@Nengo_Flow: Because I'm 35? I understand your sentiment but I mean everybody has to lose it one day. Besides I'm not a religious person anymore and I don't want to wait till marriage.

Just to clarify I've never kissed a girl much less had sex with one. I was actually thinking of revealing it at the second or third date, usually when a kiss is expected. Is that too soon?

I'm 35 years old man and yes... I'm still a virgin. I was born into a religious family where sex was taboo. Along with that my father was quite abusive which left me with self-esteem issues. Unfortunately dating ended up taking a backseat. Many women were friendly with me but I don't honestly know that they were interested in dating me. The few times I asked a woman out I got rejected.

Over the past year however I've been going to the gym and getting involved with activities and it's really helped my self-esteem. I've even managed to go on a few dates, although I still haven't managed to have sex or even kiss a woman yet

My question is if I manage to find myself in a situation where kissing/sex is coming, should I reveal my inexperience? I'm thinking if I reveal this to her our relationship will become more intimate and maybe she'll go slow with me and be more patient. However there is also the fear that she will think of me as too odd to continue dating.

So what do I do if I find myself in that situation?