeper.

FFS I cant say whats in my damn head :(

Would dump them in a second.

If they speak up about it before i find out then we have a chance...

But if i find out about it first before they speak to me about it... we have issues...

course this will all come down to the type of relationship you two have going on. Long term be easier to get over the cheating thing... while short term be done soon as one find out.

k2theswiss

But had she told me at the time i probably would have dumped her in a heartbeat, seeing as it happened after we'd only been going out a short while so i wasn't as attached to her as i was after being with her so long.

I still wish people just wouldn't cheat though, it only makes it difficult to trust people and cheapens you as a person. I'm pretty proud that i've never once cheated on anybody, and i dont think i ever would.

We are just flesh and blood and seduction is a B****.

ALot of us have the urge to have sex..even if it means hurting someone you love.

In my eyes love and sex are not the same thing..Like I said your justflesh and blood..love runs deeper.

FFS I cant say whats in my damn head :(

Kcube

id dumb them faster than a nano second

I dont feel the need to cheat and look for sex while I'm with someone, so I rather be with a person with the same mindset. It is not that I don't understand the weakness behind cheating, it is just that I don't need that in my life. So why be with someone who cheats if there are lots of woman out there who don't cheat?

No. That's disrespectful and I wouldn't put up with it.

No, no second chances regardless of if they came clean about it.

binpink

My ex cheated on me and well she is my ex now. We tryed to stay together after but it didnt work. Plus the way I found out sucked. AutoPilotOn

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No, no second chances regardless of if they came clean about it.

rawsavon

No... that's strange. :question: It looks the same as it always did to me.

Dunno, I've never been in a relationship. Given that I have a temper it would probably depend on whether she told me or I caught her. Lust happens so if she tells me it wouldn't be too bad but if I walked in on her with someone it would probably end up with the guy being chased out and a heated talking to.

Probably not, I didn't last time.

Or I guess I should say I wouldn't have stayed?He found out that I knew and broke up with me before I did, so I didn't even get the satisfaction of dumping him.

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No, no second chances regardless of if they came clean about it.

binpink

No... that's strange. :question: It looks the same as it always did to me.

I'd ditch them like a jet plane dumping fuel in an emergency.

No second chances in situations like this. That's the philosophy I live with.

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No... that's strange. :question: It looks the same as it always did to me.

You are slowly developing an eye disease. Fun times ahead

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No... that's strange. :question: It looks the same as it always did to me.

Adrianstalker

You are slowly developing an eye disease. Fun times ahead

No, cheating involves betrayl and lying and general disrespect and lack of ethics/morals. I wouldn't respect anyone who had cheated in the past for any reason, and I certainly wouldn't stay with someone if they cheated on me. If I'm so horrible that you had to find someone else you should have left me, if it "just happened" well you probably can't be trusted.

I cannot say that I would and I cannot say that I would not. Circumstance is everything.

Guess that depends on whether you think love and sex are the same thing. Sex is a part of love ofcourse. but sex can be its own thing. I guess this is something me and my partner need to talk about. :oops: . I'm not exactly sure how I feel about 'open' relationships. I want my partner to be only mine in my heart... but sex is.. let's face it. fun.

I would dump them the nano second I found out.

If they don't care enough or don't have enough control to not cheat me then I want nothing to do with them. Who says it won't happen again?

It depends on how much I cared about her/him and how long the cheating was going on, I guess, but it'd be incredibly difficult for me to forgive in any scenario, I think.

I'd actually have to be in the situation to know what I would do but I think that if SHE told me (especially if whatever she did happened after a fight or something) I'd forgive her.

meh maybe, I'd make her feel guilty and keep her around for when I need a quick lay while looking for a new girlfriend/contemplate being single.

I am not really at the point where any relationship I am in is serious, so its not that big a deal. Obviously the betrayal hurts, but as far as lasting impact no

It depends on why, really. I do take sex seriously, so it's not something I would forgive so easily. They better have a damn good reason and they better come clean, rather than me finding out on my own.

Don't know. On one hand, that is a massive violation of trust. I'm sure it would be hurtful and demeaning. On the other hand, if this was someone you really cared about and knew well, would you be willing to just walk away?