"Does the young, vocal male audience support female-on-female romance, but not male homosexuality?" Yes and the advertisers know this, which is exactly why they used female on female in the marketing. "Public perception of BioWare had been slowly shifting" BioWare is dead. It's maybe unfair to place the blame solely on EA, but also near impossible not to.

DX10 = Vista selling point to Gamers = Trumped Up Advertising = Rip Off Artists = Microsoft