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#1 hell_blazer899
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Well, the two had a big argument about money yesterday and my mom is very self-centered, irresponsible and judgmental is forcing my dad out of the house. I don't even think she'll pay rest of the tuition for me as opposed to my dad who's going to leave me 50K once he leaves out of town. Man I hate her (she even stole 1K off my dad once and she denied that...how low can you get??) Plus, I have a test this Sat and the personal stuff is stressing me out. My question to OT: Do you have a relative simliar to mine? So ignorant, obtrusive and does not even consider a thing what is said to them. That stuff just irritates me...you know?
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#2 Cloud_Insurance
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happy holidays
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#3 hell_blazer899
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happy holidaysCloud_Insurance
that too. I assume you're a failed comedian.
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#4 tony2077ca
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my aunt on my mums side Linda's the name she lives in outlook and lives with my grandma and she looks like the wrong end of a dog to boot
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WTH sry to here that tc some people think its funny like the poster under you.
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#6 Toriko42
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It's life man, sucks but divorces happen all the time don't think you're the only one suffering through it I know many like you. You'll persevere
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#7 iam2green
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damn, sorry to read that. so it is official that ur parents r getting devorced? i would suggest they try to get marriage consoling. get a hob to help pay for ur education. i know it will be hard as college can be expensive.
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#8 hell_blazer899
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yea. guess that does not apply with people living without parents huh
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#9 hell_blazer899
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damn, sorry to read that. so it is official that ur parents r getting devorced? i would suggest they try to get marriage consoling. get a hob to help pay for ur education. i know it will be hard as college can be expensive. iam2green
no not yet. Im thinkin he's just living away for the time being. p.s. we weren;t like this before. It's just a big mistake made by him/
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#10 lordlunch2
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yah my ma and pa got divorced before i was born, so i really have no idea what its like since i've never even seen my dad. I would imagine its pretty tough though dude. You should definitly try getting a job as soon as you are old enough or can to pay for your education. Dont rely on anybody to help you but yourself, and you'll always get what you want.
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#12 hell_blazer899
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[QUOTE="Mkavanaugh77"]My mom and dad divorced whne i was 6, im 21 now. He was an alcoholic, bit different situation from yours.

yea but you rarely see Asian family parting ways. (I assume you're a different race)
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I kind of see where you're coming from; my parents argued about a lot of things too, then finally divorced last year. It didn't really effect me much, as I was the oldest out of my siblings anyway. My brother and sister on the other hand, they took it pretty hard. Just hope things will eventually get better down the road.
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[QUOTE="hell_blazer899"][QUOTE="Mkavanaugh77"]My mom and dad divorced whne i was 6, im 21 now. He was an alcoholic, bit different situation from yours.

yea but you rarely see Asian family parting ways. (I assume you're a different race)

I'm asian, and my parents still divorced :P
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#15 biggest_loser
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You were in her womb for 9 months...
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#16 fbigent34
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Yea but its my dad who the one... not my mom.. there spreated my mom remarried
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Well, the two had a big argument about money yesterday and my mom is very self-centered, irresponsible and judgmental is forcing my dad out of the house. I don't even think she'll pay rest of the tuition for me as opposed to my dad who's going to leave me 50K once he leaves out of town. Man I hate her (she even stole 1K off my dad once and she denied that...how low can you get??) Plus, I have a test this Sat and the personal stuff is stressing me out. My question to OT: Do you have a relative simliar to mine? So ignorant, obtrusive and does not even consider a thing what is said to them. That stuff just irritates me...you know?hell_blazer899
Sorry dude. I really hope your mom realizes the mistakes of her ways and lets your dad come back.
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[QUOTE="Kikouken"][QUOTE="hell_blazer899"][QUOTE="Mkavanaugh77"]My mom and dad divorced whne i was 6, im 21 now. He was an alcoholic, bit different situation from yours.

yea but you rarely see Asian family parting ways. (I assume you're a different race)

I'm asian, and my parents still divorced :P

werd. come to thing about it, If I leave, my mom will come crawling and beg me to come back. Ahhh family relationships, don't you just love it?
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#19 Toriko42
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You were in her womb for 9 months...biggest_loser
That doesn't mean much You can go to school with someone for 10 years and still hate their guts
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#20 LJS9502_basic
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It's never one event that breaks up a marriage. Best advice...don't get it in the middle of it. Stay neutral.
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#21 TheBeast789
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happy holidaysCloud_Insurance
[QUOTE="Cloud_Insurance"]happy holidayshell_blazer899
that too. I assume you're a failed comedian.

Funny TC...thats what comes to mind everytime i read his posts....aaaanyways.....its 4 the better
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#22 biggest_loser
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[QUOTE="biggest_loser"]You were in her womb for 9 months...Toriko42
That doesn't mean much You can go to school with someone for 10 years and still hate their guts

Thats not the same as YOUR MOTHER - the person who gave birth and life to you. The TC might be angry with her but he cannot forget that! Ever!
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#24 hell_blazer899
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You were in her womb for 9 months...biggest_loser
tre dat. but she once said something about marrying to my dad and having me was a bad/expensive idea. Something along those lines. Some women...
Yea but its my dad who the one... not my mom.. there spreated my mom remarriedfbigent34
remarryed huh? sounds like a wise idea.
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How old are you? I mean if your past college it would be rather dissapointing but not really as big of a deal if you were still in grade school when your parents still play a big role.
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#26 clicketyclick
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Well, the two had a big argument about money yesterday and my mom is very self-centered, irresponsible and judgmental is forcing my dad out of the house. I don't even think she'll pay rest of the tuition for me as opposed to my dad who's going to leave me 50K once he leaves out of town. Man I hate her (she even stole 1K off my dad once and she denied that...how low can you get??) Plus, I have a test this Sat and the personal stuff is stressing me out. My question to OT: Do you have a relative simliar to mine? So ignorant, obtrusive and does not even consider a thing what is said to them. That stuff just irritates me...you know?hell_blazer899
Well I don't know how old you are, but you're still in high school, so you're probably below 17. There might be extenuating circumstances you are unaware of because your parents are keeping details of their relationship from you. It's very common not to tell children when one parent has had an affair, in order to preserve relationships so the child won't get angry at the cheating parent and feel abandoned. If your father had an affair, that would go some ways to explain your mother's seemingly irrational behaviour. It's very painful. It does seem like you don't have all the information on this. I'd take LJS's advice and stay out of it.
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#27 CleanPlayer
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My parents never got along when I was home, their not even friends but whenever I see them together their arguing and fighting. It's frustrating so I feel ya man. My best advice is to not take sides and do your best to get along.
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#28 loseittoo
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[QUOTE="Mkavanaugh77"]My mom and dad divorced whne i was 6, im 21 now. He was an alcoholic, bit different situation from yours.hell_blazer899
yea but you rarely see Asian family parting ways. (I assume you're a different race)

erm..... Pls don't think that Asian are the only Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Viets. I'm asian and my race are one of the most common to get divorce... My parents are divorced when i was 6 too xD
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#29 hell_blazer899
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[QUOTE="hell_blazer899"][QUOTE="Mkavanaugh77"]My mom and dad divorced whne i was 6, im 21 now. He was an alcoholic, bit different situation from yours.loseittoo
yea but you rarely see Asian family parting ways. (I assume you're a different race)

erm..... Pls don't think that Asian are the only Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Viets. I'm asian and my race are one of the most common to get divorce... My parents are divorced when i was 6 too xD

:lol: That's what you learn from watching Maury n Jerry Springer. hah
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#30 hell_blazer899
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My parents never got along when I was home, their not even friends but whenever I see them together their arguing and fighting. It's frustrating so I feel ya man. My best advice is to not take sides and do your best to get along. CleanPlayer
I'm taking my dad's side since he's vulnerable of being spat at. Trust me, if you were in my position, you would the same.
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[QUOTE="hell_blazer899"]Well, the two had a big argument about money yesterday and my mom is very self-centered, irresponsible and judgmental is forcing my dad out of the house. I don't even think she'll pay rest of the tuition for me as opposed to my dad who's going to leave me 50K once he leaves out of town. Man I hate her (she even stole 1K off my dad once and she denied that...how low can you get??) Plus, I have a test this Sat and the personal stuff is stressing me out. My question to OT: Do you have a relative simliar to mine? So ignorant, obtrusive and does not even consider a thing what is said to them. That stuff just irritates me...you know?clicketyclick
Well I don't know how old you are, but you're still in high school, so you're probably below 17. There might be extenuating circumstances you are unaware of because your parents are keeping details of their relationship from you. It's very common not to tell children when one parent has had an affair, in order to preserve relationships so the child won't get angry at the cheating parent and feel abandoned. If your father had an affair, that would go some ways to explain your mother's seemingly irrational behaviour. It's very painful. It does seem like you don't have all the information on this. I'd take LJS's advice and stay out of it.

There's a 0% chance that either one is cheating. Also, my mom's personality is inherited from her mom, which is evident because both would yell at me from time to time. Both my mom and my grandma (my mom's side, sometimes my grandpa) would team up and argue/fight with my dad so I had to stop it. One time, they stepped way out of line that I almost punched her:shock: but didn't:shock:

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#32 clicketyclick
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There's a 0% chance that either one is cheating. Also, my mom's personality is inherited from her mom, which is evident because both would yell at me from time to time. Both my mom and my grandma (my mom's side, sometimes my grandpa) would team up and argue/fight with my dad so I had to stop it. One time, they stepped way out of line that I almost punched her:shock: but didn't:shock: hell_blazer899
No offense, but I think you're a little too biased to determine the true chance that either is cheating: a little too close to the situation to see what's going on. It seems to me that you're not being entirely fair to your mum out of anger at her that she's insisting your father leave the house. Truly, if she were all about the money (which you seem to suggest what with you commenting she wants to keep the house, doesn't want to pay tuition, stole money, and said marrying and having you was expensive) then she would have either divorced him right away (half share of his stuff and spousal support) or she would have tried to get him to stay (keep access to his income.) It especially doesn't make sense to divorce during these rough financial times as assets can be hidden with losses and debts during settlement negotiations and lawyers are costly. What were they fighting with your father about/
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you see what really happened was your dad found my and your mom(also known as my *****) nekkid in bed. I'm jk btw
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[QUOTE="hell_blazer899"]There's a 0% chance that either one is cheating. Also, my mom's personality is inherited from her mom, which is evident because both would yell at me from time to time. Both my mom and my grandma (my mom's side, sometimes my grandpa) would team up and argue/fight with my dad so I had to stop it. One time, they stepped way out of line that I almost punched her:shock: but didn't:shock: clicketyclick
No offense, but I think you're a little too biased to determine the true chance that either is cheating: a little too close to the situation to see what's going on. It seems to me that you're not being entirely fair to your mum out of anger at her that she's insisting your father leave the house. Truly, if she were all about the money (which you seem to suggest what with you commenting she wants to keep the house, doesn't want to pay tuition, stole money, and said marrying and having you was expensive) then she would have either divorced him right away (half share of his stuff and spousal support) or she would have tried to get him to stay (keep access to his income.) It especially doesn't make sense to divorce during these rough financial times as assets can be hidden with losses and debts during settlement negotiations and lawyers are costly. What were they fighting with your father about/

1. You're right my mom does work 8 hours a day as a massage therapist. Who knows what people can get her into. My dad cheating is a 0 because he's jobless and stay home all the time.

2. Not entirely fair...come on. My dad was the one who gave her the money in buying 2 apartments. Without him, she would have 0 chance--considering the job she's in.

3. Actually my dad wants to divorce her but didn't because of me. He thought we'd start from the beginning and things would work out fine.Obviously this backfired and he was kind enough to give another chance.

4. They fight my dad over the simplest of matters. Money deficiency, Improper arrangemen, parked cars.

Oh man. My grandpa just fought with my dad over parked cars

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#35 LewyDeng2
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take ur dads side, move in with him, and tell ur mom to screw off until she can mature a little bit, thats what i would do. dont take my advice
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#36 artichoke
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I suggest you don't get involved and stay neutral. My parents divorced when I was ten and on top of that my mom decided to move back to the US which pretty much ruined things for everyone. My dad followed since he wanted to be close to us and had to go back to school to get his doctor's license here in the US. Now everything is pretty stable and my dad's remarried but it's still not the same. If you side with one of your parents you're only going to regret it later on.
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#37 Guybrush_3
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You were in her womb for 9 months...biggest_loser

That doesnt give her a right to treat him badly. If his dad cares about him more than his mom does then he should go with his dad.

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#38 XxSTILL_BORNxX
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Yeah, my parents divorced when i was 5...it was painful since i had to take care of my brother and sister with my dad[my mom divorced my dad, don't know for what though] ... it was really tough but i got through , im 17 now and everything is pretty good now since i got used to everything.
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#39 DigitalExile
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Go live with your dad. o.O Or make him kick her out.
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#40 freek666
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Unlucky. I probably do have relatives who would do something like that, but I try not to assosciate myself with anyone other than my immediate family members and my dads mum.
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#41 Lto_thaG
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My parents got separated a long time ago.It was best for everyone,I haven't seen my dad in about 6 years now.I really really don't like the man.
And about that test,speak to your teacher about it,tell him/her what is happening at home,I'm sure they'll understand.
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#42 N8A
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sounds like a good move for your dad.
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My parents got separated a long time ago.It was best for everyone,I haven't seen my dad in about 6 years now.I really really don't like the man.
And about that test,speak to your teacher about it,tell him/her what is happening at home,I'm sure they'll understand.
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i havnt spoken to my dad in almost ten years, i live on my own but im in contact with my mum a fair bit. oh and TC stop winging, take it like a man and get over it, it affects you not!
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1. You're right my mom does work 8 hours a day as a massage therapist. Who knows what people can get her into. My dad cheating is a 0 because he's jobless and stay home all the time.

2. Not entirely fair...come on. My dad was the one who gave her the money in buying 2 apartments. Without him, she would have 0 chance--considering the job she's in.

3. Actually my dad wants to divorce her but didn't because of me. He thought we'd start from the beginning and things would work out fine.Obviously this backfired and he was kind enough to give another chance.

4. They fight my dad over the simplest of matters. Money deficiency, Improper arrangemen, parked cars.

Oh man. My grandpa just fought with my dad over parked cars

hell_blazer899

I'm telling you again..you don't know what's going on with the marriage though it seems your dad is feeding you information to get you on his side...which is totally wrong on his part if he's doing that.

Your mom is the only one working? How does your dad have all this money since he doesn't bother to work? Yeah money is a big problem in a relationship...especially when one person is hanging around the house all day not contributing to the finances.

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#45 NoSpeakyEnglish
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Why do couples divorce so much in America anyway?
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#46 hokies1313
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That's tough man. Why don't you move with your dad, he sounds like a stand up guy. Just be careful with your money and don't let your mother get to the money your dad leaves you.
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#47 deactivated-5e836a855beb2
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Did your dad cheat on your mom?
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sorry to hear
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Nah, but I have a friend who just never thinks thing through because they have someone to always rely on to get them out of jams as well as their good looks to influence people into constantly helping and making reparations for them.
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#50 jmg128thinfrgt
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Sorry to hear that man. I too have a partial relative (half-sibling) that is irrisponsible lyer that is living in her own little world, so I just distanse myself from that. I know you probably cant do that at the moment I was just responding to your question to others that had someone else like that :?