Am I am scumbag if I purchase a new Xbox behind my wife's back?

I already have a Wii (for the kids) and a PS3. I am growing tired of my oldest son wanting to play daddy's PS3, its an older generation model so who knows how much longer its going to last. I'm not a huge HALO fan so there really isn't a dire need for a 3rd console. I'm pretty much just addicted to technology and would like to have one, if not for any other reason but to have the ability to buy the Xbox version of a game that is out for all consoles if it turns out the Xbox version is the smoothest running etc. I do prefer XBL when compared to PSN and the achievements system vs. the trophies of PS3 as well. I am not the type of husband to just go and buy a $300 item and not care what the wife thinks. So that leads me to the aforementioned topic. Am I just a bad husband if I go through with it?chotchies23

Ask your wife first and then try to convince her. If this does not help i will give you a piece of advise that i am quoting from White Men Can't Jump : "Always listen to the woman..."

Im 17 so take my advice in respect to that.

I would say dont buy it. You have a family and im sure that you have better things to put that 300 bucks towards. You already have a ps3 and a wii and i think thats more than enough.

Maybe you should pitch the idea to your wife and instead of getting the 300$ model get the 150$ one and upgrade the hard drive later.

Going out and making a purchase behind your wifes back isnt awful, but i just wouldnt do it. Besides shes gonna see it anyways, and through my experience thus far with woman shes probably going to get pissed at you for doing it.

[QUOTE="chotchies23"]I already have a Wii (for the kids) and a PS3. I am growing tired of my oldest son wanting to play daddy's PS3, its an older generation model so who knows how much longer its going to last. I'm not a huge HALO fan so there really isn't a dire need for a 3rd console. I'm pretty much just addicted to technology and would like to have one, if not for any other reason but to have the ability to buy the Xbox version of a game that is out for all consoles if it turns out the Xbox version is the smoothest running etc. I do prefer XBL when compared to PSN and the achievements system vs. the trophies of PS3 as well. I am not the type of husband to just go and buy a $300 item and not care what the wife thinks. So that leads me to the aforementioned topic. Am I just a bad husband if I go through with it?EvilSelf

Ask your wife first and then try to convince her. If this does not help i will give you a piece of advise that i am quoting from White Men Can't Jump : "Always listen to the woman..."

Your not a scumbag mate but you are kind of screwed, I would wait till the crimbo sales and then buy it for yourself and the missus can't really moan then as it's christmas and you will get a good deal. I know it's a wait but it will save you grief in the long run.

Have you asked your wife about getting an XBOX 360? Ask her and if the money isn't set aside for bills or groceries, then I say go ahead and do it.

Go out and buy it. Just think of it as an early Christmas present from you to yourself.

TRUST ME. I did this with a ps2 with my wife... she was not entirely pissed, but lets just say it wasnt all that fun when she found out. Its always better to be up front with your lady.

dude are you serious, i take it you probs work hard if your considering this buy to have the money. your allowed to wind down. and if games if your thing then go nuts.

i went and bought a 350z (car)even though i got told not too we could afford it and i work my ass off while my lady is doin the sex and the city thing going out for lunch and buying crap loads of shoes with my money lol its not selfish man and dont feel bad if what your buying isnt going to bankrupt you and so on then you should if your working hard

I already have a Wii (for the kids) and a PS3. I am growing tired of my oldest son wanting to play daddy's PS3, its an older generation model so who knows how much longer its going to last. I'm not a huge HALO fan so there really isn't a dire need for a 3rd console. I'm pretty much just addicted to technology and would like to have one, if not for any other reason but to have the ability to buy the Xbox version of a game that is out for all consoles if it turns out the Xbox version is the smoothest running etc. I do prefer XBL when compared to PSN and the achievements system vs. the trophies of PS3 as well. I am not the type of husband to just go and buy a $300 item and not care what the wife thinks. So that leads me to the aforementioned topic. Am I just a bad husband if I go through with it?chotchies23

If you can't go out and buy what you want ebcause your wife will get mad..then your not with the right person. If you have the funds and its not effecting bills and such you should be able to do what you want. At least you are staying home with the 360 and not spending it on booze and staying out all night. She shouldn't complain at all..and if she does..well she needs to respect what you like...get a better woman

If you can't go out and buy what you want ebcause your wife will get mad..then your not with the right person. If you have the funds and its not effecting bills and such you should be able to do what you want. At least you are staying home with the 360 and not spending it on booze and staying out all night. She shouldn't complain at all..and if she does..well she needs to respect what you like...get a better woman

Ryuketsu2043

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[QUOTE="chotchies23"]I already have a Wii (for the kids) and a PS3. I am growing tired of my oldest son wanting to play daddy's PS3, its an older generation model so who knows how much longer its going to last. I'm not a huge HALO fan so there really isn't a dire need for a 3rd console. I'm pretty much just addicted to technology and would like to have one, if not for any other reason but to have the ability to buy the Xbox version of a game that is out for all consoles if it turns out the Xbox version is the smoothest running etc. I do prefer XBL when compared to PSN and the achievements system vs. the trophies of PS3 as well. I am not the type of husband to just go and buy a $300 item and not care what the wife thinks. So that leads me to the aforementioned topic. Am I just a bad husband if I go through with it?chotchies23

Ask your wife first and then try to convince her. If this does not help i will give you a piece of advise that i am quoting from White Men Can't Jump : "Always listen to the woman..."

Tell me about it...At least i feel kind of blessed: My girl is actually enjoying playing video games! I mean i am at work right now and i am pretty sure she is kicking b*tt on Halo Reach right now...Ha ha... Man, try to convince your wife that there are good coop games you can play with her, which means spending quality time, socializing together. It worked for me. We started with the kiddy Lego Games, then we went to Gears, then to Army of Two, then i showed my girl Oblivion and she must have put in about 200 hours in that game, then she started playing Dragon Age Origins and now Halo Reach. Everytime i say: "Babe, there is this game coming out...you will probably like it..." and she does not have anything against buying games...Lucky me i guess....

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Ask your wife first and then try to convince her. If this does not help i will give you a piece of advise that i am quoting from White Men Can't Jump : "Always listen to the woman..."

EvilSelf

Tell me about it...At least i feel kind of blessed: My girl is actually enjoying playing video games! I mean i am at work right now and i am pretty sure she is kicking b*tt on Halo Reach right now...Ha ha... Man, try to convince your wife that there are good coop games you can play with her, which means spending quality time, socializing together. It worked for me. We started with the kiddy Lego Games, then we went to Gears, then to Army of Two, then i showed my girl Oblivion and she must have put in about 200 hours in that game, then she started playing Dragon Age Origins and now Halo Reach. Everytime i say: "Babe, there is this game coming out...you will probably like it..." and she does not have anything against buying games...Lucky me i guess....

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[QUOTE="chotchies23"] Yeah man I am real hesitant to make the purchase. Where did my single years go, the ones with zero responsibility!!chotchies23

Tell me about it...At least i feel kind of blessed: My girl is actually enjoying playing video games! I mean i am at work right now and i am pretty sure she is kicking b*tt on Halo Reach right now...Ha ha... Man, try to convince your wife that there are good coop games you can play with her, which means spending quality time, socializing together. It worked for me. We started with the kiddy Lego Games, then we went to Gears, then to Army of Two, then i showed my girl Oblivion and she must have put in about 200 hours in that game, then she started playing Dragon Age Origins and now Halo Reach. Everytime i say: "Babe, there is this game coming out...you will probably like it..." and she does not have anything against buying games...Lucky me i guess....

Ha ha. Good luck bro. Hey, why dont you get some good coop game on your PS3 and then start getting your wife involved in them. I am sure once she gets addicted, she wont mind buying the XBOX 360. Good luck!

lol good luck man. I know where you are coming from. My girl (soon to be wife) pretty much lets me do what i want as long as the bills are paid. I would be weary on buying a new pc or something too when i already have a good one..but im a tech slut so. She's awesome though she just wants me to watch a movie or chil lwith her ..just like anybody else...cept when she wants to watch movies its usually zombie gory horror movies..so i lucked out both ways lol

I'm actually in the same boat as you except I have a 360 and Wii and I want to get a PS3. We have discussed it many times I both know that I don't need it but she is ok with me buying it because she knows how much I enjoy gaming in my free time. And as someone else said I'm going to wait untill christmas and get it as a gift for myself (and probably buy her something nice for good measure). As long as you have an understanding wife there really shouldnt be a problem with it but you defiantely want to talk with her about it before you go and just get one. It would be like her comming home with a bunch of new shoes or purses orwhatever she is really intoand not telling you about it. Marriage requires communication so talking about it is the right thing. Good luck to you.

I wouldnt feel guilty. I see console and game purchases as a great form of family entertainment that is cheaper then other things like movies. one game for $60 has more longevity and entertainment then hour and half movie that costs $60 for the whole family. My future wife will definitely have to be a gamer.

You're not a scumbag. A scumbag would be a man who took food off his family's table just to buy an Xbox. If all your bills are paid and it's your money, why not?

Thanks everyone for your responses. I appreciate where you all are coming from I really do. Moral of the story folks is marry an avid gamer (although how many really hot gamers are out there, ones that don't need converting b/c they "just want to spend time with you". I'm talking hard core gamers that play COW MW online and talk smack??)chotchies23

give it to your son as a present then at least you'll look nice when getting yelled atLaytonsCat

[QUOTE="chotchies23"]Thanks everyone for your responses. I appreciate where you all are coming from I really do. Moral of the story folks is marry an avid gamer (although how many really hot gamers are out there, ones that don't need converting b/c they "just want to spend time with you". I'm talking hard core gamers that play COW MW online and talk smack??)DJ_Magneto

"Always listen to the woman..."EvilSelf

What he said.

I already have a Wii (for the kids) and a PS3. I am growing tired of my oldest son wanting to play daddy's PS3, its an older generation model so who knows how much longer its going to last. I'm not a huge HALO fan so there really isn't a dire need for a 3rd console. I'm pretty much just addicted to technology and would like to have one, if not for any other reason but to have the ability to buy the Xbox version of a game that is out for all consoles if it turns out the Xbox version is the smoothest running etc. I do prefer XBL when compared to PSN and the achievements system vs. the trophies of PS3 as well. I am not the type of husband to just go and buy a $300 item and not care what the wife thinks. So that leads me to the aforementioned topic. Am I just a bad husband if I go through with it?chotchies23

LOL even though you are married you still have a brain and can make choices by your self mate... If you want the system go out and get it who cares what anyone else thinks live your life with no regrets.

I feel like if its your money you should be able to do whatever you want with but if you share money then you would def need her ok first. If your not broke and the moneys yours then why not?

Just from your question i bet your wife feels "you got enough games to play" and probably doesn't even like you playing games very much or if all. No point in ruining trust over a video game. Just find a way to get it and she knows. If she won't let you get it, then handle the situation yourself and get one.

Trade in your PS3.

If it's your money then I don't see the problem. I get not wanting to PO wifey but I bet you can think of a dozen examples where she's spent a lot of money without consenting you. Besides, if you earned the money then you should be able to spend on yourself once in a while. If its her money then I wouldn't, never spen someone elses hard earned cash without permission, never ever.

You could always buy something for her at the same time as well. That'll make it a lot harder for her to argue.

Well, you don't want to be secretive, but, at the same time, it's not up to your wife to tell you what to do. If you want to buy an XBox 360, then go buy an XBox 360.

Remember, you're the man of the house.

Oh cmon it's only 300 dollars, use your brain. If you make enough money and are able to afford it buy it, if not don't. Money comes and goes and you won't even miss it unless you have none. Life is short so do whatever makes you happy unless it's severely hurting others.

[QUOTE="chotchies23"]I already have a Wii (for the kids) and a PS3. I am growing tired of my oldest son wanting to play daddy's PS3, its an older generation model so who knows how much longer its going to last. I'm not a huge HALO fan so there really isn't a dire need for a 3rd console. I'm pretty much just addicted to technology and would like to have one, if not for any other reason but to have the ability to buy the Xbox version of a game that is out for all consoles if it turns out the Xbox version is the smoothest running etc. I do prefer XBL when compared to PSN and the achievements system vs. the trophies of PS3 as well. I am not the type of husband to just go and buy a $300 item and not care what the wife thinks. So that leads me to the aforementioned topic. Am I just a bad husband if I go through with it?Xbox360Gamer15

Lol, it's funny you ask this, because I did't exactly buy an Xbox behind my wifes back. What I did was buy the $300 one instead of the $200 one she thinks I have:P

And I got away with it, she has no idea and it's been about 2 weeks now!

It's funny because you need permission to have a hobby. Marriage..wwervin

He needs permission to spend 300 dollars not to have a hobby l2read.

Dude just grow a set and buy it...Asking marital advice on a Game Forum is not exactly wise...You dig?8)

Grow some balls and do it no man should be controlled by his woman.

no you're not but you should talk it over with her.... you dont want her to not trust you, trust is kind of important :D ....... do what i did, work some extra hrs to make a bit more bosh... look on the bay for good second-hand xbox!

if you work and earn money then buy it.

Maybe I can help a little by adding a woman's perspective...as a soon to be stay at home mom, I don't think your wife will have a problem with it if you communicate with her and maybe wait until the Thanksgiving Sales...which might be a good idea anyway because who wants to pay $300 now only to see a better package or the actual console price go down in a few weeks. I'm not sure how your money works but since you mentioned your wife stays at home, I'm assuming you bring home the only paycheck. If her concern is about the money- try saving the money between now and the Thanksgiving Sales...take out $20 a week from the ATM and stash it somewhere and just see if your household even notices a difference between now and the sales, if your family budget misses the $20 a week, chances are you have some financial issues to work out before you need to spend the money on the xbox and games. If your wife is objecting because you already have the PS3 and Wii, consider doing the suggestion above and show her the money once you have saved up enough, she may very likely change her mind once she realizes that 1) you must really want this since you have saved up over two months, and 2) it will have little effect on the budget/household with Christmas coming up. I think a lot of women see gaming as a childish expense...but the truth is we all have things we like to spend money on and gaming is no different. Maybe offer to trade in some PS3 games that you won't play anymore to go towards xbox games. It could also be that your wife is concerned about the amount of time you would play on the xbox and also that your son would be "stuck to the tube" with one as well. Talking with her could help you understand the real issue...I know I said the dreaded word...talking, but really it could help your relationship as well as getting the xbox. I know that I am a moderate gamer and as my husband and I get ready to have our son, I am concerned about my son's access to mature games and language, but I also feel that hiding things like that will only make him want to go to his friend's house and play them there. Maybe your wife is concerned about game content and your son? Good luck and I hope this helps a little!daisy8869

Very helpful post and another point of view. Thanks for stopping by with a great opinion!

Honestly bud it depends what your situation is. Im not trying to get too private with you, but if you and your family are living paycheck to paycheck, and barely getting by, i wouldn't do it, but if you guys are doing ok i would sit down and talk to your wife. My fiance' does not particularly like my video game hobby, but she understands that it is my hobby, so we sat down and made myself a monthly allowance out of my paychecks, now it may sound ridiculous to have an allowance at my age but, it works. My suggestion is tell her if you buy the xbox, you will later buy her something she has been wanting for awhile in the same price range.

Grow some balls and do it no man should be controlled by his woman.

ElPadilla

Your single arent you? LOL jp jp :)