Age gap in relationships?

I will try to not make this a generic relationship thread. What do you personally think about age gaps? What is your limit? Age gaps seem to mean more when you are in your teens and less when you get older. I also notice that in a lot of relationships, but guy is older than the woman. I don't know about my limits since I havent actually had a relationship yet.

I generally believe that if one of the people in the relationship is under, say 22, the age gap DEFINITELY should not exceed more than 2-4 years.

Once you're both over 22 though idgaf. Personally I would happily go out with a man 20 years my senior. I dislike going out with guys younger than me but that's just a personal preference.

Seeing youngish girls with older guys and vice versa doesn't wig me out at all.

Also nice to see you around TC.

Personally, I think age gaps are okay as long as the younger person is mature enough to be in a relationship. A 60-year-old and an 18-year-old is totally fine in my books. However, a 16-year-old and a 12-year-old is wrong on many levels. I have known of some people who did that and they were every bit as disgusting and stupid. How immature are you to be on the same level as someone that young? I know some smart people who were mature for their age when they were 12 but admitted they were still stupid as they had no life experience.

And although a 20-year-old and a 16-year-old is a leagl combination in England, it's still wrong, let alone socially unacceptable.

I generally believe that if one of the people in the relationship is under, say 22, the age gap DEFINITELY should not exceed more than 2-4 years.

Once you're both over 22 though idgaf. Personally I would happily go out with a man 20 years my senior. I dislike going out with guys younger than me but that's just a personal preference.

Seeing youngish girls with older guys and vice versa doesn't wig me out at all.

Also nice to see you around TC.

MissLibrarian

Cheers good sir:P I knew a girl in high school who dated an 18 year old when she was 14, and that did kind of creep me out. However I am 20 and have noticed a 30 year old seems to be expressing interest in me, but I'm not sure if that is too large of an age gap. I never approach situations with women expecting anything. I just think of it as hanging out with someone I get along with. If something happens, I wouldn't complain but it's not my main priority.

I use to say I wouldn't date anyone more than 4 years younger or older than me. Then I hooked up with this woman who is 9 years older than me. We're still together after 6 years and married now. The age difference has pretty much been a non-issue in our relationship.

And although a 20-year-old and a 16-year-old is a leagl combination in England, it's still wrong, let alone socially unacceptable.

Spitfirer

Why is it wrong?

Cheers good sir:P I knew a girl in high school who dated an 18 year old when she was 14, and that did kind of creep me out. However I am 20 and have noticed a 30 year old seems to be expressing interest in me, but I'm not sure if that is too large of an age gap. I never approach situations with women expecting anything. I just think of it as hanging out with someone I get along with. If something happens, I wouldn't complain but it's not my main priority.Film-Guy

age gaps can be detrimental to a relationship for sure. People have to be in the same stage of life to really have a good chance imo. what could a 20 year old and a 40/50 year old have in common? even 5 years apart can cause issues.

I use to say I wouldn't date anyone more than 4 years younger or older than me. Then I hooked up with this woman who is 9 years older than me. We're still together after 6 years and married now. The age difference has pretty much been a non-issue in our relationship.

[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]And although a 20-year-old and a 16-year-old is a leagl combination in England, it's still wrong, let alone socially unacceptable.

worlock77

Why is it wrong?

Okay, I will correct myself. It isn't wrong, it's pathetic. It doesn't make it any better.

[QUOTE="worlock77"]

I use to say I wouldn't date anyone more than 4 years younger or older than me. Then I hooked up with this woman who is 9 years older than me. We're still together after 6 years and married now. The age difference has pretty much been a non-issue in our relationship.

[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]And although a 20-year-old and a 16-year-old is a leagl combination in England, it's still wrong, let alone socially unacceptable.

Spitfirer

Why is it wrong?

Okay, I will correct myself. It isn't wrong, it's pathetic. It doesn't make it any better.

What is "pathetic" about it?

I generally believe that if one of the people in the relationship is under, say 22, the age gap DEFINITELY should not exceed more than 2-4 years.

Once you're both over 22 though idgaf. Personally I would happily go out with a man 20 years my senior. I dislike going out with guys younger than me but that's just a personal preference.

Seeing youngish girls with older guys and vice versa doesn't wig me out at all.

Also nice to see you around TC.

MissLibrarian

after recently hooking up with a girl nine years younger than me...I say damn age gaps!

Any 16-year-old is still limited in life experience so they will never really be mature enough to date someone much older, regardless of their intelligence. This only leaves one thing: a 20-year-old who's too immature to date anyone their age so goes for dating 16's because they're impressionable. I have NEVER heard of a healthy relationship bewteen anyone of this age.

I can only come to the conclusion that the 20-year-old in such a situation is utterly pathetic and not that their relationship is "special" in any way.

[QUOTE="MissLibrarian"]

I generally believe that if one of the people in the relationship is under, say 22, the age gap DEFINITELY should not exceed more than 2-4 years.

Once you're both over 22 though idgaf. Personally I would happily go out with a man 20 years my senior. I dislike going out with guys younger than me but that's just a personal preference.

Seeing youngish girls with older guys and vice versa doesn't wig me out at all.

Also nice to see you around TC.

megagene

what if the guy is 27 and the girl is 18 (college student)?

[QUOTE="megagene"][QUOTE="MissLibrarian"]

I generally believe that if one of the people in the relationship is under, say 22, the age gap DEFINITELY should not exceed more than 2-4 years.

Once you're both over 22 though idgaf. Personally I would happily go out with a man 20 years my senior. I dislike going out with guys younger than me but that's just a personal preference.

Seeing youngish girls with older guys and vice versa doesn't wig me out at all.

Also nice to see you around TC.

mrbojangles25

what if the guy is 27 and the girl is 18 (college student)?

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[QUOTE="megagene"] Pretty much this. As long as they're both 22+ I say the sky's the limit. megagene

what if the guy is 27 and the girl is 18 (college student)?

yeah but what about the moral issues? Should I feel bad about it? She inititiated, by the way, lord knows I never would have lol. You said 22+ and everything is fair game, and tbh I am inclined to agree with you.

my grandparents had a 22 year age gap and were together for 60 years.

good thing too because my grandfather lived to be 106.

he needed to have someone that much younger so he didn't outlive her by 20 years.

Any 16-year-old is still limited in life experience so they will never really be mature enough to date someone much older, regardless of their intelligence. This only leaves one thing: a 20-year-old who's too immature to date anyone their age so goes for dating 16's because they're impressionable. I have NEVER heard of a healthy relationship bewteen anyone of this age.

I can only come to the conclusion that the 20-year-old in such a situation is utterly pathetic and not that their relationship is "special" in any way.

Spitfirer

That's funny. My father was 20 and dating my mother who was 16. This July they celebrated their 37th wedding anniversary.

[QUOTE="megagene"][QUOTE="mrbojangles25"]

what if the guy is 27 and the girl is 18 (college student)?

mrbojangles25

yeah but what about the moral issues? Should I feel bad about it? She inititiated, by the way, lord knows I never would have lol. You said 22+ and everything is fair game, and tbh I am inclined to agree with you.

No, at that age, most people have an acceptable level of maturity.

[QUOTE="megagene"][QUOTE="mrbojangles25"]

what if the guy is 27 and the girl is 18 (college student)?

mrbojangles25

yeah but what about the moral issues? Should I feel bad about it? She inititiated, by the way, lord knows I never would have lol. You said 22+ and everything is fair game, and tbh I am inclined to agree with you.

Any 16-year-old is still limited in life experience so they will never really be mature enough to date someone much older, regardless of their intelligence. This only leaves one thing: a 20-year-old who's too immature to date anyone their age so goes for dating 16's because they're impressionable. I have NEVER heard of a healthy relationship bewteen anyone of this age.

I can only come to the conclusion that the 20-year-old in such a situation is utterly pathetic and not that their relationship is "special" in any way.

Spitfirer

What do I think? I don't see why it should bother anyone. I always see comments such as "Oh there should only be 3-4 years difference" and it really annoys me. Age means nothing, if the two people involved get on, have things in common and generally like eachother then who cares what the difference is? Obviously it needs to be legal, but I couldn't care less if a 16 year old (legal here in the UK) was going out with a 40 year old.

I generally believe that if one of the people in the relationship is under, say 22, the age gap DEFINITELY should not exceed more than 2-4 yearsMissLibrarian

[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]

Any 16-year-old is still limited in life experience so they will never really be mature enough to date someone much older, regardless of their intelligence. This only leaves one thing: a 20-year-old who's too immature to date anyone their age so goes for dating 16's because they're impressionable. I have NEVER heard of a healthy relationship bewteen anyone of this age.

I can only come to the conclusion that the 20-year-old in such a situation is utterly pathetic and not that their relationship is "special" in any way.

worlock77

That's funny. My father was 20 and dating my mother who was 16. This July they celebrated their 37th wedding anniversary.

Okay, so that's an exception and I'll correct part of my post to say "I rarely hear of a healthy relation between anyone of this age." Because your case is almost isolated. My personal experience just says something completely different so I still stand by what I said.

And although a 20-year-old and a 16-year-old is a leagl combination in England, it's still wrong, let alone socially unacceptable.

Spitfirer

[QUOTE="worlock77"]

[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]

Any 16-year-old is still limited in life experience so they will never really be mature enough to date someone much older, regardless of their intelligence. This only leaves one thing: a 20-year-old who's too immature to date anyone their age so goes for dating 16's because they're impressionable. I have NEVER heard of a healthy relationship bewteen anyone of this age.

I can only come to the conclusion that the 20-year-old in such a situation is utterly pathetic and not that their relationship is "special" in any way.

Spitfirer

That's funny. My father was 20 and dating my mother who was 16. This July they celebrated their 37th wedding anniversary.

Okay, so that's an exception and I'll correct part of my post to say "I rarely hear of a healthy relation between anyone of this age." Because your case is almost isolated. My personal experience just says something completely different so I still stand by what I said.

You know the great thing about anecdotal evidence? It can always be crushed by someone else's anecdotal evidence. Especially when you use your anecdotal evident to make blanket statements.

[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]

[QUOTE="worlock77"]

Why is it wrong?

worlock77

Okay, I will correct myself. It isn't wrong, it's pathetic. It doesn't make it any better.

What is "pathetic" about it?

I'm 28. My age gap is now ranges from 23 - 33.

You know the great thing about anecdotal evidence? It can always be crushed by someone else's anecdotal evidence. Especially when you use your anecdotal evident to make blanket statements.

worlock77

You're right, and I blundered. I still think what I said applies in most cases and I will still make pre-judgements based on it, but I could have given myself more credit if I didn't make a blanket statement.

yeah but what about the moral issues? Should I feel bad about it? She inititiated, by the way, lord knows I never would have lol. You said 22+ and everything is fair game, and tbh I am inclined to agree with you.mrbojangles25

[QUOTE="mrbojangles25"]

[QUOTE="megagene"] Lucky guy! :omegagene

yeah but what about the moral issues? Should I feel bad about it? She inititiated, by the way, lord knows I never would have lol. You said 22+ and everything is fair game, and tbh I am inclined to agree with you.

[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]And although a 20-year-old and a 16-year-old is a leagl combination in England, it's still wrong, let alone socially unacceptable.

MushroomWig

Yes, and I also said that people at the age of 16 generally aren't mature enough. I won't make a blanket statement and I'll say that it's not like that in all cases as I already got shot down for this. My other point was that it's not the 16-year-old who's pathetic, it's the 20-year-old. In the vast majority of these relationships, it is the 20-year-old taking advantage of the 16-year-old because they're too pathetic to date anyone their own age. For this reason, I can't shake it off just because they are a few exceptions.

my general rule is no more then 10 years because i like older woman.

[QUOTE="MushroomWig"]

[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]And although a 20-year-old and a 16-year-old is a leagl combination in England, it's still wrong, let alone socially unacceptable.

Spitfirer

Yes, and I also said that people at the age of 16 generally aren't mature enough. I won't make a blanket statement and I'll say that it's not like that in all cases as I already got shot down for this. My other point was that it's not the 16-year-old who's pathetic, it's the 20-year-old. In the vast majority of these relationships, it is the 20-year-old taking advantage of the 16-year-old because they're too pathetic to date anyone their own age. For this reason, I can't shake it off just because they are a few exceptions.

As long as we're talking about adults I don't see an issue. My last two GF's were both around 9 years younger than me, I'm 33, they were 24. I was even 5 years older than my exwife.

[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]Their own age? It's only 4 years difference, why should he give up a person he likes just because of the few people who would frown upon their relationship?MushroomWig

Well it's a MASSIVE maturity gap from 16 to 18.

Always stick to the formula:

Age of Yonger >= Age of Older / 2 + 7

[QUOTE="MushroomWig"][QUOTE="Spitfirer"]Their own age? It's only 4 years difference, why should he give up a person he likes just because of the few people who would frown upon their relationship?Spitfirer

Well it's a MASSIVE maturity gap from 16 to 18.

I generally believe that if one of the people in the relationship is under, say 22, the age gap DEFINITELY should not exceed more than 2-4 years.

Once you're both over 22 though idgaf. Personally I would happily go out with a man 20 years my senior. I dislike going out with guys younger than me but that's just a personal preference.

Seeing youngish girls with older guys and vice versa doesn't wig me out at all.

Also nice to see you around TC.

MissLibrarian

This im 27 even low I look a lot younger when i was 18 it was 2 years either way baring a few incidents, now if im happy with some one and have a lot in common age don't really come into it as much .

[QUOTE="Spitfirer"]

[QUOTE="MushroomWig"][QUOTE="Spitfirer"]Their own age? It's only 4 years difference, why should he give up a person he likes just because of the few people who would frown upon their relationship?MushroomWig

Well it's a MASSIVE maturity gap from 16 to 18.

But perception is also based on a person's mental capacity.

Ag = (T - 18 ) Agegap is equal to my age(T) less 18 years, this formula only works once a person reaches adulthood. when im old i might be mating with someone ancient or 18.