Haha well your a lucky man if she says she;s obsessed with it, all the more reason to talk it through with her dude, sounds like she is more than willing to help you out lol.

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Yeah and she tries to but I just get into these spirals of anxious thought that are hard to come out of sometime. Do you know any good techniques for clearing your mind or something?

Yeah, the fact that you CAN get hard and perform properly sometimes is a pretty clear indication that it is most likely a psychological issue. These things can be tricky to sort out but not impossible. If you don't think you can do it yourself, you might want to seek professional help/see a therapist. I personally would first try to work through it myself with the support and cooperation of my girlfriend. megagene

I was thinking about doing that also but I don't really want my parents to know about that, and I'm pretty sure they wouldn't pay for a therapist unless I told them what was up.

Dude dont think of it as a psychological issue, thats a mighty big label to put against a small problem. Its probably just something that happened once or twice and then you have psyched yourself up about it. Your right in the sense that the problem is all in your head and isnt a physical problem. The only way to combat it is to try and relax and realise that you dont have a problem.

My advice would be to not concentrate on what your body is doing. Im going to assume you find this girl attractive, if so concentrate on what her body is doing, concentrate on giving her pleasure and forget about yourself. Work out what turns her on and forget about your own body. 

I find with my girlfriend the more aroused she becomes the more aroused I become naturally. Also if your fairly new to the whole sex thing and your first  girlfriend was anything like mine, she might be a bit shy about pleasuring you. I would honestly talk about it with her, just say you think it might well be nerves, chances are she might have the same nerves and worries you do.

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Thanks man. I'll try that. And yeah, I do find her really attractive and it's usally the moments where I'm only focusing on her that I can really get off. She isn't shy about pleasuring me though, she's actually obsessed with it and always wants to please me. I just get anxious sometimes and I'll totally space out just thinking bad thoughts and what not. When I don't do this and my head is in the game and I'm just thinking about her or looking at her I'm fine.

Hey guys. It's been a while since I've gone on gamespot, or off-topic.  I've gone to other sites like 4 chan to get help for this problem and they've been somewhat helpful but I felt like I might get better advice here.

I'm 16 years old, and I've been dating this girl for about 7 months. She's my first real girlfriend and we lost our virgnities to each other in april. We've probably had sex a dozen times since then, (I only see her on weekends) but here's the problem: Sometimes I'll have trouble getting hard because I'll almost expect myself to perform badly, like I'll expect myself to not be able to keep an erection and as a result sometimes I'll go soft randomly.  I used to think the problem was physical but I'm convinced it's only psychological now because whenever we do stuff spontaneously like where it isn't planned out, like if we take a train and meet up somewhere and start making out, completely unplanned, then I'll get hard with no problem, and really hard. Same with sex, if it's really spontaneous I tend to not think about it as much and I'm totally fine, but sometimes I guess when it's more "planned" out I start thinking about my performance too much and it kills my erection. I want to overcome that negativity somehow though.

Any advice?

Haha Thanks guys, I guess I am being a bit of a horndog

Hey off topic. Haven't visited these forums in a while but you guys tend to give pretty solid advice. Anyways, I met this girl over the summer, well I didn't really know her but my friend did, and so a few eeks ago, me, my friend, her, and her friend all met up and hung out. I got into a pretty deep conversation with her and thought she was cool and my type I guess. She had a boyfriend at the time though so I laid off. Anyways, she broke up with that guy later and me and her would talk on Facebook a lot. She said she won free tickets to a concert and knew I wanted to go she she told me I could come if I wanted. Basically, I went, we had a great time at the concert, and got pretty intimate, and by the end of the concert she was crazy about me. We made plans the next day to hang out and we did, we saw a movie and grabbed something to eat afterwards, and I made out with her at the movie so I was assuming that we were officially dating. I thought the date had gone great.

When I got home, I got a message from her that said she thought we were taking things too fast (it had only been two days). I agreed to take things slower, and a couple of weeks later we met up again and hung out in her neighborhood, went back to her house and watched a movie, but didn't do anything past holding hands. I know she wans to take things slow but this is way too slow for me.

Any advice on how I should approach this? I want to do more physically but she wants to take things slow..

Law Abiding Citizen. Movie was pretty good until it got to the end.-Renegade

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Insidius.

I thoroughly enjoyed the first half of the movie. Shocked by the quality of the film....

Then the second half started. Killed the whole damn movie. Hated the way they dealt with the story.

Had such potential.

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You talking about when the father starts the astral projection to go find the kid? Or starting sooner than that? I still really like that movie, but that father definitely held it down a bit. Just wasn't a strong performance. I loved the story, and they way most of the tension was built up throughout the beginning and middle, though. But I just really like Leah Whannell. I can't wait for him to make more movies.

Thats really where it lost me, but I also asnt a fan of the paranormal team. Felt out of place to me. I agree that build up of tension was fantastic, I just with they had delivered a better ending after having such a solid start.