[QUOTE="Lockedge"][QUOTE="rowzzr"]i dont really understand why girls require engagement righs. my mother didnt require one of my dad when he proposed. this girl i knew said, "i require it. my cousin had it. so i want to have an engagement ring." its like if her future fiancee didnt give her any, it would be the end of the world. seriously. engagement rings have a very steep price, not to mention all the costs of marriage, reception etc. and the wedding rings. it's ridiculous. your fiance should be happy to have an engagement ring at all. Maybe it's because I'm frugal, but I don't understand why more than one ring is necessary. Let the engagement ring be the wedding ring. Done. :P My friend is looking to propose and was looking at engagement rings ang was frustrated that rings are so expensive and that the ones he feels she'd really like would set him back a few K. I told him just get the one she'd like the most and leave it at that, and he told me I didn't understand(note: I honestly don't understand). I figure, if one were to get their fiancee a really great ring basically forged for her(or whatnot...something she'd really like), and all those positive memories are set in stone from the engagement...why does there need to be another ring? Does the ring not signify the journey from engagement through to the wedding vows and on into the future? There needs not be a jewelry relay going on. The ring shows commitment and the journey to the vows, the vows signify the commitment of he couple from there on out. Yet, so many(at least ones I know, including family) feel two are necessary. :? There is a difference between a ring and a band in regards to symbolism. ;)
[QUOTE="F1_2004"][QUOTE="Sajedene"] Let me tell you now, my bf is looking at this thread and is face palming himself. He agrees that its not about the price or size of the diamond - but the thought put into getting the ring. That's why he is awesome. I have no need to turn him down because he knows that when gets me a ring, it will be something to MY liking since he knows me so well (he did joke about getting it in the shape of a power button :o that would be too awesome!) durrrrr he's also not an idiot and wants to get laid sometime soon. @ binpink, "quality" is not the key word there. If a guy gets turned down because of a piece of jewelery, that's an eye-opening moment right there. Thought and feeling are expressed through other means... Yeah, I'm in a mature relationship here. We don't withhold sex because one does not agree with the views of the other. And on that note, he is mature enough to know as well to know that he will get a ring that means a whole lot to the both of us.
[QUOTE="th3warr1or"]Guys I think there's a MAJOR misunderstanding here.. I'm talking about a second proposal to the SAME woman.. I see a few people saying they'll never wear a ring meant for another woman. I would say it is fine unless there is something negative connected with the original ring.
[QUOTE="Sajedene"] Let me tell you now, my bf is looking at this thread and is face palming himself. He agrees that its not about the price or size of the diamond - but the thought put into getting the ring. That's why he is awesome. I have no need to turn him down because he knows that when gets me a ring, it will be something to MY liking since he knows me so well (he did joke about getting it in the shape of a power button :o that would be too awesome!) BluesKing527
Lets say i was poor or having financial difficulties. Can I propose to you with a plastic ring? Say this ring was actually nice looking and suited you? Will you accepted it?
If it was a ring that had a lot of thought put into it and I can clearly tell that there is something else to it besides it being some ring, then yes. I'm not a jewelry type person - its all about sentiments for me. And this is the god to honest truth here.
[QUOTE="Sajedene"] Let me tell you now, my bf is looking at this thread and is face palming himself. He agrees that its not about the price or size of the diamond - but the thought put into getting the ring. That's why he is awesome. I have no need to turn him down because he knows that when gets me a ring, it will be something to MY liking since he knows me so well (he did joke about getting it in the shape of a power button :o that would be too awesome!) binpink
Yay we both have awesome boyfriends who really get it! I'm amazed by this thread and the way so many guys think. Sooo glad my boyfriend's not like that.
Me too! High five to the both of us. Now if only we can figure out that whole church thing ;)
[QUOTE="rowzzr"]i dont really understand why girls require engagement righs. my mother didnt require one of my dad when he proposed. this girl i knew said, "i require it. my cousin had it. so i want to have an engagement ring." its like if her future fiancee didnt give her any, it would be the end of the world. seriously. engagement rings have a very steep price, not to mention all the costs of marriage, reception etc. and the wedding rings. it's ridiculous. your fiance should be happy to have an engagement ring at all. If you're going the cheap route you can get a ring for $400. I don't know how you call that steep but okay.
Then what's the point of getting one at all? Hey, you know, if you feel like that and you have a girl who is totally fine with no ring, then there we go. I'd rather someone not get me a ring than get me a ring that they didn't put much thought into apart from what THEY think looks good and didn't bother to get to know me and what I like and don't like.
F1_2004
Agreed. I don't know if that'd be more lazy or selfish on their part, but either way they should spare us both and I'll take nothing.
lol hopefully you share your feelings with your future boyfriend before he proposes, cause I don't know of many guys who would want to be with a woman that would turn them down over the quality of a ring. Let me tell you now, my bf is looking at this thread and is face palming himself. He agrees that its not about the price or size of the diamond - but the thought put into getting the ring. That's why he is awesome. I have no need to turn him down because he knows that when gets me a ring, it will be something to MY liking since he knows me so well (he did joke about getting it in the shape of a power button :o that would be too awesome!)
[QUOTE="SeraphimGoddess"][QUOTE="Sajedene"] Well your feelings towards love and long term relationships aside - there are engagement rings for $400. I mean really - that's really cheap. Considering that one would ideally propose when they are stable. And love cynic aside, some people do find true love and marry for life. :) I believe in true love, not a feeble proxy that can ultimately mean nothing. For a ring, yes, but otherwise that's a lot of money that can and should be put to better use, especially in today's economy. Maybe it's just me - but even when I am down and out - what is $400++ for the man I love? I love him so I will spend that money on him. That money is just money and I can make it up anytime. Apart from telling him how much I love him and all the little things we do... something that I can get him that I put a whole lot of thought into is worth all that money.
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