Do you let girls know you are a gamer?

Apologies if this is stretching the topic of general games discussion.

My question is: If you count yourself as a hardcore gamer would you tell a girl (that u are dating) that you do play alot of games and she will have to deal with it. Or do you wait till after you have got her and let her find out by herself (which she will probs get pretty mad at). Also do you think the type of game would matter to them? For example an MMO over FPS (due to the escaping to another reality argument on MMOs)?

P.S I've already been through this situation so I'm not looking for advice :P

Absolutley not. Telling a cute girl you are a hardcore nerd and spend your leisure time leveling up and fighting dragons is about the equivalent to telling her you got an STD.GodModeEnabled

Actually, I believe an STD would get you more positive reactions.

Absolutely. If they have that much of a problem with it early on you know it'll become a huge point of contention in the future and they aren't worth the time.

Cant see why not ...
if she cant accept that fact the Im H.C gamer then WTF am I doing with her ??
Denso-GS

Maybe she's dam hot!

I don't think you should tell them. Not at the very begining at least :S

Its like you wouldn't go and tell them all the other annoying things you might do like trimming pubes with a kitchen knife. You let them find out through experience.

I see no reason to volunteer the information unless it somehow comes up on a conversation. These days since video games are becoming more casual it's probably not as big of a deal as it was when I was in high school, but back then and to some extent still today, some girls will stereotype you based on this. I find it better to let them get to know you first.

That being said, I certainly wouldn't deny it either if I was asked. But like my other hobbies, I don't feel like it's necessary to just tell a girl that I play video games. There's a lot about me that I don't necessarily volunteer until I've gotten to know someone.

Gaming doesn't define me as a person. It's just a hobby, and it's best to keep it that way.

Gaming doesn't define me as a person. It's just a hobby, and it's best to keep it that way.

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My sentiments exactly. Some people don't "get" gaming and thats fine by me, aslong as they realise that I'm more than that. That being said, I know many girls who love playing video games. Its a form of escapism and relaxing, everyone has their own ways, this is mine.

Absolutley not. Telling a cute girl you are a hardcore nerd and spend your leisure time leveling up and fighting dragons is about the equivalent to telling her you got an STD.GodModeEnabled

An STD at least proves you are capable of some kind of physical contact :P

I think introducing/defining yourself to people by telling them about your hobbies is stupid to begin with so no, I don't talk about the fact I am a gamer with girls. However I will gladly talk about games if they happen to enter the conversation. I don't consider games any different from movies or music or books; if you both know the work in question you'll probably enjoy discussing it while talking about something only one of you know about is just stupid.

Considering women watch Sex and the City and collect teddy bears, they can't say jack **** about anything men do.ViscaBarcaInter

Dude, Sex and the City and teddy bears are awesome!

I told mine I was a gamer, She replied with " Really?, then lets talk about the Final Fantasy games then"Treflis

thats amazing.

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i tell girls i am a gamer if they ask or if it comes up. but i dont parade it around.

Oh hell no!! I still haven't told my wife I'm a gamer after 7 years. I go into my media room, lock the door and turn on a porno really loud so that she doesn't here me playing Mario. Robio_basic

Best response ever! lol

Dude, I am a girl.

Considering women watch Sex and the City and collect teddy bears, they can't say jack **** about anything men do. ViscaBarcaInter

That was awesome. But back to the topic, you might as well be honest. If the girl's so against gaming that she wouldn't want to be with you because of it you're better off knowing from the start.

Most teenagers are gamers for at least one console (I game on the 360 and PC mostly). Of course I would tell them that I'm a gamer, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Thankfully I only play popular FPS (Halo, COD4, CSS) and sports (NBA, NHL, FIFA) games, not any of those geeky RPG games (WoW, WAR, etc.) , so I have nothing to hide.ish27

It doesn't matter how popular the games are you play they don't look at it that way.They just know you're into games and automatically decide you don't fit their standards.Becouse most of them are attention whores and want everything centered on them, they are too concerned about what guys think of "Them" and not what guys think of the new COD or Resident Evil. Their life evolves around drama, outfits, make-up and menstruating.They will never understand that M rated games are not for kids and or childish

Sometimes if I have a feeling they play games. If I learn more about them, then yeah since I do play a lot.

But that has been less since I'm here more often. :P

Apologies if this is stretching the topic of general games discussion.

My question is: If you count yourself as a hardcore gamer would you tell a girl (that u are dating) that you do play alot of games and she will have to deal with it. Or do you wait till after you have got her and let her find out by herself (which she will probs get pretty mad at). Also do you think the type of game would matter to them? For example an MMO over FPS (due to the escaping to another reality argument on MMOs)?

P.S I've already been through this situation so I'm not looking for advice :P

thebrown07

I definitely let them know. It's my hobby of more than 20 years, why would I hide it? I'm not one bit ashamed, and I think women respect that to some extent. But on the same token, if I find out they don't like videogames (which would kinda be a dealbreaker anyway), I won't force games upon them, or play them excessively when they're around. Just like I won't watch Sex In The City with them, I don't expect them to sit through something they're completely uninterested in.

[QUOTE="ish27"]Most teenagers are gamers for at least one console (I game on the 360 and PC mostly). Of course I would tell them that I'm a gamer, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Thankfully I only play popular FPS (Halo, COD4, CSS) and sports (NBA, NHL, FIFA) games, not any of those geeky RPG games (WoW, WAR, etc.) , so I have nothing to hide.thefaunaofwar

It doesn't matter how popular the games are you play they don't look at it that way.They just know you're into games and automatically decide you don't fit their standards.Becouse most of them are attention whores and want everything centered on them, they are too concerned about what guys think of "Them" and not what guys think of the new COD or Resident Evil. Their life evolves around drama, outfits, make-up and menstruating.They will never understand that M rated games are not for kids and or childish

That was misogynistic but also extremely funny. :lol:

Well not to sound arrogant, but I am a pretty good looking guy. So I can usually say just about anything I want to them without getting laughed at. Unless it's nervous laughter.

If you present yourself as an attractive, good-hearted, enjoyable person, then it really won't matter to her what you like to do. Anything you like to do is what cool people do as far as she is concerned. Just never allow yourself to feel like the inferior one. Establish dominance from the beginning and she'll be more concerned with getting you to like her than she will be with trying to find out if you impress her.

Oh hell no!! I still haven't told my wife I'm a gamer after 7 years. I go into my media room, lock the door and turn on a porno really loud so that she doesn't here me playing Mario. Robio_basic

:lol:

It's bad if a guy is too into gaming! Like if he'd rather play WoW than play with his girlfriend, that's too much! You have to game together, fun games, not obsessive ones.Kitkat_McGee

When I first met my then girlfriend and now my wife, I let her know immediately I played games and I enjoyed them very much so. And if she had a problem with that, then she could look elsewhere for someone. She initially had problems with this, but has now came to love it. She practically begs me now to play games, because she says they help her relax and sleep. So I'm like great, she gets what she wants and so do I. Except now, it's kinda boring playing games when she encourages me too. But I would never be afraid to tell a girl that. But then again it depends on what kind of girl your after.e3li7e

Very well said.

While there is no feelings yet, I will tell her that I'm a gamer so that it won't hurt if she doesn't like it. It sucks big time if she hates video games and found out that I'm a gamer when we are already in a relationship.