Do i tell her?

[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"][QUOTE="superheromonkey"]

[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"][QUOTE="superheromonkey"]You are being stupid. If you don't like her tell her. You don't have to make it all complicated and is it your fault, or my fault...who cares? You don't like her. It is not like people get to point and choose who they like and don't like...If you end up liking her someday tell her. She probably won't go for it and with good reason seeing as you change your mind about this stuff very rapidly for some reason. Usually such a rapid change is because you don't actually like her, but may want to be with her for other reasons, such as loneliness, insecurity, etc...superheromonkey

You can't be expected to predict the future...all you can say is that you aren't interested right now. If she wants to have hope, then that is her descision..

You are not hurting her, you were honest to her about it. I understand it is a sticky situation, but you can only do what you can do (as yogi berra said). At the end of the day you are best off just telling her the truth about how you feel. Her feelings are then hers to decide how to handle. Sounds insensitive, but I'm not saying not to be there for her, but don't try and manipulate her feelings even if you think its for her own protection. thats my say.

In the long run, it will hurt her. Hope will make her happy.. if i eventually do get another girlfriend, then she will be crushed... if she gets over me now, then she wont mind if i get another girlfriend...these are all "if"s btw...

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]the only thing I can say is, that your friendship will never be the same as it once was. With everything that has been said and with what has happened, it almost seems like your friendship might seem a little phoney for a while because deep inside her mind, she wants you. And inside your mind, you dont know what you want but you don't want to hurt her. I think she's going to be a different person as time goes by.RabidChocobo1

Not really...you dont know how close we are... losing that over a situation like this is too severe... eventually we will be close as we were before all the romantic stuff... There was a time where i wanted her, and she didnt want me, and i cried about that for a while, but i got over it and we went back to being best friends, and i sort of lost the romantic feelings for her then, too...

well best of luck to you then. I personally think this kind of situation is a recipe for disaster because this is a 2nd time your relationship has gone through something like this already before. but I hope im wrong, and if u take the right steps, you WILL prove me wrong, and Master maddenbowler believes you should use the "force"

All you have to do is prioritize. What's more important to you? A friend? Or a girlfriend?

Once you figure that out, the decision will be a piece of cake. :)

TheDedMetalhead

you...have no idea what this thread is about, do you? T_T...
no offense..

[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]

[QUOTE="MaddenBowler10"]the only thing I can say is, that your friendship will never be the same as it once was. With everything that has been said and with what has happened, it almost seems like your friendship might seem a little phoney for a while because deep inside her mind, she wants you. And inside your mind, you dont know what you want but you don't want to hurt her. I think she's going to be a different person as time goes by.MaddenBowler10

Not really...you dont know how close we are... losing that over a situation like this is too severe... eventually we will be close as we were before all the romantic stuff... There was a time where i wanted her, and she didnt want me, and i cried about that for a while, but i got over it and we went back to being best friends, and i sort of lost the romantic feelings for her then, too...

well best of luck to you then. I personally think this kind of situation is a recipe for disaster because this is a 2nd time your relationship has gone through something like this already before. but I hope im wrong, and if u take the right steps, you WILL prove me wrong, and Master maddenbowler believes you should use the "force"

well, actually she didnt know i cried about her before...
Also, yeah we will be best friends again, i have no doubt in that...we just need time... honestly, we need eachother to function...

[QUOTE="TheDedMetalhead"]

All you have to do is prioritize. What's more important to you? A friend? Or a girlfriend?

Once you figure that out, the decision will be a piece of cake. :)

RabidChocobo1

you...have no idea what this thread is about, do you? T_T...
no offense..

No, I know what it's about. You're worried about hurting her. But as someone said before, yuo can only do what you can do.

You can't just deal with everything alone. She's part of this, too.

I say go for it. If you don't the same thing's just going to happen again. Maybe not today. Maybe not tomorrow or this moth, but it will happen again. And you'll just keep going in circles until you go for it.

At least that's what I think.

[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"][QUOTE="TheDedMetalhead"]

All you have to do is prioritize. What's more important to you? A friend? Or a girlfriend?

Once you figure that out, the decision will be a piece of cake. :)

TheDedMetalhead

you...have no idea what this thread is about, do you? T_T...
no offense..

No, I know what it's about. You're worried about hurting her. But as someone said before, yuo can only do what you can do.

You can't just deal with everything alone. She's part of this, too.

this one question will affect a lot. its either "Yes its you" or "no its me"

honestly, we need eachother to function...

RabidChocobo1

humm... this sounds like love to me, no?

[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]

honestly, we need eachother to function...

L8erSquare

humm... this sounds like love to me, no?

we do love eachother, very much :|
But i just dont have romantic feelings for her anymore...

[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]

honestly, we need eachother to function...

L8erSquare

humm... this sounds like love to me, no?

He's right, dude. Go for it. Otherwise, you'll go through life wondering what could've been.

Trust me! It happened to me!

[QUOTE="L8erSquare"][QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]

honestly, we need eachother to function...

TheDedMetalhead

humm... this sounds like love to me, no?

He's right, dude. Go for it. Otherwise, you'll go through life wondering what could've been.

Trust me! It happened to me!

[QUOTE="TheDedMetalhead"][QUOTE="L8erSquare"][QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]

honestly, we need eachother to function...

RabidChocobo1

humm... this sounds like love to me, no?

He's right, dude. Go for it. Otherwise, you'll go through life wondering what could've been.

Trust me! It happened to me!

YES I KNOW WHAT IT'S ABOUT. I'm saying you screwed up already!!

so wat happened inside your head?N8A

i have no idea.....wish i could see a psychiatrist

So in a course of a day you loose all romantic feelings for her?HillyBilly

yes and i believe u lied to her at the first place.ppl R not ur toy TC

So in a course of a day you loose all romantic feelings for her?HillyBilly

Same thing I was thinking. That's odd.

The next day, things dont work out, and somehow i stop having romantic feelings for her, but she's still my best friend. [...] She says she still has hope we can be together, but doesnt want to have hope, and wishes she could get over me as soon as possible so we can go back to being best friends [...]
RabidChocobo1

First: O_o

Second: You need to tell her the truth. But to be honest I don't think it will ever go back to what it was. And maybe what she needs now is some distance to get over you.

[QUOTE="HillyBilly"]So in a course of a day you loose all romantic feelings for her?esbastica

yes and i believe u lied to her at the first place.ppl R not ur toy TC

i didnt lie to her. those feelings WERE there

[QUOTE="HillyBilly"]So in a course of a day you loose all romantic feelings for her?gbpman630

That's what I was thinking. How exactly does that happen?

maybe he's one of those"wants what he cant have" types and when he finally gets it the thrill of the chase is gone

The next day things didn't work out? Did you just wake up and not like here anymore the next day? Nobody here knows what you are thinking. It sounds like you are scared of her, or starting a relationship and possibly hurting your friendship? Why don't you just tell her how you feel and not ask people on the internet what to say. If you like her and she likes you, just go for a relationship above your friendship. By this point things are already akward and not likely to go back to how they were, so just take a dive, you guys can still be friends if the thing ends nicely.... if it ever ends...Meat_Wad_Fan

this ^^

The next day things didn't work out? Did you just wake up and not like here anymore the next day? Nobody here knows what you are thinking. It sounds like you are scared of her, or starting a relationship and possibly hurting your friendship? Why don't you just tell her how you feel and not ask people on the internet what to say. If you like her and she likes you, just go for a relationship above your friendship. By this point things are already akward and not likely to go back to how they were, so just take a dive, you guys can still be friends if the thing ends nicely.... if it ever ends...Meat_Wad_Fan

Its more complicated than that, i already told her my feelings, and we both wanted to further our relationship...agh nevermind, im not sure you understood the question wholly..