You guys don't have your own 'fun' money to buy what you want to in life?rawsavon
me and wife share a bank account and we put all money into and never consider it mine or hers but all together. Some people say thats a bad idea, but we both come from families that do that so its how it is. We make a lot of extra money so if we want something we just tell the other before we buy it and be reasonable about how much we spend.
If she didn't stop me id buy every new game that interest me, but we agree 1-2 a month is fair.
[QUOTE="rawsavon"]You guys don't have your own 'fun' money to buy what you want to in life?jjivey
me and wife share a bank account and we put all money into and never consider it mine or hers but all together. Some people say thats a bad idea, but we both come from families that do that so its how it is. We make a lot of extra money so if we want something we just tell the other before we buy it and be reasonable about how much we spend.
If she didn't stop me id buy every new game that interest me, but we agree 1-2 a month is fair.
W/E works for you is all that matters I guess... IMO it is not financially sound though (unless you just have a ton in there)...what happens if both people decide to buy a big surprise for the other (like Christmas, anniversary, etc). Furthermore, what is one partner decides to screw over the other (drain the money and leave). You can say, 'that will never happen' all you want, but it happens to unsuspecting people everyday. Not to mention I think (psychologically speaking) it is important to retain a sense of self (having your 'own' money is but a small part of that). -there should still be an 'I' and 'you' mixed in with the 'we'
[QUOTE="rawsavon"]You guys don't have your own 'fun' money to buy what you want to in life?rawsavon
me and wife share a bank account and we put all money into and never consider it mine or hers but all together. Some people say thats a bad idea, but we both come from families that do that so its how it is. We make a lot of extra money so if we want something we just tell the other before we buy it and be reasonable about how much we spend.
If she didn't stop me id buy every new game that interest me, but we agree 1-2 a month is fair.
W/E works for you is all that matters I guess... IMO it is not financially sound though (unless you just have a ton in there)...what happens if both people decide to buy a big surprise for the other (like Christmas, anniversary, etc). Furthermore, what is one partner decides to screw over the other (drain the money and leave). You can say, 'that will never happen' all you want, but it happens to unsuspecting people everyday. Not to mention I think (psychologically speaking) it is important to retain a sense of self (having your 'own' money is but a small part of that). -there should still be an 'I' and 'you' mixed in with the 'we' Completely agree with you. I'm only 22 and being able to have my own accounts and being able to invest my own money just offers me such a sense of independence. If you're gonna get married then be smart about it, draft up a prenup and put limits on what you can and can't share with each other. You may think it sounds bad or heartless but it's just being smart/cautious. What happens if you wake up one day and find out your relationship isn't as perfect as you thought it would be? May as well kiss your gaming habits goodbye if that's the case. It's a good idea to have your own account and to be able to set aside money for things you enjoy every once in a while.
I just hope it works out for you man. I don't know what else to tell you other than what has already been mentioned. There's been some really great advice so far and i'd agree with what everyone has said. You just need to sit down with your wife and talk it through, I really hope things work out for you and your family.
Hopefully you actually get to buy the Xbox 360, it really is a great machine with many great games to go with it. I have a PS3 and an Xbox 360 and i must say i'm on the Xbox 360 much more than the PS3. Take care brother and best of luck.
Why not just get your son a PS3 as a gift? Then you can both share games. Reason is, you say you don't like sharing your current PS3 (basically). If you get a 360 and get a game for it, would your son seriously not want to play it? Then he would just be nagging you to play your 360 unless you buy another copy of the game for the PS3 so he can play. This leaves you with 2 copies of the same game. If you just get another PS3, you can both play whenever you want, plus you can share all of your games so you don't have to buy multiple copies.
If your wife does not want you to purchase one, I would say that is a low thing to do to her. However, if she has not expressed any hate towards the idea, I say going out and getting one would not be a scumbag thing. After all, you bought a video game console, nothing huge. If it worries you though, do what a lot of users re saying and just ask her about it.
Lol, it's funny you ask this, because I did't exactly buy an Xbox behind my wifes back. What I did was buy the $300 one instead of the $200 one she thinks I have:P
And I got away with it, she has no idea and it's been about 2 weeks now!
gregbmil
I don't think he wants to lie to his wife. Even if he did, his wife could ask for the receipt. Although, I find your story funny lol. I've been in some serious relationships, never married, but almost in one relationship, and I know how women can get. But as far as going behind her back, I do not recommend it at all. Ask her simply, and if she says no, then that's that. It's not worth getting into a huge argument, especially when you have kids. Overall, I do not see a problem with you buying an Xbox 360. There are far worse things a "husband" could do like blow all his money on golf clubs, beer, or buying a Harley (without asking the wife). I'm sure she'll be reasonable in this case.
If my husband/boyfriend bought one and shared it with me (assuming I didn't own a 360) I would be super duper happy lol. Just share it with her, get a few games she'll like. :)
No of course not man! I do it all the time.. I recently got a wireless headset and a chatpad for my controller and when she seen it she freaked... I said oh.. " my buddy gave it to me"... of course she didnt buy it but she cant prove it... :) yea well maybe were scumbags....
I already have a Wii (for the kids) and a PS3. I am growing tired of my oldest son wanting to play daddy's PS3, its an older generation model so who knows how much longer its going to last. I'm not a huge HALO fan so there really isn't a dire need for a 3rd console. I'm pretty much just addicted to technology and would like to have one, if not for any other reason but to have the ability to buy the Xbox version of a game that is out for all consoles if it turns out the Xbox version is the smoothest running etc. I do prefer XBL when compared to PSN and the achievements system vs. the trophies of PS3 as well. I am not the type of husband to just go and buy a $300 item and not care what the wife thinks. So that leads me to the aforementioned topic. Am I just a bad husband if I go through with it?chotchies23
Noo you're not a scumbag. But, if I were you, i'd buy the old verson, 60GB used. It'd cost WAYYY less and your wife might agree to let you buy it.
You are only a scumbag if your are using money to buy xbox 360 that is formortgage/rent, Food, hydro/cable/phone/car payments etc. If you are not spending money you don't have then their should be not problem with buying another console. Or has your gaming become an major issue in the household?Your not aactual videogame addict? are you?
dude your wife probaly buys more then one pair of shoes, right? its the same thing, we are in a age where we can buy more then we NEED as long as you are middle class. i see no problem with this and if you wife does.. thats a bit sad
Honestly man If i was in your position and I could afford it and I was the one paying the bills and supporting my family I would go buy one regardless of what my wife thinks. I don't spend my days working my ass off to come home and be told I can't do things with my money that I spend a large majority of my life making (as long as I can afford it without missing payments or having not to buy food)
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